Is it harmful for a teenager (14) to show kids younger than them porn as a joke or is that considered child-on-child-sexual abuse (COCSA)? And what if they immediately regret doing so afterwards?

Exposing children to pornography is harmful and inappropriate, regardless of the age of the person showing it or their intentions. Even if done as a "joke," it can have serious negative impacts on children's development, understanding of relationships and sexuality, and mental wellbeing.

However, situations involving young teenagers require nuanced understanding...

A 14-year-old showing pornography to younger children, while very serious, differs from an adult doing so. Teenagers are still developing judgment and impulse control. They may not fully grasp the impact of their actions or appropriate boundaries, especially regarding sexual content.

This doesn't excuse the behavior, but it's important to recognize that a 14-year-old is also a child needing guidance, education, and support. The focus should be on understanding why it happened, preventing recurrence, and ensuring all involved receive appropriate help.

If you did this as a 14-year-old...recognizing your past action was wrong shows growth. It's normal to feel regret or anxiety. Remember you were young and still learning about boundaries. While harmful, this action doesn't define you. Consider speaking with a counselor or trusted adult to process these feelings and learn about healthy boundaries and consent.

If you were the younger child exposed to this content...I'm sorry this happened to you. It wasn't your fault, regardless of the other person's age. Your feelings are valid. Please talk to a trusted adult, school counselor, or therapist for support. They can help you process this experience in a safe environment. You're not alone, and help is available.

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