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Survivor story
WAKE UP,FIGHT BACK
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Message to a Survivor
When i was sa i was forced by my abuser to stop in my hope en believe. the abuser told me that the faith does this. but actually the faith does not does this the people around us does this. but god sees this. and i also believe god helped me alot because when the abuser hurted me he always got right after hurting me karma. so i never stoped with hoping and believing in my believe. and 3 years that i got rid of my abuser i finally see the things I hoped came out. Even if it takes years at the end believe me everything is going to be perfect. Because i also believe the people who got through difficult days will in the end have a beautiful life they deserved. So i do believe in hope.
Message of Healing
Unfornatelly i dont know what healing means because it gived me trauma and still cant get of the memories. But i do know never lose your hope even if it is the most diffucelt moment. but the moment when this is over everything gets better because you won and are free of your abuser. you also became stronger. and can do whatever you want.
I was sa abused when I was 8 years old by family member that needed to care and loof after me because my parents couldn't come to the country. but imagine a 8 year old child even knows what that person did was wrong. Some days i needed to survive without water and food as a punishment i got because I stood up for myself and didn't agree with that person. but that person did everyday verbal abuse, emotional abuse to me because i didn't want to do sexual activity's. when i became older and 17 years old everything went much worser. that person tried to kill me many times and wanted me to end my own life because I didn't want to be sa. I hided myself in bathroom to not get killed and I know i had at that moment 2 choises at that moment or i am going get my life get ruined everyday and get killed or i am going to expose that person even if i am gone get killed and let both of our life ruined. even if it was scared to do second choise i had no choise but to do it. so i secretly recorderd the abuser voice and sended to my dad that lives abroad. Now i am 22 years old the same age when my abuser was and still will not understand why a person would do that to a child. My advice is never be afraid even if you need to be against world never let someone threat you bad even if you know its wrong. stand up for yourself and be them karma.
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.