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I still don’t know if my abuse counts. I’m pretty sure it doesn’t. Or maybe that’s what I want to think. When I was 10, I was at my (at the time) best friend’s birthday party. I can’t remember much of the party itself, only that I had a white cardigan on. I remember the air smelled likes churros and popcorn. I can’t remember how I got to my friend’s bedroom. I only remember what happened there. The memory starts with me, standing in front of the bed. On the bed was Name, one of my friend’s older brothers. I remember staring at him for I don’t know how long. I think he was talking, but it was all static to me. I remember there was one those party lights things, the ones that project blue, red, and green lights onto the ceiling. Then I remember he starts jumping higher. And then he jumps at me, tackling me onto the ground. I was frozen in terror. And all I did was cry silently. But to this day, I still don’t know if it counts as rape. I was 10, but he was 13. He was only a kid too. Maybe he was also experiencing abuse, and he took it out on me. I also feel like it’s my fault for not doing anything, and not telling anyone. I could have screamed or something, but I just laid there, frozen and silent. I haven’t healed from this at all, probably because I haven’t really talked with anyone about it. I don’t know what to do.

You Are Not Alone You are not alone. So many of us had so much taken from us by people who put pleasing their basal urges over our sanity. For their moments of bliss and dominance we suffer. We blame ourselves for their sickness. THEIR pathology. There is an army of us. That is what these stories teach us. They show us we are legion. We are strong. Our psychological reactions of fear, mistrust, hatred are not crazy. They are normal. It is also normal, but not easy, to climb out the darkness together. I grew up in a large low income black of flats that was like a village. My mum worked and we went about by ourselves. In the winter we were never expected to be seen if we left. We were in some flat mucking about with some kids or neighbor, and it all worked out fine. I did lose my virginity when I was eleven to a friend of my older brother who was in year ten. But that was no bother because it was not uncommon there, sadly. I am half Brazilian on my absent father’s side and was considered quite exotic and fit. My secondary sexual characteristics developed early. I was reasonably careful and in control. True abuse began years later when we moved out to a proper house with HIM. HE was my mom’s dream man. HE was fit for a middle-aged man. By that time my brother wasn’t with us because he took work in Alaska on a fishing boat. HE was ex-Army and seemed like a good man at first. I was a bit of trouble maker and over-cheeky and my mom gave HIM carte blanche to discipline me like father. We weren’t there the length of a full season when HE started treating me like a tart. The spanking part mom knew about and thought it was funny, even with me being fifteen. HE spanked my bare bum even when she was home. She said I’d always needed a man’s hand to block of my rough edges. It was cringe, humiliating, but nothing compared to what HE did when mum was away. Not to get detailed, HE soon got to a point where I was going to get HIS load whenever there was the chance. Since HE got to set my schedule he made sure there were regular chances. It was my HELL and HE was the Prince of Darkness. He was rough but careful not to leave any marks. Unless time was short I had to shower first. Sometimes after there would be something specific sitting out to wear, like a costume or lingerie, or my netball kit. The grating anticipation of what was going to follow was the real torture. HE would tell me to “Pick a hole”. My holes! My foof was one, my mouth was two, and you’d think I would never select three. But you’d be wrong. I hated HIM. I am very sensitive sexually and if I went with one I looked like I loved it and if I chose two I was doing work to please HIM. Three was the way I could shut down and brace myself without him ever seeing me smile, even if I was facing toward him. When I was strong with hatred I would choose three. I compartmentalized that small but brutal part of my life for my mum. If was a mere thirty to one hundred twenty minutes per a week of 10080 minutes. And I saw no other way then. Mum, for the first time was living a happy life. I could have won a BAFTA for how I seemed so cozy and content for her. It gutted me that my fear of upsetting HIM made it appear that HE had smoothed out my rough edges and made me into a proper lady. I kept my marks up and stayed on the netball team in spite of being the shortest. I kept going. I developed a habit of stabbing mechanical pencil tips into my skin and biting my nailbeds to illicit pain. I had one boyfriend for a short time. I went to the dances. Home was my hell so I did everything HE would allow to be anywhere else. I could not work but he made my mum keep her job so he could have me. My birthdays I would get my way of having a just girls’ night out with mum. There were only two birthdays before I got free of him. College cost 1000 pounds and when HE paid it HE did not know I was not going to be his tart anymore. I had a friend with a home much closer to my school. They had spare bedroom because an older sibling had moved out. Being seventeen, HE couldn’t force me to live with them if I had other safe accommodations. I took employment and paid the meager rent. He got me one more time when I was sleeping back at his house on Christmas eve. Probably drugged mum to keep her sleeping. I made sure he never got a chance again. Through my Portuguese class I met a man who lived in Portugal and invited me to come stay with him as long as I wanted rent free. I finished one year of sixth form and went to Portugal. I had fleeting relations with the man I stayed with but he traveled often we both had our own things. I worked at an American-themed restaurant as a server then. I spoke with my mum on the phone most days. She visited once, with HIM. I missed her and tried not to show much of my sorrow about being forced apart from her. Seeing HIM was horrendous, yet I kept it contained inside like a cancer. It helped solidify my decision. I traveled with a friend to Florida and got a job serving in a posh restaurant. I applied for a work VISA and on my second try I got it. I am thirty-eight now. Only three years ago did I confront my demons because I read online stories about other abuse survivors. It opened up a deep wound so I could start to heal. It was and still is hard work and an ongoing process. I confessed to my mum who had split with HIM after years of her own abuse that she also kept hidden. HE had let her go when she started having health problems, showing his true black heart. She lives with my brother and his family. I regret losing years with mum and my brother and being chased away from my home when I was young but it made me stronger. I have never married but I have a loving partner, two dogs and I speak three languages. I am a physical trainer and work near the beach where I go to meditate and body surf. Our journeys and stories are individual but we are in this together. Worldwide. You are not alone in carrying the pain and the shame and the fear and the flashbacks! Even if you are in the dark, start toward a path that looks like others are using to try to climb out. Use the resources, even if just right there on your computer, and build from there. Just start and keep climbing, especially when it seems too hard.

