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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
I don’t think I will ever heal. I think about what happened everyday and get scared when older men come near me or even when my own family members touch me I can’t even stand my sisters leg touching mine it triggers me to go back and think to that night I just want to forget it all but I can’t I fear this will affect me for the rest of my life.
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If you feel trapped in a relationship like this and you do not feel safe, go to someone for help. You might not be strong enough alone.
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Self compassion and self love are crucial. Not pushing myself . Doing what I to do - not what I think I should do. I am privileged to be able to access excellent therapeutic support which has been life changing.
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Healing to me is learning not to blame myself nor what I was wearing and reinforcing into my mind that sexual assault is never my fault
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The healing of this experience has been so tough doing this alone and bottled in for 9 years going on 10 years and you can do it but please don't do my mistake bottling it in please go to someone who you trust and that will help.
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Finding happiness in yourself and your own family, knowing you did nothing wrong and you have nothing to be guilty of
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I want to be able to walk down the street of my hometown alone again. Maybe in numbermore years it's something I could be able to do.
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It gets better we’ll maybe not better but it gets easier keep fighting for your confidence and trust in people again just because a one or multiple people did you wrong doesn’t mean everyone will!
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Someone wants to listen to your story. Someone wants to help. Don't deal with this alone. I believe you, I see you. You can survive this.
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Healing means love and freedom it means letting love be bigger than fear
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Your going to heal, time heals you. Tell your family, it took me two years to tell mine and yes it hurt me and then but he was in the wrong. It’s not your fault, use it as a strength in your life, it gets better I promise dont give up x
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Talk, therapy, know it’s nothing you did, know you are amazing and don’t let those sad bastards take that away from you.
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Ladies/Gents, Getting out is THE HARDEST DECISION you'll ever make and it's the scariest thing I've ever done. I hope that everyone can get out safely, rebuild, refocus and heal.
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You may feel alone but know that they're many who have gone through exactly what you have been through and can completely understand those emotions. Your story is valid and always will be.
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I would like counselling and people to support my story and write a book. I would need help for everyone to support me.
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Don’t give up. Healing is slow but I know that it’s gonna be worth it some day. for you and me.
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The truth is I no longer hate him. I feel sorry for him. Healing for me is about feeling free again without looking over my shoulder for fear I'm being followed.
Report
This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
Healing to me is learning not to blame myself nor what I was wearing and reinforcing into my mind that sexual assault is never my fault
Report
The healing of this experience has been so tough doing this alone and bottled in for 9 years going on 10 years and you can do it but please don't do my mistake bottling it in please go to someone who you trust and that will help.
Report
It gets better we’ll maybe not better but it gets easier keep fighting for your confidence and trust in people again just because a one or multiple people did you wrong doesn’t mean everyone will!
Report
Someone wants to listen to your story. Someone wants to help. Don't deal with this alone. I believe you, I see you. You can survive this.
Report
Ladies/Gents, Getting out is THE HARDEST DECISION you'll ever make and it's the scariest thing I've ever done. I hope that everyone can get out safely, rebuild, refocus and heal.
Report

Report
The truth is I no longer hate him. I feel sorry for him. Healing for me is about feeling free again without looking over my shoulder for fear I'm being followed.
Report
Self compassion and self love are crucial. Not pushing myself . Doing what I to do - not what I think I should do. I am privileged to be able to access excellent therapeutic support which has been life changing.
Report
Talk, therapy, know it’s nothing you did, know you are amazing and don’t let those sad bastards take that away from you.
Report
Don’t give up. Healing is slow but I know that it’s gonna be worth it some day. for you and me.
Report
I don’t think I will ever heal. I think about what happened everyday and get scared when older men come near me or even when my own family members touch me I can’t even stand my sisters leg touching mine it triggers me to go back and think to that night I just want to forget it all but I can’t I fear this will affect me for the rest of my life.
Report
If you feel trapped in a relationship like this and you do not feel safe, go to someone for help. You might not be strong enough alone.
Report
Finding happiness in yourself and your own family, knowing you did nothing wrong and you have nothing to be guilty of
Report
I want to be able to walk down the street of my hometown alone again. Maybe in numbermore years it's something I could be able to do.
Report
Healing means love and freedom it means letting love be bigger than fear
Report
Your going to heal, time heals you. Tell your family, it took me two years to tell mine and yes it hurt me and then but he was in the wrong. It’s not your fault, use it as a strength in your life, it gets better I promise dont give up x
Report
You may feel alone but know that they're many who have gone through exactly what you have been through and can completely understand those emotions. Your story is valid and always will be.
Report
I would like counselling and people to support my story and write a book. I would need help for everyone to support me.
Report
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.