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Message to a Survivor
They can steal our bodies. They can try to take what will never be theirs. But they cannot and will not EVER break our spirit. Know that your healing is within YOUR control and you have all that you need within you to take your power back. You are not alone. You are not unworthy of the best things. You are brave. You are beautiful. You are healing. You are loved.
Message of Healing
Healing means taking every moment of the day loving yourself through it. Giving yourself grace and patience to feel those big a** feelings and be okay not being okay. Healing is realiZing you are no longer accepting “victim” as your label & seeing yourself for the warrior and survivor you are. Healing is loving those pieces other broke and investing yourself in building a new foundation. Healing to me means messy but worth all the blood, sweat, and tears.
At 13 my mom and her husband were out of town on a business trip. I was supposed to stay at my dads but he wasn’t to be home for a time. My boyfriend at the time was 15. And like the naïve young girl I was I allowed him to our home. He coerced me into showing him my room. Then proceeded to force me into my bed. I told him no over and over and over again.....eventually I said yes. I couldn’t move. Couldn’t escape. I just complied. I have never considered that the day I lost my virginity. I consider it a day that someone stole something that was most sacred to me. — He had the audacity to try and contact me 3 years ago out of the blue. 14 years after he raped me. As if it never happened.....I have been sexually assaulted/physically assaulted by men who wouldn’t take no for an answer 6 times in my life. I hold no trust in men and feel that they all want something from me, just my existence is enough.
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.