As man who suffered abuse and watched as my mother and sister suffered it with me, here's my story. I have turned it into a book called Book Name that will be published in 2025, in the hopes my story will help others who have been silent to speak up and speak out. Growing up in 1960s City, my father’s explosive temper ruled our house like a storm that never stopped raging. His beatings were a ritual—unpredictable but inevitable. His belt was his weapon of choice, and I was the target. First came the verbal assault. “You’re worthless!” he’d scream, spitting his venomous words before unleashing the belt on me. The crack of leather against my skin was sharp, but what cut deeper was the fear that filled my every moment. His attacks were brutal and relentless, and I learned quickly that crying only made it worse. I developed a mantra to survive: “I’m not crazy; he is.” I scratched those words into the wall beneath my bed and held onto them like a lifeline, clinging to the idea that this madness wasn’t my fault. But no mantra could protect me from the pain or the scars that came with each beating. My body bruised and welted, and I carried those marks into adulthood, hidden beneath layers of clothing and false smiles. When I was six, a moment of curiosity nearly killed me. I had been playing outside, tossing sticks into a neighbor’s burning barrel, when a spark landed on my nylon jacket. Within seconds, I was engulfed in flames. As I screamed and ran, my back burning, a neighbor tackled me into the snow, saving my life. In the hospital, as doctors worked to heal my third-degree burns, my fear of my father overshadowed the pain. When I came home, still covered in bandages, my father’s violence continued. He slapped me across the face for not attending the party he had arranged for my homecoming. The message was clear: no amount of suffering would earn me compassion from him. His cruelty was unyielding, and I realized that nearly dying had changed nothing. As the physical scars from the fire healed, the emotional scars festered. I lived in constant fear, not knowing when the next beating would come. His footsteps sent shivers through me, each step a reminder that I was never safe. Even after his death in year his influence loomed over me. I was relieved he was gone, but unresolved grief and anger remained. I sought to reinvent myself in university, throwing myself into academics and work. I was determined to escape the trauma, but no matter how hard I ran, it followed me. The violence I experienced as a child soon became violence I inflicted on myself. In my twenties, bulimia became my way of coping. I would binge on food and purge, as if vomiting could expel the pain I had carried for so long. It was a twisted ritual of control, and yet I had no control at all. Afterward, I would collapse in a heap, my body drained but my mind still haunted by memories I couldn’t outrun. Each cycle promised relief, but it never lasted. Obsessive exercise became another outlet. I spent hours in the gym, pushing my body to its limits, believing that if I could perfect my exterior, I could somehow fix the brokenness inside. I built muscles to protect myself, but the mirror always reflected the truth—hollow eyes staring back at me, the emptiness never far behind. Even as I climbed the ranks in my career, becoming a corporate executive, the gnawing self-doubt persisted. I was successful, but success didn’t heal the wounds my father left. I also sought comfort in strangers. Fleeting encounters became a way to fill the void inside, offering temporary escape from the relentless pain. But after every encounter, the emptiness returned, more consuming than before. No amount of running, lifting, or sex could fill the gaping hole in my heart. I was numbing myself, not living. It wasn’t until I sought therapy that I began to confront the traumas I had buried so deeply. My first therapist suggested writing letters to my parents, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it. It took finding the right therapist—someone who pushed me to go beyond the surface—to finally begin the healing process. Slowly, I unraveled the layers of pain, facing not only the abuse from my father but also the self-inflicted harm I had continued to impose upon myself for years. My wife, name became my greatest support, helping me peel back the layers and confront the darkness I had hidden for so long. Together, we built a life of love and connection, but even in those happiest moments, the shadows of my past never left me. When my mother passed away indate, I found closure in our complicated relationship. Forgiveness—both for her and for myself—became an essential part of my healing. Today, I use my story to encourage others to speak up and break the silence around abuse. The pain I endured was not in vain. I believe that our past can fuel our purpose and that, ultimately, our pain can become our power.

