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Survivor story
Is it sexual assault??
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So there was this guy I was in a relationship with and I went to go visit him for a sleepover I didn’t really think much was going to happen that night since the relationship was still pretty new but unfortunately something did happen we were just sitting on the bed and we started kissing and it led to other things to him taking my pants off and trying to have sex with me which is something I wasn’t sure of I didn’t even know if I wanted to do it but he was already on top of me and I begged him to stop I told him I don’t want to do this anymore I started crying trying to push him off me but it didn’t help he just continued while I was crying and he finally got off me and just slept while I cried throughout the rest of the night and I wasn’t really sure how to feel , I continued with the relationship don’t judge me I know and I somehow managed to suppress that memory but sometimes I would ask him why he did what he did and the answer was always I’m trying to ruin his day but eventually the memory resurfaced again once I broke up with him and I don’t really know how to deal with it, it feels like I am reliving it once again and I just keep beating myself up for not breaking up with him soon , for even just interacting with him I hate him and I hate what he did to me I hate feeling like this like there could have been something else I should have done to prevent it from happening
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.