Can it count as abuse even if this other person is also a woman and was around 10 years old? I feel like everyone is going to say that it doesn't count as abuse just for this reason.

Thank you so much for this question. First and foremost, it’s important to remember that only you can define what happened to you. Sexual violence is deeply personal, and how you understand and process your experiences is entirely up to you. While we aim to provide support and information, please know that we are not here to label or define your experience. Your experience is yours and yours alone.

Sexual abuse can occur in various forms and can involve individuals of any gender and age. The gender and age of the person who harmed you does not diminish the severity or impact of the abuse you experienced. Abuse is defined by actions that violate consent and boundaries, causing harm and distress to the survivor. Regardless of the identities of those involved, if you have experienced unwanted sexual behaviors that have caused you pain and suffering, it is valid to recognize it as abuse.

It's understandable to fear that others may dismiss or invalidate your experiences based on misconceptions about gender and age dynamics. However, it's essential to prioritize your own understanding of your experiences and seek support from individuals and resources that will validate your feelings. Your feelings are valid, and you deserve to be heard and supported as you navigate your healing journey.

You might consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who specializes in trauma to further process what you went through and help you determine next steps. They can offer a safe space to explore your feelings and develop coping strategies to help you heal. You are not alone, and there are communities and resources available to provide you with the support and validation you deserve. This is your journey, and you have the right to navigate it in the way that feels right for you. Thank you again for trusting us with this question.