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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
“Every victim should have the opportunity to become a survivor,”
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Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
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You may feel alone but know that they're many who have gone through exactly what you have been through and can completely understand those emotions. Your story is valid and always will be.
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It does get better as the years go by, I barely think about it 10 years down the line. It's hard especially without justice, but it's important to try to remove the power the attacker has over your life.
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The truth is I no longer hate him. I feel sorry for him. Healing for me is about feeling free again without looking over my shoulder for fear I'm being followed.
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Healing is sharing your story, only in sharing can we let go of shame. Shame that wasn't ours to begin with.
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I don’t know yet, I still am, in little way I heal, but being fully at peace is gonna take awhile.
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Hope comes from late Old English hopa "confidence in the future,". I would reframe that to having confidence in yourself. HOPE can be dangerous and you can hope for change, hope for better but YOU ARE ENOUGH as you are and if you are hoping for better then believe you can do it. Be kind to yourself and put one foot in-front of the other.
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I am still working to be healed. I'm want to be listened to, I want to be believed, I want to be free from abuse and I want my child to be safe and free from abuse.
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Healing is something I once assumed was a quick fix. Nov 2022 I was assaulted and raped - I was in denial and running off a mixture of fear and adrenaline until Nov 2024; where my body literally shut down for 2 weeks. I've over eaten. I've over drank. I neglected myself. I self-harmed. I attempted to take my life multiple times. All of which most would disapprove of especially as i often continue with no.3&4 to this day. Yet, it kept me alive. What I'm trying to say is recovery and healing is not linear. My coping methods worked for me but they might not work for you. I don't even think I would recommend mine. However, once I learned to accept everything I believe that's when I truly started to heal. The night he raped me, I died inside. Who I once was; destroyed. So I have been trying to rebuild ever since...progress is slow and small; especially living with ptsd but; progress is progress.
Dear reader, this message contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
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The main one is 'this too shall pass' or 'time heals' it took many years and change of jobs to really get over what happened. I still feel angry that he got away with it but I know this is usually the case with date rapes, especially when alcohol is involved.
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It's not your shame to carry Speak your story, it's your to tell Don't let anyone else's discomfort make you feel uncomfortable.
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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
It does get better as the years go by, I barely think about it 10 years down the line. It's hard especially without justice, but it's important to try to remove the power the attacker has over your life.
Report
I don’t know yet, I still am, in little way I heal, but being fully at peace is gonna take awhile.
Report
Healing is something I once assumed was a quick fix. Nov 2022 I was assaulted and raped - I was in denial and running off a mixture of fear and adrenaline until Nov 2024; where my body literally shut down for 2 weeks. I've over eaten. I've over drank. I neglected myself. I self-harmed. I attempted to take my life multiple times. All of which most would disapprove of especially as i often continue with no.3&4 to this day. Yet, it kept me alive. What I'm trying to say is recovery and healing is not linear. My coping methods worked for me but they might not work for you. I don't even think I would recommend mine. However, once I learned to accept everything I believe that's when I truly started to heal. The night he raped me, I died inside. Who I once was; destroyed. So I have been trying to rebuild ever since...progress is slow and small; especially living with ptsd but; progress is progress.
Dear reader, this message contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
Report
It's not your shame to carry Speak your story, it's your to tell Don't let anyone else's discomfort make you feel uncomfortable.
Report
You may feel alone but know that they're many who have gone through exactly what you have been through and can completely understand those emotions. Your story is valid and always will be.
Report
I am still working to be healed. I'm want to be listened to, I want to be believed, I want to be free from abuse and I want my child to be safe and free from abuse.
Report
“Every victim should have the opportunity to become a survivor,”
Report
Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
Report
The truth is I no longer hate him. I feel sorry for him. Healing for me is about feeling free again without looking over my shoulder for fear I'm being followed.
Report
Healing is sharing your story, only in sharing can we let go of shame. Shame that wasn't ours to begin with.
Report
Hope comes from late Old English hopa "confidence in the future,". I would reframe that to having confidence in yourself. HOPE can be dangerous and you can hope for change, hope for better but YOU ARE ENOUGH as you are and if you are hoping for better then believe you can do it. Be kind to yourself and put one foot in-front of the other.
Report
The main one is 'this too shall pass' or 'time heals' it took many years and change of jobs to really get over what happened. I still feel angry that he got away with it but I know this is usually the case with date rapes, especially when alcohol is involved.
Report
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.