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Last year I was gang raped. I have an ear ringing called tinnitus that has not stopped since. I have nightmares. I flew with my mom to a wedding overseas. I was excited. She would be busy with her friends and cousin and I would get to spend time with my awesome second cousin who is two years older than me. After the rehearsal dinner we went out. It was fun because I was not legally able to drink there even though the age was lower than in my province, but they did not check ID’s. I did not drink much because it was not my thing and I had a boyfriend but I was able to go to some bars then a club attached to a hotel. So much fun up to when we met two soldiers in uniform who were cute and separated us from her friends because of our looks. My cousin is stunning beautiful. They had a private room at the club and several soldiers were there and two prostitutes also. Those prostitutes definitely hated us being there. I wanted to get out anyway and the cute ones that invited us acted like they understood and took us out of there. We stupidly let them take us to their hotel room where they totally dropped the cute romantic act and made us strip our clothes to music. They showed us a gun they had in a drawer. I was terrified. They made us lay on our stomachs bent over the bed side by side and had sex with us that way. They switched like we were interchangeable before finishing in us with no protection. We held hands. I was crying while my cousin was trying to be strong and cheer me up. We weren’t allowed to leave and our clothes were hidden. Before took our phones we had to text that we were staying at my cousin’s friend’s house. Then they called two other soldiers, one of them a huge tall dark guy with body builder muscles. He was the worst to me. They made us dance and then we had to use our mouths on the cute ones that had lured us there while the other two had sex with us. I vomited and my cousin cleaned it up but then it started again. They had cocaine and made us sniff it off their parts and sniffed it off us. Another one came and I think it was just those five during the night but they kept raping us and making us do things even when we would pass out. I would like to have been more unconscious but cocaine makes you so awake. I want to remember less and think about it all less. We showered many times. The big dark one peed on me and in my mouth the shower. He did it more than once like I was his toilet. The other men even had to tell him to chill out when he was making me scream liking his fingers and pushing them in my arse, but not when he made me crawl around like a dog using my hair as a leash. I remember one of them calling their friends to tell them to turn all their t.v.’s way up to hide the noise in our room. They watched sports news on the t.v. They had me and my cousin kiss each other and stuff. I could not act like it was a fun party like my cousin did sometimes and encouraged me to do. She tried to take some of their attention away from me over and over. I love her for it but they did not leave me alone. My chest is something they were obsessed with. They did not care that I was obviously distressed and freaking out or that in my country I was three years below the age of consent. There I was the minimum. We woke up in the morning on one the beds together with only the two soldiers sleeping on the floor. The black one was gone! They had sex with us again and another man who was much older and who they called SIR came in and had sex with both us but mostly me. They cheered him on and my head was pounding and I was crying and it seemed to last forever. Finally we got our clothes back but they took us for brunch wearing their normal clothes. They showed me pictures on their phones that made it look like I was having fun and warned us how bad it would be if we said anything different than we had a nice party. A nice party in hell! Before that I’d had sex with only my 1 boyfriend ever. One night of hell and now my number was seven!! We had to start getting ready for the wedding right away and I was exhausted. My cousin hid me and I took a nap in my dress, hair and makeup until the last minute. I cried in the ceremony but not for the wedding. I was so sore in my vagina, muscles, and brain that I got so drunk at the reception I barely remember any of it. Just part of being on the plane home. I told my mom the truth when I got back and she got all crazy, so did my dad, and they tried to call over there and the hotel and such but there was nothing the police would do. I saw my dad cry for the first time as I told the whole story. My boyfriend could not handle it and dumped me. I go to group and do therapy. I take a pill everyday and now benzo’s for break through anxiety. I try to hide my large chest under baggy clothes where before I used it for attention. STUPID! My cousin does not seem to have the trauma I do or the nightmares. In her country they are done with secondary school up to two years before us and are more treated like adults sooner. I said mean things to her once because of it. She forgave me but we talk much less since I asked if she has gang bangs all the time. I felt terrible because she even let them have anal sex with her to lure them away from me. I could tell it hurt her so much but at the time was just thinking about my own survival. My childhood is OVER but I do not feel like an adult. Her advice is -Don’t let it get you so down-. Like I have a choice in this!! She went to a therapist ONCE because her mom made the appointment and does not plan to go back. Her life did not really change!! She works reception at a tech company and models on the side and still goes to parties and clubs and dates. How??? It is unbelievable how attitudes toward something like this can be so different in different countries. I am a victim now and I usually feel like it. Definitely damaged. Everybody at my school knows why. I am THAT girl. My new more mature boyfriend is understanding but I feel like a sad little burden to him. I am hypersexual sometimes now and can’t help it. It is a coping mechanism that happens to some victims of sexual assault. I did not ask for it. I worry my boyfriend can’t trust me because of it. I had an older guy friend who’s been my neighbor for years take advantage of me after I told him the story of what happened at his house. We had sex and then he felt guilty for being turned on by my rape story. He admitted it and asked me to forgive him. The sex helped me calm the ear ringing for just short time periods so I did it with him more than once a day for a bit until my dad started to suspect something and talked to him. Since then I don’t trust myself. I want to marry my boyfriend in large part just to protect myself and show him I love him and am loyal even though I am not sure I can be. I worry I cannot love like a normal person. I worry I push him away being too needy and wanting to marry him so soon. I need him more than he needs me. Is that the way it will always be in relationships for rape victims??? I work hard at school not to ruin my future. It is so hard to focus. My ears ring constantly. Thank you for listening.

I was used by my brother who has grown up a lot but I still carry scars. My brother is four years older than me and when I was going from elementary school to Junior high, that summer, he made me think that girls in junior high need to know how to give oral to boys. First he did oral to me to show me it was not a big deal. I thought it was a huge deal. But I did it and he got me trained and had me keep it a secret, except from by best friend. He had his friend over when I had a sleepover one night and had her do it to his friend. Then they would have us do contests where they wear blindfolds. At least I was not alone then. It changed me even though seventh grade itself had nothing to do with anything like that. It was a lie to get pleasure from me. My brother still had me doing it at home. And sometimes he would do it to me and I did climax. So I had this weird secret sex life and felt really messed up about it. Then in eight grade I had my first real boyfriend. My parents are so strict, even though they both worked and left me alone with my brother. To go to the movies with my boyfriend they made sure it was with a group and took me there and waited outside the theater. Well one time when we went to see Snow White and the Huntsman my same BFF and me went through with our plan to go down on our guys in the last row of the theater and we did it. It was only a month later I started having sex with him which never would have happened if not for what my brother had done. We snuck out from her place during a sleepover and met the boys outside and went to the nearby park and did it in the grass. That was my virginity. The really bad event, where my life got knocked off the tracks, is when we tried it from my house, sneaking out the window and going just out farther into my big back yard that opened into nothing but the side of a big hill and my dad caught us. It was awful. The world ended. I was treated like a huge betrayer and almost all my privileges were revoked and essentially I was grounded without any end date. And still by brother would make me do the oral. I was broken hearted because I was not allowed to have my boyfriend to the point my parents made me go to the school and talk to the principal and vice principal and they made sure I would not have any chance to ever see him alone. And my brother kept creeping in at night sometimes or when we were left alone expecting me to do what he had trained me to be used to. The next really bad part was two months into my new restricted life. My brother started doing his oral on me one afternoon after school and decided to take it farther and got up and started kissing me and had sex with me. I was in the moment and did not do anything to stop him and even participated. No condom. It was an afternoon when my parents were away and so we did not have to keep quiet or worry and he did it so much longer than my few times with my boyfriend, because he was older and knew more from being with other girls that I got sore for my first time and got a urine infection. I did not eat my dinner that night and pretended to be sick and cried myself to sleep. My brother really wanted to do it again, telling me it was the best sex he ever had, but I refused and one thing I could say for him back then was at least he was not a rapist. Even though he pressured me he never tried to force himself inside me. Four months after I had lost my incest virginity the school year ended and he graduated. I went to high school and he moved out to live in college dorms 120 miles from our home town. Public school was over for me, as was planned as soon as my dad caught me on the hill. I went to an all girl’s Catholic high school. My dad had to drive me a half hour every morning and my mom picked me up from my whole first year. Then they got me a car so I could drive myself but the mileage and my times were closely monitored. I did not have an intercourse throughout high school but seven times total I did oral on my brother during summer and winter breaks when we were both at home. That was the end of incest in my life. I went to college in Atlanta but not the same one as my brother. I rebelled against my parents and even though they tried to keep control, as a legal adult I did not let them. Turmoil and sadness lasted months until they finally got it. I separated from them financial and worked and took out student loans. I was very promiscuous in college. I drank, partied and used drugs recreationally and had several guys I was seeing on and off for mostly sex. That was my life and I thought I enjoyed it at the time. I became stronger and more assertive and when my brother first hinted during a Thanksgiving meeting at our relative’s house that we go for a drive I told him I never wanted to touch him again in such a powerful way that he knew I was off limits and even seemed like the scared one in our relationship. I didn’t enroll in classes for two nonconsecutive semester just because my party life was so much more fun. I traveled on and off. Sometimes with friends, sometimes with men, usually older, who invited me to exotic places. The Maldives, Portugal, The Virgin Islands. I let my married boss use me for a weekend in Key West. I had an affair with my Spanish teacher, who only took me as far as Panama City, Florida. So many risky one night stands. My identity was that I was not looking for anything permanent, a child of the universe. While I was used as a plaything so many times and believed I liked the game. I would tell them things about wanting to make their dick happy and stuff that would inflate their ego. I’m sure there are so many text messages out there that they saved about the size of their D fitting in my little P, about being a little girl wanting them to teach me to be woman and other depraved fantasies I thought they wanted to hear. Obviously directly related to what my brother did to me. I am almost positive I avoided being raped more than once by going with the flow when I did not expect to or probably want to. It may be good that some of them I probably don’t remember. Once was at one of the few fraternity parties I ever went to. It was three guys, not my usual style. Once was with my roommate's father who was visiting her at our rented house and found his way to my bed in the early morning. One of the more extreme traumatic events was with a police officer who pulled me over for driving when I had been drinking but was under the legal limit on his breathalyzer. He followed me home, like a mile away, “for my safety” and even followed me inside. I was in an apartment then and I thought my roomate was home and told him so. But when she wasn’t there he said I lied to a police officer and he had to do a more thorough search if I wanted to avoid being arrested. He was not attractive or nice. He had a gun thought he never took it out. You can guess what happened. I finally shed that wild life during my second to last semester when I saw the end of college coming. My G.P.A was 3.3. and my major was philosophy and it dawned on me that the future was not bright in terms of what I would do or how I would pay back my loans. I buckled down and decided to change. I had an offer to strip and ‘make a lot of money’ but thankfully not only did never considered myself like that, but when I went with a friend for her interview and they tried to recruit me they were so sleazy we both ran out of there disgusted. I reevaluated my whole life. I considered ending it, but some survival mechanism did not allow it. I did not want to be the person I had been for a few years. I looked ahead and saw it was not sustainable as I aged and had no real love or stability. I quit serving when I got an offer to work in a legal office. I slept with the manager who hired me as a receptionist but it was a drop in the bucket of things to be shameful of. He was the last one like that. I got all A’s and graduated cum laude. I got promoted in the firm mostly by title but used it to spring away and take a lower paying job in a nonprofit law firm where I had not slept with anyone. There I did sleep with a lawyer but I am married to him still and my life is back together. I love him and he loves me. He does not know the extent of my sluttiness in college or about my brother and I doubt he ever will. That darkness is fading and it is not part of my life now. It is not who I am. As for my brother, he has a family now and we are on good terms. We did talk about it once while I was studying like crazy my senior year, although it was not a big deep talk. I did mention that he used me, he apologized, we hugged, and that was it. Not the cathartic confrontation some might expect. My catharsis is my husband, and my life now that I am grateful for. We adopted two toddler brothers and I am their mom. Maybe we’ll have one of our own. Maybe we’ll adopt again. I was used and introduced to sex too young and early and it strained my relationship with my parents for a long time and I’ll never get that back. It derailed my life. I was set adrift for a while but God or the universe or random luck finally put me in a good place. Everything that happened led me what I have now. I can’t say I never contemplated suicide in darker times. But like in the move Cast Away, if I may quote, “I stayed alive. I kept breathing. And one day my logic was proven all wrong because the tide came in, and gave me a sail. And now, here I am.” Thousands of hours spent studying philosophy and I quote a movie that was not even based on a book. But it’s perfect.

