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But I’ve also encountered many good things along the way. The women I’ve met have been very kind; they listen to me with warmth and offer comforting hugs, along with advice. Whenever I feel overwhelmed, I find solace in petting my cats. They are so adorable, soft, and affectionate, and being with them brings me a sense of peace.
I hope I can move on from this. Right now, my understanding of gender feels confused. I'm afraid of being around men, and I'm also scared of the ocean and the tropics. I used to love the sea, the sunshine, and warm weather, but now I fear them. I want to love the ocean again, to love the sunshine. I want my body to stop freezing up unexpectedly, and I want to be able to interact with people normally. I hope to receive compensation from the hotel... I just... oh God... I hope the pain stops. I want to put a good ending to this chapter.
My English isn't very good, so I will be using ChatGPT to help translate my story throughout. My mother and I came to Fiji from China for a vacation. Before the trip, my mental health wasn’t in a good state. I was exhausted and needed healing. I have always loved tropical countries and heard that Fiji is beautiful. Due to the rushed nature of the trip, I didn't do much research and simply booked through a travel agency I found online before heading to Fiji. We went snorkeling at Resort, and at first, everything was great. Our first day of snorkeling was very enjoyable. Even though my English isn't very good, I was able to communicate with people on a basic level, and the scenery was beautiful, which made me feel very happy. We decided to go snorkeling again the next day, but that second day turned into a nightmare. We were greeted by two men—one was the captain, and the other was the snorkeling instructor. On the boat, our conversations were pleasant, and before we got into the water, the captain repeatedly reminded us to stay close to the instructor. Once we were in the water, the male instructor approached my mom and me in a way that felt overly intimate and uncomfortable. He intertwined his fingers with ours and held us very close while guiding us through the water. At one point, he wrapped his arm around my waist. My mask kept filling with water during the snorkeling, and he even made me wrap my legs around his waist to adjust the mask. However, since we weren't wearing any safety gear, I didn’t realize at the time how inappropriate his behavior actually was. I'm not sure how to describe it—he separated me from my mom and took me to a secluded area of the ocean. There was no one else around, no boats, just the two of us. I wasn’t wearing a life jacket, and with my severe nearsightedness, I couldn’t see anything. On top of that, my mask kept filling with water, making it impossible for me to escape... it was a nightmare. He kissed me, touched my breasts and buttocks, and inserted his fingers into my private area. He kept saying he wanted to 'fuck me.' I refused to let it go that far and also refused to tell him my room number. But he didn't give up and kept harassing me for half an hour. It was only after I repeatedly asked about my mother's safety that he finally took me back to the boat. Up until that point, I kept blaming myself, wondering if my inability to clearly communicate or my uncertain attitude had somehow given the wrong impression. But when my mother returned to the boat with a distressed look on her face and told me that she, too, had been sexually harassed, I realized that it wasn’t my communication or attitude at fault. This was sexual harassment, plain and simple. "I am still seeking help from various sources. I hope to receive the compensation I deserve, I want him to be held accountable for his actions, and more than anything, I want to stop feeling this pain."
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Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
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Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
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