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Survivor story
Maitreyi
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I was 17 back then and I met this guy at my college. He was a flirty rich bad boy type and I guess that attracted me at that teenage phase of my life. I expressed my interest in him and we soon started dating. On a particular day he send me a nude picture and I understood that we wanted to sext. Millions things were running in my mind. I was reluctant at first considering as I was always this introverted shy girl who gave preference to my culture where sex is a taboo. Upon my denial he manipulated me into sending nudes saying this is what girls do when they really love a guy. My naive and foolish self gave in. Later he wanted to have sex, I on the other hand wanted to lose my virginity only to a true love. With the same manipulation, I gave in once again. I was tired of seeing him flirt with other girls, trying to control my moves and messages only related to sex. I wanted to break up and his reaction was rather unexpected. He started shouting, verbally abusing and threatened to leak my nude pictures if I don't sleep with him again. I was afraid and ashamed to reveal this to my friends or family. My life turned upside down. I wet my pillow with tears as I realized this guy whom I loved is now ready to destroy my happy life. For many months he kept on sending these threats and I was trying to put on a happy face and hiding all the anxiety and fear I was facing from my people. A couple of his friends started sending me lewd messages and claimed they saw my nude pictures. I was devastated and wanted to burn my body. But I did the opposite. I dropped out my college, threw my phone from a cliff, cut everyone from my life and started preparing for law school entrances. Today, I study in one of the premier law schools and I am fearless since I know the legal know-how to tackle abusive exes and their revenge porn crimes. Still, the idea of being in a relationship and trusting men is scary because I have been scarred for life while I see that he leading quite a joyful life and dating a pretty girl. I felt like sharing this story to show women that you need to come out and say what's bothering you immediately and seek legal help and do not crumble like I did. Life is going to much better after whatever you faced. You need hope.
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.