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Slow and Steady
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You don't have to hold this by yourself. We are here for each other, I know there is someone out there for me and I am here for you. I am sending you care and support.
Message of Healing
I want to get to a point where I have a healthy scar. I know it won't go away all the way. There is a piece of me that has been broken irreparably. But also it isn't an open wound. Not anymore. But it flares up sometimes. I think healing to me is finding a healthy relationship to my scar. Dressing the wound, soothing it when it flares, and talking about it freely when appropriate.
I was raped by a co-worker, technically a superior, 3 years ago. My anniversary was this week and it's been on my mind in a painful way. I have been in therapy and I told some people in my life the basic story over the years. It's been a very long journey so far, but there is still so much further to go. I have so much more healing that needs to happen. I am healed enough where I'm not in a constant state of crisis. But there is so far to go. I am probably ready for the next step in the healing process and I think that might be telling my story somehow, anonymously for now. Even just trying to organize it and try to make sense of it by organizing it somehow in my mind or on paper. There are so many memories and feelings that are all jumbled up. I think writing about them might help pull them apart and create more space for it.
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.