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The worst part was probably the fact that I knew him and trusted him. I have always been a party girl. I drank lots, had fun, it was a habitual routine each weekend. One of my friends was throwing a halloween party so my two best friends and I decided to go as Charlies Angels. I had been working all day so hardly had time to eat and I had been struggling mentally so I thought if I get super drunk I'll forget about my problems, just for one night. The ironic thing is that by doing this, it gave me the biggest problem I had ever had to face. My friend who was hosting the party had invited a few mutual friends from the all boys school in a town 15 minutes away from where we all lived. I knew most of these boys and felt safe enough with them to have a good time because I had drunk with them before and honestly I was so naive I never even considered that something like this could happen to me. I was drinking rapidly on an empty stomach and ended up being so drunk. This boy was standing with me and we were talking, he was helping me stand up so I wouldn't fall to the ground. We started making out until I felt like I was going to vomit when he offered to walk me to his car so I could sit down. He was sober driving but had parked his car down a small hill which was a small walk from the party. He helped me walk down when I automatically passed out in the back seat of his car. I don't know how long I was out for but I woke up and had to vomit straight away out of his car. I spewed up a significant amount then I closed the car door and he gave me another alcoholic drink to get the vomit taste out of my mouth. He started kissing me after I had the drink and that's the last I remember before passing out. I woke up and he was on top of me. I froze. I couldn't quite comprehend what was happening to me. It hurt so badly and then he pulls out and finishes on his car seat. I remember sitting back up and pulled up my underwear that was still on one leg. He left the car almost immediately and headed back to the party. I followed behind him and felt upset because I thought he was ignoring me. Now looking back I realise that he knew straight away that what he had just done was wrong. He got his friend and they left straight away. I saw them walking and I ran up to him and gave him a hug so stupidly having not yet comprehended what he had just done. I was shaking when I went up to my friends and asked if we could go home now as it was past midnight. The next morning I had asked if he would pay for my morning after pill (PlanB) as he didn't use a condom and although he pulled out I was scared of pre cum. He said he would but the following week so money had gone into my account and his messages were snarky and rude like he was taking the piss out of me. Now, every-time I see him I get a strong panic and fear that makes me shakes through my bones. He's out there still running around which breaks me to my core. Some people believe me. But his group of brain dead asshole friends think I am a lier. It's so hard for me to go over to their town as a huge cloud of fear always lays over my head. Fuck you for what you did to me. I hate you. So that's my story. Thank you for taking the time to read. :)

I Was about 10 she was 13 I think she stayed over and she asked me to sleep with her I remember her asking me to do things with her I can't remember exactly what she said or how it started I remember being late and parents had gone to bed she told me not to go to sleep later on she asked me to do things to her I remember I was uncomfortable and said something like I don't really want to she didn't say things like” if you loved me you would do it”” I will pay you don't be a boring sister” I also think she might have blackmailed me as well. I then gave in and did it. I remember her undressing herself and making me suck her nipple for a while she said to “suck till the milk comes out”. She was on her phone talking to someone, she was taking photos of me doing things to her and sending them to people. After a while she then made me lick her vagina, I think I might have said something like I have had enough because my mouth hurts. I don't remember what she said or anything I think it might have been more bribery, but I remember her saying only for five minutes and her setting a timer on her phone she removed her underwear, and I did it there were times I would stop to breathe, and she would nudge me with her leg and tell me to keep going it was hot under the blanket. I remember almost panicking because I thought I was going to pass out from the heat she wouldn't let me out till I was done the five minutes and if I did stop before the time had stopped, she would pause it. It felt like the longest 5 minutes of my life. After that she also did things to me but I'm not ready to go into that.

When I was 12 years old, me and my cousin, who was a few months younger than me, had sex. It was my idea, but we were both willing. At the next sleepover we had, I asked her if she wanted to do it again, and she said no. We were very close for many years but that was the last sleepover we had. 6 years later, it continues to haunt me. When I was 13 or 14 I messaged her on Snapchat to apologise, and she said it was ok but it doesn’t feel ok. I fear it never will. I confessed to a priest and he said God forgave me. I told my best friend. I told my mother and she said it was normal. None of it could quell my burning guilt. On top of that, I’ve developed intrusive - inappropriate - thoughts that follow me like a dark cloud that I cannot shake off. There’s nothing in my life I regret more. I feel like I have completely sullied any opportunity of having positive sexual encounters in the future. Will I ever shake this burden? Do I even deserve to?

