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description: 私たちとあなたの体験談を共有してくださって本当にありがとうございます。わあ...それはひどい状況のようですね。このトラウマ的な出来事を経験してしまったことを心からお気の毒に思います。あなたの体験をどう表現するかは最終的にあなただけが決めることですが、あなたが説明したことは性的暴行の定義に一致しています。説明させてく...
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Japan\]Japan](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=jp)[\[Image: 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Zealand](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=nz)[\[Image: 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Paraguay\]Paraguay](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=py)[\[Image: Peru\]Peru](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=pe)[\[Image: Puerto Rico\]Puerto Rico](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=pr)[\[Image: Spain\]Spain](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=es)[\[Image: 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# 17 歳のときの体験が理解できずにいます。私と同じ年齢の男性が車を運転していて、彼の友人が後部座席で私に酒を飲ませました。私はひどく無力になり、言葉がもつれました。私の親友は助手席にいました。 飲酒していなかった運転手は後部座席に移動し、私にオーラルセックスをし、指で挿入しました。彼に求められても私は決して同意せず、快感ではなく痛みだけを感じました。酒のせいで意識がほとんどありませんでした。 その直後、私は久しぶりに自傷行為をしました。家に帰ると、気持ち悪かったのですぐにシャワーを浴びました。そこにいた女の子が性的暴行だと思うと言うまで、私はそれについてあまり考えませんでした。 この出来事の後、私の精神状態は著しく悪化しました。私は自殺願望を持ち、頻繁に自傷行為をしました。私の古い友人は彼と私の両方のせいだと言いましたが、私の母は反対のことを言ったので、どう感じるべきか混乱しています。 この出来事が起こる前は、私たちはただの知り合いでした。私たちは二人とも未成年で、私は無能力だったことを考えると、これは性的暴行だったのでしょうか? この経験をどう理解し、どう受け止めるべきでしょうか?

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トピックス:[感情と身体感覚を管理する](/ja/learn?tags=managing-emotions-and-how-you-feel-in-your-body)[あなたのストーリーを他の人と共有する](/ja/learn?tags=sharing-your-story-with-others)

私たちとあなたの体験談を共有してくださって本当にありがとうございます。わあ...それはひどい状況のようですね。このトラウマ的な出来事を経験してしまったことを心からお気の毒に思います。あなたの体験をどう表現するかは最終的にあなただけが決めることですが、あなたが説明したことは性的暴行の定義に一致しています。説明させてください...

あなたはアルコールの影響で無力で、[同意することができませんでし](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fadf.org.au%2Finsights%2Falcohol-and-consent%2F&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=en-US&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=a15aa91d-eeb8-43cf-b373-913b54f32105&sig=4092d0c0253c4ebac92e60d4b055109c67b4e4a175ff8d176f8d15d0c49800f5)た。ろれつが回らないほど酔っていて意識がほとんどないということは、性行為に同意できる状態ではなかったということです。また、あなたは「彼に頼まれたときに決してイエスと言わなかった」とも言っていますが、これも明らかに同意がなかったことを示しています。

二人とも未成年だったという事実は、暴行を否定するものではありません。法的事項を複雑にするかもしれませんが、起こったことの本質は変わりません。事件後の身体的および感情的な反応、つまり行為中に痛みを感じたり、すぐに自傷行為をしたり、シャワーを浴びる必要性を感じたり、その後の精神的な問題を抱えたりすることは、性的暴行に対する一般的な反応です。

これはあなたのせいではないと理解することが重要です。飲酒を我慢できないからといって、誰かがあなたを性的に利用してよいわけではありません。二人のせいだと言う友人は間違っています。責任は、無能力の相手に性的行為をすることを選んだ人だけにあります。

しかし、あなたの経験を定義する権利はあなただけにあるということを強調することが重要です。あなたが説明した状況は性的暴行の定義に一致していますが、この経験をどのように分類するか、どのように理解するかは完全にあなた次第です。他の人がその出来事をどのように分類するかに関係なく、あなたの感情と視点は正当なものです。

トラウマや性的体験を専門とするセラピストやカウンセラーのサポートを受けることを強くお勧めします。彼らは、あなたが不快に感じるレッテルを貼られることなく、この出来事を処理し、その結果として直面した精神的な問題を乗り越えるのを助けてくれます。

覚えておいてください、あなたは一人ではありません。あなたを助けるリソースがあります。あなたに起こったことは間違っています。あなたの気持ちはもっともです。この状況を乗り越えるには、自分に優しくしてください。そして、ためらわずに専門家の助けを求めてください。過去に起こったことを受け入れるのは難しいかもしれませんが、時にはそれを認めることで、それ以来直面してきた課題を理解するのに役立つことがあります。癒しは可能です。私たちに連絡してくださりありがとうございます。

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Salvador](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=sv)[\[Image: Equatorial Guinea\]Equatorial Guinea](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=gq)[\[Image: Guatemala\]Guatemala](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=gt)[\[Image: Honduras\]Honduras](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=hn)[\[Image: Ireland\]Ireland](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=ie)[\[Image: Japan\]Japan](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=jp)[\[Image: Mexico\]Mexico](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=mx)[\[Image: Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=ni)[\[Image: New Zealand\]New Zealand](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=nz)[\[Image: Panama\]Panama](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=pa)[\[Image: Paraguay\]Paraguay](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=py)[\[Image: Peru\]Peru](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=pe)[\[Image: Puerto Rico\]Puerto Rico](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=pr)[\[Image: Spain\]Spain](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=es)[\[Image: United Kingdom\]United Kingdom](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=gb)[\[Image: Uruguay\]Uruguay](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=uy)[\[Image: Venezuela\]Venezuela](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-i-had-when-i-was-17-a-guy-the-same-age-as-me-was-driving-while-his-friend-gave-me-alcohol-in-the-backseat-i-became-extremely-incapacitated-slurring-my-speech-my-best-friend-was-in-the-passenger-seat-the-driver-who-hadnt-been-drinking-moved-to-the-backseat-and-performed-oral-sex-on-me-and-digitally-penetrated-me-i-never-consented-when-he-asked-and-i-felt-only-pain-not-pleasure-i-was-barely-conscious-due-to-the-alcohol-immediately-after-i-self-harmed-for-the-first-time-in-a-long-while-when-i-got-home-i-showered-right-away-because-i-felt-disgusting-i-didnt-think-much-about-it-until-the-girl-who-was-there-told-me-she-thought-it-was-sexual-assault-following-this-event-my-mental-health-deteriorated-significantly-i-became-suicidal-and-self-harmed-frequently-im-confused-about-how-to-feel-because-my-old-friend-said-it-was-both-his-and-my-fault-while-my-mom-said-the-opposite-we-were-only-acquaintances-before-this-happened-given-that-we-were-both-minors-and-i-was-incapacitated-was-this-sexual-assault-how-should-i-understand-and-process-this-experience-227?country=ve)

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