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I believe healing happens when I start to slowly forgive myself for what had happened. I only want to educate those who I love about these things.
7 years goes by in a blink of an eye.. 7 years of silence and self-blame. 7 years of feeling impure and out of place. My story of sexual assault started 7 years ago, I was 16 years old. I thought it was a good idea to go out with some friends to a party. Without knowing my alcohol tolerance, without realizing anything, I blacked out after a couple sips. Thinking back, I am almost positive someone may have drugged my drink.. I mean, how could I have blacked out after just a couple of sips? However, my girlfriends cleaned me up and put my guy friends shirt on me and carried me into the car while they went back in to clean up. I remember it was freezing outside as it was a winter season. After blacking out I’ve woken up a few times alone and cold in the car wondering where everyone has gone. Of course just before knocking out again someone comes into the car. I could hear the car door sliding open and close because the car was a van. I remember the sound of how a car door slide because my mom also owned a van. They all sound the same. I was too weak to move or say anything. I saw a masculine shadow coming towards me right before I knocked out. A few moments later I could feel my body telling me I need to wake up. As soon as I open my eyes I felt this entity on top of me doing exactly what I knew he was doing. Raping me. I was shocked, scared, and again freezing. I tried pushing him off. I then prayed. Being so intoxicated I knocked out again. How stupid of me. Another few moments goes by I wake up again to him whispering to me “you know you like that”. Soon after he whispered that I heard my friends laughing and walking towards the car. This scared the hell out of my rapist that he quickly put my panty back on, buckled his pants and whispered “they’re coming” and ran out of the car. I truly believe I was drugged because I knocked out again. Ugh, how foolish am I. I was not educated enough to know that these things happen so often. More than I can imagine. I only hope that I continue to forgive myself for what had happen. 7 years go by and I’m more educated than ever about these things. I hope the trauma my rapist caused me will forever haunt him til eternity.
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.