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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
Hope comes from late Old English hopa "confidence in the future,". I would reframe that to having confidence in yourself. HOPE can be dangerous and you can hope for change, hope for better but YOU ARE ENOUGH as you are and if you are hoping for better then believe you can do it. Be kind to yourself and put one foot in-front of the other.
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Starting to enjoy life, if one day is bad then tomorrow is a new day
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I don’t think I will ever heal. I think about what happened everyday and get scared when older men come near me or even when my own family members touch me I can’t even stand my sisters leg touching mine it triggers me to go back and think to that night I just want to forget it all but I can’t I fear this will affect me for the rest of my life.
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I no longer feel alone after reading stories from others, it makes me feel that there are people out there who understand exactly what I went through, even if it is anonymous. I will be forever grateful - this has been part of my healing.
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A message I personally found helpful: Rape is not sex. Rape is assault. Sex feels good. Rape is traumatising.
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ONE IN FOUR is a short dance documentary film that has won 15 national and international film awards. External Video Link Contact Name/Details
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I have not healed, but I have gotten stronger, and it only got better because I left the relationship. I have never told anyone this story.
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I am still working to be healed. I'm want to be listened to, I want to be believed, I want to be free from abuse and I want my child to be safe and free from abuse.
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I think anyone who can overcome this kind of trauma is amazing.
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Healing is sharing your story, only in sharing can we let go of shame. Shame that wasn't ours to begin with.
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If you feel trapped in a relationship like this and you do not feel safe, go to someone for help. You might not be strong enough alone.
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Self compassion and self love are crucial. Not pushing myself . Doing what I to do - not what I think I should do. I am privileged to be able to access excellent therapeutic support which has been life changing.
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I don't know...I'm hoping writing it down means I've got to shed a little load off...
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To love myself fully and free myself from shame. To trust other people who care for me and have a stable unchanging perspective of who they are (currently hard due to my dissociation). To understand my story and how it's impacted fully so I can own it. To go back to work and manage normal life stressor without having a break down.
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It does get better as the years go by, I barely think about it 10 years down the line. It's hard especially without justice, but it's important to try to remove the power the attacker has over your life.
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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
I don’t think I will ever heal. I think about what happened everyday and get scared when older men come near me or even when my own family members touch me I can’t even stand my sisters leg touching mine it triggers me to go back and think to that night I just want to forget it all but I can’t I fear this will affect me for the rest of my life.
Report
I no longer feel alone after reading stories from others, it makes me feel that there are people out there who understand exactly what I went through, even if it is anonymous. I will be forever grateful - this has been part of my healing.
Report
I am still working to be healed. I'm want to be listened to, I want to be believed, I want to be free from abuse and I want my child to be safe and free from abuse.
Report
If you feel trapped in a relationship like this and you do not feel safe, go to someone for help. You might not be strong enough alone.
Report
Starting to enjoy life, if one day is bad then tomorrow is a new day
Report
I have not healed, but I have gotten stronger, and it only got better because I left the relationship. I have never told anyone this story.
Report
Healing is sharing your story, only in sharing can we let go of shame. Shame that wasn't ours to begin with.
Report
To love myself fully and free myself from shame. To trust other people who care for me and have a stable unchanging perspective of who they are (currently hard due to my dissociation). To understand my story and how it's impacted fully so I can own it. To go back to work and manage normal life stressor without having a break down.
Report
Hope comes from late Old English hopa "confidence in the future,". I would reframe that to having confidence in yourself. HOPE can be dangerous and you can hope for change, hope for better but YOU ARE ENOUGH as you are and if you are hoping for better then believe you can do it. Be kind to yourself and put one foot in-front of the other.
Report
A message I personally found helpful: Rape is not sex. Rape is assault. Sex feels good. Rape is traumatising.
Report
ONE IN FOUR is a short dance documentary film that has won 15 national and international film awards. External Video Link Contact Name/Details
Report

Report
I think anyone who can overcome this kind of trauma is amazing.
Report
Self compassion and self love are crucial. Not pushing myself . Doing what I to do - not what I think I should do. I am privileged to be able to access excellent therapeutic support which has been life changing.
Report
I don't know...I'm hoping writing it down means I've got to shed a little load off...
Report
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.