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Survivor story
Can't call it r*pe
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Message to a Survivor
To anyone, who find themselves in the waves of ambiguouity. Not knowing what to call what happened to them and feel like a fraud for admitting it. You are seen. You are not crazy. Your story is your own.
Message of Healing
Healing to me, has been a journey of acceptance and grief. Grieving the sliver of innocence I knew prior and the things it has made me think. But accepting that it has happened and the only way forward is through it all..
If you take 13 and multiply it by four you get 52. If you multiply it by 5 you get 65. My assaulter was at least four to five times my age. He took advantage of me in a vulnerable moment. Choosing to grope a young girl in the dark of night while her friends were in the other side of the door. I know I was not raped but it feels almost wrong to consider it assault. Like I'm using a label that is not meant for me to use. But I know no other way to describe what happened aside from that. I didn't realize how much wrong that behavior was until weeks later. I still am trying to wrap my head around everything years later. I am less trusting and have a sharper personality because of it. All I do know, is that it was wrong. And his a** can burn.
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Grounding activity
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.