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title: 私は子供の頃の体験を理解できずにいます。私が8～9歳のとき、兄（12～13歳）が私に対して不適切な性行為を始めました。兄は私をアダルトコンテンツにさらし、性行為に参加するよう勧めました。当時は喜んで参加していると思っていましたが、今では何が起こっているのかを完全に理解していなかったことに気づいています。

この状況には、両親に秘密を守り、隠れることが含まれていました。両親が何かが起こったことを知ったとき、私はそのことを話すのをためらいました。数年後、父に話したとき、父は兄が法的措置を受ける可能性があると言って、18歳になるまで誰にも言わないようにと私に忠告しました。

この体験をどう分類したらよいかわかりません。これは子供による子供への性的虐待（COCSA）だったのでしょうか？私は何年も混乱した後、理解を求めています。どうすればこれを処理して前に進むことができますか？ ~ Our Wave コミュニティ
description: <p>この非常に個人的で複雑な体験を共有していただきありがとうございます。あなたが混乱し不安を感じているのは当然であり、私たちはできる限りの方法でお手伝いします。</p><p>あなたが説明した内容に基づくと、この状況は確かに<a...
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# 私は子供の頃の体験を理解できずにいます。私が8～9歳のとき、兄（12～13歳）が私に対して不適切な性行為を始めました。兄は私をアダルトコンテンツにさらし、性行為に参加するよう勧めました。当時は喜んで参加していると思っていましたが、今では何が起こっているのかを完全に理解していなかったことに気づいています。 この状況には、両親に秘密を守り、隠れることが含まれていました。両親が何かが起こったことを知ったとき、私はそのことを話すのをためらいました。数年後、父に話したとき、父は兄が法的措置を受ける可能性があると言って、18歳になるまで誰にも言わないようにと私に忠告しました。 この体験をどう分類したらよいかわかりません。これは子供による子供への性的虐待（COCSA）だったのでしょうか？私は何年も混乱した後、理解を求めています。どうすればこれを処理して前に進むことができますか？

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博士号精神保健看護師＆性暴力看護師認定者

トピックス:[幼少期の経験を理解する](/ja/learn?tags=making-sense-of-childhood-experiences)

この非常に個人的で複雑な体験を共有していただきありがとうございます。あなたが混乱し不安を感じているのは当然であり、私たちはできる限りの方法でお手伝いします。

あなたが説明した内容に基づくと、この状況は確かに[児童による児童への性的虐待 (COCSA)](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ourwave.org%2Fpost%2Fchild-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-frequently-asked-questions-and-considerations&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=en-US&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=74dd6480-abcd-420f-8854-5a7d98b6bfd6&sig=70057f8a74f400b6505c541482fb4f8fbcb1f1464a84ec8c39f3ccf3b9ff0413)の範疇に入る可能性があります。あなたの兄弟も未成年でしたが、年齢と発達の大きな違いにより力の不均衡が生じていました。私たちが懸念している詳細は次のとおりです。

1\. 大きな年齢差（8〜9歳対12〜13歳）は、認知的および感情的発達における大きな違いを表しています。
2\. あなたの兄があなたをポルノにさらしましたが、これは年齢相応の性的好奇心の典型ではありません。
3\. 状況は秘密であり、親に隠れていることを意味しており、その行動が間違っているという理解を示唆している。
4\. 8～9歳の時点では、性行為に対して、たとえその時点では同意したい気持ちがあったとしても、十分な情報に基づいた同意を与えることができませんでした。

純粋な性的探求は、通常、同年代の子供たち、相互の好奇心、それほど複雑な行動ではなく、強制や秘密がなく、片方の子供が不快に感じたら中止するというものです。あなたの経験は、こうした境界を超えているようです。

このような状況を経験した子どもが、特に成長して性的指向や境界について理解を深めるにつれて、自分の経験について葛藤や混乱を感じることはよくあります。当時何が起こっていたのかを完全に理解していなかったことに気づくことは、こうした経験を処理する上での正常な過程です。

この状況の懸念すべき点は、秘密にしていることと、あなたの告白に対する父親の反応です。父親はあなたと弟の両方を守ろうとしていたかもしれませんが、黙っているようにという父親のアドバイスが、あなたの継続的な混乱と、その経験を処理することの難しさの一因となった可能性があります。