I don't remember the exact age I was when it happened. I(female at the time) was no older than 9 which would have made my sister(F) at the very least, 13 as she is 4 years older than me. She found out that I had been watching videos of girls kissing on youtube (back before there were harsher guidelines in place) and told me that she wanted to do that with me. I didn't really want to, i wasn't interested but didn't really even consider the entire 'we're sisters" part to be an issue. She told me if i didn't, she would tell our mom. My mom was a scary person, i never wanted her mad at me and she knew that when she threatened me with it. So for that entire Summer vacation, whenever we spent the weekends at our dads house, she would make me sit on her lap and make out with her. I told her multiple times i didn't like it, i wasn't having fun, i wanted to stop. She told me it was good practice for when we had boyfriends, which i also didn't really care about. She would tell me I wasn't putting enough energy into it and scold me, if I didn't use tongue she would get mad at me, she would give me the silent treatment the next day if I didn't do 'a good job' and she was only really nice to me if i *did* 'do a good job'. Her being nice to me was almost entirely foreign, especially when we were young. I am now 24 and i cut her out of my life several years ago when I fully registered the impact that her actions had on me and what they meant. I never felt comfortable alone with her again, i was constantly attacked with mental images of what happened and would feel sick to my stomach when i spoke to her. Neither of us ever spoke about it again and i didn't tell her why i blocked her after she left state. My mother asked relentlessly and i only ever told her "i'm sure she knows why." I sometimes feel guilty for what happened, i sometimes think that it never would've happened if i never looked up videos of girls kissing. I blame myself still even tho i'm sure my sister never thinks it's her fault- she has never been the type of person to take accountability for anything in her entire life. We were both minors but she was old enough to understand it was inappropriate, and i was young enough to believe anything my older sister told me. I've never told anyone the details of what happened until now. I'm too ashamed and too scared. Thank you to anyone who reads this and i hope anyone who experienced something similar is healing along with me.

My Story: Finding Light Amid the Shadows of Trauma: I’m a man in my 60s, a husband to my soulmate of nearly 30 years, and a father to two incredible children who fill my heart with joy. But beneath this love lies a story of pain that has shaped me in ways I’m only now beginning to understand. I’m sharing this to connect with others who might feel the same weight, to let you know you’re not alone, and to find a path toward healing. My childhood was marked by bullying, violence, and sexual abuse, leaving scars that manifest as fibromyalgia, distrust, and a struggle to find peace. A Childhood Stolen: My early years felt safe, filled with neighborhood friends and parents who loved me. But around age 10, everything changed. School became a battleground where I was targeted with cruel words, chased home, and threatened with being thrown into a pond if I didn’t run fast enough. Friends turned away, fearing they’d be next. I felt alone, marked as the “crybaby” who couldn’t fight back. The hypocrisy of peers who tormented me all week but smiled innocently in church was unbearable, and I stopped attending church well before high school, unable to trust the facade. That summer, a stranger’s attack left a deeper wound. While fishing, an older boy tackled me, pinned me in the mud, and used my own sock to burn my throat with friction so raw it took weeks to heal. The laughter I heard as I lay helpless still echoes in my nightmares. I ran home, ashamed, and though my parents tried to help, we never found the attacker. From then on, every face felt like a potential threat. The next summer brought a betrayal that broke something deeper. A boy I barely knew lured me into his home with promises of friendship. He showed me magazines I was too young to understand, and before I knew it, an older girl and boy were there, snapping a photo