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I’m 32 years old, and there is something from my childhood that I have carried with me for many years. I have never truly been able to forgive myself for it. I don’t remember exactly how old I was, but I think I was around 12 to 14 years old. My younger male cousin was still a very small child, perhaps one or two years old. One day, we were playing together, and he kissed me on the mouth. I remember feeling something pleasant, an unfamiliar sensation that I had never experienced before. I didn’t really understand what I was feeling or what it meant. After that, I initiated another kiss because I wanted to experience that feeling again. I was young, confused, and unaware of how to understand what had happened or what it meant. I have never forgotten that moment. As the years passed, I began to feel deeply ashamed of myself. I started seeing myself as a bad person, and the guilt became so overwhelming that, at times, I even wished I could die. I have been through many difficult experiences in my life, and this memory has remained with me. I have consulted mental health professionals, but I still struggle with these feelings. Even today, I find it difficult to forgive myself. What hurts me most is that my cousin was so young. I worry that I might have hurt him psychologically or left him with a negative memory. I don’t know whether he remembers anything or whether the experience affected him in any way. I have no way of knowing, but the uncertainty continues to torment me. I have never wanted to hurt anyone. However, I keep asking myself whether what I did makes me a bad person. I understand that I was young myself, but I am now an adult, and I look back at that memory with the understanding I have today. I find it difficult to separate the child I was then from the person I am now. My questions are: • Was I guilty of doing something wrong, considering my age and my lack of understanding at the time? • Does the fact that I initiated another kiss mean that I deliberately did something harmful? • Is it possible that I hurt my cousin psychologically, even though I have no evidence that he was affected? • How can I distinguish genuine responsibility from excessive guilt and self-punishment? • How can I forgive myself and stop defining my entire identity by something that happened when I was a child

I’m 32 years old, and there is something from my childhood that I have carried with me for many years. I have never truly been able to forgive myself for it. I don’t remember exactly how old I was, but I think I was around 12 to 14 years old. My younger male cousin was still a very small child, perhaps one or two years old. One day, we were playing together, and he kissed me on the mouth. I remember feeling something pleasant, an unfamiliar sensation that I had never experienced before. I didn’t really understand what I was feeling or what it meant. After that, I initiated another kiss because I wanted to experience that feeling again. I was young, confused, and unaware of how to understand what had happened or what it meant. I have never forgotten that moment. As the years passed, I began to feel deeply ashamed of myself. I started seeing myself as a bad person, and the guilt became so overwhelming that, at times, I even wished I could die. I have been through many difficult experiences in my life, and this memory has remained with me. I have consulted mental health professionals, but I still struggle with these feelings. Even today, I find it difficult to forgive myself. What hurts me most is that my cousin was so young. I worry that I might have hurt him psychologically or left him with a negative memory. I don’t know whether he remembers anything or whether the experience affected him in any way. I have no way of knowing, but the uncertainty continues to torment me. I have never wanted to hurt anyone. However, I keep asking myself whether what I did makes me a bad person. I understand that I was young myself, but I am now an adult, and I look back at that memory with the understanding I have today. I find it difficult to separate the child I was then from the person I am now. My questions are: • Was I guilty of doing something wrong, considering my age and my lack of understanding at the time? • Does the fact that I initiated another kiss mean that I deliberately did something harmful? • Is it possible that I hurt my cousin psychologically, even though I have no evidence that he was affected? • How can I distinguish genuine responsibility from excessive guilt and self-punishment? • How can I forgive myself and stop defining my entire identity by something that happened when I was a child

i still go to counceling after 13 years because of my ptsd that i was diagnosed with, dont ever, ever be ashamed to go for help it took me 23 years to go get some counceling, and i still go to this day because there are times where i do have flashbacks, so dont ever feel ashamed.

As someone who is in the process of court hearings due to rape and sexual assault. It would be nice to find support and speak to others who are in similar situations.

Hello community, I am deeply in need of meeting with others who are also building their courage muscle to speak up and are afraid by the unknowns (not being believed, why did you wait so long, dismissal, being framed as mentally unwell, etc). Are there others who also need support to speak up and those who already have and can lend your bravery? Thank you