Hi, I'm from South Africa, I'm a redhead. I feel its important to know that I was middle class, white and supposedly fairly protected. Yet this happened to me anyway. This was not some stranger who caused "one night of violence" but a far more sinister kind of abuse, that lasted four years, one that has messed with my head my entire life. It started when I was 14yo, I'm now 46, and I'm finally ready to speak up. Im still scared to do this, I am still afraid to put my name on it. I'm so conditioned to believe I'll be persecuted more, that no one will believe me or that I'll be villanized again. But its also the reason I feel I absolutely have to break that hold on me now and tell the truth of what happened, for the first time ever. I want to help girls find their voice faster than I did. I want them to not suffer for years, the way I have. If my story can help just one other person...then it was worth telling. I'm not ready for a blow by blow, we've all been there, we know how our minds leave when we cant deal with the rape. My mind blocked so much of it that my testimony would be disjointed, dates are gone, I'm left with images and feelings that resurfaced about 10 years later. They happened, but I couldn't accurately put it together in a timeline. So instead, a run down. My group of friends all hung out on a farm after school, horseriders. One girl's older brother took an interest in me. I was 14yo, socially awkward and pretty quiet. It was nice having the attention, my mom thought it was cute and melted at the idea of young love. I remember not feeling much of anything really, my heart didnt skip a beat when I thought of him, but everyone else seemed to think it was a great idea and I was getting included a lot more, so we started dating. I remember the beginning was pretty text book, he treated me well, and I actually cant pin point when it started to change. We had sex before I turned 15, I can say I was not particularly blown away by it, it was messy and uncomfortable, and not something I wanted to do again. I think that was probably the start of issues going forward. But though coerced, I wouldn't have used the term rape there. What came after was him wanting more, when I didnt. What started as coercion got more intense over time. On one hand I was getting status from friends for having had sex, but on the other, it was not something I looked forward to, but I didnt want to lose my friends, status, invites to parties, approval from my family and his, etc, so I didnt want to lose the relationship necessarily. But I remember that it actually started to hurt, probably because I was not invested at all, and having it hurt made me even less keen, I'd try to say no, but he'd wear me down with things like 'but you love me, dont you? When that stopped working, he started hitting himself, until I caved. And when that stopped working, the violence came my way. Now it was full blown rape. But seemingly endorsed by family and friends. Like no, I didnt speak up about it, I didnt have close friends I could confide in and my family seemed fine with the pairing, seemed like no one particularly cared what I thought. Bear in mind, I had no idea at the time that this was 'rape', I was most definitely under the impression that this was a normal healthy relationship as I had nothing to compare it to. I did however, start to get angry that I was not being heard, I'd said no, and he was ignoring me. He made me bleed down there. And I'd had enough of it. I was 17yo now and had realised my friends weren't my friends because they were ok with this. My parents approval felt like betrayal. I finally decided the supposed perks were not worth this. Of course getting away would not be easy, he was now central in my life. I remember particular things, like I said no sleeping over on Friday, so he asked my parents and they organized. He could drive now, so Igot home from school and guess who was already staying for dinner. I went out with the group of friends and he was there. When I kept ignoring him, he pushed me down a flight of stairs in front of everyone. He decided to go for a walk to cool down. When I got home, guess who was already in my bed. At this point I was truly confused, no way could people not have seen I was in trouble. The bruises, the outbursts, these were not confined to the bedroom anymore. I know I would have seen it in someone else, but no one came to my rescue, no one defended me from him, I was on my own to fight this. I tried to set boundaries, I would not go to group events if he was there. So he organized a day at the park and got everyone to say he wouldn't go. When I got there, he had a picnic basket and a blanket and insisted I sit with him while everyone else went to play soccer. This was his attempt to win me back. To have everyone lie and to isolate me further. I thought I did a good job of making it clear that we were over, that I didnt want to see him ever again. That I was prepared to lose my 'friends' over this. He had one more trick up his sleeve. A Dinner for the yard. Everyone was going as a group to a restaurant, parents kids, everyone. I tried telling my parents I didnt want to go but they said I didnt have a choice. I couldn't make them look bad. I asked my more trusted friends to please not let him sit next to me. They tried but he literally pushed them out the way. He whispered to me at the table that he would kill himself if I left him. That was the moment I remember so clearly, no one was coming to save me, I had to decide my own worth right there. I first thought about suicide, if I took my life, this nightmare would end, I could be free. Then I thought what made his life worth more than mine? And why should I stay because of a threat like that? Like what were the chances that he'd actually do it? And would I care? Part of me did think that he should, because what he was doing to me was so unfair. I just wanted to be allowed to walk away. But it seemed those were my choices, stay and die, or fight. Him or me. This was now life or death. Fight or die. I turned to him and called his bluff. "Do it then, because Im not your property anymore" I could write essays on what I meant in that moment, but the shift was clear to him too. I was now prepared to fight, no matter the cost. I flat out ignored him, so much so that I do not recall the things he said to me at all. I know someone must have heard bits, they were all there, but I'd never felt so isolated. So he could not deal with being ignored, he grabbed my arm and bit me. The searing pain jolted me from my mental castle and I did something I'd never done before, I made a first and swung the back of my hand into his temple as hard as I fucking could. And chaos erupted. Everyone jumped up and grabbed him and I and separated us. The girls took me to the bathroom. To be honest, I was surprised, like what's all the fuss about, they'd never cared before. (Yes, maybe they didnt know till then, though in my mind, I still cant understand how that was possible). Turns out they all saw the punch and wanted to know why I'd done that, I asked if they saw the bite...no one had seen it....wtf. I lifted my sleeve and exposed the already bruising and bleeding bite mark on my arm, with his actual teeth marking my skin, I have never seen such a bad bite from a human being in my life ever again. It was vicious. I said I was not going near him again. The boys had taken him to the other bathroom. I dont know what was said or discussed that side, but they were taking him home, and would come back. I even checked, his home, not mine again. I made it very clear this time. So the night finished, and finally we were home, I had a friend sleeping over, but I cant really recall what we talked about whilst getting ready for bed, I just know I felt so relieved that now I could break away from him. I'd done it, I'd stood up to him. But then my mom knocked on my door, get dressed, we need to go to the hospital, he hurt himself. Mom took my friend aside but did not give me details. I just remember being completely crestfallen, how could this not be over? Now everyone would take his side again, how dare he do this, why cant he just leave me alone. When we got there, everyone was crying, except me. Only then did I find out that he had taken his dad's gun and shot himself, but he was still alive. I was very shocked and stuck in my own head, I dont recall much of what was said, I was fighting my own internal war, I felt angry and cheated. News came that he died on the table. Everyone ugly cried, except me. I think already this was being noted. I fell into depression, not because he was dead, but because he had robbed me of my victory. The months afterwards were a blur, but a few highlights stood out. My friends blamed me of killing him because he had told them too that if I left, he'd kill himself, and of my harsh reply. When I tried to talk about the abuse, I was called a liar and accused of speaking ill of the dead. They said I made it up for attention. No one could look at me anymore. My own parents couldn't just talk to me about it, they kept taking me to strangers (phycologists), but I didnt know them and talk about what??? My mind had hidden so much of it that I couldn't explain if I tried. That group of friends continued to attack me for years afterwards and they are why I still feel I cant talk about what happened without retribution. I tried to fake sadness, but how could I? I didnt pull the trigger, that was his choice. And I feel he did it out of guilt and revenge, because he knew I'd found my voice and was going to tell everyone what he had been doing to me. I also cant help thinking its better that he is dead because if not me, he was definitely going to do it to someone else. He didnt deserve to live (very unpopular opinion) I just wanted to be allowed to walk away. Instead he still silenced me from the grave. And this is the part I need to say most.... the not being believed caused more damage than the actual rape and abuse. In the end, not one person believed me, except my younger brother, who was also powerless to do anything to help me. I dropped out of my matric year, I was failing everything anyway, like after a fight to the death, school just seemed pretty silly. I think there was like 3 months I just didnt get out of bed, I stopped showering, I just didnt care. I'd systematically been told that I dont matter by every single person who was supposed to protect me, so what was the point of trying? I did eventually get up, but I was a teenager full of angst and anger, I disrespected my parents, drank heavily, tried drugs and did a lot of stupid shit. And often was blamed even more for it. People would sympathize with my mother, or with 'his' family. I was a bad seed with a bad attitude. And I still cant understand how no one could see how much pain I was in. I pulled myself together and have tried my best to have a good life, but the feelings of not being worthy of love, of not being able to trust and assuming that I'll never be believed anyway, those feelings have never left. I still dont know how to undo them. This programming happened at such a crucial stage of my development that my whole world view is tainted with trauma. No one should ever have to go through this. That man took my innocence and self worth. Everyone else took my trust and confidence. Things you just cant get back with a snap of the fingers. Im broken, and most likely always will be, by something that happened when I was a child. Something that was never my fault. I know evil exists. But....I became very good with helping problem horses, because I know tantrums and outbursts hide pain. Ive helped a lot of young girls through to adulthood, because I know the signs of abuse. I have dedicated my life to trying to help those with no voice, because I know exactly how that feels. I hope thats enough to counter all my brokenness. My reason for telling this story is to is to highlight the damage done after the fact. In a lot of ways I think I could have stayed strong despite the abuse, its the not being heard after that broke me. Not being believed hurt the most, and being accused of murder is ridiculous, I was just a young girl with no skills, who found herself in a nightmare, fighting for her life. I know that if I'd been there at his house, which could have been a plausable thing, he'd have killed me. But instead, the way it played out, his suicide robbed me of my victory. So fuck him, Ill say it, I won. Unfortunately what I won was a lifetime of feeling isolated and worthless. To anyone stuck in an abusive relationship, you life is 100% on the line, you fight!!!! But know that the real battle will come afterwards, when you try tell your story. Keep trying, find the people like me who will believe you, like I'm trying to do again right now. Because it is important. If just one person had stepped up to protect me, it would have made a massive difference that would have changed my life. We still need more awareness of the signs of abuse, because I still cant understand how no one knew what I was going through. There is no way there weren't signs, its impossible to comprehend. We need to be aware, we need to be prepared to stick up for those with no voice, see them, hear them, help them and defend them. Believe them. No 14yo makes up shit like that for attention, thats the dumbest thing I've e ever heard. And for me, even now at 46yo, still telling the same story, please believe me, I need it more than air

