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Survivor story
7 sun’s
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Dear reader, this story contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
7yrs old. full of life and hope. new “relative” entered my life.. looking back now i could tell he was clingy.. it started small by playing games that would lead to uncomfortable moments.. having to mature quickly.. having to understand.. heavily groomed.. was given a ultimatum of allow him to do what he was doing or he said he would do it to my sisters. younger sisters. as i got older it turned darker. being dragged to back fields, drugged and would wake up in the dark.. alone.. hurting and having to find my way back, being locked in his closet for what seemed like forever… i’m sure he wife knew by now.. but paid no attention.. at 13 he thought he had gotten me pregnant. sent me a message to leave the world and he would do the same. that was my first attempt.. luckily it failed but the abuse and rape continues for another year… 7 years.. 7 years of pain, confusion, constant fear, crippling anxiety and depression. all for it to be a lie… all for cps to show up to my school, to hear my youngest sister was in fact not safe.. not like he promised. 4-6 days every week wasn’t enough for him. he turned my mother and i against each other.. he isolated me, degraded me, emotionally and mentally abused me, physically ruined me… the amount of triggers i have is insane.. i feel bad for anyone i get close to… he went to jail for 3 years… released ‘18 my ex raped me while i slept. just a couple years ago. he knew everything about my childhood. yet still did it, said it was only that one time. but who knows. that broke me.
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Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
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Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
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1. Where am I?
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5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
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Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
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Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
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