Name , was only 6 years old

I was around six years old. I close my eyes and it's like reliving the memory. I remember the sound of the television, the smell of the breakfast I was eating—I was just watching cartoons. He, a man around 50 years old, picked me up and positioned me on his lap, and slid his hand under my panties. I was six years old, and that's where my story of sexual abuse began, a story I wish I hadn't had to experience. I spoke up because my mother had always taught me that no one could touch my private parts, but at that time my mother didn't have the resources. We were living at a cousin's house (my abuser's daughter), and no one believed me. They said it was my imagination. Other events occurred, perpetrated by the same person. He stole my innocence and shattered me into pieces. Although I spoke out the first time, I remained silent the other times because no one believed me, no one protected me, and no one listened except my mother. But at that time, she was struggling with alcoholism, and the entire family turned their backs on us. After a while, I stopped seeing my abuser, but eight years later, it happened again, this time at the hands of my aunt's husband (my mother's sister). They have been married since my aunt was 16. We went to visit my aunt in December, and my mother went out with her to buy Christmas decorations. My brother, my cousin (my aunt's son), and I stayed behind in the care of my aunt's husband, who was a police officer at the time. I was playing with my cousin and brother when he called me over. He was sitting in the rocking chair watching the news when he sat me on his lap, and I immediately froze. The last time someone sat me on their lap, he groped me. This time was different; he only stroked my legs, and I only felt something hard brush against my buttocks. I froze and didn't know what to do until I finally found the strength to get down. I never spoke about my second abuser, and I never have. I no longer live in Colombia, but when I go back, I have to act like nothing happened, even though inside I feel so much. For a long time, I repressed everything that happened to me. I always said it didn't affect me, and now, at 22, it's haunting me. I'm engaged to the love of my life, I feel like he's a gift that God and life gave me after so much torment, but sometimes when we're about to be intimate and he touches me, I feel a rage inside me, the kind of rage that makes you want to punch that person in the face, and I don't understand it, he hasn't done anything to me? He has only ever helped me and treated me with love, showing me how much he respects and loves me. I always wanted to avoid the subject and repress it, not talk about it and pretend it didn't affect me, but I've reached a point where I have fits of rage that I don't even recognize, where I end up hurting myself or taking that anger out on my fiancé. A few nights ago, finally, in the middle of a fit of rage where I ended up banging my head against the wall, I just kept repeating, "He won't leave me alone, he's haunting me, get him out of my head." I was in a state of crisis, and my fiancé could only hold me in his arms while he asked me who was haunting me. It was the first time I said his name out loud, " Name , the man who raped me and stole my innocence won't leave my head." I couldn't speak; the tears and screams of despair were more powerful than words. At that moment, I realized that no matter how much I've grown, that 6-year-old girl is still inside me. Angry, sad, and broken. My partner is a lawyer, so he was the one who told me about the #MeToo movement. He told me to seek justice and report it, but if I wasn't ready because of fear, to explore the options that #MeToo offers and perhaps start by sharing my story. For a few days, I would open the website and just freeze, but today I found the courage. I no longer deserve to be a prisoner of pain that wasn't my fault, even though for a long time I've felt it was. I feel lost, and I don't want my past to define my present. Life is giving me beautiful opportunities, but my sexual abuse is holding me back. How do I get rid of this anger I feel inside? Why have I become such a sour and bitter person? Why do I get angry about everything? Why can't I enjoy intimacy with my partner if he's gentle with me? It seems that the more gentle he is, the more anger I feel inside. I feel so alone and lost.