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title: 私は近所や家族から受けた子供時代の性的体験を整理しています。私が6～7歳のとき、友人が私と彼女の弟（4～5歳）を、どちらも望んでいない性的行為に強要しました。私はこの件についてほとんど解決しましたが、彼女自身も虐待を受けていたのではないかと考えています。

近所には、妹を含む数人の子供を虐待する10代の性的虐待者がいました。私は彼らから遠ざかることでなんとか逃れることができましたが、当時はなぜ彼らが私を怖がらせたのか理解できませんでした。

その後、私の兄（13～14歳）が私の妹（6歳）を強制的に性的虐待しました。最初は「取引」で頼み事をし、両親がそれを知るまでエスカレートしていきました。両親はそれを止めましたが、私たちにセラピーを受けさせることはありませんでした。

私は、妹が大変な目に遭っている間に最悪の虐待から逃れたことに罪悪感を感じています。私は本能に従って危険な状況を避けましたが、これは妹を責めているように感じます。兄が妹をターゲットにしたのは、妹が私よりも従順ではなかったからではないかと思っています。これは生存者の罪悪感でしょうか? 自分が「幸運な」人間であることをどう受け止めればいいのでしょうか? ~ Our Wave コミュニティ
description: <p>こうした複雑で悲惨な幼少期の経験についてのあなたの感情や記憶は、まったく正当なものです。あなたが述べたこと、つまり友人とその兄弟との性行為の強要、近所での虐待の目撃、兄弟による妹への虐待への対処などは、誰もが理解するのに苦労するであろうトラウマの層を表しています。たとえ当時、恐怖の理由を完全に理解していなかっ...
url: https://community.ourwave.org/ja/answer/im-processing-childhood-sexual-experiences-from-my-neighborhood-and-family-when-i-was-6-7-my-friend-coerced-me-and-her-younger-brother-4-5-into-sexual-acts-neither-of-us-wanted-while-ive-largely-worked-through-this-i-believe-she-may-have-been-abused-herself-there-were-teenage-predators-in-our-neighborhood-who-abused-several-children-including-my-sister-i-managed-to-avoid-them-by-staying-away-though-i-didnt-understand-why-they-frightened-me-at-the-time-later-my-brother-13-14-sexually-abused-my-sister-6-through-coercion-starting-with-a-trade-for-favors-and-escalating-until-our-parents-discovered-it-they-stopped-it-but-never-got-us-therapy-i-struggle-with-guilt-for-escaping-the-worst-abuse-while-my-sister-endured-so-much-i-followed-my-instincts-to-avoid-dangerous-situations-but-this-feels-like-blaming-my-sister-i-wonder-if-my-brother-targeted-her-because-she-was-less-compliant-than-me-is-this-survivors-guilt-how-do-i-process-being-the-lucky-one-337.md
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# 私は近所や家族から受けた子供時代の性的体験を整理しています。私が6～7歳のとき、友人が私と彼女の弟（4～5歳）を、どちらも望んでいない性的行為に強要しました。私はこの件についてほとんど解決しましたが、彼女自身も虐待を受けていたのではないかと考えています。 近所には、妹を含む数人の子供を虐待する10代の性的虐待者がいました。私は彼らから遠ざかることでなんとか逃れることができましたが、当時はなぜ彼らが私を怖がらせたのか理解できませんでした。 その後、私の兄（13～14歳）が私の妹（6歳）を強制的に性的虐待しました。最初は「取引」で頼み事をし、両親がそれを知るまでエスカレートしていきました。両親はそれを止めましたが、私たちにセラピーを受けさせることはありませんでした。 私は、妹が大変な目に遭っている間に最悪の虐待から逃れたことに罪悪感を感じています。私は本能に従って危険な状況を避けましたが、これは妹を責めているように感じます。兄が妹をターゲットにしたのは、妹が私よりも従順ではなかったからではないかと思っています。これは生存者の罪悪感でしょうか? 自分が「幸運な」人間であることをどう受け止めればいいのでしょうか?