At the age of twenty-six I was raped by a stranger. It took me many years to name what had happened to me as rape. Although, distressed when it happened, I blocked it from my mind for a number of years before going to a therapist for support. I decided to attend therapy as I was struggling with a deep depression. I didn't attend a Rape Crisis Centre. It took me a number of years before I disclosed to my then therapist that I had been raped. I had buried what took place deep within myself and I had never disclosed to anyone what happened that night. The person who raped me was a friend of some friends of mine. I was away for the weekend and thankfully, I never saw him again. While my healing journey has been long. It has been deeply supportive and has allowed me to heal from many different issues within my childhood and to heal from sexual violence. I no longer carry guilt or shame for what took place that night and would encourage any man or woman who is a survivor or sexual violence to go to a therapist who specialises in sexual violence and allow an experienced professional to support you on your healing journey. I have no regrets and am grateful to a number of wonderful women who have supported me to heal from a deeply traumatic experience. Healing can and does happen. Don't give up on you, as I have never given up on me. I have learned that I like so many survivors of abuse am a very resilient woman. I live life today, from a very grounded place and although, I remember what happened to me in the rape I have emotionally healed from the hurt and the pain of that traumatic experience.

At the end of my freshman year of college, I was at a house party. Towards the end of the night, after I had already been drinking, I said I wanted to go smoke and a guy who had been interested in me asked if he could come with me. We were friends at the time so I agreed. We went to the area in the back, which was an enclosed greenhouse-type porch and no one was back there. After we finished smoking, he leaned in and kissed me. I was shocked but went along with it at first. He proceeded to kiss me more intensely and started to touch me. Feeling uncomfortable, I stopped and told him I wanted to go inside. I sat at a table inside and he was next to me. I started feeling the high from smoking as I was having a conversation with my friends who were right across from me. Suddenly I felt his hand move up my thigh and he proceeded to rub me over my shorts. I was in frozen in shock thinking, "what the fuck is happening right now? This is really weird and i'm not enjoying this. Am I too high to do something right now? There are so many people around me. and no one knows what is happening. What is going on?" After a what felt like forever I felt him try to go in my shorts and that's when I snapped out of it and just looked at him. I didn't know what to say, and I don't really remember what happened at this point. I was just. in shock. He said something to me, I probably said something back, and then he just walked away. The day after I cried and had breakdowns in the bathrooms of the student center. I was confused and conflicted with myself trying to process what had happened. I felt like it was my fault because I googled things like "what constitutes as sexual assault/harassment?" because I wasn't sure if what i had gone through had "counted." I thought that since it was only touching it wasn't a big deal. I thought that because I was under the influence it was my fault. That I shouldn't have been that fucked up. That I shouldn't have been leading him on and making him think that I was into him. That I should protect him because he was friends with so many of my friends. But at the end of it all, HE WAS IN THE WRONG. I WAS PUT IN A SITUATION WHERE I WAS UNCOMFORTABLE AND HE HAD VIOLATED ME IN A ROOM FULL OF PEOPLE. I'm here to say that no matter the action, no matter how small, if you were violated your feelings are VALID. If you did not give consent and you felt uncomfortable, it IS ASSAULT. It is still your story. YOUR trauma that you have to live with. Do not brush it off or belittle it because you don't feel like it's worthy of being labeled. You are worthy. You deserve to be heard.