I was with my ex and I had just started some new tablets that made me sleepy. I tell my ex that I’m going to sleep and he continues to play his video game. I wake in a daze around an hour later and he is raping me and enjoying it. I react by making noises out of fear and wait for him to finish up the act , I just froze in fear. Once it was over I was mad he never got consent but he told me that he thought I wanted it. It’s been nearly a year and I’m still not over it

In my story, IT STARTED WITH MY BROTHER, I briefly mentioned 3 instances of avoiding being raped by letting men just have me when it seemed like they were going to do me whether or not I consented. I do think I avoided emotional and physical trauma at the time, but the anger, self resentment, and feelings of being wronged and about it did snowball after. I never shared or released those stories. Please read my original story for context. In this instance the sex was already happening when I awoke, and my reflex was to take the non-confrontational path. The easy way, not the right way. I had gotten home from work as a server at my bar and grill restaurant and my female roommate had her father staying with us for the weekend. I had already met him since they drove straight from the airport to the sports bar I worked at. That’s were he told me, “Just call me, ‘Dad’”. They sat in my section, ate, and left. No issues. Then, back at our 2 bedroom apartment there was a small party for his benefit with a couple of our friends. I had a couple hard ciders and chatted about college and my roommate and heard stores of when she was a kid from. I flirted and humored “Dad”’s sexual innuendos directed at me, and ignored his eyes all up and down me. I was used to it. I played the good hostess and waited until it was all dying down probably around 2 or 3 am, before I showered and went to bed. It had been a long day with both class and work. I was stirred out of my sleep a few hours later with "Dad" already inside of me, thrusting in and out between my legs! By the light streaming in through my dark blinds I could tell it was day. But WTF was happening?! My panties were off but my T-shirt was on. Underneath it the dark figure who I quickly was able to identify as "Dad" was caressing my breasts with one hand while holding me down with the other. Still dazed and confused, I guess I put my arms around him and responded like a willing partner. He soon finished and then it got awkward.  He told me "That really hit the spot". He started to make conversation! The longer I had to think, the more I realized what happened. That he had just helped himself as I lay sleeping. I was 19 and dating a hot university baseball player at the time and would not have gone for this fifty or so year old guy on purpose. He was sure drinking that night but I had only had a few ciders. So there I was, realizing I had been kind of raped but held hostage by a sense of politeness! Not to mention as I was 5'3'' 110 pounds, so there was the physical intimidation from a much taller man with a dad bod.  I always pee right after sex but felt captive by "Dad"'s ramblings as he propped himself up on one elbow hovering over me while he ran his fingers over me and stroked my hair sporadically.  I shared his cold can of beer with him that he must have opened right before he came in to rape me because I remember drinking deeply the cold liquid soothing my dry throat. I suffered through some dad jokes and stories I did not care about, as well as answering some personal questions about myself and my sexuality. I was looking for momentary pause to get up and away from “Dad” when he said, "I'm ready to go again, baby." NO! He moved on top of me! Instead of fighting him off me or even saying "no", I spread my legs to accommodate him! WTF! The second time did not have the desperate eagerness of the first, unfortunately. As he even said, he wanted to teach me a lesson this time. I guess about how good he was is bed. A definite case of ‘whiskey dick’. So I let this man I had never wanted or considered sex with jostle me into several positions. He was large man and so much stronger than me it was a joke. After the missionary he picked me up to prove some point and did me against the wall right next to my window. I remember seeing through cracks in the blinds and knowing it was early because the parking lot was full and nothing was moving. Then SLAM onto the bed. We did 69 with me lying on him where I sucked him with all my might wanting to END IT while he was licking me. I failed! He had me being on top riding him at one point. I was on my hands and knees with him ramming behind me when I collapsed under his weight to flat on my face. He enjoyed never letting up on the thrusts as I was completely pinned down by him. I let him give me two or more orgasms in hopes he would just finish. I was so loud I was embarrassed my roommate would come rushing in my room any second. She was passed out drunk. He finally left as soon as he finished. I am sure his ego was massively inflated and the terrible man still thinks of me today! I lie there in my bed catching my breath and getting more anxious. I got up, pulled on some sweats, and B-lined straight out the door to my gym. I wanted to get away so bad. I drank water like I had just walked out of a desert. I showered for so long at the empty Saturday morning gym without any products but hand soap. Then I started to work out like crazy, on three hours sleep and exhaustion. I was trying to sweat him out of my system, to scream and thrash through my exercise. I showered again then went out and fell asleep in my car in the back of the lot. The rest of the weekend I only went to my apartment for minutes at a time to pick up things I needed. I sure as Hell did not sleep there! When he was gone I answered my roommates questions that I had been blowing off with lies and short answers. I told her the truth. She shrugged and looked at me skeptically, like it was just one of those things. I was promiscuous in college and she knew it. We sort of made a joke out of it and moved on. The easy way, not the right way. I still have big time guilt at how I was back then. At the time my things was not that "I wish I had fought him." What I wished was that I had been too drunk to remember!!! So that was that. Something I kept inside, festering. Other things added to it and it got swept under the rug of my damaged psyche. Not one of the worst skeletons in my closet but what I was willing to share for now. I am working up to the others. My first story I shared helped a lot. I hope it helped somebody else too. I thank all of you and I empathize. I will read your stories and support you in my thoughts and prayers.

In March, I met someone. By summer, we were friends—the kind that share meals and watch anime on weekends. There was never any hint of more. Then, one night in August, a bottle of bourbon and a game of truth or dare blurred the lines I thought were solid. The conversation turned intimate, and the dares followed. What started with a kiss escalated into something I did not want. I remember saying "no," many times, my hands holding tightly to my clothes as a boundary. I was told "no means yes." In my intoxicated state, my resistance was overcome. I held onto one clear thought: no penetration. That line, at least, was not crossed. In the days that followed, I did everything I was supposed to do. I reached for every lifeline. I took the emergency pill. I made the calls to 1800RESPECT and SARC, navigating support systems in a language that isn't my own. I am awaiting medical screenings. I devoured Chanel Miller's "Know My Name," finding solace in a story that mirrored my own confusion. I talked to AI, tirelessly analyzing every emotion, trying to logic my way out of this pain. I found the courage to call a friend and speak the words aloud, and her belief in me was a anchor. And yet, a persistent voice still circles in the quiet moments: Did I overreact? Was it really that bad? He was nice once. This doubt is a ghost, and it haunts me alongside the heavy grip of my history with depression, which makes everything feel so much heavier. I have made a decision that brings both a sense of relief and a profound sadness. I will likely make a report, but I do not think I will request a full investigation. I have come to the quiet, painful understanding of how difficult it is to prove a violation without concrete evidence, of how the system often fails to deliver justice. My heart breaks for all my sisters who have stood in this same place, who have chosen to prioritize their own survival over a fight they know they cannot win. So, for now, I am choosing to fight for myself instead of against him. My act of rebellion is not in a courtroom; it is in my own healing. It is in believing myself when the world teaches me to doubt. It is in acknowledging that even without legal justice, what happened to me was real, it was wrong, and my pain is valid. I am choosing to care for the person who matters most in this story: me.

