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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
You are strong. For getting this far I'm so incredibly proud of you <3. Have a great day/afternoon/night. :)
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The only way I've been able to make some process of healing is by sharing my story and making my voice heard. I hope that others can heal just like I am trying to.
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I want to find out who I am. I want to be able to find my voice and not just comply because that is what I was conditioned to do so y0ung.
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Even when you have no one or can't open up to anyone for fear of being misunderstood or betrayed again, there will always be someone, even if it is yourself, someone who will listen and care.
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I don't like to let this define me, I went on and married the love of my life, I have had kids and I love my family dearly. I worked and bought a house and on the outside I am normal. I am ok having two personas because for me I need to because he took enough from me that I won't let him take any more than he did.
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Is it considered sexual abuse if I consented? I got sexted when I was 12 but I consented and wasn't forced. He was 17.
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I want to no longer be plagued by flashback and nightmares, and want a chance at having a partner and a family one day. I also want to get to a point where i can use what happened to me growing up to help other people navigate some of the things they are experiencing, or to bring awareness and understanding to childhood trauma and abuse
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I finally met someone who does not manipulate me, who loves me for me, who listened and believed my story. Someone who loves me unconditionally with all my flaws and scars. I feel so grateful to have found him. Real love really does exist.
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Healing has meant being able to talk to friends and psychologists who validate and make the effort to understand. It doesn't mean being the person I was before all of this, but making space for the pain and moving forward without rushing forward.
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The healing took place with friends , Doctors who understood me . Massage that helped relieve pain and trauma . Church helped me and my relationship with God.
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What new can there be to say? You are not alone in that so many have had these sometimes terrifying experiences. Life changes. We change. Open the window. Find the best doors to open and walk through into a better life. Inner strength can grow. Love and compassion are available.
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For me healing is being able to look myself in the mirror and feeling comfortable in my body.
Dear reader, this message contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
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This has just happened to me recently and I don’t even know how to start healing from this experience to be honest.
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I got out of this physically abusive relationship, and therapy helped me recognise that it was the emotional abuse from my parents that let me get suckered by him. Therapy can help you identify patterns to change them while healing your thoughts and memories.
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There is hope go to a Counselor and they can offer great help outside of yourself and family and can guide you and help you on to a happy sucessful life. I survived a number of Suicidal atempts . My advice seek help . Do not take your own life. There is light at the end of the tunnel . God loves you.
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just when i think i'm healing, i feel like i’m suffocating. like the whole world around me is collapsing in on itself and i’m in the centre of it all. and just as i finally get to take a breath, it collapses further and crushes me until i can’t take the weight and the pressure anymore. i can't escape my memories, can't escape my body. i'm trapped.
Dear reader, this story contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
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It is not your fault, it's not what you are wearing, what you said, what you did, it is not your fault. You are an amazing person and the only person at fault for what happened to you is them. <3
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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
Even when you have no one or can't open up to anyone for fear of being misunderstood or betrayed again, there will always be someone, even if it is yourself, someone who will listen and care.
Report
I don't like to let this define me, I went on and married the love of my life, I have had kids and I love my family dearly. I worked and bought a house and on the outside I am normal. I am ok having two personas because for me I need to because he took enough from me that I won't let him take any more than he did.
Report
The healing took place with friends , Doctors who understood me . Massage that helped relieve pain and trauma . Church helped me and my relationship with God.
Report
What new can there be to say? You are not alone in that so many have had these sometimes terrifying experiences. Life changes. We change. Open the window. Find the best doors to open and walk through into a better life. Inner strength can grow. Love and compassion are available.
Report
This has just happened to me recently and I don’t even know how to start healing from this experience to be honest.
Report
I got out of this physically abusive relationship, and therapy helped me recognise that it was the emotional abuse from my parents that let me get suckered by him. Therapy can help you identify patterns to change them while healing your thoughts and memories.
Report
just when i think i'm healing, i feel like i’m suffocating. like the whole world around me is collapsing in on itself and i’m in the centre of it all. and just as i finally get to take a breath, it collapses further and crushes me until i can’t take the weight and the pressure anymore. i can't escape my memories, can't escape my body. i'm trapped.
Dear reader, this story contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
Report
I want to find out who I am. I want to be able to find my voice and not just comply because that is what I was conditioned to do so y0ung.
Report
Is it considered sexual abuse if I consented? I got sexted when I was 12 but I consented and wasn't forced. He was 17.
Report
Healing has meant being able to talk to friends and psychologists who validate and make the effort to understand. It doesn't mean being the person I was before all of this, but making space for the pain and moving forward without rushing forward.
Report
It is not your fault, it's not what you are wearing, what you said, what you did, it is not your fault. You are an amazing person and the only person at fault for what happened to you is them. <3
Report
You are strong. For getting this far I'm so incredibly proud of you <3. Have a great day/afternoon/night. :)
Report
The only way I've been able to make some process of healing is by sharing my story and making my voice heard. I hope that others can heal just like I am trying to.
Report
I want to no longer be plagued by flashback and nightmares, and want a chance at having a partner and a family one day. I also want to get to a point where i can use what happened to me growing up to help other people navigate some of the things they are experiencing, or to bring awareness and understanding to childhood trauma and abuse
Report
I finally met someone who does not manipulate me, who loves me for me, who listened and believed my story. Someone who loves me unconditionally with all my flaws and scars. I feel so grateful to have found him. Real love really does exist.
Report
For me healing is being able to look myself in the mirror and feeling comfortable in my body.
Dear reader, this message contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
Report
There is hope go to a Counselor and they can offer great help outside of yourself and family and can guide you and help you on to a happy sucessful life. I survived a number of Suicidal atempts . My advice seek help . Do not take your own life. There is light at the end of the tunnel . God loves you.
Report
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.