One of the most difficult parts of my healing journey is that I’m not exactly sure what is ‘my’ story. The sexual abuse of children is a routine part of my family, on both my mother’s and father’s sides. I was 13 when I learned that my grandfather had sexually abused my mother, her sisters, my sister and likely other girls in the community. My world really shattered that day. The way I felt about and connected to my family completely changed. I feel like I have been screaming for years, for anyone to notice, to care that this happened, for it not to be normalized. It was later in my adult life when I learned of abuse my cousins on my father’s side had endured. I could see this pain woven into the narrative of woman. For many years, I believed this was the “plight of womanhood” -that we must endure men’s every whim and behavior because they either know more or didn’t know better. The irony in growing up Southern Baptist is that men are somehow closer to God and thus holier and smarter than women, but also they cannot control themselves when it comes to women and sex. As I grew and reflected on this hypocrisy, I realized that I too had been sexually abused. I was in preschool when it started. We would visit my mom’s oldest sister’s house for Christmas every year. She had two sons that were in pre-teen and teenage years at this time. The younger son had many behavior issues, and I was convinced that I was an angel sent by God to help my family. My brother closest in age to me is disabled, and at this early age, his symptoms were just beginning and unexplained. I saw my parents under duress, and even at such a young age, I was trying to do everything I could to be perfect. So when my cousin identified me as his “special friend” and shared his unbelievable, immense collection of legos with me, I felt this was another use of my skills -a calling from God. I was blessed to be able to connect with and influence ‘the bad kid’. Now, in hindsight, I feel like any adult or even my teenage siblings should’ve questioned why a 13 year old would want to play with a 5 year old exclusively, but here we are. I’m lucky in a lot of ways. I never experienced penetration or any obvious violence. For a long time, I just thought it was a normal part of his sexual development. So it started when I was 5 and ended when I was in about fourth or fifth grade, so around age 10. At this point, he would have been 17/18. We would play “pretend”. I can remember specifically pretending to be Jack and Rose from Titanic. He would have me pose naked, kissed on me and humped me. This sort of “play” occurred over holidays, special events, graduations and such, at my house or his house. I can remember a specific instance where he and my aunt visited us. I think her and my mom were just hanging out which was rare. My mom desperately sought the approval of her sisters, so this visit was crucial. She and my aunt talked to me about how incredible it was that my cousin would behave better when I was around- they also used the term “special friend”. They seriously warned me about letting him play with my Barbie’s. He had been getting in trouble for sexual deviance and under no circumstances was I to let him touch my dolls. Well I was about 7/8 at the time and him 15/16 so you can imagine how that went. He mutilated my Barbies -cut their heads and faces, stripped them all, made a ‘naked Barbie van’, enacted sex acts between them. I remember trying so hard to redirect but he had the perfect tool to control me. I can still hear his voice, “The adults will be angry with you if you tell them about our special make believe. You’re such a mature girl for your age.” I knew I didn’t want my mom to know that I had been pretending to have sex. I was in trouble after the Barbie incident too. My mom was disappointed in me. I can’t remember the exact punishment, but I likely had more chores and wasn’t allowed computer time for some period. I could only imagine if she knew the extent of our “play”. Around the age of 10, we went for Christmas. I remember the feeling in my stomach, that sinking burn of guilt. (It’s still there to this day. Fighting waves of nausea and getting sick after almost every meal. Gotta love IBS) I was dreading having to play with him. That year, he exposed himself to me. He wanted me to touch it , but I think he knew he went too far. I was getting older, there was hair on my underarms, and my mom had talked immensely to me and my brother about our private parts because of her own experience. I don’t think she considered another child could harm us though. I was taught to be weary of adult men, strangers. So my birthday is in January, and I can remember this guilt eating me alive after that Christmas. He had doubled down on his intimidation tactics, and I knew I couldn’t go to an adult. I can remember thinking that I really wanted to feel better before my birthday came. So I had the idea to tell my brother; after all, he wasn’t an adult. He immediately told my mother who then called her sister. I can remember sitting at her feet in the kitchen floor as she argued with her sister. She didn’t say much or offer any sort of explanation. She made me swear to never tell my dad, and we stopped visiting my aunt as much after that. When I was in high school, my mom got cancer and died. She was really, really sick for about 9 months, and during her initial hospital stay, they wanted me to stay with this aunt. I was petrified. My cousin was home from college and would also be there. I remember just immediately tears started pouring out, and I’m begging my mom not to make me go there. My dad is in the room, so I can’t really explain myself. My mother scolded me for being selfish and told me I had to do this, to be easy on her and my dad. I can remember he very awkwardly touched my butt in an office supply store, and I surprisingly told him that he couldn’t touch me, that I wasn’t a child anymore. I have no idea where that autonomy came from, but I’m so proud of 15 year old me! My aunt offered for me to stay in a larger room downstairs during this time, but I made sure to stay in the guest suite adjacent to the master and locked my door every night. Here I am, 17 years later, and I had to see him for the first time since I graduated high school last year. My siblings, father and I have been mostly estranged from my mother’s family since her death. We were all shocked to see my aunt and her family attend the funeral of one of my siblings that passed. It was mortifying seeing him again. This electricity was buzzing through my entire body. My leg shook uncontrollably. I was sobbing so hard I had to leave the room. And yet again, I felt that disconnection from my family who continue this narrative that I’m selfish, a liar/exaggerator, overly emotional. Family is the hardest part of my healing journey. At this point, I’m not even sure I have a family. I end almost every call with my siblings shocked, worried, belittled and exhausted. I can’t have healthy relationships with my nieces and nephews no matter how hard I try. I am forever the deviant to them. Today, I live across the country from everyone and am establishing my own tribe. I want to be surrounded by people who understand unconditional love and want to protect children. My mother’s, sister’s, aunt’s, cousin’s stories are all mine. Just like my story is theirs. This abuse is passed on in our DNA, is shared amongst us despite the differences in our perpetrators and experiences. For the longest time, I downplayed what happened to me as normal sexual exploration of a young boy. And while I recognize that my abuser’s behavior was a sign of abuse he was experiencing, it doesn’t gloss over the impact of being exposed to sex and intimacy at age 5. I have struggled so much interpersonally and developing relationships. For the longest time, I didn’t think I was capable of or deserved to have healthy relationships. I thought my family was healthy. If there’s any big message I want to share with other survivors, it’s that there’s a light at the end of the tunnel! There are people out there that will believe you and protect you. There’s space for you. Acceptance is hard, and I’m not sure I’ve fully accepted what happened to me, to my family. But it helps to see so many others speak up. To feel like we finally have a platform, and maybe people aren’t quite listening like I’d like, but the conversation is happening. Even powerful men shouldn’t get away with this!!!!

HELLO PEOPLE , its nice we can share our stories over here . So im a 19 year old girl from india who has a very typical indian family of four , me my little brother, mother and father . So my story is , my father used to physically abuse my mother since i was some months old , it started . he beat her over silly reasons . then when i gradually grew up and reached class 1 i was 6or 7 years old at that time , my father made me study for an entrance exam for class 6th and the syllabus was all of class 6th and 7th 9(to be noted that i was in class 1 at that point) . so my father made me study high level subjects of class 6th when i was still in class 1 which was a very tough job for me . i couldnt understand anything , and then my father used to beat me . he never let me play with friends , go out , in short he never let me have my childhood as childhood . he was always very extremely focused on my studies but forgot that i was still a child . We lived far from my father's village where my grandmother lived so in every summer vacations he used to take me and kept me there in the village where he would give me tution classes for the examination prep so i never got to enjoy my vacations . When was home , again the same thing , study and watch domestic violence at home . i always had to hear really abusive words which as a child i got traumatized . so when i was in class 2 , my mother got into an extramarital affair which i found out eventually and i hated my mother for that i was very shameful and i wanted to tell my father about this but i didnt . eventually my father found out and i remember that day when he beat her so much after he catch her red handed . It was a divorce situation but even then they stayed. my mother was no more into affair stuff but still i hated her . i wished she would die . later as i grew up the violence continued at home where i had to stop them both , physical abuse , abusive words and everything continued . it was really toxic . they both used to abuse me and my brother verbally with words like slut , Name and any abusive slangs you can think of . this is to be noted that my mother was also not very decent or you can say nice , she didnt do household chores at time , didnt made food on time , was extremely lazy (to be noted that my father helped her in everything ) but she didnt cuz she was ill manned to be honest . and so all of this continues and when i was in 1 i had my first boyfriend and my parents found out and they kind of accepted it at the first so when i appeared for 10th boards , i scored a 90.2 percent despite being in love and stuff but my parents where not happy infact they shamed me for my result (to be noted that they have never been satisfied by my results even if i score the full marks or become the topper they just always compare me with other children which made my self esteem and confidence shatter ) . they blamed me and my love affair for the 90.2 percent i scored which was too less for them because i was not the topper , the topper was at 93 . and now im in college , 3 years have passed by after that result but still they abuse and compare me for my 90.2 percent . i attempted suicide twice but i survived and they dont know bout this . i always get suicidal thoughts . they have never given me any privacy , they take control of everything , dont let me go out , visit a friend , talk to a friend over call . its suffocating . now im 19 and im again preparing for an exam , they have continued they abuse , domestic violence and everything . they make me hear for anything i eat , they have locked me up in a room where i have a laptop and study and sit here the whole day . they verablly abuse me a lot . some days ago i had a packet of noodles when i was hungry because my mom hadn't prepared food and it was very late and my mom found out that i ate noodles and she called me slut and other slangs infront of all neighbours . they always have been toxic . please mind that i have no problem studying . but i dont think something which takes away your entire childhood from you is not worth it . So my entire teenage and childhood was destroyed . i dont know how my adulthood would go because they wont let me live they are always here to pull me down . i wish i could just die .