and laughing as they coerced me into sexual acts. Her cruel words, calling me names and threatening to expose me, burned into my soul. I was terrified those photos would ruin me, though they never surfaced. That day left me questioning who I was, ashamed of my body and my desires, especially after another attack that left me physically altered in a way I still can’t fully face. High School and a Shattered Faith: By the time I entered a Catholic high school in the late 1970s, I was already afraid to be alone with anyone. Whispers from classmates about avoiding certain priests and teachers deepened my fear. Some teachers disciplined us with a cruelty that felt personal, like striking us with a ring that left pain but no mark. I graduated in the early 1980s, carrying a heavy distrust of authority. When the 2018 Pennsylvania grand jury report revealed widespread abuse cover-ups at my former school, it confirmed my worst fears and shattered what was left of my faith. I couldn’t forgive those who hurt me or believe in a heaven where they might be, leaving me spiritually adrift. Love, Loss, and Redemption: My early adult years were a struggle. My first two marriages were filled with betrayal—emotional and physical abuse, accusations about my desires, and infidelity that left me feeling worthless. I buried my pain in drugs and bad choices, convinced I’d never find safety. Then I met my wife, a woman whose love and kindness saved me. She’s my best friend, my partner, and the mother of our two children, who bring light to my darkest days. Yet even with her, I struggle to open up, afraid of rejection or burdening her with the broken parts of me. My fantasies, twisted by that long-ago abuse, carry a shame I can’t shake, making intimacy a battle between love and fear. The Weight of Pain: For over 25 years, I’ve lived with fibromyalgia, a constant ache that flares when stress takes hold. I now believe it’s tied to the trauma I carried in silence, my body keeping score of what my mind tried to bury. Flashbacks hit hard—especially the memory of that sock burning my throat. My body re-lives it, my heart races, and I fight the urge to claw at my skin to make it stop. These moments steal my breath, leaving me trembling and retreating to cry alone, afraid to let my wife see me so fragile. I’ve always hidden my tears, punished as a child for crying, and now I don’t know how to let them out without feeling weak. I live in a state of constant alertness, scanning for threats, unable to fully trust anyone. A simple elevator ride with a friendly couple can send me spiraling, their presence reminding me of that day long ago. I feel disconnected, unable to mourn at funerals, even for my parents. My inner voice, my only companion as a lonely child, now drowns me in rage or grief, pulling me away from the present. A Path Toward Healing: These memories have come rushing back, triggered by a story about my high school that I read about last Christmas. I’m a simmering pot, ready to boil over with anger or shut down in despair. But my family keeps me going. I started therapy a few months ago, hoping to quiet the flashbacks, but it’s opened a floodgate of questions about how deeply this trauma has shaped me. Books like The Body Keeps the Score have shown me how my hypervigilance and fibromyalgia might be linked, giving me hope that healing my mind could ease my body’s pain. Sharing in a support group has been a good deal of comfort, knowing others understand, but I still fear being seen as weak. I want to be free of this pain—not just the physical ache, but the terror, the distrust, the shame. I want to be fully present for my wife and children, to stop hiding in the bathroom to cry. Forgiveness feels impossible when I can’t forgive myself for being that scared little boy. But I’m trying, for my family and for the part of me that still hopes for peace. A Message to Others: If you’re reading this, maybe you’ve felt this kind of pain, too. Maybe you know what it’s like to carry a secret that feels like it defines you. I’m learning it doesn’t have to, even if it feels that way. I’m here to heal, to find a way to trust again, and to hold my family close without fear. I hope my story helps you feel less alone, and I’m grateful for any support or understanding you can share.

