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Survivor story
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No one really prepares you for what comes after sexual violence. The act itself brings unbearable pain, but the tragedy and emotional burden after are what hurts the most. Most days I feel like I am treading water. Kicking just fast enough to stay afloat with my head just barely reaching the surface. My face tilted towards the sun as my nose inhales deeply. It’s hard to keep my feet kicking just enough to gasp for air, but I can do it. I am exhausted. But other days I am in a deep, dark hole in the earth. Rain trickles down on me and I can smell the crisp smell of the dirt. I am alone in the cold, huddled in a fetal position, looking up into the sky. As I’m looking up, the hole tightens and the dirt from the sides of the hole loosen and come crashing onto me. I reach my arm out and try to push the earth off of me, but it is too heavy. I am buried. There are some days where I am safe. My body lays flat on the sand and I am in control - no fear of drowning or being buried. The waves reach the tips of my toes, washing the guilt, shame, and fear. I am free.
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.