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Healing to me is being able to live a life doing what I want without my trauma holding me back. Not forgetting, not forcing myself not to feel or think about it, but to not let it limit me. I'm not quite there yet, but I'm trying.
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Healing to me is forgiving yourself for what happened. Knowing it’s ok to distance yourself from family if they aren’t supporting you. Only sharing your story with people you’ve built trust with, cause you no longer feel vulnerable. Being able to accept what happened without knowing why it happened to you.
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I no longer feel alone after reading stories from others, it makes me feel that there are people out there who understand exactly what I went through, even if it is anonymous. I will be forever grateful - this has been part of my healing.
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Someone wants to listen to your story. Someone wants to help. Don't deal with this alone. I believe you, I see you. You can survive this.
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Healing to me is learning not to blame myself nor what I was wearing and reinforcing into my mind that sexual assault is never my fault
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Healing is a continual journey, it doesn't end when you get out of the relationship. I'll never be fully healed, but life has to go on, I will not deny myself happiness due to past horrors. I'm one of the lucky ones that escaped with my life and for that I'm thankful every day, others are not so lucky.
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Your going to heal, time heals you. Tell your family, it took me two years to tell mine and yes it hurt me and then but he was in the wrong. It’s not your fault, use it as a strength in your life, it gets better I promise dont give up x
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Healing is something I once assumed was a quick fix. Nov 2022 I was assaulted and raped - I was in denial and running off a mixture of fear and adrenaline until Nov 2024; where my body literally shut down for 2 weeks. I've over eaten. I've over drank. I neglected myself. I self-harmed. I attempted to take my life multiple times. All of which most would disapprove of especially as i often continue with no.3&4 to this day. Yet, it kept me alive. What I'm trying to say is recovery and healing is not linear. My coping methods worked for me but they might not work for you. I don't even think I would recommend mine. However, once I learned to accept everything I believe that's when I truly started to heal. The night he raped me, I died inside. Who I once was; destroyed. So I have been trying to rebuild ever since...progress is slow and small; especially living with ptsd but; progress is progress.
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Ladies/Gents, Getting out is THE HARDEST DECISION you'll ever make and it's the scariest thing I've ever done. I hope that everyone can get out safely, rebuild, refocus and heal.
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It does get better as the years go by, I barely think about it 10 years down the line. It's hard especially without justice, but it's important to try to remove the power the attacker has over your life.
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The truth is I no longer hate him. I feel sorry for him. Healing for me is about feeling free again without looking over my shoulder for fear I'm being followed.
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What healing means for me is that I’m slowly accepting that this wasn’t my fault that nothing could’ve prevented this it’s never a survivors fault that’s right I’m a survivor never give up for years I’ve suffered but I’m healing the wounds he created with support around me
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Finding happiness in yourself and your own family, knowing you did nothing wrong and you have nothing to be guilty of
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Healing means love and freedom it means letting love be bigger than fear
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I don’t think I will ever heal. I think about what happened everyday and get scared when older men come near me or even when my own family members touch me I can’t even stand my sisters leg touching mine it triggers me to go back and think to that night I just want to forget it all but I can’t I fear this will affect me for the rest of my life.
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Healing to me is forgiving yourself for what happened. Knowing it’s ok to distance yourself from family if they aren’t supporting you. Only sharing your story with people you’ve built trust with, cause you no longer feel vulnerable. Being able to accept what happened without knowing why it happened to you.
Report
I no longer feel alone after reading stories from others, it makes me feel that there are people out there who understand exactly what I went through, even if it is anonymous. I will be forever grateful - this has been part of my healing.
Report
Ladies/Gents, Getting out is THE HARDEST DECISION you'll ever make and it's the scariest thing I've ever done. I hope that everyone can get out safely, rebuild, refocus and heal.
Report
It does get better as the years go by, I barely think about it 10 years down the line. It's hard especially without justice, but it's important to try to remove the power the attacker has over your life.
Report
Finding happiness in yourself and your own family, knowing you did nothing wrong and you have nothing to be guilty of
Report
Healing means love and freedom it means letting love be bigger than fear
Report
Healing to me is being able to live a life doing what I want without my trauma holding me back. Not forgetting, not forcing myself not to feel or think about it, but to not let it limit me. I'm not quite there yet, but I'm trying.
Report
Healing to me is learning not to blame myself nor what I was wearing and reinforcing into my mind that sexual assault is never my fault
Report
Healing is something I once assumed was a quick fix. Nov 2022 I was assaulted and raped - I was in denial and running off a mixture of fear and adrenaline until Nov 2024; where my body literally shut down for 2 weeks. I've over eaten. I've over drank. I neglected myself. I self-harmed. I attempted to take my life multiple times. All of which most would disapprove of especially as i often continue with no.3&4 to this day. Yet, it kept me alive. What I'm trying to say is recovery and healing is not linear. My coping methods worked for me but they might not work for you. I don't even think I would recommend mine. However, once I learned to accept everything I believe that's when I truly started to heal. The night he raped me, I died inside. Who I once was; destroyed. So I have been trying to rebuild ever since...progress is slow and small; especially living with ptsd but; progress is progress.
Dear reader, this message contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
Report
What healing means for me is that I’m slowly accepting that this wasn’t my fault that nothing could’ve prevented this it’s never a survivors fault that’s right I’m a survivor never give up for years I’ve suffered but I’m healing the wounds he created with support around me
Report
Someone wants to listen to your story. Someone wants to help. Don't deal with this alone. I believe you, I see you. You can survive this.
Report
Healing is a continual journey, it doesn't end when you get out of the relationship. I'll never be fully healed, but life has to go on, I will not deny myself happiness due to past horrors. I'm one of the lucky ones that escaped with my life and for that I'm thankful every day, others are not so lucky.
Report
Your going to heal, time heals you. Tell your family, it took me two years to tell mine and yes it hurt me and then but he was in the wrong. It’s not your fault, use it as a strength in your life, it gets better I promise dont give up x
Report
The truth is I no longer hate him. I feel sorry for him. Healing for me is about feeling free again without looking over my shoulder for fear I'm being followed.
Report
I don’t think I will ever heal. I think about what happened everyday and get scared when older men come near me or even when my own family members touch me I can’t even stand my sisters leg touching mine it triggers me to go back and think to that night I just want to forget it all but I can’t I fear this will affect me for the rest of my life.
Report
This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
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