Testimony of a Young Woman from the Gulf I am a young woman from a Gulf country. From the outside, my family looks “normal” and religious. From the inside, I grew up in a house that felt like a cage. As a child, I didn’t even have my own room. My bed and closet were placed in a narrow corridor between my father’s room, the bathroom, and the kitchen. Above my bed, there was a window from my father’s room that looked directly down at where I slept and used my phone. I remember sitting on my bed, trying to distract myself with my phone, and suddenly feeling his eyes on me. I would look up and see him watching me through the window, quietly, as if he thought I wouldn’t notice. I hadn’t done anything wrong. I was always “the obedient daughter”. But the way he stared at me was terrifying – his eyes, his face. I felt like I was being monitored in my most private space. A little girl, with no door to close, no corner to feel safe in. I was also practically imprisoned from childhood. I was not allowed to go out like other children. My world was the house, school, and back again. I was beaten as a child and told it was “discipline”. And until this day, I am still not allowed to have friends or a social life of my own. Even normal friendships are treated as something dangerous or shameful. My childhood memories are full of being beaten by both my parents. If I cried or tried to talk about how I felt, my mother would tell me things like: “You’re exaggerating.” “You’re imagining things.” “It’s not that serious.” Once, after my father humiliated me in front of everyone, I went to her in tears, hoping she would comfort me. She looked at me with cold eyes and told me, “You shouldn’t cry.” The message was always the same: Your feelings are not real. You are the problem, not the violence. Today, my father keeps me practically imprisoned at home. I am an adult, but he still controls my movements and my life. If I went out for something as simple as a coffee without his knowledge and he found out, I don’t think he would kill me, but he would punish me harshly: beat me, lock me up even more, make my life hell. He ties his “manhood” to controlling me. He is more afraid of “what people will say” than of the damage he is doing to his own daughter. Most of my relatives see this as normal. To them, this is just “a strict father” protecting his daughter. To me, it is a prison and a form of ongoing abuse. My room now is my only real space. If I hadn’t gotten my own room, I honestly feel like I might have lost my mind by now. That small room is the only place where I can breathe, read, think, cry, and be myself – even if the rest of the house still feels unsafe. I also grew up in a system where religion and culture are used to justify what happens to girls like me. I was taught that: • I am “less” than a man. • My inheritance should be less. • My mind and my faith are “deficient”. • I must obey, be patient, and accept what is done to me because “this is our religion” and “this is our tradition”. At the same time, I see a world where: • A man who prays and fasts but is abusive can still be considered “a good Muslim”. • A non-Muslim who helps thousands of people may be told he will go to hell “no matter what he did”. This does not feel like justice to me. I struggle deeply with these contradictions. I feel like I am living in a lie built by history, religion as interpreted by men, and a society that normalizes violence against women and girls. There are things I still cannot describe in full detail, but I will say this: When a girl grows up being controlled, watched, hit, and silenced in her own home, surrounded by people who tell her “this is normal”, it leaves deep wounds. She learns to laugh and talk and act “fine” around others, but inside she carries fear, anger, sadness, and memories that attack her whenever she is alone. Because of all of this, I suffer every day in ways that are not always visible. I live with constant fear and anxiety in my own home. I have intrusive memories and thoughts about my childhood and my family, especially when I am alone. Sometimes I feel like I am watching my life from the outside, not really “there” with other people even when I am smiling and talking. I struggle with sleep, sudden waves of sadness, headaches, and a heavy feeling in my chest. I often feel guilty toward my sisters and torn between wanting to escape and feeling trapped by responsibility and fear. There have been moments when the pain was so intense that I wished I could disappear, even though I am still trying to hold on and continue my studies and my life. I often find myself thinking about girls and women in other countries who can walk freely, live alone, choose their clothes, study, and work without having their entire existence controlled by one man and a whole social system behind him. I don’t wish them harm. I wish them more good. But I can’t deny that I feel pain and envy when I see that the life that would be my biggest dream is something they are simply born into. I also think of my younger sisters. Their childhoods were not as physically violent as mine. My father softened with them compared to how he was with me. I am happy they were spared some of what I went through. At the same time, it breaks my heart that I was the one who absorbed most of the beating, the fear, and the early damage. I try my best not to repeat the cycle with them. I don’t want to become another harsh adult in their story. I want to be a safe person for them – someone who listens, who doesn’t say “you’re imagining it”, who doesn’t belittle their pain. I am sharing this because I want people outside our world – especially those in countries that talk about human rights, women’s rights, freedom, and dignity – to know that: • Not all Gulf women are “spoiled and rich”. • Some of us are prisoners in our own homes. • Some of us have fathers who use religion, culture, and “honor” as weapons to control and break us. • Some of us are surviving, but not living. I am not writing this to attack a religion or a culture. I am writing this to say: We exist. Our pain is real. I want systems, governments, activists, and ordinary people outside my country to understand that: • Emotional, physical, and psychological abuse in the family is not “discipline”. It’s violence. • Locking a young woman in the house and controlling every move she makes is not “protection”. It’s imprisonment. • Telling a child that her feelings are “exaggeration” or “imagination” is not parenting. It is gaslighting and emotional neglect. I don’t know what my future will look like. Right now, I am trying to survive, study, and build a small inner world where I still believe I deserve freedom, even if my reality denies it. If you are reading this from a safe home, in a country where a girl can walk out of her front door without fear of being beaten or disowned, please don’t take that for granted. There are girls like me who would give everything just to have what you consider “a normal life”. I hope that by sharing my story, even anonymously, I am not just “complaining”, but adding one more voice to the evidence that this kind of life is not acceptable, not “normal”, and not justified by any real sense of justice or compassion. We deserve better. I deserve better. — A young woman from the Gulf

