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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
I want to be able to walk down the street of my hometown alone again. Maybe in numbermore years it's something I could be able to do.
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I don’t know yet, I still am, in little way I heal, but being fully at peace is gonna take awhile.
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The main one is 'this too shall pass' or 'time heals' it took many years and change of jobs to really get over what happened. I still feel angry that he got away with it but I know this is usually the case with date rapes, especially when alcohol is involved.
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If you're unsure wether or not your experience "counts" then it does. You're so strong and healing is possible. You are not to blame. It was not your fault. Im proud of you.
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Healing means the process of discovering that I am worthy of respect. That I'm competent. That I have nothing to be ashamed of.
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You are more than them. They don’t define you. But I still know how fucked yo they made you. It must’ve been hard. I know firsthand it’s fucking hard. And I’m so sorry.
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I don’t think I will ever heal. I think about what happened everyday and get scared when older men come near me or even when my own family members touch me I can’t even stand my sisters leg touching mine it triggers me to go back and think to that night I just want to forget it all but I can’t I fear this will affect me for the rest of my life.
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Starting to enjoy life, if one day is bad then tomorrow is a new day
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Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
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“Hope is like the sun, which, as we journey toward it, casts the shadow of our burden behind us.” Samuel Smiles Is something Im trying to remember. Also knowing you are not alone, someone out there will listen to you and will believe you. Hope is seeing the work people do for the people that have been through darkest and toughest time.
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Ladies/Gents, Getting out is THE HARDEST DECISION you'll ever make and it's the scariest thing I've ever done. I hope that everyone can get out safely, rebuild, refocus and heal.
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You may feel alone but know that they're many who have gone through exactly what you have been through and can completely understand those emotions. Your story is valid and always will be.
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It does get better as the years go by, I barely think about it 10 years down the line. It's hard especially without justice, but it's important to try to remove the power the attacker has over your life.
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Someone wants to listen to your story. Someone wants to help. Don't deal with this alone. I believe you, I see you. You can survive this.
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A message I personally found helpful: Rape is not sex. Rape is assault. Sex feels good. Rape is traumatising.
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ONE IN FOUR is a short dance documentary film that has won 15 national and international film awards. External Video Link Contact Name/Details
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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
If you're unsure wether or not your experience "counts" then it does. You're so strong and healing is possible. You are not to blame. It was not your fault. Im proud of you.
Report
Healing means the process of discovering that I am worthy of respect. That I'm competent. That I have nothing to be ashamed of.
Report
Healing means you refuse to be defined by any mistakes or experiences that broke you
Report
Ladies/Gents, Getting out is THE HARDEST DECISION you'll ever make and it's the scariest thing I've ever done. I hope that everyone can get out safely, rebuild, refocus and heal.
Report
You may feel alone but know that they're many who have gone through exactly what you have been through and can completely understand those emotions. Your story is valid and always will be.
Report
A message I personally found helpful: Rape is not sex. Rape is assault. Sex feels good. Rape is traumatising.
Report
ONE IN FOUR is a short dance documentary film that has won 15 national and international film awards. External Video Link Contact Name/Details
Report
The main one is 'this too shall pass' or 'time heals' it took many years and change of jobs to really get over what happened. I still feel angry that he got away with it but I know this is usually the case with date rapes, especially when alcohol is involved.
Report
Starting to enjoy life, if one day is bad then tomorrow is a new day
Report
I want to be able to walk down the street of my hometown alone again. Maybe in numbermore years it's something I could be able to do.
Report
I don’t know yet, I still am, in little way I heal, but being fully at peace is gonna take awhile.
Report
You are more than them. They don’t define you. But I still know how fucked yo they made you. It must’ve been hard. I know firsthand it’s fucking hard. And I’m so sorry.
Report
I don’t think I will ever heal. I think about what happened everyday and get scared when older men come near me or even when my own family members touch me I can’t even stand my sisters leg touching mine it triggers me to go back and think to that night I just want to forget it all but I can’t I fear this will affect me for the rest of my life.
Report
“Hope is like the sun, which, as we journey toward it, casts the shadow of our burden behind us.” Samuel Smiles Is something Im trying to remember. Also knowing you are not alone, someone out there will listen to you and will believe you. Hope is seeing the work people do for the people that have been through darkest and toughest time.
Report
It does get better as the years go by, I barely think about it 10 years down the line. It's hard especially without justice, but it's important to try to remove the power the attacker has over your life.
Report
Someone wants to listen to your story. Someone wants to help. Don't deal with this alone. I believe you, I see you. You can survive this.
Report
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.