I had a friend from high school who reached out to me because we matched on Tinder. I didn't get off work until 9pm, but I still wanted to catch up with him. He said he would cook me some food and we could watch a movie or just talk. I trusted him. When I walked in his apartment, I had a weird feeling but I pushed it away because I knew him. I didn't think he could ever hurt me, I was wrong. We were watching his favorite show, Dragon Ball Z. I've never seen it before, so I thought I would make him happy and watch it with him. Then he started putting his hand on my thigh and started moving up. I pushed it away and told him I was comfortable with that. There was a darkness in his eyes that I have never seen before. He pushed me and pinned me to the ground. saying "We both know this is what you came here for." I kept screaming no and telling him to get off me, but he didn't. I couldn't move or breathe, I felt like I was trapped in a body that wasn't mine. All of the happiness and the joy of the girl I was, now gone.

So I was sexually assaulted last night and I feel nothing today. Nothing at all. I was grateful when the guy let me go this morning. He didn't care that I was crying, or how I was feeling or that he was causing me a lot of physical pain. There was no way to get away. He was a foot taller than me and so much stronger and he had his hand around my throat. I was afraid he would snap my neck or choke me out because of how his hand was gripping my neck and how much of my neck his hand covered. He told me he was glad I was very small, and how size matters when it comes to strength. I felt like a mouse in the jaws of a lion. I struggled to breathe. I was afraid I was going to die. He was upset with me last night because I started bleed a lot while he was assaulting me. He was fucking mad at me for bleeding on him. He was mad at me this morning because I was trying to sneak away when he fell asleep. He started assaulting me all over again and for some reason decided to stop and let me go. Maybe because he was tired. As soon as I got away I was walking and walking and called an Uber to take me home. I felt so numb. All I knew was I had to get home. I had to go celebrate my friend’s birthday with her this morning and smile and pretend I was ok. Then I had to go to work. I'm home now, and I just feel so numb and like I don't care about anything. I just don't care anymore. I don't care about me. I don't matter at all. That's how I feel. I just feel like I'm nothing. And I don't want to see my friends or anyone. I just want to lay in my bed forever and sleep. I have to go to work tomorrow. I have to keep going about my life like everything is ok. I have to be normal and not fall apart. I haven't told anyone apart from here right now. I won't tell anyone. No point. People will be like it's your fault. So I'm just going to pretend I'm fine. I'm not fine. I hate myself so much for having put myself in the situation where that could happen. It was a date. I should know better than to trust any man or ever try to find love. It doesn't exist. I am not a person, I'm just an object. I'm going to ask doctor tomorrow (they aren't open today) for meds to prevent pregnancy and treat any possible stds. I won't tell him what happened because I don't want to talk about it with anyone I know personally. I just want to forget about it.

I was sexually assaulted by two teenagers when I was 17 and extremely intoxicated. One of the rapists was my high school best friend's brother. This story is 35 years old but needs to be told in order for me to start healing. A repressed memory came flooding back 5 years ago, after finding a photo of a trip I took with her family, the place where this assault happened. I've silently tried to process it alone, but I can't keep quiet any longer. I hope sharing my story will help others come forward and start their healing process. It's never too late! I'm finding more and more friends who have similar stories and only by sharing my story had allowed them to share theirs. I feel like it's paying it forward a little.

I was in my early 20's, moved to Long Island from an upstate town for college and graduated with honors. I was excited to land a job in NYC with a large financial/insurance company. My boss was a young fairly handsome married man with good manners and was so nice at first. I was warned by a few woman to watch out for him because he was a player. Well naive me fell for his attention. At first the things g's he did seemed innocent, like walking with me to Penn Station. That turned into stopping off for drinks which then turned into kissing and touching . I look back at how stupid I was as he reeled me in and wonder why I did this. I can only say that I had left home because I did not have a good relationship with my dad and I was attention starved and he pounced on that. One thing led to another and I met him at a hotel. I felt awful after and wanted to end it but he threatened my job that I really needed. People started suspecting things at work and before I knew it, this smart student had a reputation. This went on for months and he was very controlling. He also would do things to make me jealous and to undermine my confidence. I hated myself. I believe his higher ups talked him into transferring me to a different dept in a different building so he could advance in his career. He did advance, quickly. I, on the other hand, moved and so did my reputation and my low self esteem. I had a couple of other encounters in the new area and finally changed companies altogether, which was the best thing I ever did. At the new company I remade myself and became and was seen as the true professional I am. I went back to school for my masters, have a beautiful family and a great career. BUT... I still have bouts of shame and at times my self esteem p!unges. None of my family or friends know any of this. I still harbor resentment against this man who retired at a very high level and runs a consulting company now. I wonder how many other women and careers he affected.

