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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
“Every victim should have the opportunity to become a survivor,”
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Healing to me is being able to live a life doing what I want without my trauma holding me back. Not forgetting, not forcing myself not to feel or think about it, but to not let it limit me. I'm not quite there yet, but I'm trying.
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Finding happiness in yourself and your own family, knowing you did nothing wrong and you have nothing to be guilty of
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Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
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It does get better as the years go by, I barely think about it 10 years down the line. It's hard especially without justice, but it's important to try to remove the power the attacker has over your life.
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Healing to me is forgiving yourself for what happened. Knowing it’s ok to distance yourself from family if they aren’t supporting you. Only sharing your story with people you’ve built trust with, cause you no longer feel vulnerable. Being able to accept what happened without knowing why it happened to you.
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What healing means for me is that I’m slowly accepting that this wasn’t my fault that nothing could’ve prevented this it’s never a survivors fault that’s right I’m a survivor never give up for years I’ve suffered but I’m healing the wounds he created with support around me
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Someone wants to listen to your story. Someone wants to help. Don't deal with this alone. I believe you, I see you. You can survive this.
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ONE IN FOUR is a short dance documentary film that has won 15 national and international film awards. External Video Link Contact Name/Details
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Healing is sharing your story, only in sharing can we let go of shame. Shame that wasn't ours to begin with.
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I’m not going to promise you it gets better because I don’t know if it does. You can get better at dealing with trauma however it may never go away and that is something that is difficult coming to terms with. All I can advise is do not let what happened to you define you. You are how you deal with life not how life deals with you.
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It gets better we’ll maybe not better but it gets easier keep fighting for your confidence and trust in people again just because a one or multiple people did you wrong doesn’t mean everyone will!
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Healing to me is learning not to blame myself nor what I was wearing and reinforcing into my mind that sexual assault is never my fault
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Hope comes from late Old English hopa "confidence in the future,". I would reframe that to having confidence in yourself. HOPE can be dangerous and you can hope for change, hope for better but YOU ARE ENOUGH as you are and if you are hoping for better then believe you can do it. Be kind to yourself and put one foot in-front of the other.
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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
Finding happiness in yourself and your own family, knowing you did nothing wrong and you have nothing to be guilty of
Report
It does get better as the years go by, I barely think about it 10 years down the line. It's hard especially without justice, but it's important to try to remove the power the attacker has over your life.
Report
ONE IN FOUR is a short dance documentary film that has won 15 national and international film awards. External Video Link Contact Name/Details
Report
Healing to me is learning not to blame myself nor what I was wearing and reinforcing into my mind that sexual assault is never my fault
Report
Hope comes from late Old English hopa "confidence in the future,". I would reframe that to having confidence in yourself. HOPE can be dangerous and you can hope for change, hope for better but YOU ARE ENOUGH as you are and if you are hoping for better then believe you can do it. Be kind to yourself and put one foot in-front of the other.
Report
Healing to me is being able to live a life doing what I want without my trauma holding me back. Not forgetting, not forcing myself not to feel or think about it, but to not let it limit me. I'm not quite there yet, but I'm trying.
Report
Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
Report
Someone wants to listen to your story. Someone wants to help. Don't deal with this alone. I believe you, I see you. You can survive this.
Report
It gets better we’ll maybe not better but it gets easier keep fighting for your confidence and trust in people again just because a one or multiple people did you wrong doesn’t mean everyone will!
Report
“Every victim should have the opportunity to become a survivor,”
Report
Healing to me is forgiving yourself for what happened. Knowing it’s ok to distance yourself from family if they aren’t supporting you. Only sharing your story with people you’ve built trust with, cause you no longer feel vulnerable. Being able to accept what happened without knowing why it happened to you.
Report
What healing means for me is that I’m slowly accepting that this wasn’t my fault that nothing could’ve prevented this it’s never a survivors fault that’s right I’m a survivor never give up for years I’ve suffered but I’m healing the wounds he created with support around me
Report
Healing is sharing your story, only in sharing can we let go of shame. Shame that wasn't ours to begin with.
Report
I’m not going to promise you it gets better because I don’t know if it does. You can get better at dealing with trauma however it may never go away and that is something that is difficult coming to terms with. All I can advise is do not let what happened to you define you. You are how you deal with life not how life deals with you.
Report
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.