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**Dr. Laura**による回答

博士号精神保健看護師＆性暴力看護師認定者

トピックス:[幼少期の経験を理解する](/ja/learn?tags=making-sense-of-childhood-experiences)

こうした複雑で悲惨な幼少期の経験についてのあなたの感情や記憶は、まったく正当なものです。あなたが述べたこと、つまり友人とその兄弟との性行為の強要、近所での虐待の目撃、兄弟による妹への虐待への対処などは、誰もが理解するのに苦労するであろうトラウマの層を表しています。たとえ当時、恐怖の理由を完全に理解していなかったとしても、危険な状況で自分を守ろうとするあなたの本能は自然な反応でした。

同じような状況を経験した多くの人々は、他の人が苦しんでいる間に自分は特定のトラウマを回避できたことに対する複雑な感情と格闘しています。これらの感情は、しばしば[生存者の罪悪感](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.medicalnewstoday.com%2Farticles%2F325578&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=en&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=811d2e3c-5a35-4ec8-9c35-67f8420708bd&sig=6b2b3661b54efd0433d9295feda66a0df4324470dee314527ebff3c612e4db21)と呼ばれ、よりひどいトラウマから逃れるに値しないという気持ち、他の人の虐待を何とか防ぐべきだったという思い、愛する人が苦しんでいる間に自分はなぜ「逃れた」のかという疑問として現れます。この罪悪感は、兄弟や親しい友人が関係している場合に特に強くなります。あなたの近所での性的虐待、友人とその兄弟に起こったことなどから、被害者が加害者になることもある厄介なサイクルが示唆されます。コミュニティのトラウマというこのより広い文脈は、私たちが子供の頃のあらゆる交流や決定に疑問を抱くようにさせます。

あなたの兄が妹を強制的に虐待したことは、家族のトラウマのもう 1 つの層を表しています。あなたが標的にされなかったことに対して抱いている複雑な感情は、兄弟の間ではよくあることです。多くの兄弟が、「もしも」という仮定や、なぜある兄弟が他の兄弟よりも標的にされたのかという疑問で自分を苦しめています。生存者の罪悪感は、家族の状況では特につらいものです。私たちは、もっと知っておくべきだった、もっと行動すべきだったと感じるかもしれません。しかし、あなたの兄が被害者を選んだのは、あなたが「優れている」から、または妹が「劣っている」からではありません。虐待者は、より弱いとみなす人を標的にすることが多く、彼らの選択は、被害者の価値や行動ではなく、彼ら自身の問題を反映しています。

トラウマに精通したセラピストは、これらの複雑な罪悪感を乗り越え、あなたの直感的な自己防衛反応が他人の苦しみに加担するものではないことを理解するのを手助けすることができます。セラピストは、あなたが性行為を強要されたという直接的な経験と、地域や家族で虐待を目撃したという重圧の両方を処理するのを手助けすることができます。多くのサバイバーは、特定のトラウマから逃れてほっとしたからといって、代わりに他の人が傷ついたことを喜ぶわけではないことを理解するためのサポートを必要としています。あなたの自己防衛本能は正当なものであり、あなたは危害を加えた他の人の行動に責任はありません。サバイバーの罪悪感とトラウマからの回復は可能です。そしてそれは、同じ状況にある他の人に示すのと同じ思いやりを自分自身に向けることから始まります。私たちにあなたの話を信頼してくださりありがとうございます。あなたは一人ではありません。

