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Survivor story
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My sisters visiting home since her summer job wrapped up, and she invited her boyfriend since they’re madly in love or something. Growing up, I was the one she was in love with. I was the one she wanted to date. The one she made advances on even when I’d scram no, the one who’d leer at me when I changed. She loved me then, but now she loves her boyfriend. She talks to him the same way she used to talk to me—she loves him the same way she loved me. I still live in fear of her making advances again—I watch her like a hawk when she walks behind me, I scream at her and belittle her, I make it clear that if she pulls anything I will make sure she can’t get away with it like she could when I was small, naive, and scared of my parents. But despite it all, I feel heartbroken. She just discarded me like I was nothing the second she found a more receptive person. She doesn’t even fucking talk about me to her friends, she doesn’t even mention me. I’m glad that her and her boyfriend are happy but it doesn’t feel fair that she gets to live her life like nothing happened when I’m stuck terrified of every person in my life becoming like her. I wish shed acknowledge what she did to me. I wish she realized it was wrong. It makes me sick that she doesn’t know, and it makes me sick that she doesn’t care enough about me to even try questioning her worldview. It never should’ve happened, but that doesn’t mean it should be swept under the rug because it did.
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.