#112

I was 13 when we met, 15 when things began to escalate, he was 45. I had always enjoyed being friends with adults, it made me feel mature and smart. My family was going through a hard time and I was the kid that fell through the cracks, he volunteered to help out and at the time it was what I thought I wanted, my parents trusted their close friend, and he knew exactly how to get what he wanted. My friendship with him was too close and unhealthy, but I always played it off. Eventually I developed a teenaged crush on him, he was someone I looked up to, trusted, and wanted approval from. He kissed me a bit before my 16th birthday while my family was out shopping. He waited until midnight of my 18th birthday to have sex with me, the minute it was legal. He always talked about how nobody would understand our relationship, and that one day even I would abandon him, thankfully he was right. I was sworn to secrecy, but at that point I didn't need it. I thought I was in love. I thought I would marry this man who was the same age as my father, and have children and live happily ever after with this grooming pedophile. The relationship went on for years, until I started to grow up. I was no longer the timid teen he had groomed, I found friends that encouraged me to be assertive, I spent less time with him, developed a crush on a person my age, started finding him sexually repulsive, the life he had molded me for was crumbling away. When I stopped engaging in the relationship he quickly found a new model, my younger sister. My parents hired him to be her caregiver for her medical and mental health complications. Within a month he was engaging with her physically, and in less than a year, married her. I no longer have a relationship with either of them. It's been years since I got out but it still haunts me: will I ever tell my partner, my parents, my friends? I feel like since it went on for so long then I am at blame for not leaving, I thought I wanted it, I thought I was in love, but it was all the convoluted lies of some disgusting, pathetic, old man targeting a fragile teenaged girl.