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Survivor story
am i alone in this ?
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be brave
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i still don't know yet
Someone made out with me at a party knowing my severe level of intoxication and they were sober. I confided in a person with what happened because that event was bothering me and i felt like i was taken advantage of, and for context i have a very small circle and i don't know too many people, i never knew that person would treat my story like cheap gossip. The person who made out with me when i was drunk then knew that i confided in a person with my story , having too many friends they starting spreading a reverse narrative saying i pressured them to kiss me , that i was crying and was too clingy , that i made them uncomfortable , the narrative soon transformed into me harrassing them and not the opposite, this event has been quite shocking and i can't seem to believe what happened, i can't seem to accept how can someone accuse you of something they did, i didn't defend myself or try to say anything about it because my nervous system can't handle gossip , attention and problems so i just kept quite and let them and their friends gang up against me knowinf i'm innocent, i want to know if there are similar people with my sorty , people whom their harrassers accused them and tried to portray them as a harrasser and started spreading a counter nagative , is it only me ? or did other people experience that too ?
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.