I don't know if what my brother did to me can be classified as sexual abuse. I was staying over at his house. It was late at night, and we were watching a movie. At some point, he asked if he could initiate some cuddling. I actually agreed, since we are really close and both enjoy physical affection. While we were spooning, he snuck his hand under my shirt. He didn't say anything, and I didn't say anything. As the night went on, he alternated between different caresses, kisses on my head or the side of my face, and words of affection. I idly stroked his arm back because I felt awkward just lying there. He eventually asked "is this okay?" in reference to his hand inching up my stomach. I was giving him the benefit of the doubt and still thought the action was platonic, plus it felt nice, plus I am a timid person and have a hard time with confrontation, so my brain thinks saying "no" to people is provoking them, so I said "yes". I didn't really want to say it I, though. I don't think I wanted to say "no", wither. I don't think I wanted to say anything at all. I was tired. We both were. His caresses smoothly progressed to the point he was caressing the underside of my breasts. That's when I started really questioning his intentions. He asked "is this okay?" again. I said "yes" again. When the movie ended, I got scared. I had been using it to distract myself from what was happening, and I was afraid that now that there was no distraction, he would shift his whole attention to me and try to initiate something; so I sat up. He lightly squeezed the underside of my breast as I did so, maybe on purpose, or maybe as a reflex. When he realized I was genuinely pulling away, he took back his hands, said: "I'm sorry. Your brother's a creep", and got up to take a shower. I think that's the moment I started freaking out. It's what confirmed my suspicions that his touches really had sexual intent behind them. I had been trying to gaslight myself into believing they were innocent affection, but those words were forcing me to face the reality of my situation. I remember running my mouth non-stop about random topics when we were having breakfast because I was afraid he was going to bring up what just happened and would want to have a conversation about it. I didn't want to talk about it. I wanted to pretend it never happened. I still try to. But it haunts me. He and his wife (who had been sleeping peacefully in their bedroom through the whole night) left early in the morning for their honeymoon (I was there to house-sit, and had come the night before to hang out with them before they left). Once I was alone, I quietly went to their bed to sleep (with their permission and insistance, since there were no other beds in the apartment). As I tried to fall asleep, I still could feel his hands on me, like a phantom touch. I broke down right there. I felt guilty, and disgusting, for not having stopped it and for having enjoyed it too. I felt like maybe I was the creep, and maybe I was the one turning this interaction into something inappropriate. The following weeks, I tried to suppress my feelings. Some days before Christmas, I was on a plane with my mother, about to start our holiday vacation. I was close to my period and my breasts felt sensitive. That triggered something in me and I suddenly teared up right there, in public. That vague ache reminded me of the feeling of that one squeeze he gave to my breast. My mother noticed me about to cry, but I lied and said that's just because I'm close to my period and feeling gloomy (I had been struggling with depression for a while, which she knew.) During the trip, I would get random flashbacks to that night, sometimes even accompanied with feelings of nausea. I felt like I was making my brain overreact somehow, since I hadn't been raped and I shouldn't be traumatized for touching that can barely even be considered intimate. When we got back home, I did something I'm not sure whether I regret it: I talked to him about it. I sent him a long text (he lives in another city, which actually made me feel safer about confronting him) which I barely remember anything about, except that it mentioned "that night" and how I had been upset by it. I broke down while typing it, and it probably wasn't very coherent. My brother sent me many short replies in quick bursts when he saw it. He apologized profusely. He said "I don't know what's wrong with me", "I'll get psychological help", alongside many things I don't remember. That had me freaking out a bit. What did he need psychological help for? Was he admitting he's got urges he can't control? But I didn't say anything related to that. I was afraid of accusing him, and I made sure to clarify I was also to blame for not setting down any boundaries. We were both replying to each other without thinking. We were panicking, and full of adrenaline. I was scared of losing him. He was the only connection I had in the city we both lived in (very far from our hometown, where our parents and my friends all live). I didn't want to upset him, because he's a very sensitive person and I already felt guilty for how I was reacting to it. We somewhat resolved the issue over text. Except we didn't. At all. I pretended we did, but I was still plagued by doubts and paranoia. More than the touching, what haunted me were his words: "I'm sorry. Your brother's a creep." They shook me to my core. All I had wanted was to be in denial about what happened, but those words wouldn't let me. The story goes on to this day, but I don't want to write too much about the aftermath of "that night", since I'd be writing for too long and I want to focus on whether it was an instance of abuse. At this point, I feel a little more grounded and able to accept that what happened had sexual undertones. I am still full of shame and guilt. I did consent to some of the touching. I'm not certain I wanted to, but it is something I did. That would usually make me think this is a consensual encounter and that I simply regret it now, but there are many factors that also contribute to my belief that this could potentially be an instance of abuse too. First of all, my brother was 38 at the time. I was 20, which yes, is an adult, but still; he is my much older brother. He was already nearly an adult by the time I was born. He's been a figure of authority my whole life, even though he likes to pretend he's not. He's a little clueless when it comes to what's appropriate or not in social contexts, but I do think someone his age should know better than to sneak his hand under his little sister's shirt and go up her body so much his fingers actually brush against her areola. Secondly, I am neurodivergent, though I hadn't told him at the time. However, when I did tell him, he said he already had suspicions. Regardless of that, I've always been quiet and withdrawn, so it upsets that he initiated touching under the guise of innocent affection and then expected me to be able to express my discomfort when it escalated without him specifying it was going to. I don't think his form of seeking consent was productive at all either. He only asked me if two specific touches were okay, and only after starting to do them. He didn't ask for explicit permission for anything but the cuddling at the start. What I want to say is that I was vulnerable. I am young, inexperienced, autistic, and he has always been an emotional support and almost parental figure to me. I don't know how he can be so naive as to think he doesn't have any power over me. Maybe he does know that, but wasn't thinking at the time. I still don't get why he would touch me like that. I find a little solace in thinking that maybe I didn't have any control over it after all. But I don't know. Maybe I did. I am an adult after all. And I do believe he would have stopped if I had told him to. But I definitely never gave any enthusiastic consent. I feel betrayed. I feel lost. I feel angry. I feel sad. I've been avoiding thinking about it for months. Tonight, it all came back to me once more and I broke down again. I truly don't know what to do. I don't want to tell anyone close to me what happened because I am ashamed. I certainly don't want to tell my parents. I kind of want to cut ties with him, but at the same time I don't because I truly believe he is remorseful about it and I don't want to make him sad. I can't help being naive. I don't know if that's comforting, or embarrassing.