Hello, my name is Name, and my entire childhood I was sex trafficked. In the beginning of my childhood, my home life was seemingly perfect. My mother was very motivated in holistic healing and teaching me and my younger brother mindfulness, she was sweet and caring, though she was in the middle of starting her own business and was constantly busy, not noticing when me and my brother needed help, she was also an alcoholic. We were often left unsupervised and were physically punished. My father seemed very lighthearted and innocent most of the time, though I didn't know at the time deep down he was the opposite. My grandparents were also very involved in my upbringing. We would stay with them or they would stay with us every 2-3 months, and then me and my brother would stay with them for a couple weeks to a month and a half. The first time I remember being raped, I was only 4 years old. My grandfather was staying at my house, I don't remember where my parents, brother or Nana was. This memory is very fragmented for me. I remember crying very hard, and I remember bleeding everywhere. I can remember how painful it was. I was so scared. There's a gap in my memory, the time from when it was over, and then the next day. Next thing I knew the memory had repressed itself inside of my mind, there was a sudden split in my consciousness. One part felt the pain, the other was oblivious. My grandparents left afterwards. A couple months later I was registered into a preschool, owned by a puerto rican woman and her family. Because of how young I was, I do not know how to full narrate this part of my life. My memories are scattered. I do know that at this daycare there was a woman, she was the owner's daughter's boyfriend's mother who often helped out there. And a man, the owner's husband. Let's call the woman Name 2 and the man Name 3. One day early on in attending the day care, I was taken into a room with both of them alone, and again I was raped. I remember the fear and the confusion, then I remember the numbness that again took over my body and mind. I remember the split of my consciousness happening again. After this I have scattered memories of it happening again and again. Sometimes I remember other children being involved, but I'm not sure if those memories are accurate. They often took photos and videos of me. Half of the time, my life felt like a horror show, and the other half I was completely oblivious to it. Though, the oblivious part always knew something was wrong. She would often take things out on dolls, destroying the space between their legs with whatever she could find. She would often rehearse exactly what had happened to her onto the dolls, not knowing where these horrible ideas had come from, and what they meant. She also often took these things out on other children, trying to initiate sex with anyone she knew. The rape continued, until Name 3 murdered his wife, the owner of the daycare. He had been physically abusing her for a long time. Her death was sudden and was probably caused by a head injury, but nobody said anything about it. Name 3 was not persecuted. So, my parents registered me to another daycare. I was safe from being violated for a year. Until Elementary school started. My grandfather started molesting me again. My kindergarten year went by fast, and in the fall of my 1st grade year my parents divorced. They had been fighting every day on and off for a long time, my Mother decided to just leave. I don't remember how long I went without seeing her. She was now struggling on and off with homelessness. My father took all the money he could get his hands on. This is when the abuse from my father started. He beat me and my brother until our backs were covered with black and purple bruises. He'd pull me out of bed by my hair before school every morning. He was constantly irritated. He hired babysitters to watch me and my brother after school while he was still at work, some of them were from the daycare where I was raped. Soon after my mom started coming over twice a week to see me and my brother. One night, I believe my Dad had gotten drunk, he told me to get ready for bed. I did and went into my room. He followed. My memory gets spotty here, my father raped me. He was angry, he wanted revenge on my mother for leaving him. I couldn't do anything against him. Afterwards, he buckled his pants back up. And he left me. I had an accident and my mother came in to help me, not aware of anything that had happened. After that I had many more accidents. Nobody suspected anything. I had nightmares of monsters eating me alive, ripping apart my insides, wolves tearing me to pieces, bears chasing me, being forced to touch my family members inappropriately. Still I was mostly oblivious. The abuse went on, there were times when things would be good for a couple weeks and then it would go back. I started going to my moms apartment on weekends. Later that year, my grandfather started raping me again. My Nana was working, and he was a trucker. He was off most of the time we were together. To keep me quiet about it, he often attempted to murder me. He would hold me by my head and tell me he was gonna snap my neck, he'd choke me until all I saw was darkness and I couldn't speak, and when he'd bathe me, he'd hold the back of my neck and push me under the water until I stopped struggling. He'd slap me across the face so hard my ears would ring so loud, when I fell over onto the carpet he'd kick the shit out of me, and sometimes he'd whip my back with an extension cord. He told me no matter what if I told anybody I would be dead. And that I would go to hell. My family was baptist. Soon after men would come over and pay to rape me as well, sometimes in the privacy of my grandparents bedroom and sometimes together right in the middle of the living room. Some were from the church, some were family friends, and others were truckers my Grandfather knew. I remember my grandfather leading me to the bedroom with one of the truckers. He paid my grandfather, looked at me from outside and then he closed the door behind him. The lights were off and the dim light of the sun was shining through the sheer curtains. He forced my mouth open and I choked on him, i ran to the trash can and threw up. As i was leaned over, he raped me. I couldn't stop throwing up, when that was over he moved me and forced himself into my mouth again. His legs were pinning my arms down onto the carpet. I couldnt move or struggle. I could look over and see myself in the closet mirror. After he was done, there was throw up on my face and neck and semen stuck in my hair. He left the room and my grandfather told me to wash myself in the bathroom sink. I was crying and sniffling and trying to brush the fluid out of my hair. I tried to scrub my tongue with my hands. Everything stunk. When I wasnt with my grandparents, I was at home. Name 2 started babysitting me, and one day she told me and my brother we had to go with her to a doctors appointment for her feet. We went with her, as me and my brother sat in the room with her the doctor kept injecting things into her toes. They laughed and smiled at me and my brother as it was happening, we were very uncomfortable and confused. After that she told my brother to go sit in the lobby. We were alone in the doctors office and she brought out a video camera. The doctor laid me down onto the table and raped me while she recorded. I struggled as much as I could but again I was powerless. Afterwards I was numb and repressed again, I remember she told me to go pee afterwards and I did. I was disoriented and confused, not remembering how I got there. A couple weeks later I had told my mother that I got raped by a doctor. I had acted out what he did but I didn't have the words to say rape or assault. My mom told my dad and they sat me down and told me that what happened to me was wrong, and that I needed to tell them about it. At that point I had forgotten even mentioning it, i had completely forgotten that it happened, so I had nothing to say. Life moved on, they asked Name 2 about it, and she lied, saying that I left the room with my brother afterward. I continued being assaulted and trafficked by my grandfather for the following years. Constantly forgetting. When I was 11 it ended. I assume he was no longer interested because I had started puberty. I spent the next years living with my mother. She was neglectful and constantly drunk or high. I was constantly starving and underweight, when I saw my father on the weekends we fought but I didn't remember anything that had happened. Every part of me became depressed and confused. I dropped out of school in 8th grade. My mom told me that I had told her about the doctor that year, My entire life changed. At that point I didn't even remember being raped once. I went into a state of bipolar mania and psychosis. This went on for 7 months, then I went to my grandparents again. They were moving far away and there was a family reunion before they left. I remember being alone with my grandfather on the couch, he caressed my thigh with his hand. I was oblivious to everything that happened. I kept looking at things on my phone and ignored him. He said something odd, which I can no longer remember. I looked at him with confusion, and he sighed and left me alone after a prolonged silence. It didn't sit right with me. That month, after I went back home, memories started coming to me. I didn't know that starting then, I would spend all of my highschool years in a cycle of recovering memories, getting used to them, and then recovering more. I lost every friend I had. Except for my boyfriend I met online when I was 13. He was the only one who cared about anything that happened to me. I told him almost everything. He was a survivor of constant sexual abuse throughout his childhood as well. We understood each other. Now, I have just turned 18. I start college in the fall. I've gone no contact with my father. I've told my mother about everything, she told me my dad had sexually assaulted her and other women as well. And that they found money in my grandfathers mattress, also that he was probably selling drugs as well. Though she has not given me an apology for her neglect, and shows that she doesn't feel sorry for me at all. I'm dedicating every day to nurturing myself, since my parents can't. My journey isn't over, there's so much I don't understand still, but I know now that I will be okay. Most days I feel this awful shame. Like Im not meant to be alive. Like my body is all I was ever good for, like nobody cares about me at all or will ever understand. While most people couldn't understand the pain of what I've gone through, that's not what's important. I'm here for myself and I'm soon getting engaged with my boyfriend that I mentioned earlier. Things get better every day. I will not allow myself to feel this shame anymore. I'll share my story until I physically can't anymore. As soon as I submit this story I will not let it control me any longer. Thank you if you read this far.

The first time I remember being abused I believe I was 7 year old. My first abuser was my father. He sexually assaulted me while I pretended to be sleeping. I told my younger brother who told my mother. My mother made me tell her what happened and no one ever talked about it again. I didn't see my father for 7 years. It wasn't until he passed away that I found out he sexually abuse my step sister most of her life. Up until I knew he abused someone else I thought I did something to cause him to do what he did to me. It was early in the morning, maybe my stretching caused him to get on top of me. It seems ridiculous now, but in a 7 years old mind it made sense to me. As an adult, it makes me sad for that little girl to believe she did something to cause it to happen. My next abuser was my Uncle. I don't remember how old I was, possibly younger than 7, but I cannot remember. I remember being at my grandmother's home and my uncles were taking us on motorcycle rides through the woods. On my first ride, one of my uncles decided to put his hands down my pants and play with my vagina, but never quite put his fingers all the way inside my vagina. I remember it feeling good. I wasn't scared, in fact, I wanted to keep going with him on motorcycle rides. The next ride with him, I waited until the same place he first unbuttoned my pants and instead of him doing it, I unbuttoned my pants. I don't know how to feel about that, but right now I feel shame for that little girl so desperate for love and attention. I told my mother and she said, "oh, he was only experimenting" or something like that...kind of like, boys will be boys. I remember feeling hurt by my mother's response and feeling all alone. I don't believe I've ever been the same. I became a very angry little girl. So much so, my mother didn't feel it necessary to tell a man who was 11 years older than me to leave me alone after he made it known he was in love with me. He was her drug dealer so he continued to come around the house and lived what would be a city block away from us but we lived in the country so about 500 yards or less. I was 10 left to tell a grown man to leave me alone while he told me "you love me, you just don't know it yet". What the f*ck is wrong with people?! My mother's second husband was also a very terrifying man. I don't remember much about him, but I remember being afraid all that time. I was 4 and I remember seeing him throw my mother across the room and she hit her head on a radiator and began bleeding. Another time I remember being drug by my hair because I had accidently made noise upstairs. He used a belt on us but I don't remember being hit. I just remember him snapping the belt and hiding. As an adult before my healing journey began I was sexually harassed at work. I did finally speak up to my supervisor, but the man continued. I never spoke up again because clearly that guy wasn't going anywhere and what else could I say or do to make it stop?! Other bosses took advantage of their position of power. I had sex with two men who had say in whether I could keep my job. Afraid if I rejected their advances I would no longer have a position on the team. I felt helpless. All this though...could have been so much worse. So. much. worse. I've heard stories of worse, but this is mine. F*ck people who come to this earth to hurt others. F*ck them. They will never hurt me again.