I was a prudish teenager in the '80s, an introvert who wanted friend but only on my terms (they had to respect my boundaries, and I had many). It was only in my twenties, while I was working with more liberal people, that I made a conscious decision to cast off my old, narrow way of relating to people because my barriers had become walls. So I opened up more, made myself vulnerable...and attracted perverts. Older men, bosses, colleagues and contacts (I worked in industry). I still had enough boundaries to prevent actual rape, but I would not push them away as forcefully; I would make light of it when a man put his hands on my hips or made some inappropriate comment. This went on for years. I had a a few boyfriends in my twenties including one I stayed with for three years and loved (I still love him but don't want a relationship with him and have to keep enforcing psychological boundaries - he was never a sex pest but he wants to be friends and gets upset when I don't want to meet him). Being an introvert, and possibly Aspie (I have yet to find the courage to look for a diagnosis) I have always felt like an outsider, and in relationships always felt as if I was playing at being "sexy". In my forties, the men who breached my sexual boundaries (with inappropriate comments and the occasional arm around me as I sat beside them on a work assignment) were men my own age and slightly younger; I was still attracting men in the same age group: 40s. They would obviously want to take things further, but I would always put up that barrier...and I noticed that after I rebuffed a man I'd lose a work opportunity. I was frozen out of the cliques in my profession (I don't have family in my industry and I did not go to university so I didn't have the underpinning network to fall back on). I dealt with this by developing a tough, jokey exterior; desperate to prove that I was "not a prude", I merged my career with a rather tarty image (I cannot go into details here without possibly revealing who I am or, worse, narrowing it down - which would not be fair to others who might not want their stories told). At first, it actually helped my career and social life; suddenly I was great craic, a youthful looking middle-aged woman who was happy in her own skin, free-spirited - and "great craic". The men who used to flirt with me would also mock-boast "I'm a prude"; they had respectable wives / partners (indeed many of these women were my colleagues). Eventually, it was time for this middle-aged disgrace to be managed out of the industry. It didn't happen all at once; my mentors and good contacts retired or died (these were the people who never abused me). There were various reasons: cutbacks, personality differences, my political views were at odds with my bosses' views, and there were new people looking to fill my role. I adapted by finding a mosaic career, doing a few courses and muddling through. Now I see my former colleagues (the flirts and their partners) getting on with their careers; I am on the outside, looking in. But I was always on the outside. And I have no doubt that my story is very common (a bit like me, some would say!).

For me, my story entailed a male friend getting into my bed when i told him not to and forcing me to ‘cuddle’ with him, while he grabbed at me. He had been telling me all night how he missed his girlfriend, particularly her body & “that” part of their relationship. I felt horrible, i was uncomfortable and scared that he might do more. He didnt. But still even years later i feel uneasy when i think about it & how creepy he really was. He ignored me when i said no. He took away my autonomy that night. So dont feel like your story isnt worthy just because it “could have been worse”. Every experience is valid ❤️

I went out with friends but left early as I was drunk and tired and I asked someone for directions to find my Uber when another guy asked if I was going to uni and said I was pretty which was fine but he then asked if he could have a kiss. I didn't know what to do so I stepped towards him and then he put his arm round me and I felt like I had to kiss him but I didn't want to. I tried to face away from him hoping he would just kiss my cheek but he didn't so I turned my head and he kissed me and I feel gross and want to throw up every time I think of it.

I feel anger toward my father. To me, my father is a monster. He's bound by patriarchy. He's been a very problematic person since I was a child. He was verbally and physically abusive toward my mother. He had a big attitude at home. He put on a good face. My father moved around a lot due to his job, but I ended up skipping school. I was sexually assaulted in high school and went to a mental health clinic, which led to him calling me weird. I loved creating, but he said that was weird too. My older sister was also a victim of my father, but she was always smiling, no matter what my father did to her. He was emotionally attached to her. He was like a lover or a mother to me. I was rebellious, so he ignored me. My father used me and sexually harassed me (he did the same to me), and even when I told others, I was only victimized. He sometimes spoke as if he were some kind of great person. He was abusive toward my mother. Weird women give birth to weird children. Women become weird when they get their period. I myself wondered why I created art, and at times considered getting tested for Asperger's syndrome. I quit, but... My older sister was exploited by another man, married him, and committed suicide on their wedding anniversary. As my father gets older, I feel nothing but anger toward him, and in Japan, there's a culture that makes it seem like we have to take care of our fathers. My father deserved it, and I want him to take his sins to the afterlife, but unfortunately, he has surprisingly not changed his behavioral principles. Perpetrators never change. My mother's cognitive function is declining slightly. I may be the one who survives in the end, even though I'm the only one who's completely devastated. I'm wondering whether I should be present at his end or go to his funeral, but at this stage, I don't have any plans to be present or go to the funeral. I also have some memory loss about where my father's hometown is. On exhausted nights, I sometimes wish I could die. My doctor recommended that I publish my creative work. I'm considering my interests (Western music, etc.), the fact that I've earned a certain number of credits from a correspondence university, and the fact that I took the Eiken exam a long time ago. Taking these factors into account, I'm pondering how I want to live the rest of my life. Part of me is social anxiety, so I'm a recluse. Is my life worth living? There is still no answer.