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Ireland\]Ireland](/answer/im-processing-childhood-sexual-experiences-from-my-neighborhood-and-family-when-i-was-6-7-my-friend-coerced-me-and-her-younger-brother-4-5-into-sexual-acts-neither-of-us-wanted-while-ive-largely-worked-through-this-i-believe-she-may-have-been-abused-herself-there-were-teenage-predators-in-our-neighborhood-who-abused-several-children-including-my-sister-i-managed-to-avoid-them-by-staying-away-though-i-didnt-understand-why-they-frightened-me-at-the-time-later-my-brother-13-14-sexually-abused-my-sister-6-through-coercion-starting-with-a-trade-for-favors-and-escalating-until-our-parents-discovered-it-they-stopped-it-but-never-got-us-therapy-i-struggle-with-guilt-for-escaping-the-worst-abuse-while-my-sister-endured-so-much-i-followed-my-instincts-to-avoid-dangerous-situations-but-this-feels-like-blaming-my-sister-i-wonder-if-my-brother-targeted-her-because-she-was-less-compliant-than-me-is-this-survivors-guilt-how-do-i-process-being-the-lucky-one-337?country=ie)[\[Image: Japan\]Japan](/answer/im-processing-childhood-sexual-experiences-from-my-neighborhood-and-family-when-i-was-6-7-my-friend-coerced-me-and-her-younger-brother-4-5-into-sexual-acts-neither-of-us-wanted-while-ive-largely-worked-through-this-i-believe-she-may-have-been-abused-herself-there-were-teenage-predators-in-our-neighborhood-who-abused-several-children-including-my-sister-i-managed-to-avoid-them-by-staying-away-though-i-didnt-understand-why-they-frightened-me-at-the-time-later-my-brother-13-14-sexually-abused-my-sister-6-through-coercion-starting-with-a-trade-for-favors-and-escalating-until-our-parents-discovered-it-they-stopped-it-but-never-got-us-therapy-i-struggle-with-guilt-for-escaping-the-worst-abuse-while-my-sister-endured-so-much-i-followed-my-instincts-to-avoid-dangerous-situations-but-this-feels-like-blaming-my-sister-i-wonder-if-my-brother-targeted-her-because-she-was-less-compliant-than-me-is-this-survivors-guilt-how-do-i-process-being-the-lucky-one-337?country=jp)[\[Image: Mexico\]Mexico](/answer/im-processing-childhood-sexual-experiences-from-my-neighborhood-and-family-when-i-was-6-7-my-friend-coerced-me-and-her-younger-brother-4-5-into-sexual-acts-neither-of-us-wanted-while-ive-largely-worked-through-this-i-believe-she-may-have-been-abused-herself-there-were-teenage-predators-in-our-neighborhood-who-abused-several-children-including-my-sister-i-managed-to-avoid-them-by-staying-away-though-i-didnt-understand-why-they-frightened-me-at-the-time-later-my-brother-13-14-sexually-abused-my-sister-6-through-coercion-starting-with-a-trade-for-favors-and-escalating-until-our-parents-discovered-it-they-stopped-it-but-never-got-us-therapy-i-struggle-with-guilt-for-escaping-the-worst-abuse-while-my-sister-endured-so-much-i-followed-my-instincts-to-avoid-dangerous-situations-but-this-feels-like-blaming-my-sister-i-wonder-if-my-brother-targeted-her-because-she-was-less-compliant-than-me-is-this-survivors-guilt-how-do-i-process-being-the-lucky-one-337?country=mx)[\[Image: Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/answer/im-processing-childhood-sexual-experiences-from-my-neighborhood-and-family-when-i-was-6-7-my-friend-coerced-me-and-her-younger-brother-4-5-into-sexual-acts-neither-of-us-wanted-while-ive-largely-worked-through-this-i-believe-she-may-have-been-abused-herself-there-were-teenage-predators-in-our-neighborhood-who-abused-several-children-including-my-sister-i-managed-to-avoid-them-by-staying-away-though-i-didnt-understand-why-they-frightened-me-at-the-time-later-my-brother-13-14-sexually-abused-my-sister-6-through-coercion-starting-with-a-trade-for-favors-and-escalating-until-our-parents-discovered-it-they-stopped-it-but-never-got-us-therapy-i-struggle-with-guilt-for-escaping-the-worst-abuse-while-my-sister-endured-so-much-i-followed-my-instincts-to-avoid-dangerous-situations-but-this-feels-like-blaming-my-sister-i-wonder-if-my-brother-targeted-her-because-she-was-less-compliant-than-me-is-this-survivors-guilt-how-do-i-process-being-the-lucky-one-337?country=ni)[\[Image: New Zealand\]New