I visited this site very recently. I am taken aback by the shared incidents, I never knew there exists a community that shares some very much relatable ,personal and difficult to even acknowledge incidents. I know what it takes for oneself to even accept the happening and lest sharing it with so many people. I'm proud of the survivors and wish them more power & strength, I would also like to thank the person and the team behind this initiative. The stories I read made me realise that I owe myself a favour and let myself out of the shame & suffering that I have been going for almost 10years now. So here I go. I have always been very fond of a brother sister duo, the care the love the fun the protection they have for each other is unmatchable. I being having no brother, always had a longing for it. I have a cousin who is 8 years older to me, we have had few family trips and he used to visit our house whenever he could, he is/was loved by everyone, in short our families are close enough. Some ten years ago when I was 14-15 years old , he was on a long vacation we used to meet very frequently and we developed a bonding that I always aspired for. I loved him as a sister and was very much caring. He was too. He started giving attention to me, whenever he would need any help he would ask nobody but only me and I was more than happy to provide 'anything he would ask for' being his little sister. We visited a relative's house for few days. We were all sleeping together and shared blankets. It was then that he touched me inappropriately, he pulled my top under the blanket and had his chilled hand over my bare stomach , though I felt uncomfortable but I thought it's really cold outside and it's nobody but my dear brother, so I didn't reacted and acted as if I'm asleep. New day new memories and everything about the previous night was gone. That night everyone slept in the same order, we were all slept and in the midst of sleep I felt a hand unbuttoning my shirt from the cleavage, he rested a portion of his hands on my bare chest, I did not know what to do so deliberately changed my sleeping posture turning my back towards him and pretending to be asleep as if nothing was noticed. I knew it then that it was not appropriate but I did not stop it. The next day I remember I prepared myself better ( wore an extra layer of sweater and buttoned it all the way up to the neck) so as to not let him make any advances while I was sleeping , that day I do not remember very clearly but probably he had made unsuccessful attempts and out of the desperation he had tried to insert his hands inside my clothing from elsewhere and I had resisted it becoming rigid in my posture and then he had tried to apply presurre to which I had given in and he might have been successful.I do not remember much of that night but it was not sober of him. He crossed his limits the other day when I was asleep with my head outside the blanket and I felt something going inside the blanket I saw him being inside the blanket with my top pulled up and him being very close towards my chest. I do not know whether I'm making up but I think I saw him checking out my bare body with his phone's screenlight. I became very afraid , since others were also sleeping in the same room just beside us. I hastly tried changing my posture and adjusting myself and my blanket as a result of which he got scared and turned his back towards me and showed as if he is asleep. I was up for that whole night. I was scared. I was ashamed. I was embarrassed. I wanted to cry. I couldn't make sense of anything. I couldn't make eye contact with him.I was not myself for the next 2-3 days , I felt as if he was ashamed too of his deed. Within a week everything was back to normal between us and we were back to our house sharing the same earlier sibling kind bond. As days passed he started asking me adorably to sleep beside him when none of the elders were around and though I knew what he meant by that but everytime I shamelessly followed his words and ended up having his both hands clasping my clothed unguarded breasts under the blanket while I pretended to sleep. He used to lick my face, my ears while I was actually sleeping. During cousin sleepovers, if at all I was sleeping at night distances away from him, he used to pull me closer or change his place beside me so as to have his hands over me. I stopped feeling guilty or ashamed in those days. I don't know why I let him do everything then. Why I didn't resisted instead gave way to get exploited by his hands. I used to love him even after everything he did to me, I longed for his visits. Then after 2 years his visits became rare and I was afraid now of his deeds in presence of others ,so once I resisted sternly and did not let him pull me closer to him, from that day his acts stopped, he never made any advances after that as far as I remember. But still I had no ill feelings for him. Then after a gap of 3 years or so, we all attended a family function where we spent time together . Though I was hesitant of him in the begining but in few days I got closer to him for another time. We shared same dinner platter, cared for each other, helped each other, became a team, joked ,laughed , clicked pictures and made memories , it was for me the perfect brother-sister bond. The next day when everyone of us was badly tired after the function we were resting in a room with him being inches away from me. This time it was me who searched for him and reached for him with his feet in my hand's reach. Though I instantly put my hands back to me but I remember him checking whose hands it was and finding me at the nearest. Neither of us said anything then as we were tired as hell. After that incident I was in a loop of flashbacks for months, my mental state was badly hit, I started analysing every act of him replaying in my head, I could feel his hands over my chest, his clasp over my breast, his wet kisses over my ears. I used to cry all day long, I started staying by myself all day long, I limited my interactions saved for the necessary ones, all along without being getting noticed by parents and sister. I used to pull a fake face for the world, rinsed my face all day long to not get caught of crying. I couldn't make any sense, I felt all alone. I felt something hollowing me from inside. Everything was going to fall if I didn't do anything for myself, may be standing for self. I decided confronting him through a text. I wasn't angry over him on the text, I wrote that -I wanted to tell him that few of his touches were not appropriate so being his sister it is to make him aware of the good and bad touches. To which he replied with a guilty emoji. I thought I was done, atleast he knows that he was not right. At that instance I wanted everything to end and we being the same old us with me still loving him. But as days passed there was turn of emotions I cannot count, from love to care to forgiveness, to anger to hatred, to what not. I texted him again with all the ill feelings for him, he apologized for his deeds and asked me to text him( couldn't have ever talked all this over phone) whenever I wanted. I thought okay, I can atleast share with him what I could not with anybody. With each passing day I started hating him even more,I tried to not let myself alone with those thoughts for long. I started avoiding him, I stopped calling him or texting. I met him in all these years at few instances and I make sure I'm never in his vicinity,I maintain my safe distance and do not stay in his presence for long alone. I might be talking to him over call in everyone's presence but I know I hate him. I won't ever forgive him nor I will ever forgive myself. Yes, I hate him but I hate myself more. It makes me think I was involved too. I was at fault too. I am guilty. I must have derived pleasure out of his acts and so I did not sternly opposed him at the very first encounter . Everything now is seeming very apparent, how could I not see and understand his intentions I was not a small kid. Why did I let him continue with his acts for so long? I have no clear answer to any of these questions. I'm fed up with all this. I am trying to have peace and live with these dull flashbacks which makes me remorse everytime the pages of the past are turned.

my brother SA'd me multiple times. he never raped me, though. he once forced me to kiss him on the mouth as a "game" of some sorts. he would also smack my ass, call me a slut, and shame me for everything. before he got on medication, he would beat me up. he's on medication now, but he's still terrible. he got mad at me and said he would gangrape me. he never did, but it was still scary. i hate him, and he says i'm a bad person for hating him. he also denied ever SAing me. sometimes i feel like i'm delusional or something. i don't know, i'm just tired of living with him. i can't wait for him to move out.

When I was younger, I was sexually abused. Those words still sting. He was a neighbor and family friend who gained my trust at a young age. I felt so alone, ashamed, guilty, dirty. I felt so stuck. It took years for me to open up and start talking about it. But taking that step, and sharing my story, began my healing journey. I was abused for almost 10 years before it stopped. I am here to share my story to say that there is a light. There is hope. Taking that step to share your story is the first step towards healing. Healing is possible. You are not alone 💙

7 years goes by in a blink of an eye.. 7 years of silence and self-blame. 7 years of feeling impure and out of place. My story of sexual assault started 7 years ago, I was 16 years old. I thought it was a good idea to go out with some friends to a party. Without knowing my alcohol tolerance, without realizing anything, I blacked out after a couple sips. Thinking back, I am almost positive someone may have drugged my drink.. I mean, how could I have blacked out after just a couple of sips? However, my girlfriends cleaned me up and put my guy friends shirt on me and carried me into the car while they went back in to clean up. I remember it was freezing outside as it was a winter season. After blacking out I’ve woken up a few times alone and cold in the car wondering where everyone has gone. Of course just before knocking out again someone comes into the car. I could hear the car door sliding open and close because the car was a van. I remember the sound of how a car door slide because my mom also owned a van. They all sound the same. I was too weak to move or say anything. I saw a masculine shadow coming towards me right before I knocked out. A few moments later I could feel my body telling me I need to wake up. As soon as I open my eyes I felt this entity on top of me doing exactly what I knew he was doing. Raping me. I was shocked, scared, and again freezing. I tried pushing him off. I then prayed. Being so intoxicated I knocked out again. How stupid of me. Another few moments goes by I wake up again to him whispering to me “you know you like that”. Soon after he whispered that I heard my friends laughing and walking towards the car. This scared the hell out of my rapist that he quickly put my panty back on, buckled his pants and whispered “they’re coming” and ran out of the car. I truly believe I was drugged because I knocked out again. Ugh, how foolish am I. I was not educated enough to know that these things happen so often. More than I can imagine. I only hope that I continue to forgive myself for what had happen. 7 years go by and I’m more educated than ever about these things. I hope the trauma my rapist caused me will forever haunt him til eternity.

Being a girl is not fair I am a 32 year old woman abused more that once when I was younger. It was the first abuse that had the butterfly affect of leading me to the rest. When I was twelve I wanted to earn money. My parents did not believe in allowance for doing chores. I could not work legally until I was fourteen unless it was a newspaper route waking up before dawn. My Uncle--my Dad’s brother--hired me to work at his appliance repair shop. He was the only one we knew who had a business. Soon after I started, part of the job was letting him give me massages. He molested me a little more each time until he was using his mouth on my privates. He would masturbate while he did. I let him do this for weeks while he changed me and distorted me. Then he made me use my mouth on him. I did it ONE time. I vomited after. I reported him to my parents. The were caring and supportive, and angry at him. But not angry enough to do anything but let me stop working there. He apologized to me in the kitchen with my parents there. Me floating adrift in lava while the Gods decided my fate. I barely remember it. He stayed in our lives with almost no change. I went back to normal. On the surface. But I was not the same, and become more afraid of things. The dark, being alone, silence. In the coming years I fooled around with boys in ways I might not have. I may not have been that type of girl but felt compelled. I was fifteen when I had a boyfriend my age that I secretly had sex with almost daily. I loved him. He dumped me. More issues. Age seventeen. High school senior. Dyed blue-streaked hair down to my butt. Emo. Skinny. Flat chest. Was drinking and smoking put by then. But not THAT NIGHT. I Walked out of a Pink concert I had gone to with my cousin and her friends. Something upset me and I left. Night time. Part of the city I don’t know. No plans. Maybe go back to the concert after getting my head together. Walking past a strip mall a group of four guys came out of place, not sure what it was. I had seen that two of them were black. That scared me. I’m sorry. I hurried and turned right. So did they. It was something like an alley behind the strip mall and a big wall on the one side. Back doors of business, dumpsters, a few cars. Not well lit. Maybe I could have just kept walking and been fine but it was dark on the far side and seemed so far away. The guys were talking and laughing and behind me. I grew terrified of being raped or hurt or killed. I think I heard one of them say the words, “nice ass” in their chatter. Panic attack. I think I was trying to save my own life. Preemptive strike? I stopped, turned and said. “You guys can F--- me if want.” I remember the pause while some of them stopped but one kept coming. They laughed, maybe nervous. The one that kept coming put his arms around me and pressed his body to me. I forgot what he said but he pulled me in close, grinding on me. They took me to a dark area off to the side between two buildings. I did oral for the first one and the other black one, but not all the way. A show for them. Laughing. Shooshing each other when they got too loud. I tried but they got rough and I gagged a lot. Take you clothes off. Jacket, tank, jeans, panties. Onto my back. Asphalt. Legs spread. Trying to stay on top of my clothes to not get cut and scraped. All four of them took turns. With the first one it was a show they watched. With the rest they were turned around, talking to each other, trying to block me from view. I think someone walked by but not sure. Alcohol and cigarette breath. Guys probably in their thirties. Friends having fun. Boys being boys. Just pumping into me. Telling me I’m tight. My body a vessel. Legs spread. No resistance. My arms around them. Eye contact I don’t remember. I always looked at my boyfriend in the eyes. I always look in eyes during it, searching for a connection. I saw their eyes but not their faces. They just used me for friction. Quick and get it down. Except for the second to last. He wanted to talk. I told him my name. I told him about the concert. I told him I liked to be on top because he asked. I remember his face. The only one who was white. Crooked nose. Cauliflower ears. Blue eyes. A sense of hurry from the others. He blurs into the last one in my mind. The Arab/Persian? “Thanks a lot.” I know one of them said. They thanked me while I got dressed quickly and kept walking the direction they had been going before. By the time I walked back out they were gone. I went back the direction I had come from. I got back in the concert and spent the whole time finding my cousin. Sore and dripping. Back scratched up. I felt gross. I started crying but stopped when I drew too much attention. I found them. The final song was “Get the Party Started” We left together. The ones who were not driving drank wine but I was not allowed any because I was too young. I told nobody. Told my mom it was cool. Right away I became the girlfriend of a guy who had a locker near mine who had been persistent but I had always rejected. He was tall and no more than “okay”. I did not want to be alone. He fell in love. I did not. Prom and stuff. I broke up with him the last week of school. He was leaving for college anyway. I did not want to go with him. I cheated on him because I needed more sex that he could give. Then came the days of being passed around. I went to community college and dated my chem lab partner, got kind of raped by his brother in the shower and became the brother’s girlfriend. He got me into heavy drinking, party drugs, the club scene and I dropped school. I was an EDM/Metal/Trance princess and had so many “friends” in the scene that knew me as Sapphire. Sapphire was a nymphomaniac. People loved that about me. Some good, some bad. Quickies in dark spots in the clubs. Backstage. Back office. Cars. Secrets. Woke up in different beds. My boyfriend kind of “gave” me to his drug dealer and I lived with him until an older guy talked me into running away with him to Location. He was 39 (40 for a month) when I was 20 and we lived together for more than a year. It was a very sexual relationship but he cared about me. His house was a quick walk to the beach and I loved it. It was healthier. I started CC classes again and got my AA. He helped me through my panic attacks and I hid my depression from him. My parents met him, and accepted him eventually. We talked about marriage. But he was gone all day weekdays, I did not have a job, and I had a second life to feed my big hollow emptiness that had started after my uncle used me. Also, he liked to role play that he was my father. Just one of his kinks. The sickest part is that just like the eye contact thing, saying “F me daddy” became something I just do automatically. I cheated on him many times when he was with guys from the beach crowd he only knew slightly from our weekend beach trips. Girls too. I fell for a surfer and wanted to have his baby and even quit birth control. It all ended badly and I moved back with my parents. I was finally diagnosed with manic depression and talked to my mom about all the sexual encounters and abuse and started going to group. Five years after THAT NIGHT my mom was the first person I told about the four guys after the concert. That one still rips a hole in my sense of life and love and loving myself. I wonder if good guys don’t want to be with me because my breasts are small I take medication and I am functional. Like I said; BEING A GIRL IS NOT FAIR