So I guess a little about me, I’m a girl, born that way! I was a cheerleader all through high school and I come from a single parent only one child home, just my dad and me! A few years ago, my dad asked me to take out the garbage, this was part of my weekly chores. Our neighbor’s son, he was in his mid-thirties then, was in his parent’s driveway sitting in his large truck. I took the garbage to the end of the driveway, and on my way back up our driveway, he called out to me “Hey Beautiful.” I went over to the edge of our yard to talk to him. He was really really drunk and had a beer in his hand. He started talking about how he hated his fiancée and how he hated having kids. He than asked me, “how much money for a blow job”. I was really taken aback and I really thought he was joking. I mean the age difference was a lot. I said, “you can’t afford me”. He said, “oh, so you know how to give one” I just laughed. He got out of his truck and started to pee beside it. I said, “well, good night” and started to walk away. All of a sudden he grabbed me by my hair and dragged me to a shed in the backyard. I have no idea why, but I sincerely thought he was just playing with me. Like I was scared, but I just really thought he was going to lock me in the shed as a really bad joke. I kept asking, “what are you doing?” When we got to the shed, he threw me on the floor and shut the door behind us. This is when I realized I was in danger. He took out a knife from his pocket, and I started screaming. He ran over to me and he put his hand over my mouth. I was so scared and crying. He took off his pants and ordered me to take off my shorts. I was too scared to move and that is when he put the first cut on me. He cut my arm. Like bad. I was crying, “please no.” He got a rope off the wall and tied my hands together above my head because I was trying to push his hands away. I had scratched his arm with my nails and he called me a, “little bitch” right before he tied me up. He then took off my shorts and undies. I was so scared, but he kept cutting me, so I just closed my eyes as he forced himself inside of me “down there”. It hurt so bad and I felt so gross. I was screaming “please stop,” “no,” “please.” I felt him pull out and he started shoving his “thing” into my mouth. It was sooo gross and it had so much blood on it and I was gagging. I bit down on it and he slapped my face and said, “you fucking bitch, you wanna fuckin die” and he spit on me. He took the ropes off and I threw up. He backed away because of that, and I just ran to the door and was able to get out and ran to my house and to my room. I just sat on the floor against the door and cried, a lot, the whole night. The next morning, I just went to my PCP and just broke down in the lobby. I don’t remember much after that. In fact, the next 3 weeks I don’t remember much. I remember the rape kit and it was horrible. I just wanted clothes and to sleep. I was so exhausted and tired and there were so many photos and questions. They told me I was in shock. The next day I went to the police station. That was the hardest part of all of it. I was soooo scared they wouldn’t believe me. I remember a few weeks later it was like a fog was lifted. I think what I felt the most those first few months was this overwhelming numbness. I felt like no one could possibly understand what I felt and I very much felt very alone. So alone… I desperately wanted someone to help me. It sucked. I decided, at the pushing of my dad, to talk to a therapist and I would later go to a psychiatrist. It hasn’t been easy. Hours and hours and a lot of small victories and I’m finally at a place where a new normal is starting to be here. I think the most important thing I’ve learned that there is never a getting back to the before rape me. She is long gone. I have ptsd and will probably be on medication to deal with the trauma for the rest of me life. I have very serious anxiety attacks. The worst thing is that he damaged my insides so bad that I officially can’t have children. That is a HUGE thing and I don’t know how to get past that. I had a LOT of physical healing and I have a LOT of scars on my body. I can’t hide these. I always get asked how did you get these scars. Moving on has been tough but I am fucking strong and I lived. I am glad I’m alive. There were times I didn’t want to go one. Since my rape, I met my person and I am getting married in a month! I’m not the same but I am proud of the work I did because of how hard it was. So yeah this is my story. Thank you for reading. -name

Hello, I want to share my story of being sexually abused by my step father for 13 years. My mother was aware of the abuse when i was 4 or 5 but continued to put keep in the hands of the abuser everyday of my life until i was 16. I am now 48 and am just now able to share some if my story that i remember. Most i have surpressed and most if my childhood i disassociated from. It was only in the last 3 months i took mx suffering in silence and brought into my own power of healing and was able to break free from the pain, guilt and shame and silence i have suffered my whole life. It was only through Jesus that he saved me and brought me back in to the light. It has been the toughest process i have ever done in my life but it has also freed me from the chains that bound my mind, heart and soul. I continue daily to seek gods word in anything i do and to also prepare my day and set my intentions for myself that day. taking accountability for ma life daily is the biggest part of my day and it assures me i am in control of myself. baby steos everyday and seeking god are my biggest achievements. i have learned how to meditate, breathing exercises and also healing tone frequencies help me daily with my healing struggles. stay positive if you can and seek advice in others who are recovering and try different techniques to get your mind and body calm. take care, god bless you all

8th grade, somewhere around Date. I was 13 years old. I was in maths class, writing down whatever was on the board, most likely having to do with the lesson. I noticed a classmate next to me had a broken arm, wrapped up in a cast. Now, this classmate of mine wasn't any old classmate, however. He was my bully since the beginning of elementary/primary. He had always been horrible to me, harassing me, calling me names, kicking me and punching me, pushing me around and chasing me, making my school experience a living nightmare. I didn't feel safe at all because of him, and had a severe lack of friends/social life. So why would I ever trust him? Well, something in me probably told me that there was room for forgiveness. And in that moment, I asked if I could write a message on his cast. He gave me a marker in disgust, but I wrote a simple "get well soon" on there. It didn't take long for him to pass me a note, saying, "I didn't know you'd write something like this on my arm. I guess people can change, and so can I. Wanna meet me at the back of the gym after class?" I thought, "Finally, he'll apologise for all the mean crap he's done to me." So after gym class, I went to the back of the building at around 12:50pm, I believe. I remember him talking about something, but I couldn't understand a word he was saying, due to sensory proccessing disorder (I'm autistic). All of a sudden, he got nearer to my face, and pressed his lips against mine without asking. I, not knowing what to do, thought I had to comply. It got worse than just kissing. It went from French kissing, to pinning me up against the wall, touching my body, moaning, soft grunts, he knew what he was doing. He knew damn well. He told me to move further up ahead so we wouldn't get people looking at us. He kept on going, and he even asked me at one point to touch him... down there. I thought I had to. And, in I went. He touched me in my private region as well, and said, "See? Doesn't that feel nice?" It didn't. He asked me to show off my breasts, he kept on kissing me for more than a full hour. And then he said he had to go home. He grabbed his stuff and headed out of the gate. "Same time, same place, next Monday. Be there." I made a run for it because I had to be in class by 2:10pm (it was 2:05pm-ish). The next day, I felt incredibly horrible. Like I felt disgusting. I muttered under my breath, "what have I done?" the moment I woke up. Heading to school, my anxiety skyrocketed. I could feel faces staring at me, or maybe I was overthinking it. Thankfully I had the courage to tell someone about the whole thing, an ex-friend of mine whom I don't talk to anymore, but has helped me tremendously, and later on, 2 other friends of mine came and helped. I was so thankful for them. I still am. Cut to a few months later, on the Date. My 14th birthday. I didn't go out and celebrate with friends. I didn't stay at school. I went to go talk with a couple of attorneys about my case. They asked me for details and I told them everything I remembered, describing everything I could put into words, with actions, as well. And I hated reliving the experience. But I did get it out. It turned out to be a court case, with it ending up unsolved, because the jury didn't know out of me and him, who was telling the truth. The guy who SA'd me ended up leaving the school for the rest of the year, and I never saw his face again. And thank God. I'm not sure if it'd be safe for him to ever come into contact with me or anyone who knows what had happened. To the guy who did this to me, do me a favour and head to the tallest building you can find in your city, then head to the roof and take a few steps forward until you fall off. I never wanna see your ugly face again, you absolute clown. And to those who took the time to read this, thank you so much. Just remember that you are not alone and you deserve better than what had happened to you. I'm here to support you if no one else is. I know it's tough to be a survivor, but at least you made it out alive, in one piece, and are still going strong to this day, despite all the challenges life throws your way. I am so incredibly proud of all of you who have managed to survive these horrendous attacks and shared your stories. You're all superstars. <3