In my original shared story, IT STARTED WITH MY BROTHER, I talked about my abuse from a bird’s eye view. It was my abuse life as I was able to share it at the time. I have been working up to sharing 3 instances of rapes that I only avoided by allowing the men to take what they wanted instead of fighting. The most traumatic of the three incidents I mentioned involved a police officer. This is that account. I was pulled over on my way home from a study group as junior at the university on a week night. We had shared two drinks toward the end. I DO NOT condone driving and drinking but I was not drunk, as the breathalyzer later confirmed. I was pulled over and already had the nerves associated with that, amplified by the fact that I was under the legal drinking age for another three weeks. That is when I first met the cop I will just call SIK. He gave me a creepy vibe when I first saw him and that never stopped. Still, I flirted with him to an extent desperate to not get it huge trouble. He had me get out of the car, take of my hoodie, under which I only had a basic sports bra. It was only sixty degrees or so that night. I was cold and shivering from fear and the temperature. I saw him look at my body with no filter. Another cop car pulled up with two officers while I was doing the field sobriety tests. He had already searched me in an uncomfortable way. One of the officers who arrived was female and also searched me after he had said I had some problems with the sobriety tests. Walking backwards on an imaginary line heel to toe was the only thing I had trouble with. It is hard! The female cop brought out the breath test I had asked for. I blew 0.035. That is less than half the legal limit. At that point SIK said he was just going to follow me home, rather than arrest me, and the other car left. The whole stop took maybe an hour. Cars drove by on the side street I had pulled onto. Headlights and tail lights in the dark. After the other car left SIK talked to me more harshly and threatening than ever. He said a girl like me is probably used to getting away with everything. He asserted that he could still take me to jail anytime he decides as as he takes me home and makes sure I am safe everything I do is still a test. He could bust me for possession of alcohol and I would lose my license. I was scared. I told him my roommate was home. She was a student too and was supposed to be there. After following me inside my apartment I called out for my roommate. Then I checked her room. She was not there! SIK then accused me of lying to a police officer and locked the deadbolt from the inside. He made me stand with my hands on my own dining room wall with my legs spread. I wanted to call her so he could talk to her and confirm she was usually there, but he stopped me and made me just text her to see when she would be home. He gave instruction not to ask or say anything more and checked before I sent it. She was at her sisters and would not be back until late. At that point he took off his utility belt and put it on my kitchen counter. He told me after all he had done for me was no longer free, since I lied to him. His gun was right there next to us. He made sure I saw it and he even twisted it so it was pointed toward me. I was scared and pleading with him. I really was willing to do anything. I am not sure but I think I told him that. He radioed from his shoulder thing that he was taking a “lunch” break. What I definitely remember was when he said he was going to do a proper strip search this time, down to full nudity and asked if I agreed to that. At that point I no longer had a doubt what was happening. I made the mental adjustment but what he did was more than I had prepared for. He gave me vulgar compliments about my body as he blatantly molested me. He kneaded my breasts like dough. He fingered me as asked if you could use a special appendage he had that went farther in. I knew what he meant. I was repulsed but I agreed. After the initial eager sex with me still having my hands on the wall leaning forward he slowed down. I had been hoping it was almost over but he decided to prolong it. He commanded me to my bedroom. He took off all his clothes besides his socks. He complemented his own anatomy and made me agree. His member was well above average in size but I doubt, if he had not had a wedding band on, that he would ever get to use it. He was half bald, had a prominent eyebrow like a neanderthal, and a pale beer belly with lots of moles all over his body. He had a mustache and goatee that did not completely hide his poor complexion that looked like he had scars from severe acne. Almost all men all taller than me but he was short and only towered over me by a few inches. Never had I lied bigger than when I told him what he wanted to hear about being sexy and wanting him. The only truth was about his large penis. SIK spoke a lot, mostly degrading me and confirming that I agree with him. Cliche stuff, like me being a whore, slut, dirty, and liking what he made me do to him, but also asked about my sex life and abuse history. He wanted me to say that my dad and coaches abused me, but I would not lie about that. Instead I told him some of the truth about my brother abusing me. That was probably the worst part. Saying out loud to SIK what I never used to admit to anyone, for his great pleasure, harmed me. That was worse that the physical stuff. Worse than making me kiss him during parts of it. He was also cruel. He tried to gag me and push all the way down my throat while he made him do oral. He pushed my ankles behind my head while he pounded me with his abusing thrusts. I could see the cruel lust in his eyes. I could see his wicked smile. He slapped my face many times, just not very hard. He did spank me hard. He realized he had me captive and vulnerable to his whim and he was finally living his darkest fantasies. I was doing anything he wanted and encouraging it because I wanted it to stop. So many times he stopped himself right before he was going to climax! He did not want it to end. SIK tried to have anal sex with me and I was accommodating him but he was just too big to fit. I was crying during most of this out of pain but trying to act like an eager partner to make it end. I later thought that might have prolonged it. SIK was probably the time that would prefer I suffer more, like I was being raped instead of hiding my pain. It was not much longer than twenty minutes but it was so bad and I relived it so many times in my mind before I got smashed drunk and high the next night after work. So the memory lived much more prominently in my head than a simple 25 minute encounter. I do reach climax easily, but I never had one orgasm from him because of his preference for causing sexual pain. When he suddenly released inside me he got quiet and barely said another word as he dressed, gun belt and all, and left quietly. I have no idea what that meant. It scared me. I was afraid while driving for a while, and avoided sleeping at home as much as I could, which sometimes meant sleeping with men and even male friends just to not go home. It was the main reason I did not renew my lease and moved it to a smaller apartment by myself. This was the same roommate whose father had already slept with me without my initial blessing. I did tell my roommate a short version of it and she reacted like it was cool story. I did kind of tell it that way, as a way of dealing with it. The easy path of least resistance. To not admit it may have been the worse sexual thing to happen to me. The true worst things that happened to me in my college years were broken hearts from losing men I loved. But those are stories for a different forum. I don’t put my heart out there to be trampled anymore. This incident was one of the wake up calls that stood out as an omen for me to change my whole lifestyle and try to salvage myself. It was also one of the things that took me the longest to mention to my therapist even though I thought about it during sessions.