It started as sexual harassment. And I let it happen. Do not let it happen to you! I was a college intern working on my supply-chain management major. In business school you know you don’t just get a degree and POOF! A job is magically waiting for you. Unless you already have connections. I was a single woman on financial aid and had squat for family connections. I needed to make some connections while still in school that I could use to climb the ladder. It is a very competitive world. A time when we don’t care so much where we work as long as it has prospects of advancement and making money. I was interning at the corporate offices for a rental car company. I got my first choice for a class in which we had to intern at a real company. My group of four was in their logistics offices and we had no clear job at the time but my school had sent students for a while so we had a contact person and some loose idea of a project that my group of four had to put together and execute for our grade. Well that was kind of of dud and I went along with the bad idea of planning more efficient distribution routes for their cars entering the fleet. It was naive because the company had real pros who designed the system. But, because of my feminine wiles, I got invited to come in and help in my free time by a top manager. Just me. I jumped at the opportunity and on my available days I showed up early in the morning and tried to be like part of the team. It was a very masculine environment. I tried to hang in spite of the pretenses for my special treatment. “You’re not one of those feminist types who go crying to HR if a man gives you a compliment or a pat on the backside, are you?” The man who first invited me had asked. We’ll call him XX. I assured him I was not, anticipating his expected answer. “Work hard, play hard,” was something I said in my denial of values he was obviously opposed to. So the couple times XX introduced me as his mistress I went along with the joke. Another stupid mistake. As an example of my environment, after a male Y in the department first showed me how to use part of a program that calculates stock outages, he had me sit and try it and gave me a massage I did not ask for early in the morning. Well XX came up and made a joke about Y getting his hands of his girl. They had some bro moment where the male Y asked him if he was serious, saying something about XX’s wife, to which XX backed down and said something like “It’s just a joke. I’d love to in my fantasies, but she’s company property, brother.” Company property??! I was sitting right there! I tensed up but tried to pretend I was so absorbed in the computer training as XX left and male Y went back to massaging me, but this time more boldly. He got down my lower back and upper buttock then went down the arms to my thighs, stopping me from doing any work as he blatantly brushed his forearms and hands against my chest. I felt so weak and almost paralyzed by the time I forced myself to stand up to go use the restroom, stopping it. I could have just done that at the beginning but did not. Later hat same day, XX had me go to lunch with him and have a beer at a bar and grill with a pool table. I was 20 but they did not ask for my ID because I was with XX. I hardly ever played pool and while we waited for our food he “showed” me how to play. He made fun of the cliché on movies and television where a man has a woman bend over the pool table to shoot just so he can push his crotch against her backside in a suggestive manger and lean over her with his arms on each side of her to show her how to slide the stick. But while he joked about it he actually did those things to me! That was a good day for my two main molesters and an awful day for me. XX hugged me as we stood up giggling and apparently his hands now had a license to molest my body whenever he wanted. I got numb to it in some ways, but emotionally more on edge. My butt was grabbed or spanked playfully in the department, even by male Y. A few other men were very flirtatious. My shoulders were rubbed, hugs on even minor greetings with XX and finally I was supposed to get used to little pecks on the lips too. I felt like I was in a constant state of mental anguish and defensiveness. My body could be attacked anytime. But I did not defend myself! I would say clearly to XX and some others that I wanted to be respected and considered one of the guys and have a job there when I graduated and they affirmed it. Both main abusers encouraged me, but still sexually harassed me. With my moronic blessing! The semester ended and I kept going in daily during summer break. It was my only lifeline to a possible job after I graduated in a year. I was so groomed that it was not a big leap at all when XX pressured me to give him head in his office. I refused with a smile and head shake and he came back with some rationalization about how I owed him and he really needed it just then. He would not take no for an answer. The first time I lowered myself to kneeling before his desk and took him in my mouth my hands were shaking and I teared up and had to sniffle snot back up. I was the one who was embarrassed! It was like an out of body experience and my mouth dried up to where I had to ask him to drink some of his energy drink. Internally there was a huge change immediately. I was gutted of all pride and self-worth. I was like a zombie. Hardly eating. Lots of coffee. Showing up and doing the reports that had become my responsibility and mechanically giving XX his daily BJ in the afternoon in his small stale office with a small window. I started to have migraines during that summer. I drove home for 4th of July and got so inebriated I ended up sleeping with my much older sister’s ex-husband in the back of his truck. That was a terrible wake up call. I knew I couldn’t pretend much longer without a breakdown so I put my two week in at the rental car place where I was working for free. To secure my future I made sure to keep it all friendly and “you know I’ll be back working here next year”. The idea of all the time and humiliation I had put in being lost to nothing was a major fear. I put myself through two last weeks of it. I had quickie sex with XX twice on and over his desk. I gave into extreme pressure and gave male Y a BJ too when he explicitly made it about a letter of recommendation. He knew about me doing it for XX. He did not even have his own office and we had to use the stairwell. During my final year of school I became aware that I was too traumatized to ever go back there anyway. The extent to which I had been used and abused became obvious to me, where before it had not. As if I had been living in a denial haze. It was a painful time. I was a bit reckless. I got a C in the high level economics elective I took. I said yes to several dates to avoid being alone and either slept with them or freaked out in anger at them. Seeing that I needed the car rental faux-internship on my resume I did email both abusers for letters of recommendation and got a good one from Male Y, but a very impersonal, generic one from XX. I was so dejected and angry. Finally, I told my sister, the one who confronted me about her ex-husband. I TOLD HER EVERYTHING AND THAT WAS MY FIRST STEP TO RECOVERY. To letting out the pain, screaming at myself in the mirror, punching the heavy bag at a boxing gym I joined, and to seeing my first psychologist and psychiatrist. The therapy helped more than the Celexa and antipsych. The support group helped even more. I met two friends for life who have my back in times of sorrow. I have to repeat that it is not my fault that I was abused, even though it kind of was. Don’t let it happen to you! They will take as much as they can from you. Plan your boundaries now and be assertive! Report harassment immediately. Doing so you are being a hero and protecting other women and yourself. If you have already been abused, GET OUT of the situation and talk to someone about it ASAP. There is nothing to be gained by letting the abuse continue! Talking to someone makes it real and lets you start the process of hating less and starting on the path to learning to love yourself again. You deserve real love.