Zealand](/answer/im-processing-childhood-sexual-experiences-from-my-neighborhood-and-family-when-i-was-6-7-my-friend-coerced-me-and-her-younger-brother-4-5-into-sexual-acts-neither-of-us-wanted-while-ive-largely-worked-through-this-i-believe-she-may-have-been-abused-herself-there-were-teenage-predators-in-our-neighborhood-who-abused-several-children-including-my-sister-i-managed-to-avoid-them-by-staying-away-though-i-didnt-understand-why-they-frightened-me-at-the-time-later-my-brother-13-14-sexually-abused-my-sister-6-through-coercion-starting-with-a-trade-for-favors-and-escalating-until-our-parents-discovered-it-they-stopped-it-but-never-got-us-therapy-i-struggle-with-guilt-for-escaping-the-worst-abuse-while-my-sister-endured-so-much-i-followed-my-instincts-to-avoid-dangerous-situations-but-this-feels-like-blaming-my-sister-i-wonder-if-my-brother-targeted-her-because-she-was-less-compliant-than-me-is-this-survivors-guilt-how-do-i-process-being-the-lucky-one-337?country=nz)[\[Image: Panama\]Panama](/answer/im-processing-childhood-sexual-experiences-from-my-neighborhood-and-family-when-i-was-6-7-my-friend-coerced-me-and-her-younger-brother-4-5-into-sexual-acts-neither-of-us-wanted-while-ive-largely-worked-through-this-i-believe-she-may-have-been-abused-herself-there-were-teenage-predators-in-our-neighborhood-who-abused-several-children-including-my-sister-i-managed-to-avoid-them-by-staying-away-though-i-didnt-understand-why-they-frightened-me-at-the-time-later-my-brother-13-14-sexually-abused-my-sister-6-through-coercion-starting-with-a-trade-for-favors-and-escalating-until-our-parents-discovered-it-they-stopped-it-but-never-got-us-therapy-i-struggle-with-guilt-for-escaping-the-worst-abuse-while-my-sister-endured-so-much-i-followed-my-instincts-to-avoid-dangerous-situations-but-this-feels-like-blaming-my-sister-i-wonder-if-my-brother-targeted-her-because-she-was-less-compliant-than-me-is-this-survivors-guilt-how-do-i-process-being-the-lucky-one-337?country=pa)[\[Image: Paraguay\]Paraguay](/answer/im-processing-childhood-sexual-experiences-from-my-neighborhood-and-family-when-i-was-6-7-my-friend-coerced-me-and-her-younger-brother-4-5-into-sexual-acts-neither-of-us-wanted-while-ive-largely-worked-through-this-i-believe-she-may-have-been-abused-herself-there-were-teenage-predators-in-our-neighborhood-who-abused-several-children-including-my-sister-i-managed-to-avoid-them-by-staying-away-though-i-didnt-understand-why-they-frightened-me-at-the-time-later-my-brother-13-14-sexually-abused-my-sister-6-through-coercion-starting-with-a-trade-for-favors-and-escalating-until-our-parents-discovered-it-they-stopped-it-but-never-got-us-therapy-i-struggle-with-guilt-for-escaping-the-worst-abuse-while-my-sister-endured-so-much-i-followed-my-instincts-to-avoid-dangerous-situations-but-this-feels-like-blaming-my-sister-i-wonder-if-my-brother-targeted-her-because-she-was-less-compliant-than-me-is-this-survivors-guilt-how-do-i-process-being-the-lucky-one-337?country=py)[\[Image: Peru\]Peru](/answer/im-processing-childhood-sexual-experiences-from-my-neighborhood-and-family-when-i-was-6-7-my-friend-coerced-me-and-her-younger-brother-4-5-into-sexual-acts-neither-of-us-wanted-while-ive-largely-worked-through-this-i-believe-she-may-have-been-abused-herself-there-were-teenage-predators-in-our-neighborhood-who-abused-several-children-including-my-sister-i-managed-to-avoid-them-by-staying-away-though-i-didnt-understand-why-they-frightened-me-at-the-time-later-my-brother-13-14-sexually-abused-my-sister-6-through-coercion-starting-with-a-trade-for-favors-and-escalating-until-our-parents-discovered-it-they-stopped-it-but-never-got-us-therapy-i-struggle-with-guilt-for-escaping-the-worst-abuse-while-my-sister-endured-so-much-i-followed-my-instincts-to-avoid-dangerous-situations-but-this-feels-like-blaming-my-sister-i-wonder-if-my-brother-targeted-her-because-she-was-less-compliant-than-me-is-this-survivors-guilt-how-do-i-process-being-the-lucky-one-337?country=pe)[\[Image: Puerto Rico\]Puerto Rico](/answer/im-processing-childhood-sexual-experiences-from-my-neighborhood-and-family-when-i-was-6-7-my-friend-coerced-me-and-her-younger-brother-4-5-into-sexual-acts-neither-of-us-wanted-while-ive-largely-worked-through-this-i-believe-she-may-have-been-abused-herself-there-were-teenage-predators-in-our-neighborhood-who-abused-several-children-including-my-sister-i-managed-to-avoid-them-by-staying-away-though-i-didnt-understand-why-they-frightened-me-at-the-time-later-my-brother-13-14-sexually-abused-my-sister-6-through-coercion-starting-with-a-trade-for-favors-and-escalating-until-our-parents-discovered-it-they-stopped-it-but-never-got-us-therapy-i-struggle-with-guilt-for-escaping-the-worst-abuse-while-my-sister-endured-so-much-i-followed-my-instincts-to-avoid-dangerous-situations-but-this-feels-like-blaming-my-sister-i-wonder-if-my-brother-targeted-her-because-she-was-less-compliant-than-me-is-this-survivors-guilt-how-do-i-process-being-the-lucky-one-337?country=pr)[\[Image: Spain\]Spain](/answer/im-processing-childhood-sexual-experiences-from-my-neighborhood-and-family-when-i-was-6-7-my-friend-coerced-me-and-her-younger-brother-4-5-into-sexual-acts-neither-of-us-wanted-while-ive-largely-worked-through-this-i-believe-she-may-have-been-abused-herself-there-were-teenage-predators-in-our-neighborhood-who-abused-several-children-including-my-sister-i-managed-to-avoid-them-by-staying-away-though-i-didnt-understand-why-they-frightened-me-at-the-time-later-my-brother-13-14-sexually-abused-my-sister-6-through-coercion-starting-with-a-trade-for-favors-and-escalating-until-our-parents-discovered-it-they-stopped-it-but-never-got-us-therapy-i-struggle-with-guilt-for-escaping-the-worst-abuse-while-my-sister-endured-so-much-i-followed-my-instincts-to-avoid-dangerous-situations-but-this-feels-like-blaming-my-sister-i-wonder-if-my-brother-targeted-her-because-she-was-less-compliant-than-me-is-this-survivors-guilt-how-do-i-process-being-the-lucky-one-337?country=es)[\[Image: United Kingdom\]United Kingdom](/answer/im-processing-childhood-sexual-experiences-from-my-neighborhood-and-family-when-i-was-6-7-my-friend-coerced-me-and-her-younger-brother-4-5-into-sexual-acts-neither-of-us-wanted-while-ive-largely-worked-through-this-i-believe-she-may-have-been-abused-herself-there-were-teenage-predators-in-our-neighborhood-who-abused-several-children-including-my-sister-i-managed-to-avoid-them-by-staying-away-though-i-didnt-understand-why-they-frightened-me-at-the-time-later-my-brother-13-14-sexually-abused-my-sister-6-through-coercion-starting-with-a-trade-for-favors-and-escalating-until-our-parents-discovered-it-they-stopped-it-but-never-got-us-therapy-i-struggle-with-guilt-for-escaping-the-worst-abuse-while-my-sister-endured-so-much-i-followed-my-instincts-to-avoid-dangerous-situations-but-this-feels-like-blaming-my-sister-i-wonder-if-my-brother-targeted-her-because-she-was-less-compliant-than-me-is-this-survivors-guilt-how-do-i-process-being-the-lucky-one-337?country=gb)[\[Image: Uruguay\]Uruguay](/answer/im-processing-childhood-sexual-experiences-from-my-neighborhood-and-family-when-i-was-6-7-my-friend-coerced-me-and-her-younger-brother-4-5-into-sexual-acts-neither-of-us-wanted-while-ive-largely-worked-through-this-i-believe-she-may-have-been-abused-herself-there-were-teenage-predators-in-our-neighborhood-who-abused-several-children-including-my-sister-i-managed-to-avoid-them-by-staying-away-though-i-didnt-understand-why-they-frightened-me-at-the-time-later-my-brother-13-14-sexually-abused-my-sister-6-through-coercion-starting-with-a-trade-for-favors-and-escalating-until-our-parents-discovered-it-they-stopped-it-but-never-got-us-therapy-i-struggle-with-guilt-for-escaping-the-worst-abuse-while-my-sister-endured-so-much-i-followed-my-instincts-to-avoid-dangerous-situations-but-this-feels-like-blaming-my-sister-i-wonder-if-my-brother-targeted-her-because-she-was-less-compliant-than-me-is-this-survivors-guilt-how-do-i-process-being-the-lucky-one-337?country=uy)[\[Image: Venezuela\]Venezuela](/answer/im-processing-childhood-sexual-experiences-from-my-neighborhood-and-family-when-i-was-6-7-my-friend-coerced-me-and-her-younger-brother-4-5-into-sexual-acts-neither-of-us-wanted-while-ive-largely-worked-through-this-i-believe-she-may-have-been-abused-herself-there-were-teenage-predators-in-our-neighborhood-who-abused-several-children-including-my-sister-i-managed-to-avoid-them-by-staying-away-though-i-didnt-understand-why-they-frightened-me-at-the-time-later-my-brother-13-14-sexually-abused-my-sister-6-through-coercion-starting-with-a-trade-for-favors-and-escalating-until-our-parents-discovered-it-they-stopped-it-but-never-got-us-therapy-i-struggle-with-guilt-for-escaping-the-worst-abuse-while-my-sister-endured-so-much-i-followed-my-instincts-to-avoid-dangerous-situations-but-this-feels-like-blaming-my-sister-i-wonder-if-my-brother-targeted-her-because-she-was-less-compliant-than-me-is-this-survivors-guilt-how-do-i-process-being-the-lucky-one-337?country=ve)