This year I managed to talk out loud for the first time about what happened to me as a "something", I always knew it but I kept it in the back of my head without giving it much thought because I knew if I did it was going to hurt, something in me knew it was wrong. When I was about 5/6 years old I had a friend a year or two older than me, I don't know how or when it started or why I "agreed", no matter how hard I try to remember I can't. This girl touched me and I touched her etc, I don't remember resisting or refusing and that makes it worse, I even think I liked it. Since then and as I grew older (similar situations happened to me at the hands of other girls) I began to feel shame and regret, in some ways it makes me feel dirty, as if I had never had innocence. Now I have a complicated relationship with sexuality, it hurts and makes me uncomfortable, I also can't feel good about myself, I feel like I'm guilty of this.

I didn't know what I was being asked to do. I was 6 years old. I didn't realize what had happened to me until recently. I tried to walk out of the room but I was manipulated into staying. He was my cousin. I didn't think he would use me. I didn't know what he did was wrong until about 1 year ago. It disgusts me to be around him. I have always felt for SA survivors, without knowing that I was one myself. I have taken the path of healing silently. Knowing my experience I know that there are children that are affected by this every day. I hope that by sharing my story, I can help young children know what is happening to them.

Im still trying to heal through all of my issues, I stay isolated and quiet and find it hard to make friends sometimes. my story started years ago as a lil boy my my older cousin always kept touching on me and laughed it off until he took me upstairs and told me how good it would feel to me. I later cried and told family in front of him he laughed and they laughed but at least it stopped . other cousins would tell what happened to me to there friends making it awkward to be around people. but with time people forgot. fast forward 3 or so years i'm nine at least I think ,and my older female cousin tells me im pretty I should stop being shy she would show me how to have sex and be a ladies man. well she did but it didn't end there her and a friend of hers set me up with a girl my age and watched me have sex a few times with her until I got old enough to stay home by myself . today I much older but very hyper sexual and long story short my past has caused a lot of my problems. it feels good to finally tell somebody.

I saw the movie tonight with my little sister. We grew up together in an abusive home, everything that Lily’s father did to her mom, our father did to ours (and even worse). He sometimes did those things to us too. From the fact that he’s still portrayed as a beloved father to many, I found consolation in the movie tonight. I realised that I’m not that child anymore, I’m safe now and most importantly, I can stop swimming now. And you also, my little sister, we can both stop swimming now. I love you.

This is my life story, well, at least the major events that come to mind. There are aspects of my life that I have either blocked out or chosen not to remember. When I was about 5 years old, my grandfather on my mother’s side started molesting me. It went on for a while, and I vividly remember crying to my mom, begging her not to make me go back there one weekend. In response, she looked at me and asked if my grandfather was touching me. I mustered the courage to say yes, hoping for support. To my dismay, she told me that my grandfather was sick and that I needed to support him. She continued to send me to his house every weekend until I turned 8, when he passed away. At the age of twelve, a traumatizing incident occurred. I was raped at a school basketball game by a high school student. My mother’s solution to this was to move us to another state. Unfortunately, that didn’t shield me from more pain. At 14 years old, I was gang-raped at a party and ended up in the hospital with alcohol poisoning. Thankfully, the police came, and the men responsible were arrested and charged. However, on the day of the court hearing, before I took the stand, something happened. I can’t recall the specifics, but my mom said something so terrifying that it coerced me out of testifying. Because of that, the adult perpetrator walked away free. I distinctly remember the furious look my dad gave my mom. He was so angry, while she callously said, “what would the people say.” It was a devastating blow. Tragedy struck again when I was 15 years old. I lost my father to suicide. Shockingly, my mom and sister blamed me for his death and gave me up to the state, making me an orphan. From that point, I bounced from foster home to foster home, eventually ending up in a group home until I turned 18. Desperate and lost, I fell into a dangerous cycle. I became addicted to drugs and involved in drug trafficking. My relationships were plagued by violence and abuse. In a desperate attempt to find a sense of belonging, I got involved with a Cartel Name. I immersed myself in their world, learning fluent Spanish. Tragically, I ended up being kidnapped and remained missing until the FBI located me eight months later. They discovered me chained up to a bed, on the brink of death. After spending five months rehabilitating in an State hospital, I was finally returned home. Throughout all these experiences, I encountered domestic violence, battled drug abuse, and confronted countless challenges along the way. Yet here I am today – resilient and determined to create positive change. My life has been a series of unimaginable hardships and painful experiences. From the abuse I suffered as a child to the trauma of rape and the loss of my father, I have faced more than anyone should have to endure. The path I walked led me down dark and dangerous roads, filled with addiction, crime, and violence. But amidst the darkness, I found a glimmer of hope. I made the decision to break free from the cycle of abuse and rebuild my life. With sheer determination, I ventured into the unknown, finding solace in new places and pursuing education to empower myself. Now, as I share my story, I am studying for my Master’s degree in human services, driven by a deep desire to help others who have faced similar struggles. I refuse to let the past define me, and I am committed to making a positive impact in the lives of others. My journey has been long and tumultuous, but it has also shown me the strength and resilience that resides within me.

