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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
I’m in a loving Marraige, three amazing kids, good job, great friends - it took a tough road to get here but it was worth it xxx
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Healing to me is learning not to blame myself nor what I was wearing and reinforcing into my mind that sexual assault is never my fault
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I think anyone who can overcome this kind of trauma is amazing.
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Healing means love and freedom it means letting love be bigger than fear
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Healing is a continual journey, it doesn't end when you get out of the relationship. I'll never be fully healed, but life has to go on, I will not deny myself happiness due to past horrors. I'm one of the lucky ones that escaped with my life and for that I'm thankful every day, others are not so lucky.
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This is a hard but honest one... I thought I would never enjoy sex again. But I have met a man that has shown me with trust this is no longer the case.
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Talk, therapy, know it’s nothing you did, know you are amazing and don’t let those sad bastards take that away from you.
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healing to me is not having these issues constantly interfering with my life. after doing so much research on cocsa I have realised that this trauma may have made me hyper sexualised, and that is something I struggle with often. healing is to feel like I am enough.
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I no longer feel alone after reading stories from others, it makes me feel that there are people out there who understand exactly what I went through, even if it is anonymous. I will be forever grateful - this has been part of my healing.
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It gets better we’ll maybe not better but it gets easier keep fighting for your confidence and trust in people again just because a one or multiple people did you wrong doesn’t mean everyone will!
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I don’t think I will ever heal. I think about what happened everyday and get scared when older men come near me or even when my own family members touch me I can’t even stand my sisters leg touching mine it triggers me to go back and think to that night I just want to forget it all but I can’t I fear this will affect me for the rest of my life.
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Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
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If you feel trapped in a relationship like this and you do not feel safe, go to someone for help. You might not be strong enough alone.
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Healing is learning about all the good there is to life. About the feelings you miss if you only think about the bad. About the relationships you develop with people if you decide to let them in and truly get to know them.
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The main one is 'this too shall pass' or 'time heals' it took many years and change of jobs to really get over what happened. I still feel angry that he got away with it but I know this is usually the case with date rapes, especially when alcohol is involved.
Report
This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
I think anyone who can overcome this kind of trauma is amazing.
Report
Talk, therapy, know it’s nothing you did, know you are amazing and don’t let those sad bastards take that away from you.
Report
healing to me is not having these issues constantly interfering with my life. after doing so much research on cocsa I have realised that this trauma may have made me hyper sexualised, and that is something I struggle with often. healing is to feel like I am enough.
Report
Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
Report
Healing is learning about all the good there is to life. About the feelings you miss if you only think about the bad. About the relationships you develop with people if you decide to let them in and truly get to know them.
Report
The main one is 'this too shall pass' or 'time heals' it took many years and change of jobs to really get over what happened. I still feel angry that he got away with it but I know this is usually the case with date rapes, especially when alcohol is involved.
Report
This is a hard but honest one... I thought I would never enjoy sex again. But I have met a man that has shown me with trust this is no longer the case.
Report
I don’t think I will ever heal. I think about what happened everyday and get scared when older men come near me or even when my own family members touch me I can’t even stand my sisters leg touching mine it triggers me to go back and think to that night I just want to forget it all but I can’t I fear this will affect me for the rest of my life.
Report
If you feel trapped in a relationship like this and you do not feel safe, go to someone for help. You might not be strong enough alone.
Report
I’m in a loving Marraige, three amazing kids, good job, great friends - it took a tough road to get here but it was worth it xxx
Report
Healing to me is learning not to blame myself nor what I was wearing and reinforcing into my mind that sexual assault is never my fault
Report
Healing means love and freedom it means letting love be bigger than fear
Report
Healing is a continual journey, it doesn't end when you get out of the relationship. I'll never be fully healed, but life has to go on, I will not deny myself happiness due to past horrors. I'm one of the lucky ones that escaped with my life and for that I'm thankful every day, others are not so lucky.
Report
I no longer feel alone after reading stories from others, it makes me feel that there are people out there who understand exactly what I went through, even if it is anonymous. I will be forever grateful - this has been part of my healing.
Report
It gets better we’ll maybe not better but it gets easier keep fighting for your confidence and trust in people again just because a one or multiple people did you wrong doesn’t mean everyone will!
Report
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.