Six years, almost married, back “ together “ then cheated on and abused simultaneously.

He had come to my house for the first time in several months to visit and we were doing better I thought . The relationship had been on and off over a six year period. We had been going strong 2 years when he suddenly got very upset at the thought of our oldest daughter ( my step daughter to be) rejecting him once more. She had recently graduated and the dress his mother had asked me to pick out for her graduation did not get used. We were both on edge. Before this incident there had been no evidence of physical or emotional abuse . As tensions tightened soon a phone call to my mom crying over being upset caused my partner to say to me that I did not care about him suddenly . Like a flip of a switch he began to demand I apologize and do as told. He and I faught to the point I called off the wedding and he agreed to end plans. I asked if we were over and what should have ended that day transpired into 3 plus years of me apologizing and proving myself to him that I was worthy to love. Eventually after many fights he decided to come home . But he got mad at me and threw a remote at my feet. Then we would make up then another fight he left but blamed me and from there it was him telling me to prove my love. I tried proposing to him , gifts, words, etc nothing worked . One day his sister had upset him and so he blamed me . Then he came up to visit and got bad news about a sick friend and proceeded to grab me near the neck and force me to the floor to let him leave me for the night. He had received a text from a girl that I had suspected he had been seeing behind my back and when I confronted him he chose to leave I asked if I could go with and he refused and I knew next thing as I’m getting upset he grabbed me by the neck and pushed me down it scared me and I tried to leave several more times till his cheating had become so obvious that anyone could tell I was being abused .