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title: 私は子供の頃の体験を理解するのに苦労しています。私が7歳のとき、同じ年齢の友人が「ゲーム」と呼んでいたときに不適切な身体的接触を始めました。これには拘束と望まない接触が含まれていました。私たちが成長するにつれて（10〜11歳くらい）、行為はエスカレートし、オーラル コンタクトも含まれるようになりました。

私はこれらのやり取りを楽しんだわけではありませんでしたが、しばしば固まってしまい、不快感を表現できませんでした。私は友人関係を続け、彼女の家を訪問しました。何年も経った今でも、これらの出来事の鮮明で不快な記憶が残っています。

私たちがまだ幼かったことと、彼女が自分の行動の意味を理解していたかどうかがわからないことを考えると、これが子供同士の性的虐待（COCSA）に該当するかどうかはわかりません。私は彼女に、このようなことが起きてほしくないとはっきりと言ったことはありません。これらの子供時代の体験をどのように解釈すればよいでしょうか。 ~ Our Wave コミュニティ
description: <p>この困難な経験を共有していただきありがとうございます。あなたの経験に最終的に名前を付け、それがあなたにどのような影響を与えたかを決めることができるのはあなただけであることを認識することが重要です。他の人が状況をどう解釈するかに関係なく、あなたの感情と認識は正当なものです。しかし、私が提供できる背景が役に立つこ...
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# 私は子供の頃の体験を理解するのに苦労しています。私が7歳のとき、同じ年齢の友人が「ゲーム」と呼んでいたときに不適切な身体的接触を始めました。これには拘束と望まない接触が含まれていました。私たちが成長するにつれて（10〜11歳くらい）、行為はエスカレートし、オーラル コンタクトも含まれるようになりました。 私はこれらのやり取りを楽しんだわけではありませんでしたが、しばしば固まってしまい、不快感を表現できませんでした。私は友人関係を続け、彼女の家を訪問しました。何年も経った今でも、これらの出来事の鮮明で不快な記憶が残っています。 私たちがまだ幼かったことと、彼女が自分の行動の意味を理解していたかどうかがわからないことを考えると、これが子供同士の性的虐待（COCSA）に該当するかどうかはわかりません。私は彼女に、このようなことが起きてほしくないとはっきりと言ったことはありません。これらの子供時代の体験をどのように解釈すればよいでしょうか。

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この困難な経験を共有していただきありがとうございます。あなたの経験に最終的に名前を付け、それがあなたにどのような影響を与えたかを決めることができるのはあなただけであることを認識することが重要です。他の人が状況をどう解釈するかに関係なく、あなたの感情と認識は正当なものです。しかし、私が提供できる背景が役に立つことを願っています。

あなたが説明した内容から判断すると、この状況には、一般的に[児童による児童への性的虐待 (COCSA) と考えられているものと一致する、懸念すべき特徴がいくつかあるようです。](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ourwave.org%2Fpost%2Fchild-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-frequently-asked-questions-and-considerations&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=en-US&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=12c63f25-7673-45af-8616-a6f76ad03151&sig=70057f8a74f400b6505c541482fb4f8fbcb1f1464a84ec8c39f3ccf3b9ff0413)あなたが言及した行動は、一般的に正常な子供の好奇心や探究心と考えられているものを超えているようです。COCSA には、強制、秘密、力関係の不均衡、または大人の性的行動を模倣する活動などの要素が含まれることがよくあります。対照的に、健全な子供の探究心は、通常、同年代の子供が「お医者さんごっこ」などのゲームを通じて、お互いの身体に対する自発的な好奇心を持つことを伴います。この探究心は通常、短く、邪魔にならず、子供が不快に感じたら終了します。

あなたの状況では、拘束の存在、性行為のエスカレート、不快感や凍りつくような感覚が懸念事項です。しかし、幼い年齢では、どちらも性行為に真に同意したり、完全に理解したりすることはできなかったことを理解することが重要です。あなたの友人は自分の行動の意味を完全に理解していなかったかもしれませんが、だからといってこれらの経験があなたに与えた影響が軽減されるわけではありません。

凍りついて不快感を表現できないというあなたの反応は、トラウマ的な状況や圧倒的な状況に対する一般的な反応であり、特に子供にとってはそうです。あなたが「ノー」と言えなかったり、やり取りを止められなかったのはあなたのせいではありません。これらの記憶がまだあなたに影響を及ぼしているという事実は、これらの経験があなたにとって確かに衝撃的であり、あなたが感じる不快感や混乱はまったく正当なものであることを強く示唆しています。

今後は、幼少期のトラウマを専門とするセラピストに相談すると役立つかもしれません。セラピストは、これらの経験を処理し、必要に応じてラベル付けし、回復に向けて前進するための対処戦略を開発するための安全な場所を提供できます。

覚えておいてください。起こったことの責任はあなたにはありません。これらの経験や幼なじみについて複雑な感情を抱いても大丈夫です。癒しは可能です。そして、あなたはこれらの記憶とそれがあなたに与えた影響を乗り越えるためにサポートを受けるに値します。忍耐強く、自分自身に思いやりを持ってください。あなたは一人ではありません。私たちに連絡してくださりありがとうございます。

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暴力、憎悪、搾取

脅迫、憎悪に満ちた言葉、性的強要

いじめ、または望まない接触

ハラスメント、脅迫、執拗な迷惑メッセージ

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見えるもの5つ（部屋の中と窓の外を見ることができます）

感じるもの4つ（目の前にあるもので触れるものは何ですか？）

聞こえるもの3つ

匂いを嗅ぐもの2つ

自分の好きなところ1つ。

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

座っている場所から、周囲を見回して、質感のあるもの、見ていて楽しいもの、興味深いものを探してください。

何かを手に持ち、その物に全神経を集中してください。影が落ちている部分や、物の中に形が浮かび上がっている部分に注目してください。手に持った時の重さや軽さ、指の裏側の表面の質感を感じてみてください（ペットを飼っている場合は、ペットと一緒に行うこともできます）。

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

以下の質問を自分に問いかけ、声に出して答えましょう。

1\. 私はどこにいますか？

2\. 今日は何曜日ですか？

3\. 今日の日付は何ですか？

4\. 今は何月ですか？

5\. 今は何年ですか？

6\. 私は何歳ですか？

7\. 今はどんな季節ですか？

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

右手の手のひらを下にして左肩に置きます。左手の手のひらを下にして右肩に置きます。自分を強くしてくれるような言葉を選びましょう。例えば、「私は力強い」などです。まず文章を声に出して読み、右手で左肩を軽く叩き、次に左手で右肩を軽く叩きます。

交互に叩きます。左右5回ずつ、合計10回叩き、そのたびに文章を声に出して繰り返します。

最後に深呼吸をします。

腕を体の前で交差させ、胸に引き寄せます。右手で左上腕を、左手で右上腕を押さえます。優しく握り、腕を内側に引きます。しばらく握りしめた状態を保ち、その瞬間の自分にとって適切な握り加減を見つけます。力を入れたら力を抜きます。そして再びしばらく握りしめ、力を抜きます。しばらくそのままの状態を保ちます。

最後に深呼吸をします。

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