Hope and Survivor

Hope and Survivor Hope is one of the most powerful words out there! There are different meanings of the term HOPE. To understand the importance of Hope, you need to think of your past. The past can be a survivor of any kind, such as being sexually abused, abuse of alcohol, or abuse of legal/illegal drugs. Here are some meanings of the term HOPE: in Greek, (Eplis) Expectation of evil, fear, an expectation of good, hope, joyful and confident expectation of eternal salvation from hope, in hope, having hope. And in what we Hope for and assurance regarding what we do not see. Hope offers trust & confidence in someone’s life. Hope is the combination of many things: faith, confidence, and optimism. Hope and Survivor, why put these two together? I am a survivor of being sexually abused. I had hoped that someday I would be given the opportunity to tell my story; I also have seen the other side of being a survivor: seeing young men using drugs and alcohol, in-an-attempt-to hide from their problems. I have also been witness to many nasty things happening to someone, whether male or female, who has been abused. The thing I hope for in life is the opportunity to help one person who has been sexually abused and/or suffering from a multitude of abuse problems by telling them, “You are not alone,” and there is someone who can help you. I did not have the opportunity to confront my abuse until last April. I had the hope that when I visited my parents at the cemetery, I could yell at my father about him abusing me when I was young and apologize to my mother for not letting her know. I always have a bible verse that can help someone. Ephesian 4:31-32, Get Rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger, brawling, and slander, along with every form of malice, be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other Just as in Christ God forgave you. As a Survivor, I tell my story, hoping that Others will not go through what I went through without the support necessary to be positive in one’s life. Remembering this/these episodes remains in your mind for long periods of time, especially if you do not have a support group, as I did not have when I was a young person. Thank God for two groups that have guided me these past two years with HOPE and positive words. “CITA Rescue Mission” and “Men Passionate About Christ.” And an additional group has been working with me for the past year, “Project Response.” They have ALL been a blessing to me. The medical staff and administrative teams have been there for me every step along the way. One more final note: I was not an “only” child – I come from a good-sized family. The other members of my family did not know of the “abuse,” no clue about my lifestyle until a year ago when I spoke with one of my brothers. He had some inclination that something was wrong. I finally told him that I was abused by “Dad” when I was a child and told him I had held it in for all those many years. Thank God he listened to me. He confessed to me that he was also verbally abused by Dad. Until this day, He and his wife have been my most robust support in this matter. I can speak with them about my issues at any time. My wish is for any person suffering from similar types of abuse does not to hold in your pain for long periods of time. It can destroy you physically and mentally. Harboring this fear/pain for many years placed my health on a never-ending roller-coaster. It can do severe damage to your mind and your health. Please, whenever possible, speak with someone whom you “trust.” Find “positive” support groups to help you – they are Out-there, waiting to assist. I wish I knew of these groups when I was young. The stress one suffers alone can have so many negative effects on both your Physical and Mental health. In the coming months, the other co-founder and I are working on a series of articles and creating a website to help other survivors. I understand there are many sites; this is another tool that will help all types of Survivors. Again, there is Hope for anyone that goes through any abuse. Healing isn’t just about pain. It’s about learning to love yourself. As you move from feeling like a victim to being a proud survivor, you will have glimmers of hope, pride, and satisfaction. Those are natural by-products of healing. – Author: Ellen Bass