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[English](/en/answer/im-processing-childhood-sexual-experiences-from-my-neighborhood-and-family-when-i-was-6-7-my-friend-coerced-me-and-her-younger-brother-4-5-into-sexual-acts-neither-of-us-wanted-while-ive-largely-worked-through-this-i-believe-she-may-have-been-abused-herself-there-were-teenage-predators-in-our-neighborhood-who-abused-several-children-including-my-sister-i-managed-to-avoid-them-by-staying-away-though-i-didnt-understand-why-they-frightened-me-at-the-time-later-my-brother-13-14-sexually-abused-my-sister-6-through-coercion-starting-with-a-trade-for-favors-and-escalating-until-our-parents-discovered-it-they-stopped-it-but-never-got-us-therapy-i-struggle-with-guilt-for-escaping-the-worst-abuse-while-my-sister-endured-so-much-i-followed-my-instincts-to-avoid-dangerous-situations-but-this-feels-like-blaming-my-sister-i-wonder-if-my-brother-targeted-her-because-she-was-less-compliant-than-me-is-this-survivors-guilt-how-do-i-process-being-the-lucky-one-337)[Español](/es/answer/im-processing-childhood-sexual-experiences-from-my-neighborhood-and-family-when-i-was-6-7-my-friend-coerced-me-and-her-younger-brother-4-5-into-sexual-acts-neither-of-us-wanted-while-ive-largely-worked-through-this-i-believe-she-may-have-been-abused-herself-there-were-teenage-predators-in-our-neighborhood-who-abused-several-children-including-my-sister-i-managed-to-avoid-them-by-staying-away-though-i-didnt-understand-why-they-frightened-me-at-the-time-later-my-brother-13-14-sexually-abused-my-sister-6-through-coercion-starting-with-a-trade-for-favors-and-escalating-until-our-parents-discovered-it-they-stopped-it-but-never-got-us-therapy-i-struggle-with-guilt-for-escaping-the-worst-abuse-while-my-sister-endured-so-much-i-followed-my-instincts-to-avoid-dangerous-situations-but-this-feels-like-blaming-my-sister-i-wonder-if-my-brother-targeted-her-because-she-was-less-compliant-than-me-is-this-survivors-guilt-how-do-i-process-being-the-lucky-one-337)[日本語](/ja/answer/im-processing-childhood-sexual-experiences-from-my-neighborhood-and-family-when-i-was-6-7-my-friend-coerced-me-and-her-younger-brother-4-5-into-sexual-acts-neither-of-us-wanted-while-ive-largely-worked-through-this-i-believe-she-may-have-been-abused-herself-there-were-teenage-predators-in-our-neighborhood-who-abused-several-children-including-my-sister-i-managed-to-avoid-them-by-staying-away-though-i-didnt-understand-why-they-frightened-me-at-the-time-later-my-brother-13-14-sexually-abused-my-sister-6-through-coercion-starting-with-a-trade-for-favors-and-escalating-until-our-parents-discovered-it-they-stopped-it-but-never-got-us-therapy-i-struggle-with-guilt-for-escaping-the-worst-abuse-while-my-sister-endured-so-much-i-followed-my-instincts-to-avoid-dangerous-situations-but-this-feels-like-blaming-my-sister-i-wonder-if-my-brother-targeted-her-because-she-was-less-compliant-than-me-is-this-survivors-guilt-how-do-i-process-being-the-lucky-one-337)

