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Message to a Survivor
You can get through it, but not if you do it alone. Everyone needs someone. No matter if it's a trusted individual or a hotline, reach out for help. The more you tell your story, the less power they have over you.
Message of Healing
Healing is learning how to be content with the pain of the past. This requires you to push through the pain. The pain will likely get worse before it gets better.
I went to a party at my mom's friend’s house to celebrate her husband's and her son’s birthday. At the party, there were many adults and young kids. Since my mom’s friend knew this she invited a girl that went to their church so that I could have someone to talk to. Also at the party, was a twenty year old that was a drummer at their church. At the party, the three of us were talking and getting to know each other. The girl who was there told me they used to date. I did not think anything of it until much later on. I started to like him until later on. Once the girl left the party it was just me and him talking. Everything was innocent until he started to tell me I was beautiful and asked me out on a date. I said no; however, the more I declined the more he asked. I eventually said yes so that he could stop asking. After I said yes he asked me to go upstairs and have sex with him. I did tell him, no, but he persistently requested. I needed a second to breathe so I asked him where the bathroom was. He told me where it was and asked to go in there with me a couple of times. When I came back, he continuously gave me compliments and typed sexual body parts in his notes app and showed them to me. To some, this story may seem insignificant, but for me, it was hard to get over. He was the first person who should romantic interest in me. After this experience,e I was afraid to date and thought no one would want me. Now I am working on moving on with my life and receiving love.
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.