I'm a 47 year old woman. I am sharing this story because what happened to me so very a long ago still haunts me to this day. I am in Therapy and have emotional support in my life now. When I was a 17 year old girl I lived in a small town, I didn't have a really good home life with my family, it was extremely dysfunctional, but that didn't mean I didn't love my family. I got into an argument with my mom late one night and left my home to go to a friend of my families who lived about a 15 miles drive from there, I was on foot. What happened after that would alter me for the rest of my life. By the time I had arrived to my families friends I had been missing for two months. I stayed with the family friend for three days helping them move and then they drove me back to my families for me to only realize it was Thanksgiving Day. I left my parents in Mid September in 1994. I didn't feel ok I knew something horrible had happened I just couldn't remember and on top of that my mother suggested I go to the hospital. I spent two weeks in the hospital and have just now finally came to grips with the very fact that I was kidnapped by three men, taken up further North in Ohio somewhere near farm land, there were other girls with me, I was sexual assaulted and drugged and by the grace of God I managed to escape and make it to my destination that year in 1994. Even today I am still struggling with it, but I know after some therapy things will get better. I know I was missing because no one in my family could find me, I had lost a lot of my memory, but what I can remember is very scary too me to this day. Also, the attending Dr who visited me in the hospital during my two week stay told me I was severely traumatized and I was so frustrated because at that time I couldn't remember anything, but one thing I never forgot feeling was scared, feeling scared for my life. I thank God everyday that these men didn't kill me. It took me years to accept that I did experience this but I have a small support system of people I love helping me through the process. I have regained some memories of what happened and I honestly don't want to remember the rest, because what happened to me was paralyzing and horrible and those things I can't remember were probably worse than what I remember. I'm a true survivor and would never want this to happen to anyone. I was just a teenage girl.

When I was about 10 years old, one of my friends (same age, also female) and I were sitting facing each other in a hammock. She placed her foot between my legs and started rubbing, and she was holding a four year old and we were in the same room as numerous adults. I didn't say anything but I wonder now if it was out of shock, confusion, fear, or maybe even enjoyment? Other times she would make me hump pillows with her, or even touch me inappropriately. The one time I was going to spend the night at her house was a little while after these initial experiences, and I vividly remember being so afraid to even go into her room that I burst into tears and ran back to my parents begging to go home. I can't remember how far we ever went, or how often anything occurred, and the memories that I have now were repressed for over 10 years. For a long time I convinced myself that I was making it up. However, around that same age when this sexual stuff started happening, I became afraid of being touched by anyone (even my parents) and the same friend would force me to hug her and she would hold me still and kiss my cheek. I've struggled with physical touch ever since, and also became addicted to pornography at a young age (I've worked past that now, thankfully). Wondering how this experience would be classified? It's been really bothering me ever since those memories started coming back, and I think I'm confused as to whether it was abuse or just sexual trauma in some way.

Freshman year started with the It's on Us training, all freshman packed into the basketball arena. Jokes about "drinking tea" started then and continued throughout college. He was there. Listening, making jokes about "tea." The whole first semester we had been friends, and he had often hung out with me alone to minister to me, the heathen liberal from up north. I was lonely and was happy someone was giving me attention. It turned into a bit more than friends, but it had to be a complete secret. No one could know, no one could see me going up or down from his dorm, and he acted closer in private and much more distant in public. I knew it wasn't the greatest situation but many people get much worse and I was afraid of feeling alone. He and others had also started instilling in me how wrong it was for me to be queer, and I wanted a guy on my arm so if anyone had heard that I was gay they wouldn't think it was true. That backfired, certainly, as everything had to be secret. At the beginning of second semester it happened. I went up to his dorm and he asked to do more, and I said okay hesitantly, wanting it to be okay more than I thought it would be. I froze. The next night I went up again and the same thing happened but he didn't ask first. I froze. "Stop" and "no" resounded in my head but I couldn't force my voice to sound, my limbs to move. I remember the bumpy texture of the wall and the shadows in the closet and the lamp on the desk and the upper half of my body positioned slightly into the wall, but he and the lower half of my body don't exist. It's inked out in my memory. They return when he tries to slip my pants down, and the change allows me to unfreeze, to say the "no" I couldn't force myself to speak before. He immediately stopped and got off the bed and leaned against the desk a few feet away and stared at the floor, refusing to look at me. I remember thinking he looked ashamed. I think I felt bad and tried to apologize but he still wouldn't look up. I wrote in my journal after that he went way too far, "it tore me up so bad," and that I hated what happened. And yet I rationalized that it was only too far, not too too far, and thus it was okay. I should have known, spoken, not been dumb enough to get myself in that situation. And despite realizing that he didn't ask for consent I still didn't realize that it was sexual assault. Rereading my journal I realize it affected me more from the beginning than I usually think. At first I missed having a friend while also hating it and being torn up about it. Later I started to heavily avoid thinking about it, and avoided him as much as I could for someone in my major. I remember avoiding looking at him and interacting with him in class when possible. We were very much in the same sphere, though, so avoiding the thought of it and trying to pretend it never happened was much more possible than avoiding him. I stopped being able to avoid thinking about it when I was assigned to work with him on a project my last semester at the university, a bit over four years after it happened. Having to work with him brought up so much that I'd been trying to suppress and forget about, and I started having to come to terms with what happened. I felt so much pain and anxiety, and one of my professors in particular noticed that I was off. She also, coincidentally, recommended me a book that gave me the words that I didn't have: that what happened was sexual assault. I later told her and another professor what happened, and they were both very supportive and understanding. One remarked that it made sense that I'd left university so suddenly - I'd left without finishing my second degree, deciding to withdraw the summer after finishing my first year, though finishing the first year with the intent to continue. The thought of leaving was freeing and, though he was graduating, if I left there was no chance of interaction and I didn't have to deal with the anxiety I felt on campus. Things have improved a lot since then though healing is never linear. It's been almost three years since I left university. A friend asked me on a trip to visit his family in the state that the university is in last year but I couldn't, the thought of going made me far too anxious - it was more important to be able to eat and sleep than visit. I'm starting to not avoid everyone from university. But, yet, I think because this is on my mind, this morning anxiety made me feel like I was going to puke. I couldn't calm myself down before I had to leave for work so I called off because I was afraid of getting sick there. I used to have a lot more symptoms of ptsd than I do now, though I haven't really seen a professional and have dealt with it on my own. I can write but it's still very difficult to speak aloud about what happened. The four-letter r-word is the hardest and my mind wants to scream that no, no, that didn't happen. A few months after it happened he told me he should be dead, because if any guy did what he did to me, he'd probably kill him. Four and a half years after it happened he said he didn't notice that I froze and didn't remember. I still struggle with anxiety (with a side of accepting what happened) and constant little reminders are difficult. And yet, things are much better than they used to be and I know the processing is needed to continue healing. I'm finally getting back into things that I enjoy and are 'me', and that feels good.

It happened years ago. I was 10. He was 13. He told me it would be our secret game. He said that if I told anyone he would say it was my idea and I would be the one to get into trouble. I never told anyone and I did my best to pretend it never happened. I repressed it for years and always thought it would be a secret I took to my grave. For so long I haven't even been able to admit to myself what happened. I often wondered if I had made it up or if I was exaggerating things. Maybe it wasn't as bad as I thought, maybe I'm not remembering it properly, maybe I did something to deserve it. But I know now that's not the case. I trusted him. He was my friend. I was sexually abused. I was raped. More than once. That's the first time I've been able to properly admit that to myself. I don't know why it's come back to haunt me all these years later. I thought I had moved on. But recently I'll have these episodes that come from nowhere where I just feel so sad and empty. I don't know why I can be fine one minute and sobbing on the floor the next. Or why I sometimes still see his face when I close my eyes or why it's the first thing I think about when I wake up. I thought if ignored these, pushed them back they'd disappear. I had never truely forgotten what had happened to me. Sometimes there would be something that would remind me or trigger a flashback but overall I was doing ok. I was happy and making progress. I don't want to be defined as a victim or someone who is weak. But sometimes I look in the mirror and I still see that scared 10 year old girl. Sometimes I feel dirty and ashamed. Embarrassed and like I should have done more to stop it. I thought if I pretended it didn't happen I would be able to move on with my life. I know it's affected me. How the thought of sex sometimes makes me want to vomit, why I freak out if someone grabs me out of nowhere and why I can't stand having a hand over my mouth, even if it's a joke. But I know to heal I have to start by admitting what happened to me. I can't let it damage me anymore than it already has. And I refuse to let it damage my relationships with others. I want to take steps to move forward. I won't let it rule my life or define me. He has taken so much from me. I know there's no proof. It'll always be my word against his. And all these years on I don't want to report it or risk any of my family finding out. But I just want to be able to properly trust people again. To not sometimes flinch away when someone goes to touch me. To be ok with being vulnerable. To feel safe again. Posting this is my first step to being okay again. It feels good to be able to say what happened with no judgement. To know that this is anonymous and I could be anyone in a sea of faces. I want to gain the strength to be able to talk about it. To be able to tell my friends what happened and not feel like I'm keeping something from them or being dishonest. I know that one day I will get there. No matter how long it takes.

A few nights ago I went out clubbing with friends. I got way drunker than I had expected to, and when we arrived at the club I ran to the dancefloor while my friends finished checking their coats. A man started to try to dance with me and grab me, and before I had time to realize what was happening, I was being kissed. I was able to push him away and go find my friends but didn’t really process what had happened. The morning after, I felt really uneasy and unsettled by this experience. I don’t know if I would call it assault, but I think I still feel really violated that it happened. I was clearly way too drunk to have consented to the encounter and I’m upset that I now have this on my mind. I feel like I was taken advantage of by a stranger because I was too drunk to say no or resist. I just want to get over it and stop thinking about the experience but I feel like I’m burdened by the fact that this happened now.