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接地活動

座り心地の良い場所を見つけてください。目を軽く閉じて、深呼吸を数回します。鼻から息を吸い（3つ数え）、口から息を吐きます（3つ数え）。さあ、目を開けて周りを見回してください。以下のことを声に出して言ってみてください。

見えるもの5つ（部屋の中と窓の外を見ることができます）

感じるもの4つ（目の前にあるもので触れるものは何ですか？）

聞こえるもの3つ

匂いを嗅ぐもの2つ

自分の好きなところ1つ。

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

座っている場所から、周囲を見回して、質感のあるもの、見ていて楽しいもの、興味深いものを探してください。

何かを手に持ち、その物に全神経を集中してください。影が落ちている部分や、物の中に形が浮かび上がっている部分に注目してください。手に持った時の重さや軽さ、指の裏側の表面の質感を感じてみてください（ペットを飼っている場合は、ペットと一緒に行うこともできます）。

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

以下の質問を自分に問いかけ、声に出して答えましょう。

1\. 私はどこにいますか？

2\. 今日は何曜日ですか？

3\. 今日の日付は何ですか？

4\. 今は何月ですか？

5\. 今は何年ですか？

6\. 私は何歳ですか？

7\. 今はどんな季節ですか？

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

右手の手のひらを下にして左肩に置きます。左手の手のひらを下にして右肩に置きます。自分を強くしてくれるような言葉を選びましょう。例えば、「私は力強い」などです。まず文章を声に出して読み、右手で左肩を軽く叩き、次に左手で右肩を軽く叩きます。

交互に叩きます。左右5回ずつ、合計10回叩き、そのたびに文章を声に出して繰り返します。

最後に深呼吸をします。

腕を体の前で交差させ、胸に引き寄せます。右手で左上腕を、左手で右上腕を押さえます。優しく握り、腕を内側に引きます。しばらく握りしめた状態を保ち、その瞬間の自分にとって適切な握り加減を見つけます。力を入れたら力を抜きます。そして再びしばらく握りしめ、力を抜きます。しばらくそのままの状態を保ちます。

最後に深呼吸をします。

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