How can I forgive my father, now deceased, for molesting me?

How can I forgive my father, now deceased, for molesting me? I understand how people feel, and it is okay to feel anger towards that person who had stolen your childhood. I never forgave my father, and you also don't have to. I have been happy that my father, the molester, is dead, and now he can't abuse any more children. Look around at the innocent faces of my siblings, nephew, and nieces whose childhood has been saved and rejoice in it. The past we dream of is lost, but we still hold the key to our bright and happy future. A Good Friend sent this quote about how to forgive, "Forgiveness is taking the knife out of your back and not using it to hurt anyone else, no matter how they hurt you." Emotionally, the hurt never goes away; however, through the healing journey, what changes are the pain's control over the survivor's life. Survivors of sexual abuse have many losses to grieve, such as the loss of innocence and the loss of protection from someone they trusted. The pain of the memories, for most survivors, is initially likened to the destruction from a bomb blast. Still, the pain can take a back seat in the overall perspective of, and functioning in, life. Remembering opens the door to the future and the possibility of forgiveness. A significant hurdle for most victims is placing guilt where it belongs, not on the victim’s shoulders. When that milestone is passed, the Holy Spirit can begin to work in their heart regarding the possibility of forgiveness. God wants to heal the deep hurts of your sexual past. Healing is available, but it has to be individually applied to each wounding of the human spirit. The first step in the healing of sexual abuse is gaining the courage to face your pain. This process may be time-consuming and may require the help of others. Because broken trust is always involved at some level, you must deal with that fear which you fear most: recalling the trauma and becoming vulnerable again. Sometimes it's better to forgive; don't do it for the abuser; do it for yourself. Once you forgive the abuser, you'll take a bunch of weight off-of yourself. Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could be any more different and accepting past as it is. - Oprah Winfrey. Forgiveness can be proposed as a tool to help and heal the pain and suffering of victims of many sexual abuse cases. Many states that “Everyone can heal and have a great life,” but along with living that great life, one must also acknowledge what is really happening inside - not push it away. When feelings and memories are acknowledged, they are eventually released, and survivors heal. At that point, if they wish to forgive their perpetrators, fine. If not, that is also fine. But the goal is for the survivor to release the past and focus on their future. And, most importantly, acknowledge how awesome they really are. Please visit my social media page at link