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title: 私は子供の頃の体験を理解しようとしています。私が12歳くらいのとき、1、2歳年下の地元の女の子が、私が興味がないにもかかわらず、私と「お医者さんごっこ」を始めました。彼女は私の性器を触りましたが、私は気にしませんでした。しかし、彼女の性器を触るように強要しました。私が拒否すると、彼女は従わなければ虐待したと訴えると脅しました。プレッシャーを感じて、私はしぶしぶ参加しました。

これは、彼女が弟と共有している寝室で起こりました。彼女は家具を使ってドアをふさぎ、弟を締め出していました。弟はノックして入れてくれと頼みましたが、彼女は拒否しました。両親はほとんど気にしていないようで、たまに彼女に弟を締め出さないように言うだけでした。

これは性的虐待だったのでしょうか、それとも子供のころの無邪気さが行き過ぎただけなのでしょうか。この体験とそれが私に与えた影響について、私はどう解釈したらよいのか混乱しています。友人は、私が従ったのは「おべっか」の反応だったと言います。私は何が起こったのか、どう理解すればよいのでしょうか。これは性的虐待だったのでしょうか、それとも子供のころの無邪気さだったのでしょうか。 ~ Our Wave コミュニティ
description: <p>この困難な経験を私たちに託してくださり、本当にありがとうございます。あなたが説明されたことは、典型的な子供の好奇心や「無邪気さ」の域を超えているようです。その状況には強制と脅迫が伴い、健全で合意に基づく探求には含まれません。あなたの友人が示唆した「へつらう」反応、つまり誰かが衝突やさらなる危害を避けるために従...
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# 私は子供の頃の体験を理解しようとしています。私が12歳くらいのとき、1、2歳年下の地元の女の子が、私が興味がないにもかかわらず、私と「お医者さんごっこ」を始めました。彼女は私の性器を触りましたが、私は気にしませんでした。しかし、彼女の性器を触るように強要しました。私が拒否すると、彼女は従わなければ虐待したと訴えると脅しました。プレッシャーを感じて、私はしぶしぶ参加しました。 これは、彼女が弟と共有している寝室で起こりました。彼女は家具を使ってドアをふさぎ、弟を締め出していました。弟はノックして入れてくれと頼みましたが、彼女は拒否しました。両親はほとんど気にしていないようで、たまに彼女に弟を締め出さないように言うだけでした。 これは性的虐待だったのでしょうか、それとも子供のころの無邪気さが行き過ぎただけなのでしょうか。この体験とそれが私に与えた影響について、私はどう解釈したらよいのか混乱しています。友人は、私が従ったのは「おべっか」の反応だったと言います。私は何が起こったのか、どう理解すればよいのでしょうか。これは性的虐待だったのでしょうか、それとも子供のころの無邪気さだったのでしょうか。

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トピックス:[幼少期の経験を理解する](/ja/learn?tags=making-sense-of-childhood-experiences)

この困難な経験を私たちに託してくださり、本当にありがとうございます。あなたが説明されたことは、典型的な子供の好奇心や「無邪気さ」の域を超えているようです。その状況には強制と脅迫が伴い、健全で合意に基づく探求には含まれません。あなたの友人が示唆した「へつらう」反応、つまり誰かが衝突やさらなる危害を避けるために従ってしまうトラウマ反応は、ここでも当てはまるようです。

この状況のいくつかの側面が懸念されます:

1\. あなたの興味の欠如と最初の拒否は尊重されませんでした。
2\. 虐待の虚偽の告発を行うという脅迫。これは操作と強制の一形態です。
3\. 弟を締め出すという彼女の習慣からわかるように、これらの事件は繰り返し起こっていた。

相手の子供は自分の行動の意味を完全に理解していなかったかもしれませんが、彼女の行動は不適切で、潜在的に有害でした。この経験をどう解釈したらよいか困惑するのは当然です。性的要素を含む子供時代の経験は、特に処理が複雑になることがあります。

この状況ではあなたに非はなかったと認識することが重要です。あなたは選択の余地がないと感じた立場に置かれましたが、これは確かに虐待の一種である可能性があります。

こうした経験の影響は、人によって大きく異なります。この経験が苦痛を引き起こしたり、現在の生活に影響を与えたりしている場合は、幼少期のトラウマを専門とするメンタルヘルスの専門家に相談するとよいかもしれません。専門家は、あなたの気持ちを探るための安全な場所を提供し、この経験を理解し、処理するのを助けてくれます。

