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title: 幼い頃、私より少し年下の家族（1.5～2歳くらいの年齢差）と、最初は無邪気な「ままごと」ゲームだったのが、不適切な接触に発展した経験がありました。最初は無害に思えましたが、続くうちに不快になりました。私が参加をやめようとすると、彼らは私が「意地悪」だと親に言うと脅し、それが怖くて続けざるを得ませんでした。その後、私はしぶしぶ参加するか、これらの行為が行われている間は孤立していました。これらの行為は1年も続きませんでしたが、特に私が年上の子供だったため、今では激しい羞恥心と罪悪感に悩まされています。私が不快感を覚え、強制されたにもかかわらず、年上だったからといって私が被害者と見なされるかどうか疑問に思っています。本当に悪いのは私なのでしょうか？これらの子供時代の経験をどう理解すべきでしょうか？虐待だったのでしょうか？この罪悪感をどう処理すればよいのでしょうか？ ~ Our Wave コミュニティ
description: <p>私たちにこの件を信頼してくださりありがとうございます。仲間や家族との性的探求を含む幼少期の経験は、特に成長して新しい視点を獲得するにつれて、複雑で処理が難しい場合があります。特に年齢が近い子供は、成長の一環として探求的な行動をとることがよくあります。しかし、これらの活動が強制、操作、または脅迫を伴う場合、有害...
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# 幼い頃、私より少し年下の家族（1.5～2歳くらいの年齢差）と、最初は無邪気な「ままごと」ゲームだったのが、不適切な接触に発展した経験がありました。最初は無害に思えましたが、続くうちに不快になりました。私が参加をやめようとすると、彼らは私が「意地悪」だと親に言うと脅し、それが怖くて続けざるを得ませんでした。その後、私はしぶしぶ参加するか、これらの行為が行われている間は孤立していました。これらの行為は1年も続きませんでしたが、特に私が年上の子供だったため、今では激しい羞恥心と罪悪感に悩まされています。私が不快感を覚え、強制されたにもかかわらず、年上だったからといって私が被害者と見なされるかどうか疑問に思っています。本当に悪いのは私なのでしょうか？これらの子供時代の経験をどう理解すべきでしょうか？虐待だったのでしょうか？この罪悪感をどう処理すればよいのでしょうか？

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トピックス:[幼少期の経験を理解する](/ja/learn?tags=making-sense-of-childhood-experiences)

私たちにこの件を信頼してくださりありがとうございます。仲間や家族との性的探求を含む幼少期の経験は、特に成長して新しい視点を獲得するにつれて、複雑で処理が難しい場合があります。特に年齢が近い子供は、成長の一環として探求的な行動をとることがよくあります。しかし、これらの活動が強制、操作、または脅迫を伴う場合、有害になる可能性があります。

あなたが説明したことから、いとこは、あなたがもうやりたくないゲームを続けるよう、脅してあなたに圧力をかけていたようです。これは、年齢差がわずかであるにもかかわらず、いとこがあなたに対して支配力を行使していたという力関係を示しています。あなたは少し年上でしたが、恐怖を感じ、自分の意志に反して参加せざるを得なかったようです。

もっと早く止めるべきだったのか、あるいは年上だから自分が悪いのかと自問しながら、罪悪感や恥ずかしさを感じるのは当然です。しかし、子どもの頃は、境界線や同意、自己主張の仕方についてまだ学んでいたことを忘れないことが大切です。子どもは大人のように複雑な状況を切り抜ける能力がないため、責任をあなたに負わせるべきではありません。

自分の体験をどう解釈し、どう分類するかはあなたしか決められませんが、あなたが話してくれた内容から判断すると、あなたは自分が嫌な活動に参加するよう圧力をかけられたようです。これは、あなたが加害者ではなく被害者だったことを示唆しています。こうした体験の後には、恥ずかしさや自責の念に駆られることがよくありますが、起こったことに対してあなたが責められるわけではないことを知っておいてください。

これらの感情を処理する際にサポートと指導を提供できるメンタルヘルスの専門家に相談すると役立つかもしれません。セラピストは、あなたの感情に対処し、これらの経験があなたの人生に与える影響を理解し、癒しと自己思いやりを見つけるのを手伝ってくれます。これらの複雑な感情を乗り越えるには、自分に優しくしてください。あなたのストーリーを共有していただき、改めて感謝します。あなたは一人ではありません。これを乗り越えるためのサポートが受けられます。

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Australia\]Australia](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=au)[\[Image: Bolivia\]Bolivia](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=bo)[\[Image: Canada\]Canada](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=ca)[\[Image: Chile\]Chile](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=cl)[\[Image: Colombia\]Colombia](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=co)[\[Image: Costa Rica\]Costa Rica](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=cr)[\[Image: Cuba\]Cuba](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=cu)[\[Image: Dominican Republic\]Dominican Republic](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=do)[\[Image: Ecuador\]Ecuador](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=ec)[\[Image: El Salvador\]El Salvador](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=sv)[\[Image: Equatorial Guinea\]Equatorial Guinea](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=gq)[\[Image: Guatemala\]Guatemala](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=gt)[\[Image: Honduras\]Honduras](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=hn)[\[Image: Ireland\]Ireland](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=ie)[\[Image: Japan\]Japan](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=jp)[\[Image: Mexico\]Mexico](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=mx)[\[Image: Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=ni)[\[Image: New Zealand\]New Zealand](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=nz)[\[Image: Panama\]Panama](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=pa)[\[Image: Paraguay\]Paraguay](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=py)[\[Image: 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Spain\]Spain](/answer/when-i-was-young-i-had-experiences-with-a-family-member-slightly-younger-than-me-about-15-2-years-age-difference-during-what-began-as-innocent-games-of-house-but-evolved-into-inappropriate-touching-while-it-seemed-harmless-at-first-i-became-uncomfortable-as-it-continued-when-i-tried-to-stop-participating-they-threatened-to-tell-their-parent-about-me-being-mean-which-scared-me-into-continuing-after-that-i-would-either-participate-reluctantly-or-dissociate-during-these-encounters-though-these-interactions-lasted-less-than-a-year-i-now-struggle-with-intense-shame-and-guilt-particularly-because-i-was-the-older-child-despite-my-own-discomfort-and-the-coercion-i-experienced-i-question-whether-i-can-be-considered-a-victim-since-i-was-older-am-i-actually-the-one-at-fault-how-should-i-understand-these-childhood-experiences-were-they-abuse-how-do-i-process-this-guilt-386?country=es)[\[Image: United Kingdom\]United 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