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Survivor story
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Message to a Survivor
Tell your story. Tell it to anyone you are comfortable with. Shame does when stories are told in safe places.
Message of Healing
Healing is finally facing you and getting justice. Healing is finally sharing my story without shame.
I was 19, out for a run. You approached me to ask for a band aid. I’m nice, I stopped to say no and tell you how to get to the closest restroom. I started to run away and you held a knife to my throat and pulled me into a wooded area. I had recently read in 17 magazine that if you’re ever attacked to make yourself as human as possible. ‘My friend Lisa is waiting for me’ I said. You told me to shut up and then told me to undress. You raped me. You were my ‘first’ - I had been waiting for the right person - you took that from me. You ran off and were never found… until April of this year. You came back into my life after 20+ years and ripped it apart again. But this time, I get to tell my story to a jury of your peers. I now get my turn to exert power over you. I get to watch you be sentenced and be sent to prison; hopefully for the rest of your life, because I wasn’t your only victim, you have many.
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.