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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
The truth is I no longer hate him. I feel sorry for him. Healing for me is about feeling free again without looking over my shoulder for fear I'm being followed.
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Healing to me is forgiving yourself for what happened. Knowing it’s ok to distance yourself from family if they aren’t supporting you. Only sharing your story with people you’ve built trust with, cause you no longer feel vulnerable. Being able to accept what happened without knowing why it happened to you.
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I don’t know how to heal yet. I’ve been trying but I find it hard since I always believe I’m the one to blame. I really do hope I can learn to heal.
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I don’t think I will ever heal. I think about what happened everyday and get scared when older men come near me or even when my own family members touch me I can’t even stand my sisters leg touching mine it triggers me to go back and think to that night I just want to forget it all but I can’t I fear this will affect me for the rest of my life.
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Healing for me is to view myself with compassion and put the shame onto them instead of continuing to carry it.
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If you feel trapped in a relationship like this and you do not feel safe, go to someone for help. You might not be strong enough alone.
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Healing is possible for everyone. You might not forget, but you can still live a life worth living, a life that you love.
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I can now honestly say that hand on heart I am at peace with myself. I feel so calm. I am not angry or frustrated. I am at one with the universe. I believe everything happens for a reason. My reason is so that I can now speak out and help others.
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I’m not going to promise you it gets better because I don’t know if it does. You can get better at dealing with trauma however it may never go away and that is something that is difficult coming to terms with. All I can advise is do not let what happened to you define you. You are how you deal with life not how life deals with you.
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Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
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Healing to me means that the emotional wounds may turn to battle scars and the pain and anger fadey away eventually.
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A message I personally found helpful: Rape is not sex. Rape is assault. Sex feels good. Rape is traumatising.
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Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
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Hope comes from late Old English hopa "confidence in the future,". I would reframe that to having confidence in yourself. HOPE can be dangerous and you can hope for change, hope for better but YOU ARE ENOUGH as you are and if you are hoping for better then believe you can do it. Be kind to yourself and put one foot in-front of the other.
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Starting to enjoy life, if one day is bad then tomorrow is a new day
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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
I don’t know how to heal yet. I’ve been trying but I find it hard since I always believe I’m the one to blame. I really do hope I can learn to heal.
Report
I don’t think I will ever heal. I think about what happened everyday and get scared when older men come near me or even when my own family members touch me I can’t even stand my sisters leg touching mine it triggers me to go back and think to that night I just want to forget it all but I can’t I fear this will affect me for the rest of my life.
Report
I can now honestly say that hand on heart I am at peace with myself. I feel so calm. I am not angry or frustrated. I am at one with the universe. I believe everything happens for a reason. My reason is so that I can now speak out and help others.
Report
I’m not going to promise you it gets better because I don’t know if it does. You can get better at dealing with trauma however it may never go away and that is something that is difficult coming to terms with. All I can advise is do not let what happened to you define you. You are how you deal with life not how life deals with you.
Report
Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
Report
Starting to enjoy life, if one day is bad then tomorrow is a new day
Report
Healing to me is forgiving yourself for what happened. Knowing it’s ok to distance yourself from family if they aren’t supporting you. Only sharing your story with people you’ve built trust with, cause you no longer feel vulnerable. Being able to accept what happened without knowing why it happened to you.
Report
Healing is possible for everyone. You might not forget, but you can still live a life worth living, a life that you love.
Report
A message I personally found helpful: Rape is not sex. Rape is assault. Sex feels good. Rape is traumatising.
Report
Hope comes from late Old English hopa "confidence in the future,". I would reframe that to having confidence in yourself. HOPE can be dangerous and you can hope for change, hope for better but YOU ARE ENOUGH as you are and if you are hoping for better then believe you can do it. Be kind to yourself and put one foot in-front of the other.
Report
The truth is I no longer hate him. I feel sorry for him. Healing for me is about feeling free again without looking over my shoulder for fear I'm being followed.
Report
Healing for me is to view myself with compassion and put the shame onto them instead of continuing to carry it.
Report
If you feel trapped in a relationship like this and you do not feel safe, go to someone for help. You might not be strong enough alone.
Report
Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
Report
Healing to me means that the emotional wounds may turn to battle scars and the pain and anger fadey away eventually.
Report
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.