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Survivor story
Sleep-Related Eating Disorders, Compulsive Eating, Restricting, Body Dysmorphia, and Bulimia
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Message to a Survivor
We are designed for aliveness and connection. When we are mis-treated, we might take it personally, believing that when someone mis-treats us, it is somehow a reflection of us or a sign that we deserved it, but this couldn't be further from the truth. When we are mis-treated, it is a reflection of the things going on inside of that person - not us. We are just caught in someone's psychological traffic accident. When this happens, we need repair what has been injured in us. Everything is figure-out-able. There are many resources in this day and age that can help us. Finally, our new, peaceful, lively selves, can be contagious for other people who can find inspiration from our wholesome energy.
Message of Healing
Healing means connecting with my wholesomeness in every experience of my life and doing meaningful things with my time. Physical intimacy now has a wholesome place in my life.
Grooming and SA lead to compulsive eating, difficulty falling asleep, and waking up several times every night unable to fall back asleep until I ate something, disrupting my sleep and eating cycle, leading to poor quality of sleep. Mindfulness and self-awareness revealed that my sudden feeling of starvation and half-asleep eating in the middle of the night was happening because the emotions I was suppressing during the day about being SA'd in the past were coming out at night, and my fight-flight-freeze-fawn hyper-vigilant state was waking me up in the middle of the night like a nightmare and driving me to compulsively eat. Once I understood this, I started learning how to re-view my past SA through a healthy lens, resolve my survival instincts, resolve my feelings of fear, shame, guilt, and panic, and create a new thought routine, daytime eating approach, and night time routine to help myself truly feel safe and whole before and during sleep. I now sleep through the night and eat only during the day.
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.