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Whispers to War Cries: Finding your voice
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Message to a Survivor
I promise that IT WAS NEVER OUR FAULT! We can be loved after being humiliated and hurt, I never thought I would get married but I am marrying the love of my life next month! I promise there is beauty after brokeness.
Message of Healing
Healing to me means to forgive the abuser but never forget the pain it caused you. Am I saying to invite that person back into your life? OF COURSE NOT! the forgiveness isn't for our abuser's peace of mind it's for US AS SURVIVORS PEACE OF MIND.
Whispers to War Cries: Finding my Voice after 26 years. I am a survivor of CSA Incestual Abuse. This was a secret I held in my heart, and no one knew except God and I. Forgive me if not everyone believes in God, but this is the only way to express my story. So at the age of 3 I was a go lucky happy toddler, until my older brother stripped me of my innocence. 7 years of my life were a blur and then around age 10 i began to remember the daily abuse and it happened until I was 15 years old and he was 23 years old. I was extremely attached to my brother not truly knowing that this bond came from years of abuse. I remember having flashbacks of having sexual memories of my brother, but then bringing myself back to reality to say hey this is my brother that's nasty. As years passed once I was 18 I would fall into a life of addiction, from alchol to drug addiction and being sexually violated throughout my adult years. My brother doesn't know I am aware that he abused me as a child, and this was all brought back to my recollection because of a spiritual encounter I had with God. God used my stepfather who may I state was not in my life at the time of the abuse, to reveal this to me. My stepfather asked me what happened to me as a child, and I froze and instantly mentioned my brother's name. 26 years of a hidden secret came to light, and while I was relieved my heart was shattered. I loved my brother dearly and to know he was the cause of my hidden trauma was even more heartbreaking. Intrafamilial abuse was on both sides of my maternal families so the apple didn't fall too far from the tree when it came to my brother. I remember instances of me calling 911 as a child, but I got scared and hung up they ended up coming and I firmly believe I was trying to tell on my brother but once my mom asked if I called the cops I got scared. I even remember slapping him in his face when I was about 12 years old, and the way he reacted was as if he was expecting it to come. I am here to say that YOU ARE NOT ALONE WE CAN OVERCOME!!!
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.