今後は、幼少期のトラウマや家族関係を専門とするセラピストやカウンセラーのサポートを受けることが役立つかもしれません。彼らは、あなたが自分の感情や経験を批判されることなく探求できる安全な場所を提供し、さらに処理して癒すための戦略を立てるのを助けてくれます。

覚えておいてください、起こったことに対してあなたは責められません。その経験と弟さんに対して複雑な気持ちを抱くのは構いません。弟さん自身もまだ幼かったので、自分の行動がもたらす影響を完全に理解していなかったかもしれないということに留意することが重要です。しかし、だからといってその経験があなたに与えた影響が軽減されるわけではありません。

癒しは旅であり、助けや理解を求めるのに遅すぎるということはありません。このプロセスを進める間、忍耐強く、自分自身に思いやりを持ってください。あなたの感情や経験は正当なものであり、あなたはそれらを乗り越えるためにサポートを受けるに値します。その経験にラベルを付けるよりも、それについてあなたがどう感じているか、それがあなたにどう影響したかの方が重要であることを忘れないでください。専門家は、あなたがこれらの感情を処理し、前進する道を見つけるのを手伝ってくれます。私たちに連絡してくださって本当にありがとうございます。あなたは一人ではありません。

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Chile\]Chile](/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292?country=cl)[\[Image: Colombia\]Colombia](/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292?country=co)[\[Image: Costa Rica\]Costa Rica](/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292?country=cr)[\[Image: Cuba\]Cuba](/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292?country=cu)[\[Image: Dominican Republic\]Dominican 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Ecuador\]Ecuador](/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292?country=ec)[\[Image: El Salvador\]El 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Guatemala\]Guatemala](/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292?country=gt)[\[Image: Honduras\]Honduras](/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292?country=hn)[\[Image: Ireland\]Ireland](/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292?country=ie)[\[Image: Japan\]Japan](/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292?country=jp)[\[Image: 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Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292?country=ni)[\[Image: New Zealand\]New 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Paraguay\]Paraguay](/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292?country=py)[\[Image: 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Spain\]Spain](/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292?country=es)[\[Image: United Kingdom\]United Kingdom](/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292?country=gb)[\[Image: Uruguay\]Uruguay](/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292?country=uy)[\[Image: Venezuela\]Venezuela](/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292?country=ve)

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[English](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292)[Español](/es/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292)[日本語](/ja/answer/im-struggling-to-understand-an-experience-from-my-childhood-when-i-was-8-9-my-older-brother-12-13-initiated-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-with-me-he-exposed-me-to-adult-content-and-encouraged-me-to-participate-in-sexual-acts-at-the-time-i-felt-i-was-willingly-participating-but-now-i-realize-i-didnt-fully-understand-what-was-happening-the-situation-involved-secrecy-and-hiding-from-our-parents-when-they-discovered-something-had-occurred-i-was-reluctant-to-discuss-it-years-later-when-i-told-my-father-he-advised-me-not-to-tell-anyone-until-i-was-18-saying-my-brother-could-face-legal-consequences-im-confused-about-how-to-categorize-this-experience-was-this-child-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-im-seeking-understanding-after-years-of-confusion-how-can-i-process-this-and-move-forward-292)

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感じるもの4つ（目の前にあるもので触れるものは何ですか？）

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1\. 私はどこにいますか？

2\. 今日は何曜日ですか？

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4\. 今は何月ですか？

5\. 今は何年ですか？

6\. 私は何歳ですか？

7\. 今はどんな季節ですか？

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右手の手のひらを下にして左肩に置きます。左手の手のひらを下にして右肩に置きます。自分を強くしてくれるような言葉を選びましょう。例えば、「私は力強い」などです。まず文章を声に出して読み、右手で左肩を軽く叩き、次に左手で右肩を軽く叩きます。

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腕を体の前で交差させ、胸に引き寄せます。右手で左上腕を、左手で右上腕を押さえます。優しく握り、腕を内側に引きます。しばらく握りしめた状態を保ち、その瞬間の自分にとって適切な握り加減を見つけます。力を入れたら力を抜きます。そして再びしばらく握りしめ、力を抜きます。しばらくそのままの状態を保ちます。

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