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Survivor story
Revenge is a life well lived.
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Message to a Survivor
What happened to you is horrible and it shouldn't have. But nor I or you can take it back. You can never be the same person as you were before and it's something that you need to learn to accept. But don't let what happened to you define you. Revenge is a life well lived, remember that. Used what happened to you as a power, do not let it stop you. You can do it, use it as a strength. If you got through this you can get through anything. So go to therapy, take care of yourself, get your life on track and move foreword. I believe in you.
Message of Healing
Healing to me means choosing to dedicate the rest of my life to this issue. I am going to make him pay, I am going to make the camp pay. And then I will continue to fight, to make the punishment for people like him harsher in my country, to protect victims and their rights. I am not going to let what happened to me be forgotten. It was horrible, but I am going to use that as motivation to change how current things are.
I was raped at a summer camp. The camp knew that he was above the age limit of the camp (he was over 25), and they knew that he is a pedophile and they still let him come back. They are as much at fault for him raping me as he is. But the camp is still operating and that man is still living his best life, like nothing happened. It's been almost 2 years and the police investigation is still ongoing, but it's safe to say nothing will come out of it. The police told me they don't believe me when I first made my complaint the day after the rape. And they still don't. I am so done with it. He made me see things I can never forget. Therapy isn't helping, my therapist is calling what I have 'complex PTSD'. Which in other words mean my whole view of the world is fucked. I cannot trust anyone. Because so many people let what happened to me happen, because they didn't do a single thing about it.
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.