0
Members
0
Views
0
Reactions
0
Stories read
For immediate help, visit {{resource}}
Made with in Raleigh, NC
Read our Community Guidelines, Privacy Policy, and Terms
Have feedback? Send it to us
Sort by
Curated
Newest
Format
Narrative
Artwork
I was...
The person who harmed me was a...
I identify as...
My sexual orientation is...
I identify as...
I was...
When this occurred I also experienced...
This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
Starting to enjoy life, if one day is bad then tomorrow is a new day
Report
You may feel alone but know that they're many who have gone through exactly what you have been through and can completely understand those emotions. Your story is valid and always will be.
Report
It's not your shame to carry Speak your story, it's your to tell Don't let anyone else's discomfort make you feel uncomfortable.
Report
Finding happiness in yourself and your own family, knowing you did nothing wrong and you have nothing to be guilty of
Report
Ladies/Gents, Getting out is THE HARDEST DECISION you'll ever make and it's the scariest thing I've ever done. I hope that everyone can get out safely, rebuild, refocus and heal.
Report
I no longer feel alone after reading stories from others, it makes me feel that there are people out there who understand exactly what I went through, even if it is anonymous. I will be forever grateful - this has been part of my healing.
Report
Healing for me is to view myself with compassion and put the shame onto them instead of continuing to carry it.
Report
Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
Report
Healing to me is forgiving yourself for what happened. Knowing it’s ok to distance yourself from family if they aren’t supporting you. Only sharing your story with people you’ve built trust with, cause you no longer feel vulnerable. Being able to accept what happened without knowing why it happened to you.
Report
Healing is something I once assumed was a quick fix. Nov 2022 I was assaulted and raped - I was in denial and running off a mixture of fear and adrenaline until Nov 2024; where my body literally shut down for 2 weeks. I've over eaten. I've over drank. I neglected myself. I self-harmed. I attempted to take my life multiple times. All of which most would disapprove of especially as i often continue with no.3&4 to this day. Yet, it kept me alive. What I'm trying to say is recovery and healing is not linear. My coping methods worked for me but they might not work for you. I don't even think I would recommend mine. However, once I learned to accept everything I believe that's when I truly started to heal. The night he raped me, I died inside. Who I once was; destroyed. So I have been trying to rebuild ever since...progress is slow and small; especially living with ptsd but; progress is progress.
Dear reader, this message contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
Report
“Hope is like the sun, which, as we journey toward it, casts the shadow of our burden behind us.” Samuel Smiles Is something Im trying to remember. Also knowing you are not alone, someone out there will listen to you and will believe you. Hope is seeing the work people do for the people that have been through darkest and toughest time.
Report
Talk, therapy, know it’s nothing you did, know you are amazing and don’t let those sad bastards take that away from you.
Report
The main one is 'this too shall pass' or 'time heals' it took many years and change of jobs to really get over what happened. I still feel angry that he got away with it but I know this is usually the case with date rapes, especially when alcohol is involved.
Report
What’s the next thing you’re looking forward to? It could be as simple at a sunrise.
Report
Healing is a continual journey, it doesn't end when you get out of the relationship. I'll never be fully healed, but life has to go on, I will not deny myself happiness due to past horrors. I'm one of the lucky ones that escaped with my life and for that I'm thankful every day, others are not so lucky.
Report
This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
Finding happiness in yourself and your own family, knowing you did nothing wrong and you have nothing to be guilty of
Report
Ladies/Gents, Getting out is THE HARDEST DECISION you'll ever make and it's the scariest thing I've ever done. I hope that everyone can get out safely, rebuild, refocus and heal.
Report
Healing to me is forgiving yourself for what happened. Knowing it’s ok to distance yourself from family if they aren’t supporting you. Only sharing your story with people you’ve built trust with, cause you no longer feel vulnerable. Being able to accept what happened without knowing why it happened to you.
Report
Healing is something I once assumed was a quick fix. Nov 2022 I was assaulted and raped - I was in denial and running off a mixture of fear and adrenaline until Nov 2024; where my body literally shut down for 2 weeks. I've over eaten. I've over drank. I neglected myself. I self-harmed. I attempted to take my life multiple times. All of which most would disapprove of especially as i often continue with no.3&4 to this day. Yet, it kept me alive. What I'm trying to say is recovery and healing is not linear. My coping methods worked for me but they might not work for you. I don't even think I would recommend mine. However, once I learned to accept everything I believe that's when I truly started to heal. The night he raped me, I died inside. Who I once was; destroyed. So I have been trying to rebuild ever since...progress is slow and small; especially living with ptsd but; progress is progress.
Dear reader, this message contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
Report
The main one is 'this too shall pass' or 'time heals' it took many years and change of jobs to really get over what happened. I still feel angry that he got away with it but I know this is usually the case with date rapes, especially when alcohol is involved.
Report
Healing is a continual journey, it doesn't end when you get out of the relationship. I'll never be fully healed, but life has to go on, I will not deny myself happiness due to past horrors. I'm one of the lucky ones that escaped with my life and for that I'm thankful every day, others are not so lucky.
Report
It's not your shame to carry Speak your story, it's your to tell Don't let anyone else's discomfort make you feel uncomfortable.
Report
Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
Report
Starting to enjoy life, if one day is bad then tomorrow is a new day
Report
You may feel alone but know that they're many who have gone through exactly what you have been through and can completely understand those emotions. Your story is valid and always will be.
Report
I no longer feel alone after reading stories from others, it makes me feel that there are people out there who understand exactly what I went through, even if it is anonymous. I will be forever grateful - this has been part of my healing.
Report
Healing for me is to view myself with compassion and put the shame onto them instead of continuing to carry it.
Report
“Hope is like the sun, which, as we journey toward it, casts the shadow of our burden behind us.” Samuel Smiles Is something Im trying to remember. Also knowing you are not alone, someone out there will listen to you and will believe you. Hope is seeing the work people do for the people that have been through darkest and toughest time.
Report
Talk, therapy, know it’s nothing you did, know you are amazing and don’t let those sad bastards take that away from you.
Report
What’s the next thing you’re looking forward to? It could be as simple at a sunrise.
Report
0
Members
0
Views
0
Reactions
0
Stories read
For immediate help, visit {{resource}}
Made with in Raleigh, NC
Read our Community Guidelines, Privacy Policy, and Terms
Have feedback? Send it to us
For immediate help, visit {{resource}}
Made with in Raleigh, NC
|
Read our Community Guidelines, Privacy Policy, and Terms
|
Please adhere to our Community Guidelines to help us keep Our Wave a safe space. All messages will be reviewed and identifying information removed before they are posted.
Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.