覚えておいてください、この経験についてのあなたの感情は、それがどんなものであれ、正当なものです。複雑な幼少期の経験について「正しい」感じ方というものはありません。あなたの過去のこの部分を理解していく過程で、忍耐強く、自分自身に思いやりを持ってください。私たちに連絡してくださりありがとうございます。あなたは一人ではありません。

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Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/answer/im-trying-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-about-12-a-local-girl-who-was-a-year-or-two-younger-initiated-playing-doctor-with-me-despite-my-lack-of-interest-she-touched-my-genitals-which-i-didnt-mind-but-then-insisted-i-touch-hers-when-i-refused-she-threatened-to-claim-id-abused-her-if-i-didnt-comply-feeling-pressured-i-reluctantly-participated-this-happened-in-her-bedroom-which-she-shared-with-her-younger-brother-she-would-lock-him-out-using-furniture-to-block-the-door-her-brother-would-knock-and-ask-to-be-let-in-but-shed-refuse-their-parents-seemed-mostly-unconcerned-only-occasionally-telling-her-not-to-lock-her-brother-out-was-this-sexual-abuse-or-just-childhood-innocence-gone-too-far-im-confused-about-how-to-interpret-this-experience-and-its-impact-on-me-my-friend-suggests-my-compliance-was-a-fawning-response-how-should-i-understand-what-happened-was-this-sexual-abuse-or-childhood-innocense-235?country=ni)[\[Image: New 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Paraguay\]Paraguay](/answer/im-trying-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-about-12-a-local-girl-who-was-a-year-or-two-younger-initiated-playing-doctor-with-me-despite-my-lack-of-interest-she-touched-my-genitals-which-i-didnt-mind-but-then-insisted-i-touch-hers-when-i-refused-she-threatened-to-claim-id-abused-her-if-i-didnt-comply-feeling-pressured-i-reluctantly-participated-this-happened-in-her-bedroom-which-she-shared-with-her-younger-brother-she-would-lock-him-out-using-furniture-to-block-the-door-her-brother-would-knock-and-ask-to-be-let-in-but-shed-refuse-their-parents-seemed-mostly-unconcerned-only-occasionally-telling-her-not-to-lock-her-brother-out-was-this-sexual-abuse-or-just-childhood-innocence-gone-too-far-im-confused-about-how-to-interpret-this-experience-and-its-impact-on-me-my-friend-suggests-my-compliance-was-a-fawning-response-how-should-i-understand-what-happened-was-this-sexual-abuse-or-childhood-innocense-235?country=py)[\[Image: Peru\]Peru](/answer/im-trying-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-about-12-a-local-girl-who-was-a-year-or-two-younger-initiated-playing-doctor-with-me-despite-my-lack-of-interest-she-touched-my-genitals-which-i-didnt-mind-but-then-insisted-i-touch-hers-when-i-refused-she-threatened-to-claim-id-abused-her-if-i-didnt-comply-feeling-pressured-i-reluctantly-participated-this-happened-in-her-bedroom-which-she-shared-with-her-younger-brother-she-would-lock-him-out-using-furniture-to-block-the-door-her-brother-would-knock-and-ask-to-be-let-in-but-shed-refuse-their-parents-seemed-mostly-unconcerned-only-occasionally-telling-her-not-to-lock-her-brother-out-was-this-sexual-abuse-or-just-childhood-innocence-gone-too-far-im-confused-about-how-to-interpret-this-experience-and-its-impact-on-me-my-friend-suggests-my-compliance-was-a-fawning-response-how-should-i-understand-what-happened-was-this-sexual-abuse-or-childhood-innocense-235?country=pe)[\[Image: Puerto Rico\]Puerto Rico](/answer/im-trying-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-about-12-a-local-girl-who-was-a-year-or-two-younger-initiated-playing-doctor-with-me-despite-my-lack-of-interest-she-touched-my-genitals-which-i-didnt-mind-but-then-insisted-i-touch-hers-when-i-refused-she-threatened-to-claim-id-abused-her-if-i-didnt-comply-feeling-pressured-i-reluctantly-participated-this-happened-in-her-bedroom-which-she-shared-with-her-younger-brother-she-would-lock-him-out-using-furniture-to-block-the-door-her-brother-would-knock-and-ask-to-be-let-in-but-shed-refuse-their-parents-seemed-mostly-unconcerned-only-occasionally-telling-her-not-to-lock-her-brother-out-was-this-sexual-abuse-or-just-childhood-innocence-gone-too-far-im-confused-about-how-to-interpret-this-experience-and-its-impact-on-me-my-friend-suggests-my-compliance-was-a-fawning-response-how-should-i-understand-what-happened-was-this-sexual-abuse-or-childhood-innocense-235?country=pr)[\[Image: