Is it weird that me a (girl) and another girl used to touch each other inappropriately when we were really young?

Thank you so much for reaching out. Many children do engage in some form of exploration with peers during their early years, and this often happens because children are curious about their bodies as they learn and grow. What you're describing is actually quite common and falls within the range of typical childhood sexual behavior. Many children engage in exploratory behaviors with peers, including same-gender peers, as part of their natural development and curiosity about bodies.

What might feel confusing now is that, as an adult, you have more knowledge and a different perspective on what it means to touch someone in a sexual or intimate way. This can bring up uncomfortable questions about whether those childhood moments were harmful or inappropriate. Children are naturally curious about their bodies and others' bodies, and this curiosity often manifests in various ways including touching, looking, or playing games that involve bodies. When this happens between peers of similar ages in a context of mutual exploration, it's generally considered a normal part of child development rather than something concerning or harmful.

Childhood sexual exploration, particularly when it involves children who are close in age, is often a normal part of development if it occurs without pressure or coercion and stops when someone appears uncomfortable. However, it can become concerning if there was a bigger age gap, ongoing pressure, or feelings of distress at the time. The way you remember feeling during and after those experiences matters more than the label of "weird." If, at the time, you each had a childlike curiosity and no one felt compelled or overly upset, many professionals would view it as part of normal childhood exploration. On the other hand, if one of you felt scared, confused, or was pressured, that can complicate how you feel about it now.

It's important to understand that these experiences don't define your sexuality, create lasting harm, or predict future behavior. Many adults have similar memories from childhood and go on to have healthy relationships and sexual development. Sometimes people feel shame, confusion, or worry when they remember these childhood experiences, especially as adults looking back with more mature understanding. These feelings are also completely normal and understandable.

It can help to talk about these memories with someone you trust if they still bother you. Some people choose to mention it to a friend, family member, or even a professional who understands childhood sexual experiences and can offer perspective. You deserve clarity and peace of mind about what happened. It may ease the weight of your uncertainty and help you feel less alone in processing these memories. Remember, you are not at fault for having childhood curiosity, and it is okay to reflect on how you felt then and how you feel now. You are allowed to make sense of it at your own pace, and you deserve compassion and understanding as you reflect on your childhood experiences. Thank you for trusting us with this question!