I m a boy. It's happened to me when i was in LKG class....l एक लड़का मेरे पास बैठा था..उसने अपना प्राइवेट पार्ट मेरे मुंह में डाला,,,उसने मुझे कहा ये करने को मेने किया .then i was also trying to my 2 year. Brother Bachpan me mey Ghar se bahar khel rahe the age approx 7 thi......a boy also tried to sexual abuse me.. jab me lagbhag 12 saal ka tha I also tried to sexual abuse my. Sister (such as bollywood actress do kiss and romance)....mene. movie me dekh kar kiss karna sikha tha...... IN 5TH CLASS. I was in school class. Sabse last me batha tha दो सगे bhai mujhe apne Ghar le. Gaye Orr unhon. Mere. Sath sexual abuse kiya . में दोस्त समझ के उनके घर गया था..........jab me 6th class me tha दो ladko ne mujhe डराया और मेरे साथ sexual abuse kiya Jab. Me 15 saal ka huya. Mujhe phone ki thodi bohht problem shi karni aati thi. ...... phir hamaare Pados me rehne wala आदमी. Mere pass aaya apna phone shi kawane. Orr. Voo dosti karne laga mujsee Uska Ghar mere Ghar ke paas hi tha vo mujhe apne Ghar bulane lagaa Orrr me DOSt samj ke gaya. Mera. Kuch din aana Jana raha. Phir voo. Apna private parts dikhha ra tha Mujhe Se bola isse touch kar le. But meene nhi Kiya....vo mere saamne apne kapde utar. Krrr dikha raha thaaa Uski age approx 30 thhi shayad jyada And me 15 and some month He showed me porn movies I had a curiosity SUCH as baccche kese paida hota he ....shadi ke baad kya hota he. ...Orr bhi. Bohot kuch Uncle groomed me and he did romantic behaviour with me I was thinking he is my best friend He manipulate me to do intercourse ((( Unhone kaha ye too sab bacche karte he. Mere paas ek ladka Orr. Bhi he vo. Bhi. Karta he. To tum bhi kar lo. )))). Mere. Sirf wahi dost tha. Jisse me apni. Sabhi baate share karta thaa........me usko apna Manta. The. """". Me akele pan mehsoos kar raha tha........ uncle ne mere rape Kiya....... emotional request ki. Usne kaha sirf ek baar kar loo. 😢😢😢😢. Me baccha tha unhe dost apna maanta tha. Mujhe. Unkone aesa mehsoos karaayaa ki ye sab. Shii. Heee Oorr mene. Kiyaa. Jo. Vo chahte the😢😢 But mujhe. Aesa laga jese. Kuch galat. Huya. He. But. Aachey. Sse pata. Nhi thaa..ki ye sab mere saath गलत कर रहा हे Phi. 1 month baad.. me kisi relative ke gaya. 😢😢😢😢. Waha pe ek CHOOTi. Bacchi. Ke saath bhii. MENE rape karne. Ki koshish ki. Lekin. Me. Uska kuch n karr sakaa. Aachannkk mera bhai Aagaya orrrr me galat kaam karne se Bach gayaa 16 to 18 mene crowded area.me Jake women Ko. Wrong intentions ke saath. Touch karne. Ki koshish ki. But kuch waqt baad mujhe realise huyya me. Bohot. Ghatiya. Janwar ban gaya hu. 😢😢😢😢 Phir mene ye sab se dhyaann hataya Orr. Aacha life jeene kki. Koshish karne laga BUT AGE 19 Me me bus me betha. Huya. Tha. Me apne aaappko bohot mature samajh ra tha. Mujhe aesa. Laga abb me. Bada ho gayaa hu. Mujhe Saari common cheeeze. Pataa है Phir mene yee socha. चोरी Ka matalab kyaa hota hee. . Mere mind me answer aayaa Kisi ka samaan bina. Permission kee uthana Phir mene socha हत्या. Ka matalab kya hota he Mind se ans aaaaya. Kisi ko khatam. Kar dena Phir socha kidnap kya hota he Answer aaaya. Mind se kisi. Ko. agwah karke. Us bacche ke parents se pese maangna Phir RAPE WORD. Mind me AAYYA UUSS WAQT 19 ki age mee tha Oorrr RAPE kya hootta he pata nnhi tha. Phir jabarjassti. Word mind me aaayy. ~ mene TV mee aesa dekha. Tha. Ki. Ek aadmi. Ek ladki ke saath. Ladaai karne ki koshish kar. Raha he BAs shaayad issi ko jabardasti करना bolte he PHIR. MIND ME बलात्कार word. Aaya. SHHRU. MEE MENE ISS WORD KO AVOID KARNNE KI KOSHISH KI. MERA MNN ghabra. Gaya tthaaa Phir mene socha mujhe har cheez pata hona chahiye Mene. Orrr dhyyaann se socha. Kyoki Balaatkkaar karrne. Waale. Ko Fansi ki sajaa milti. Hhe. Phir mene oorr dhyyaann se socha ki Balaatkkaar ka. Matlab Mere mind me aaya DAAMni. Rape case aayya Mene. Socch ki ek ladki he or kucch logo ne usske private parts me rod daal diya tha phir kuch waqt baad vo mrrr gayi Lekin. Abhi bbhi mujhe Clear definition nnhi. Pata chali. Phir mene. Orrr socha Phir. Jaake smj. Aaya. MERE HAATH PER KAPKAAPA GAYA. BOHOT DAR LAGA BUS ME BETTHA THA. MERE MIND ME. UUS. AADMI KE. KHAAYAL. AAYA. VO AADMI MEERRE UPER LET RAHA THA. USKE BAAD MEE BECHAAIN HO GAYA MUJHE PATA CHAL usne mujhe behla ke. Meera. Rape kiya है Lekin mnn ye baat nhi aaccept kar raha tha ki LADKOO ka rape kese HO sakta he. PHIR mene Google se Rape ki defin padi. Me bata nnhi. Sakta me kya mehsoos kar raha tha Mujhe USS choootti. Bacchi ke bare me yaad aayaa. 😢😢😢. Mere hooss ud. Ggaye mee ghabra gaya darrr gaya. Ki. Me uukee saath kkya koshish Kiya. But. Thank God voo BACh. Gayi. Abb. Mene. Net pee pada ladko ka bbhi rape hoota he. 😢😢😢😢😢. Me Mujhey. Laga me bohht ghatiya. Neeecch. Ladka hhu. Ghar. Waleee sochte he. Hammmarra ladka. Bohht. Aaccha he Mere MIND me suside ka plan aaya. MENE 4 BAAR. BOTH DUKKHI. HOKE. SUSIDE KI KOSHISH KI BUTT. 😅😅.ASSA. LLAGA. MOUT BBHI APNA TIME PPE AAAAYEGGGA BUT ABB chup chap raha nhi Jaa raha tha mene mummy ko bohot. Muskil see apne baare me bataya yye. Socha. Jaan se mujhe mardegi to shii he. Ya Ghar se nikaal degi to shi But. Mene apne bataaayaa Mummy roii. 😢😢. phir booli. Jo uss aadmi. Nne merre saaath kiya orrr. Kaarrwaaya. Usmmee. US ADDMI KI ORR TERII. DONO KI. GALTTTI. HE. ORR TERE SAAATTH 15. SAAL KI. AAGE ME HHUYA. TU SAMAJDAAR HOOGA. SAARRI GALTI TERE HHI. HE. ME NE KAHA THEEKK HE. 8 SE 20 DIN. MUMMY NE BAAT NHI KKI. VO SOCH ri thhi. Mee unhhhe bare me bhi wrong tarike se. Sochta h😢😢 Phir. Mene ye. Socch ki wo aadmi mere se16,,,, 17 saal bada hhe uski उम्र 30,32 थी Ussy. Pata hona chahiye tha ki vo kya galat kar raha hai Orr dostti. ke naaam pe kya karwa ra hee me 15. Ka tha shi se apni body parts ke baare me bhi nhi jaantta thaa. Vo porrn dikhata tha. Me ye dekhta tha ki ladkiya dikhnne me kesi. Hoti he. Curiosity tthiiii..... Phir dheere dheere me samajh. Gaya. Kuss aadmii ne uska. Plan usne. Emotional manipulate kiya kahha sab ladke karte hhee. Me use apna maanta tha to menne FRIENDSHIP na tootne ke chakkar me sab kiya galat 😢 Usski wajah se me uss bacchi ke saath bhi karane ka koshish Kiya. But thanks 🙏🙏 god vo bach gii अंकल ने मुझे ऐसे माहौल दिया था जैसे की ये सब normal ho mujhe इसी वजह से मेने उस बच्ची के साथ सब कुछ normal समझ के करने की कोशिश की लेकिन वो बच गई उस अंकल ने मुझसे कहा था ये तो सब करते ही मेरे पास एक ओर बच्चा भी आता है वो भी करता है तो tu bhi करले मेने उसे मना किया लेकिन वो मुझसे दोस्ती तोड़ने का नाटक करने लगा और मुझे बहुत अकेलापन लग रहा था उससे दोस्ती बचाने के चक्कर में मेने वो किया जो उसने कहा लेकिन मुझे गलत सही का पता nhi thaa 19ki age me pata चला 15की age me mere साथ रेप किया अंकल ने।।। Me ek jinda laash. Ki tarah he raha hu. Age 23 Self respect ni hhe Anxiety Depression Fear Eating disorder Powerless Shame Guilt Hamesha akele rehene ka. Mnn karta he jeenne ka mnn nhi karta. Aesa lagta he jalddii se din kat jaaye Orr mee mar jaauu Uss bacchi ke bare me soch kee me pagal type ka hho jata hu. 😢😢😢😢😢agar mene uske sath kardiya hota. To me itna bhi. Na. Jee paattaa ........... Uncle ne 2 time penetrate kiya mujme one time oral......Bachpan me koi penetrate nhi kar paya but unhone koshish Kiya