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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
It's not your shame to carry Speak your story, it's your to tell Don't let anyone else's discomfort make you feel uncomfortable.
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Healing is a continual journey, it doesn't end when you get out of the relationship. I'll never be fully healed, but life has to go on, I will not deny myself happiness due to past horrors. I'm one of the lucky ones that escaped with my life and for that I'm thankful every day, others are not so lucky.
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It gets better we’ll maybe not better but it gets easier keep fighting for your confidence and trust in people again just because a one or multiple people did you wrong doesn’t mean everyone will!
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Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
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I’m not going to promise you it gets better because I don’t know if it does. You can get better at dealing with trauma however it may never go away and that is something that is difficult coming to terms with. All I can advise is do not let what happened to you define you. You are how you deal with life not how life deals with you.
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Healing is something I once assumed was a quick fix. Nov 2022 I was assaulted and raped - I was in denial and running off a mixture of fear and adrenaline until Nov 2024; where my body literally shut down for 2 weeks. I've over eaten. I've over drank. I neglected myself. I self-harmed. I attempted to take my life multiple times. All of which most would disapprove of especially as i often continue with no.3&4 to this day. Yet, it kept me alive. What I'm trying to say is recovery and healing is not linear. My coping methods worked for me but they might not work for you. I don't even think I would recommend mine. However, once I learned to accept everything I believe that's when I truly started to heal. The night he raped me, I died inside. Who I once was; destroyed. So I have been trying to rebuild ever since...progress is slow and small; especially living with ptsd but; progress is progress.
Dear reader, this message contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
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I don’t know yet, I still am, in little way I heal, but being fully at peace is gonna take awhile.
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Healing for me is to view myself with compassion and put the shame onto them instead of continuing to carry it.
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What healing means for me is that I’m slowly accepting that this wasn’t my fault that nothing could’ve prevented this it’s never a survivors fault that’s right I’m a survivor never give up for years I’ve suffered but I’m healing the wounds he created with support around me
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To love myself fully and free myself from shame. To trust other people who care for me and have a stable unchanging perspective of who they are (currently hard due to my dissociation). To understand my story and how it's impacted fully so I can own it. To go back to work and manage normal life stressor without having a break down.
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If you feel trapped in a relationship like this and you do not feel safe, go to someone for help. You might not be strong enough alone.
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I don’t know how to heal yet. I’ve been trying but I find it hard since I always believe I’m the one to blame. I really do hope I can learn to heal.
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I want to be able to walk down the street of my hometown alone again. Maybe in numbermore years it's something I could be able to do.
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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
It gets better we’ll maybe not better but it gets easier keep fighting for your confidence and trust in people again just because a one or multiple people did you wrong doesn’t mean everyone will!
Report
I’m not going to promise you it gets better because I don’t know if it does. You can get better at dealing with trauma however it may never go away and that is something that is difficult coming to terms with. All I can advise is do not let what happened to you define you. You are how you deal with life not how life deals with you.
Report
Healing is something I once assumed was a quick fix. Nov 2022 I was assaulted and raped - I was in denial and running off a mixture of fear and adrenaline until Nov 2024; where my body literally shut down for 2 weeks. I've over eaten. I've over drank. I neglected myself. I self-harmed. I attempted to take my life multiple times. All of which most would disapprove of especially as i often continue with no.3&4 to this day. Yet, it kept me alive. What I'm trying to say is recovery and healing is not linear. My coping methods worked for me but they might not work for you. I don't even think I would recommend mine. However, once I learned to accept everything I believe that's when I truly started to heal. The night he raped me, I died inside. Who I once was; destroyed. So I have been trying to rebuild ever since...progress is slow and small; especially living with ptsd but; progress is progress.
Dear reader, this message contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
Report
What healing means for me is that I’m slowly accepting that this wasn’t my fault that nothing could’ve prevented this it’s never a survivors fault that’s right I’m a survivor never give up for years I’ve suffered but I’m healing the wounds he created with support around me
Report
I want to be able to walk down the street of my hometown alone again. Maybe in numbermore years it's something I could be able to do.
Report
Healing is a continual journey, it doesn't end when you get out of the relationship. I'll never be fully healed, but life has to go on, I will not deny myself happiness due to past horrors. I'm one of the lucky ones that escaped with my life and for that I'm thankful every day, others are not so lucky.
Report
Healing for me is to view myself with compassion and put the shame onto them instead of continuing to carry it.
Report
I don’t know how to heal yet. I’ve been trying but I find it hard since I always believe I’m the one to blame. I really do hope I can learn to heal.
Report
It's not your shame to carry Speak your story, it's your to tell Don't let anyone else's discomfort make you feel uncomfortable.
Report
Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
Report
I don’t know yet, I still am, in little way I heal, but being fully at peace is gonna take awhile.
Report
To love myself fully and free myself from shame. To trust other people who care for me and have a stable unchanging perspective of who they are (currently hard due to my dissociation). To understand my story and how it's impacted fully so I can own it. To go back to work and manage normal life stressor without having a break down.
Report
If you feel trapped in a relationship like this and you do not feel safe, go to someone for help. You might not be strong enough alone.
Report
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.