Spain\]Spain](/answer/im-trying-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-about-12-a-local-girl-who-was-a-year-or-two-younger-initiated-playing-doctor-with-me-despite-my-lack-of-interest-she-touched-my-genitals-which-i-didnt-mind-but-then-insisted-i-touch-hers-when-i-refused-she-threatened-to-claim-id-abused-her-if-i-didnt-comply-feeling-pressured-i-reluctantly-participated-this-happened-in-her-bedroom-which-she-shared-with-her-younger-brother-she-would-lock-him-out-using-furniture-to-block-the-door-her-brother-would-knock-and-ask-to-be-let-in-but-shed-refuse-their-parents-seemed-mostly-unconcerned-only-occasionally-telling-her-not-to-lock-her-brother-out-was-this-sexual-abuse-or-just-childhood-innocence-gone-too-far-im-confused-about-how-to-interpret-this-experience-and-its-impact-on-me-my-friend-suggests-my-compliance-was-a-fawning-response-how-should-i-understand-what-happened-was-this-sexual-abuse-or-childhood-innocense-235?country=es)[\[Image: United Kingdom\]United Kingdom](/answer/im-trying-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-about-12-a-local-girl-who-was-a-year-or-two-younger-initiated-playing-doctor-with-me-despite-my-lack-of-interest-she-touched-my-genitals-which-i-didnt-mind-but-then-insisted-i-touch-hers-when-i-refused-she-threatened-to-claim-id-abused-her-if-i-didnt-comply-feeling-pressured-i-reluctantly-participated-this-happened-in-her-bedroom-which-she-shared-with-her-younger-brother-she-would-lock-him-out-using-furniture-to-block-the-door-her-brother-would-knock-and-ask-to-be-let-in-but-shed-refuse-their-parents-seemed-mostly-unconcerned-only-occasionally-telling-her-not-to-lock-her-brother-out-was-this-sexual-abuse-or-just-childhood-innocence-gone-too-far-im-confused-about-how-to-interpret-this-experience-and-its-impact-on-me-my-friend-suggests-my-compliance-was-a-fawning-response-how-should-i-understand-what-happened-was-this-sexual-abuse-or-childhood-innocense-235?country=gb)[\[Image: Uruguay\]Uruguay](/answer/im-trying-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-about-12-a-local-girl-who-was-a-year-or-two-younger-initiated-playing-doctor-with-me-despite-my-lack-of-interest-she-touched-my-genitals-which-i-didnt-mind-but-then-insisted-i-touch-hers-when-i-refused-she-threatened-to-claim-id-abused-her-if-i-didnt-comply-feeling-pressured-i-reluctantly-participated-this-happened-in-her-bedroom-which-she-shared-with-her-younger-brother-she-would-lock-him-out-using-furniture-to-block-the-door-her-brother-would-knock-and-ask-to-be-let-in-but-shed-refuse-their-parents-seemed-mostly-unconcerned-only-occasionally-telling-her-not-to-lock-her-brother-out-was-this-sexual-abuse-or-just-childhood-innocence-gone-too-far-im-confused-about-how-to-interpret-this-experience-and-its-impact-on-me-my-friend-suggests-my-compliance-was-a-fawning-response-how-should-i-understand-what-happened-was-this-sexual-abuse-or-childhood-innocense-235?country=uy)[\[Image: Venezuela\]Venezuela](/answer/im-trying-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-about-12-a-local-girl-who-was-a-year-or-two-younger-initiated-playing-doctor-with-me-despite-my-lack-of-interest-she-touched-my-genitals-which-i-didnt-mind-but-then-insisted-i-touch-hers-when-i-refused-she-threatened-to-claim-id-abused-her-if-i-didnt-comply-feeling-pressured-i-reluctantly-participated-this-happened-in-her-bedroom-which-she-shared-with-her-younger-brother-she-would-lock-him-out-using-furniture-to-block-the-door-her-brother-would-knock-and-ask-to-be-let-in-but-shed-refuse-their-parents-seemed-mostly-unconcerned-only-occasionally-telling-her-not-to-lock-her-brother-out-was-this-sexual-abuse-or-just-childhood-innocence-gone-too-far-im-confused-about-how-to-interpret-this-experience-and-its-impact-on-me-my-friend-suggests-my-compliance-was-a-fawning-response-how-should-i-understand-what-happened-was-this-sexual-abuse-or-childhood-innocense-235?country=ve)

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