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Survivor story
Country- Rape 2017, Name 1
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Message to a Survivor
Rapists, pedophiles, anyone that does not respect the concept of consent are all low lives. They are the lowest and most evil people the world has to offer. You are so much better, so much pure, and so so strong. Don't let them win. We might have had to go to hell and back, but it doesn't mean we give up because we are resilience. And what we have the potential to become, because of our hardships faced, we will achieve because we are stronger than those cowards.
Message of Healing
Healing means not letting the PTSD get the best of me. At it's worse, I suffered panic attacks, nightmares where I'd wake up sweating and crying, daily the traumatic events would replay like a movie that was on a loop- this went on for several years. I would be extremely depressed, lay in a dark room for days on end just reliving the horrible traumas. I was so angry. It felt like I was robbed of my life. There was no joy or happiness, just pain. People in Country are not nice as well, it is very much a blame the victim type of culture, and I honestly hate there, and the police, despite a recored confession from the rapist (Name 1), and the testimony of two witnesses who can confirm that it was in fact sexual assault/rape, still has not taken action since 2017-2023. I honestly still have a lot of anger and range and I need some more support. I don't know what it is like to be healed, and I feel especially triggered now because of the nasty, degrading disgusting things that my brother Name 2 texted me on WhatsApp this week
Hi my name is Survivor Name and this is my sexual assault story. During Date, I was raped by someone I knew for a couple years and he was not given any consequences because the legal system in my country Country is; well it might as well not exist. My case is still pending in 2023. His name is Name 1, he is about Identifying Features His ego is titanic and when I reported the assault, he proceeded to spread the rumor that we were dating for a long time and that I lied about being raped because he 'broke my heart'. Which is funny because before that terrible night, I had not seen him in months and there is no evidence to support his claim. When I reported him, I blocked his phone number, so he proceeded to call everyone in my family going into detail about how he raped me, the fact that he knew I was not in a state of mind to give consent, and every little gruesome detail of what he did to me. My parents recorded his confession and gave it to the police who have yet to do anything. My whole family was and is still not supportive of my healing journey. Especially my unfortunately biological brother, Name 2 Name 2 Phone Number Anyway so this week actually he spam messaged me a bunch of hate (as he usually does based on no rational logic). So he is very condescending, aggressive, lacks empathy for others, homophobic, racist, all the great things about society, and this is the newest one he is a wanna-be rapist. Yes, he texted me that he wants to take turns raping me with Name 1, yes that's right, my biological "brother". He went into disgusting detail and he knows that I have also been sexually abused as a kid by two alcoholic older men and he said he wants to bring them back from the grave to finish me off because I am a "nasty whore". Then he went on to say how I made it all up for attention and to get things, he said he purchases illegal drugs from my rapist, Name 1, he said I belong in a straight jacket, photoshopped a picture of my face onto a straight jacket (because I had and still suffer from severe PTSD, and had past suicidal thoughts). He said he wished I was successful at committing suicide, he called my excellent therapist whom I have the utmost respect for a "crazy person doctor"- yes he doesn't care about the topic of mental health. Fun fact: his current girlfriend used to see the exact same therapist. He is just hateful towards women and I guess wants to start a rape club or something. He is truly an awful person. My grandmother is financially responsible for all of my siblings and myself and he has access to her bank accounts because she doesn't know how to do online banking as she is old, basically he did a full financial take over of her accounts and won't give her the passwords to her own accounts. He now believes her money is his and threatened to make my life hell, blocked me from my grandmother's phone, deleted her chat in WhatsApp that had a lot of important information, against my grandmother's will- elderly abuse. "Men" like Name 2 and Name 1 are not real men, they are abusive cowards, and I am strong and I have a voice so I'm sharing my story. And I know I put their names there, they can't hide forever. Other survivors of similar sexual assaults and abuse, please feel free to reach out to me to talk, I could use some extra support right now, thank you for reading.
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Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
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3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
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Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
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Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
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Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
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