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As I grow older, I have realized sharing my stories has made me more connected to the people I love and I have felt a burden taking off myself. Those experience are so much to carry alone. There is so much healing in telling your story, getting the support and help you need.
Message of Healing
Therapy. I have a great relationship with my therapist and we have been able to work through a lot of my trauma. Healing is accepting it was not your fault. Healing is reminding yourself that you are capable and not incompetent. Healing is telling yourself that you are deserving of love.
Growing up was completely different from my older brother and myself. He had a great friend that lived one block away and my brother has never known that his sister was molested by his friend for over 9 years. I normally relive my experience in my had consistently and have no emotional attachment due to how sick I feel about how I was a child. Every sleepover. Right after my brother went to bed. He’d come to my room. I’d pretend I was asleep. He abused my when he little brother was asleep in the same room as me. He abused me when my brother would run to the bathroom quickly. He abused me under a blanket in the back seat with my father driving. I asked him to stop so many times, he never listening. I tried telling friends, they never believed me. I am not attached to these emotions. I feel emptiness from my experience. 7 year old should not experience sexual abuse.
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.