They can never hurt me again. by: Survivor

The first time I remember being abused I believe I was 7 year old. My first abuser was my father. He sexually assaulted me while I pretended to be sleeping. I told my younger brother who told my mother. My mother made me tell her what happened and no one ever talked about it again. I didn't see my father for 7 years. It wasn't until he passed away that I found out he sexually abuse my step sister most of her life. Up until I knew he abused someone else I thought I did something to cause him to do what he did to me. It was early in the morning, maybe my stretching caused him to get on top of me. It seems ridiculous now, but in a 7 years old mind it made sense to me. As an adult, it makes me sad for that little girl to believe she did something to cause it to happen. My next abuser was my Uncle. I don't remember how old I was, possibly younger than 7, but I cannot remember. I remember being at my grandmother's home and my uncles were taking us on motorcycle rides through the woods. On my first ride, one of my uncles decided to put his hands down my pants and play with my vagina, but never quite put his fingers all the way inside my vagina. I remember it feeling good. I wasn't scared, in fact, I wanted to keep going with him on motorcycle rides. The next ride with him, I waited until the same place he first unbuttoned my pants and instead of him doing it, I unbuttoned my pants. I don't know how to feel about that, but right now I feel shame for that little girl so desperate for love and attention. I told my mother and she said, "oh, he was only experimenting" or something like that...kind of like, boys will be boys. I remember feeling hurt by my mother's response and feeling all alone. I don't believe I've ever been the same. I became a very angry little girl. So much so, my mother didn't feel it necessary to tell a man who was 11 years older than me to leave me alone after he made it known he was in love with me. He was her drug dealer so he continued to come around the house and lived what would be a city block away from us but we lived in the country so about 500 yards or less. I was 10 left to tell a grown man to leave me alone while he told me "you love me, you just don't know it yet". What the f*ck is wrong with people?! My mother's second husband was also a very terrifying man. I don't remember much about him, but I remember being afraid all that time. I was 4 and I remember seeing him throw my mother across the room and she hit her head on a radiator and began bleeding. Another time I remember being drug by my hair because I had accidently made noise upstairs. He used a belt on us but I don't remember being hit. I just remember him snapping the belt and hiding. As an adult before my healing journey began I was sexually harassed at work. I did finally speak up to my supervisor, but the man continued. I never spoke up again because clearly that guy wasn't going anywhere and what else could I say or do to make it stop?! Other bosses took advantage of their position of power. I had sex with two men who had say in whether I could keep my job. Afraid if I rejected their advances I would no longer have a position on the team. I felt helpless. All this though...could have been so much worse. So. much. worse. I've heard stories of worse, but this is mine. F*ck people who come to this earth to hurt others. F*ck them. They will never hurt me again.