I am a victim of domestic violence. 4 out of the 5 relationships I was in through high school til I was about 24, every last one of them was emotional/mental abuse. I would get called names, like dumb ass or stupid. They would look at me in disgust because of what I looked like. I got sent to the hospital one year because I wanted to be skinny by not eating all day. One of my exes would’ve grabbed my stomach and laughed because I had extra weight than he did. Another ex would argue with me over something stupid. He wouldn’t let me hang out with friends. I was single for four years because I didn’t want to feel that pain again. But when I read It Ends with Us, and saw the movie, I was brought to tears because I felt that pain back. There is a happy ending though. My current relationship now, he is the light of my life, he treats me like a queen, he treats me the way someone is supposed to be treated. I never want to go back there again.

I was 16 living in a foster home, I had been there maybe 5 months. The man Foster Dad the foster dad he had never really talked to me very much and he didn't spend alot of time with me. One day I was cleaning up my room and Foster Momthe foster mom was across the street at a neighbors house. He came to the doorway and stood there asking me if he could give me a hug and I thought nothing of it and said ok and he came into my room and he did. When he pulled away his hand rubbed against my breast and I thought to myself maybe that was an accident and then he asked me could he hug me again. I felt uncomfortable but don't really remember why I let him hug me again but I did and this time he rubbed my breast again and I slapped him across the face and ran out the door. I think he told me not to tell anyone. When I got next door I said what happened and she was upset at me and said you shouldn't say things like that in front of people. I was shocked and just turned around. I don't remember what happened after that. I remember going to counseling and I finally spoke to the counselor about the sexual abuse that had occurred even before this incident and I suppose I was confused. I didn't really think it was bad because the word rape was bad and he only touched me so I wasn't sure that was bad and after talking to the counselor I remember her telling my foster mom and the social worker that I was afraid of men. I suppose because I told her so many stories maybe it didn't seem like I was telling the truth and somehow now Foster Dad wasn't guilty and I thought I was wrong. I remember thinking I am not afraid of men and only recently understand I can't stand them really. It wasn't long after this the foster mom got cancer well she already had it and told me I couldn't stay there anymore, so now the social worker was looking for a new place for me to live. I had a boyfriend at the time, who I later married when I was 17. The social workers thought he was a good influence on me, and I believed them. He was a constant for me where no one else was, but he was emotionally abusive, he became physically abusive after my first pregnancy. Now off to my second foster home after meeting some others that didn't seem to want me either it was almost the end of the school year and summer was approaching. Before I left I had started to go to the store to hang out with what I called a foster sister back then, she was an adult and no longer living with my foster parents but I liked her and so we hung out sometimes. I thought I could trust her. She started talking to me about what happened and said he did it to her too and he had done it before and I thought to myself did they all know this and was hiding it. I can remember having my then best friend over and she wanted to ride to the store with my foster dad to get pizza and my foster mom was very against it like really defensive and I thought it was weird and after that she wouldn't let her come over anymore either which I then thought was even weirder, but now it seems to make sense. I don't know for a fact but I feel like she knew all along and just hide it. They couldn't have kids of their own and she did adopt a boy who was also and adult by the time I met them, but only fostered the girls for a time being and then were off to other homes. The next foster home wasn't much better, I suppose I can save that story for another time. I didn't understand what sexual abuse or rape even was and to me if someone just touched me that it was ok that wasn't rape so it wasn't bad. When I think about the word rape I don't feel much of anything, but if I say someone had sex with me when I didn't want them too I start to cry or feel it more. It's strange I say rape is a bad word but really I feel nothing when I say this. Maybe from all the movies my mom would put on tv as a child that made it seem ok to rape someone. Then my foster mom certainly didn't help much and neither did the foster sister. The foster mom tried to be in my life for a while and we even rented from them when I first got married. I suppose because the social workers, and counselors, and whoever else I was around back then didn't seem to have a problem with what he did that I guess I thought it was ok, but now all this time later I am just understanding that none of it was ever ok.

