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Survivor story
i still feel gross but im working on it
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Message to a Survivor
sometimes you might feel gross in your own skin or in the clothes you wear and thats normal and your feelings are valid i usually just take a shower to remind myself that im clean and wear the clothes where its safe to remind myself im not going to be hurt everywhere i go you got this and i wish you the best
Message of Healing
i may still feel gross but i want to help people like me so they dont go through what i did nobody deserves to go through that pain i couldnt help myself and others then, so i'll help them now
i was sexually harassed at around 7-8 years old by a kid in my class. he spread open my legs during gym and i didnt know what to do so i just sat there and he tried to pull my pants away so he could see my underwear, and he did and he yelled out what they looked like to embarrass me even more and people laughed at me and mocked me and i just felt so gross i still go to school with him and it makes me feel horrible every time i see him get praise i feel disgusting in my own skin and i havent worn shorts in years because of him i dont forgive and i never forget
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.