When Possum met Poodie. The destructive flight of place

WHEN POSSUM MET POODIE THE DESTRUCTIVE FLIGHT OF place BY AUTHOR I was in a mentally abusive relationship. There, I’ve said it. No taking it back now! That’s the bravery I guess one needs to develop when taking to the written word. You can leave the copy in a draw, tear it up into microscopic pieces or even burn it in an act of cathartism , but once written, the words remain in the labyrinth of time forever and can never be unwritten. So what now? Why months after the relationship ended or, in my case, the eviction notice was served via telephonic means with immediate affect, do I find myself taking to the written word? As noble a cause as “helping others survive or preventing it outright” may sound when I finally get round to submitting my application to Gift of the Givers, it is written, with candid humiliation, that 8 months later, I still find myself battling to let go. Keep going Poodle Stix– that was a brave admission. I am not of the belief that anyone can actually appreciate just how traumatic it is to be in an abusive relationship; with a man everyone else loves, in many ways admires, as he gets to don epaulets and take to the sky; until you have been there. If you knew me; my feisty tongue, my chipper attitude, my strong convictions to black and white, right and wrong, you, like me, would never fathom for one iota that I would tolerate this. How the hell did I get here? HOW THE HELL, cause that’s certainly the only place I have visited this decade, did I become this woman? I’m ashamed. I’m ashamed of who I have become. I swear if another person tries to tell me that this is for the better I might quite literally lose my shit in a public forum, which would be equally as embarrassing for the lecturer as the lecturee. I walk around with murmurs of pity and judgment as an ex-close friend, who seems to have sided with the Possum, so eloquently put it just 24hrs after the eviction notice was served – he’s not a bad guy, he just doesn’t love you enough. No shit Sherlock, but let’s not pretend for one moment that he is the victim in this fatal flight. That me staying with him during the turbulence and eventual downward spiral was some how an act of cruelty on him. I hate flying, like HATE flying. But just in case it buys me any more credit, I also sacrificed marriage, children, owning my own home so we could live in his kingdom, dogs, friendships, holidays, adventures, dreams, time. Did that comment honestly just come out of your mouth? Seriously? We have just survived a riot, a year after the largest viral infection the modern world has ever seen, my parents lost their livelihood, colleagues have found themselves contributing to the ever growing percentage of the national unemployment statistics, people have been shot in the streets, concrete structures are literally lying ashen on the floor, the country is on the verge of a civil outbreak of catastrophic proportions, and that’s the comment you feel you need to lead with? Because right this second, whilst you are in your father’s multimillion rand estate that you neither paid for nor contribute to monthly, I have no fucken idea where I will be sleeping next week. I am unable to take comfort in just one of the 4 fluff balls that have become my substitute for children, lay my head and cry on my own pillow, in my own bedroom, in a place I called home for 7-years, or distract myself by working in the garden I built from scratch and there is not one thing I can do about it, because it’s not my house – it was his kingdom remember? I have to be back in the office next week to ensure that I maintain the imperative salary that is going to keep me in a 4 wall structure, without a single fluff ball, because apparently he owns those too, in the middle of a socio-economic crisis one year after a global pandemic that saw our country hit the highest unemployment rates OF ALL TIME, and that you reckon is the sentence to lead with? Because as you so rightly put it, I don’t want to hear the truth right now, but then again, you’re just trying to be an honest friend. How inconsiderate of me. Where the FUCK is the moral high court – I demand an appointment, IMMEDIATELY! Actually, I’m going to harp here a little longer, because as the actual victim in this drama, I sit behind the keyboard right now and thereby govern the topic of conversation. I am pleasurably going to take these next few paragraphs to finally get something off my chest. I am both hoping and equally not hoping that you read this. Who are you to make a comment like that when you have been no-where these past 2 years when the dude you are so clearly siding with was on a downhill spiral? Oh, he’s your husband’s mate is he? Let me redress that comment, how totally unfair of me? Where the hell was your husband these past 2 years whilst his best friend and godfather of your miracle child that I walked your 3-year fertility journey with wasted away? At our house you say? Correct! Talking about his own problems in his first world dominion where money was not an issue, his wife was being unreasonable because she couldn’t understand why he was still on the couch not motivated to do anything after months of his wings being clipped (don’t worry friend, I had your back here), hammering on about how hard it all is – blah blah blah – we got you the first 500 times. How about asking about your mate? Cause if you are such besties, surely you can see that he is not all there? Surely, and I’m digging a bit here, but hell you can blame your wife for her initial comment there, I’m on a roll now and not going to stop. SURELY, if your life is so damn hard, you could stretch your realm of compassion to imagine how much harder it must be for someone who is not married to a billionaire’s daughter, whose partner does not work for her billionaire father, who is so insecure about himself that the thought of never getting back into the air again is so lacerating that I don’t even recognise him anymore! But give him another drink. That’s a blady good idea. The 10 on the table towering over your 3 are an obvious indication that odd numbers don’t work as a coping mechanism and perhaps if you numb him a little more, you will be able to squeeze in another 20min of some self-indulged narcissism about how hard your life is at the moment. IT’S HARD FOR EVERY SINGLE PERSON IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! LIKE EVERY SINGLE PERSON, IN EVERY SINGLE COUNTRY, ON THE PLANET CALLED EARTH. No wonder your wife is losing her patience (you see mate, I actually had your back). Some of us are waking up early, going to the office where millions have just been wiped off the accounts, crying on the phone to colleagues who didn’t deserve to lose there jobs, working under a pressure cooker of hazardous proportions to ensure that the contributions we make will aid in ensuring that 2000 more people don’t lose their jobs and hopefully, secure their salary, because right now its the only income in their household. And then, if the office wasn’t a party enough, they chase the evening down by arriving home to the weight of their partners mind and every word that comes with it often oiled up nicely with golden honey from the 6 empty bottles half on the table, half in the bin– what a rush! Who needs ecstasy? But thank you for opening with that statement. That’s what friends are for. To make you feel that after surviving the shitstorm that was those past 2 years, this specific ending was somehow both obvious and necessary and crying about it is somehow more pathetic then staying with someone who so was observably not in love with you. Buy how did i get here? To this moment! Re-reading the opening paragraphs, it would not be wrong for the observer at this point to declare Possum the victim in this fatal flight. But That’s is a chapter for another day.