No more feeling shame. The shame is my abuser's to bear. I was in an abusive relationship 7 years. She would Yell and throw items around the room. Tell me who I can and can't see, and where I could go. She would degrade me by playing on any insecurity I had. If I questioned her motives I was gas lighted to change my way of thinking. She would smack my chest and call it play fighting. She would convince me "I'm the only one who is looking out for you" she monitored where I was and how long I was there. I would hid in the bathroom, because I was terrified of her. She would convince me to cut people out of my life. She would manipulate me emotionally and physically. Everything was on her terms, she loved that I feared her. No more feeling afraid of speaking my truth. #yournotalone

Married six times, still trying to repair relationships with my children, and never confident enough to succeed in my career. That's what living in fight or flight your entire life looks like. I can't remember large chunks of my childhood, I don't want to. Never having deep connections with anyone, including my own children. Searching and never finding. Hiding and none looking. Trying to fix everyone around me so I don't have to look inside my own broken soul. Avoiding, always running away when it gets too real. Afraid to look in the mirror, lest I judge myself too harshly. Reading, watching, learning, outside looking in, but never participating in any real way. Letting the waves wash over me, floating aimlessly about. Now numb to the cold, to the heat, to hunger, to love. Autoimmune disease and anxiety my constant companions. If I can't be a great role model, if I am not the shining example of success, let me at least serve as a warning. Get into trauma treatment now, before your life is nothing but a pile of sad regret.

I was raped in 2020 by Name, and I'm genuinely afraid of him. He started stalking me after it happened, and showed up to a location I was at during my lunch break from work. There is an open investigation with the Police Department, but I know that he has done that to other women due to some stuff he said during the false imprisonment. I don't feel comfortable sharing the entire story. I'm not the type to have sex with people I don't know very well. Please, text me if you've also had issues with Name:Phone Number This is Name Linkedin Account

I grew up thinking that my body was not my own. I experienced child sexual assault and rape all before the age of 14 and that shaped how I viewed my body and the world around me. It took years, almost a decade, before I would seek therapy and try to start my healing journey. I felt so disgusting in my own body and it made it hard for me to have romantic relationships. Therapy has really been helpful and sometimes I still feel that discomfort in my body but I am learning everyday that what happened to me is not my fault. I also have grown to learn that there are bad people out here and that there is nothing that I did to deserve what happened to me. Although my abuser is free to roam the world as if he didn't harm me and my rapist is free to live his life as if he didn't rape me -- I find peace in knowing that I am healing despite what they did to me.

Initials I’ll never understand why you did what you did and it truly worries me because how would you even know how to act at that young of an age. Initials the first time it happened doesn’t leave my mind playing over and over again. When I lived in City playing house on the second floor in the walk in closet the play kitchen was in and you asked if I wanted to have a baby. Little baby obsessed me was like ofc and you go “a real baby” again I say yes because I’m not sure what that entails at the time. You began to kiss me pushing me to the floor where you began to do other things to my body that honestly really confused me at the time. But all I knew was I really wanted a baby and these weird things you did honestly felt good which looking back I hate admitting. The second time was that same night. I was wearing one of those silk Disney princess nightgowns with the tule little sleeves this one was Ariel my favorite princess at the time. I remember you peeling it from my body and demanding I lay on top of you again “making a baby” we began what I had just experienced earlier in the closet but more aggressive and that’s when I got told I couldn’t tell anyone and it had to be “our thing”. I didn’t think much of this and put it on the same level as when you’d sneak us cookie cake from the kitchen and would tell me the same thing. Then the rest is all scattered with no time line. Although I have many more memories I know there are so many more I have forgotten. But for a while this went on playing family became the regular and for the longest time I just went along with it. You would show me videos and pictures of what we were supposed to do. We used our baby dolls to demonstrate and make sure they could have babies too. Idek how we got to this but the fake dance completions we would create dances and practice for were so sexual to a point I should never have even known. The craziest part of this all is I feel as everyone around should have known. The multiple times we had gotten caught with our baby dolls or acting suspicious. The countless times at night when we were playing family with both your sisters IN the room. The countless times your youngest sister at the time would literally tattle on us and share exactly how we “played house” and you’d deny and deny and deny and they’d always believe you. Why did no one notice? Even our bike rides we stop in a field with our blanket and play family there. And the worst part of all of this was the way I enjoyed it that’s the most confusing part as a child whatever feels good we begin to crave especially when we don’t realize it’s wrong. You ruined me. Absolutely ruined me. My innocent self was now texting random old men wanting to “play family” with them. You had me making myself feel good in front of so many strangers just for the gross satisfaction of it. I regret all of it so much and I hate that it’s a part of me. It feels like this disgusting layer that I can’t shed and I’m constantly trying to hide from. You hurt me more than anyone ever could, and we have to act like everything never happened because what would people think of me. It was just as much my fault as it was yours. Although everyone says that’s untrue it’s what it feels like. This monster inside of me constantly gnawing away at every good part I have left. You’ve turned me into someone I don’t even recognize. You killed the innocent girl within me. Honestly I feel that’s why I’ll always be a child at heart because it feels nice to experience something that was taken from me so early. I will never understand why you did it.