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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
This message is to anyone out there that has survived this tour are loved you are beautiful and kind never blame yourself reach out to those you love I know it’s hard but it will be worth it
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Hope comes from late Old English hopa "confidence in the future,". I would reframe that to having confidence in yourself. HOPE can be dangerous and you can hope for change, hope for better but YOU ARE ENOUGH as you are and if you are hoping for better then believe you can do it. Be kind to yourself and put one foot in-front of the other.
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Healing is learning about all the good there is to life. About the feelings you miss if you only think about the bad. About the relationships you develop with people if you decide to let them in and truly get to know them.
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Healing to me is being able to live a life doing what I want without my trauma holding me back. Not forgetting, not forcing myself not to feel or think about it, but to not let it limit me. I'm not quite there yet, but I'm trying.
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“Every victim should have the opportunity to become a survivor,”
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What healing means for me is that I’m slowly accepting that this wasn’t my fault that nothing could’ve prevented this it’s never a survivors fault that’s right I’m a survivor never give up for years I’ve suffered but I’m healing the wounds he created with support around me
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I think anyone who can overcome this kind of trauma is amazing.
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I don’t think I will ever heal. I think about what happened everyday and get scared when older men come near me or even when my own family members touch me I can’t even stand my sisters leg touching mine it triggers me to go back and think to that night I just want to forget it all but I can’t I fear this will affect me for the rest of my life.
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It gets better we’ll maybe not better but it gets easier keep fighting for your confidence and trust in people again just because a one or multiple people did you wrong doesn’t mean everyone will!
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Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
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Don’t give up. Healing is slow but I know that it’s gonna be worth it some day. for you and me.
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healing to me is not having these issues constantly interfering with my life. after doing so much research on cocsa I have realised that this trauma may have made me hyper sexualised, and that is something I struggle with often. healing is to feel like I am enough.
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Healing is something I once assumed was a quick fix. Nov 2022 I was assaulted and raped - I was in denial and running off a mixture of fear and adrenaline until Nov 2024; where my body literally shut down for 2 weeks. I've over eaten. I've over drank. I neglected myself. I self-harmed. I attempted to take my life multiple times. All of which most would disapprove of especially as i often continue with no.3&4 to this day. Yet, it kept me alive. What I'm trying to say is recovery and healing is not linear. My coping methods worked for me but they might not work for you. I don't even think I would recommend mine. However, once I learned to accept everything I believe that's when I truly started to heal. The night he raped me, I died inside. Who I once was; destroyed. So I have been trying to rebuild ever since...progress is slow and small; especially living with ptsd but; progress is progress.
Dear reader, this message contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
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You may feel alone but know that they're many who have gone through exactly what you have been through and can completely understand those emotions. Your story is valid and always will be.
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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
Healing to me is being able to live a life doing what I want without my trauma holding me back. Not forgetting, not forcing myself not to feel or think about it, but to not let it limit me. I'm not quite there yet, but I'm trying.
Report
“Every victim should have the opportunity to become a survivor,”
Report
I don’t think I will ever heal. I think about what happened everyday and get scared when older men come near me or even when my own family members touch me I can’t even stand my sisters leg touching mine it triggers me to go back and think to that night I just want to forget it all but I can’t I fear this will affect me for the rest of my life.
Report
It gets better we’ll maybe not better but it gets easier keep fighting for your confidence and trust in people again just because a one or multiple people did you wrong doesn’t mean everyone will!
Report
healing to me is not having these issues constantly interfering with my life. after doing so much research on cocsa I have realised that this trauma may have made me hyper sexualised, and that is something I struggle with often. healing is to feel like I am enough.
Report
Healing is learning about all the good there is to life. About the feelings you miss if you only think about the bad. About the relationships you develop with people if you decide to let them in and truly get to know them.
Report
I think anyone who can overcome this kind of trauma is amazing.
Report
You may feel alone but know that they're many who have gone through exactly what you have been through and can completely understand those emotions. Your story is valid and always will be.
Report
This message is to anyone out there that has survived this tour are loved you are beautiful and kind never blame yourself reach out to those you love I know it’s hard but it will be worth it
Report
Hope comes from late Old English hopa "confidence in the future,". I would reframe that to having confidence in yourself. HOPE can be dangerous and you can hope for change, hope for better but YOU ARE ENOUGH as you are and if you are hoping for better then believe you can do it. Be kind to yourself and put one foot in-front of the other.
Report
What healing means for me is that I’m slowly accepting that this wasn’t my fault that nothing could’ve prevented this it’s never a survivors fault that’s right I’m a survivor never give up for years I’ve suffered but I’m healing the wounds he created with support around me
Report
Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
Report
Don’t give up. Healing is slow but I know that it’s gonna be worth it some day. for you and me.
Report
Healing is something I once assumed was a quick fix. Nov 2022 I was assaulted and raped - I was in denial and running off a mixture of fear and adrenaline until Nov 2024; where my body literally shut down for 2 weeks. I've over eaten. I've over drank. I neglected myself. I self-harmed. I attempted to take my life multiple times. All of which most would disapprove of especially as i often continue with no.3&4 to this day. Yet, it kept me alive. What I'm trying to say is recovery and healing is not linear. My coping methods worked for me but they might not work for you. I don't even think I would recommend mine. However, once I learned to accept everything I believe that's when I truly started to heal. The night he raped me, I died inside. Who I once was; destroyed. So I have been trying to rebuild ever since...progress is slow and small; especially living with ptsd but; progress is progress.
Dear reader, this message contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.