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Incest Survivor
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Message to a Survivor
It does get better. Don't blame yourself or force yourself to confront or forgive anyone. And don't feel guilty for being mad at them and constructing angry fantasies against your abuser. Just don't act on them for 'revenge'. Sometimes the best revenge is a life well lived.
Message of Healing
Healing is being able to stop obsessing over your trauma. It is to find your own identity and own it. When you can grieve for your lost inner child and express anger at the adults who wronged you and those who stood by and watched, that is when you truly heal.
Everyone talks about wanting to be a kid again. "Times were so much simpler then" and "the most joyous period of my life" are the words I've heard. My innocence was robbed from me when I was 7 and my dad was 35. He touched me and I froze. Then he made me touch him which is when I pulled away and his devilish laugh still rings in my ears. Fast forward 6 years, a few months before my 13th birthday he began fondling me. He raped the day after I turned 13. He promised it would never happen again but he did it the next day. At 14, he forced me to kiss him everyday. Suddenly I realized why I never stood up to him when my mom told me- "It's okay just give him what he wants". After that I said no and kicked and screamed as he continued groping me. Anytime he would sleep next to me on vacation, he would slip his hands under my shirt. When I pushed him off angrily, he whimpered in protest and I nearly kicked him. At 17, he stopped and I never gave him a second chance though he tried to get close. I knew his promises were worth nothing. At 18, I moved out, have cut all contact with him and I'm undergoing therapy.
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