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Survivor story
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Message to a Survivor
Do not let your emotions at the current moment cloud your judgement of the future, it will get better I promise, you will not feel like this forever.
Message of Healing
Healing is started by accepting, it is so hard to accept something traumatic happened, especially is sexual harassment and assault/ rape. Because when you accept that word, you accept all the emotions that came with it. But after that extremely hard part, you have been so brave, thats when you work every day on your healing techniques, whether through therapy or simple steps like reminding yourself that you won't always feel this way and over time you will feel better.
At first I did the usual stuff from the books after the trauma, I thought it must have been my fault, I was the drunk one, I let him help me and my friend go home. I'm the one who misinterpreted his true nature and thought he would be a good guy, with simple intent. But after a few weeks of recovery and many showers, I truly accepted the fact that I was raped. Which is a daunting realisation because everything changes then, as many would know. I didnt want to be defined by being a rape survivor, or a an abused girl who got too drunk. I now know, none of it was my fault, I am not responsible for the actions of him and it DEFINITELY doesn't define me. I first accepted it when I told my best friend, the first time I've ever told anyone about any of my traumas in the past. She validated me and asked what I wanted to do about, in the best way possible she soothed me and shared her stories as well. I just wish everyone had or has a friend like her, who tells you what you need to here. I still fear the idea of telling a future partner and it haunts me in current situationships, but each time I get braver and braver and more confident in myself and I have come a long way, so I guess the point of this was to get off my chest what I havent told to many, and to let myself know that even a small anonymous post is still progress and I'm doing well. Thank u x
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.