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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
Don’t give up. Healing is slow but I know that it’s gonna be worth it some day. for you and me.
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Self compassion and self love are crucial. Not pushing myself . Doing what I to do - not what I think I should do. I am privileged to be able to access excellent therapeutic support which has been life changing.
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Healing is something I once assumed was a quick fix. Nov 2022 I was assaulted and raped - I was in denial and running off a mixture of fear and adrenaline until Nov 2024; where my body literally shut down for 2 weeks. I've over eaten. I've over drank. I neglected myself. I self-harmed. I attempted to take my life multiple times. All of which most would disapprove of especially as i often continue with no.3&4 to this day. Yet, it kept me alive. What I'm trying to say is recovery and healing is not linear. My coping methods worked for me but they might not work for you. I don't even think I would recommend mine. However, once I learned to accept everything I believe that's when I truly started to heal. The night he raped me, I died inside. Who I once was; destroyed. So I have been trying to rebuild ever since...progress is slow and small; especially living with ptsd but; progress is progress.
Dear reader, this message contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
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Healing to me is learning not to blame myself nor what I was wearing and reinforcing into my mind that sexual assault is never my fault
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Healing to me is being able to live a life doing what I want without my trauma holding me back. Not forgetting, not forcing myself not to feel or think about it, but to not let it limit me. I'm not quite there yet, but I'm trying.
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Ladies/Gents, Getting out is THE HARDEST DECISION you'll ever make and it's the scariest thing I've ever done. I hope that everyone can get out safely, rebuild, refocus and heal.
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If you feel trapped in a relationship like this and you do not feel safe, go to someone for help. You might not be strong enough alone.
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Talk, therapy, know it’s nothing you did, know you are amazing and don’t let those sad bastards take that away from you.
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I would like counselling and people to support my story and write a book. I would need help for everyone to support me.
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You are good enough, you always have been. You are not determined by what others think, say, or do.
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“Hope is like the sun, which, as we journey toward it, casts the shadow of our burden behind us.” Samuel Smiles Is something Im trying to remember. Also knowing you are not alone, someone out there will listen to you and will believe you. Hope is seeing the work people do for the people that have been through darkest and toughest time.
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I don’t know how to heal yet. I’ve been trying but I find it hard since I always believe I’m the one to blame. I really do hope I can learn to heal.
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To love myself fully and free myself from shame. To trust other people who care for me and have a stable unchanging perspective of who they are (currently hard due to my dissociation). To understand my story and how it's impacted fully so I can own it. To go back to work and manage normal life stressor without having a break down.
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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
Healing is something I once assumed was a quick fix. Nov 2022 I was assaulted and raped - I was in denial and running off a mixture of fear and adrenaline until Nov 2024; where my body literally shut down for 2 weeks. I've over eaten. I've over drank. I neglected myself. I self-harmed. I attempted to take my life multiple times. All of which most would disapprove of especially as i often continue with no.3&4 to this day. Yet, it kept me alive. What I'm trying to say is recovery and healing is not linear. My coping methods worked for me but they might not work for you. I don't even think I would recommend mine. However, once I learned to accept everything I believe that's when I truly started to heal. The night he raped me, I died inside. Who I once was; destroyed. So I have been trying to rebuild ever since...progress is slow and small; especially living with ptsd but; progress is progress.
Dear reader, this message contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
Report
Healing to me is learning not to blame myself nor what I was wearing and reinforcing into my mind that sexual assault is never my fault
Report
Talk, therapy, know it’s nothing you did, know you are amazing and don’t let those sad bastards take that away from you.
Report
I would like counselling and people to support my story and write a book. I would need help for everyone to support me.
Report
To love myself fully and free myself from shame. To trust other people who care for me and have a stable unchanging perspective of who they are (currently hard due to my dissociation). To understand my story and how it's impacted fully so I can own it. To go back to work and manage normal life stressor without having a break down.
Report
Self compassion and self love are crucial. Not pushing myself . Doing what I to do - not what I think I should do. I am privileged to be able to access excellent therapeutic support which has been life changing.
Report
If you feel trapped in a relationship like this and you do not feel safe, go to someone for help. You might not be strong enough alone.
Report
I don’t know how to heal yet. I’ve been trying but I find it hard since I always believe I’m the one to blame. I really do hope I can learn to heal.
Report
Don’t give up. Healing is slow but I know that it’s gonna be worth it some day. for you and me.
Report
Healing to me is being able to live a life doing what I want without my trauma holding me back. Not forgetting, not forcing myself not to feel or think about it, but to not let it limit me. I'm not quite there yet, but I'm trying.
Report
Ladies/Gents, Getting out is THE HARDEST DECISION you'll ever make and it's the scariest thing I've ever done. I hope that everyone can get out safely, rebuild, refocus and heal.
Report
You are good enough, you always have been. You are not determined by what others think, say, or do.
Report
“Hope is like the sun, which, as we journey toward it, casts the shadow of our burden behind us.” Samuel Smiles Is something Im trying to remember. Also knowing you are not alone, someone out there will listen to you and will believe you. Hope is seeing the work people do for the people that have been through darkest and toughest time.
Report

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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.