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title: 1か月前にレイプされました。以前ここに投稿したところ、信じられないほど励ましの返事をもらい、孤独感が和らぎました。なので、また質問しても大丈夫だと思います。

暴行以来、彼は性行為を求めてきて、私は断れなくなってしまいました。キスなどの接触を始めることさえあります。それから彼が他のことを要求してくると、嫌悪感は薄れ、むしろ「どうなってもいい」という気持ちになります。ほとんど空虚だと思います。部分的には、彼が私にしたことよりも自分が優れていることを証明しようとしているような気がして、そうしているのだと思います。今こうして言うと馬鹿げているし、直感に反しているように聞こえます。時々フラッシュバックしますが、それを乗り越えます。

私はいつも自分の処女を特別なものだと思っていたのですが、今こうして奪われてしまったので、感覚が麻痺し、どうでもいいと思っています。これは普通のことでしょうか？ ~ Our Wave コミュニティ
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# 1か月前にレイプされました。以前ここに投稿したところ、信じられないほど励ましの返事をもらい、孤独感が和らぎました。なので、また質問しても大丈夫だと思います。 暴行以来、彼は性行為を求めてきて、私は断れなくなってしまいました。キスなどの接触を始めることさえあります。それから彼が他のことを要求してくると、嫌悪感は薄れ、むしろ「どうなってもいい」という気持ちになります。ほとんど空虚だと思います。部分的には、彼が私にしたことよりも自分が優れていることを証明しようとしているような気がして、そうしているのだと思います。今こうして言うと馬鹿げているし、直感に反しているように聞こえます。時々フラッシュバックしますが、それを乗り越えます。 私はいつも自分の処女を特別なものだと思っていたのですが、今こうして奪われてしまったので、感覚が麻痺し、どうでもいいと思っています。これは普通のことでしょうか？

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**Dr. Laura**による回答

博士号精神保健看護師＆性暴力看護師認定者

トピックス:[特定の種類のトラウマや危害を理解する](/ja/learn?tags=understanding-specific-types-of-trauma-and-harm)

連絡をくださりありがとうございます。前回の回答が、あなたの孤独感を和らげるのに役立ったことを嬉しく思います。トラウマの後で孤独を感じるとき、ほんの少しのつながりや理解があれば、大きな違いが生まれます。あなたの気持ちが大切であり、困難なときでも連絡を取ることは素晴らしい勇気の表れであることを知ってほしいと思います。

あなたが述べた無感覚、つまり孤立しているような感覚は、トラウマを克服する過程で多くの生存者が経験するものです。こうした感情は自己防衛の役割を果たしますが、同時に不安や混乱を引き起こすこともあります。今あなたが感じていることは正当なものであり、こうした複雑な感情を乗り越えるにはサポートを受ける価値があるということを知っておいてください。

性的暴力を経験した被害者の多くは、自分の心と体が混乱したり矛盾したりするような反応を示すことに気づきます。あなたが説明した感情的な空虚感、つまり何が起こっても気にしないという感覚は、多くの被害者が経験することです。精神衛生の専門家は、このような保護的な感情的距離を「[解離](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fpro%2Fcoping-with-trauma-through-dissociation&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=en-US&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=dc693772-d6f9-437c-9d3c-4bf666c484f4&sig=989d8abf7788b33ed53cd0f13ad088a1e28559e48aa5c768c04d304987e8e525)」と呼ぶことがよくあります。これは、対処を助けるために心が圧倒的な感情から距離を置く状態です。

離れられないと感じながら接触を始めたと述べるとき、多くの生存者が同様の経験を報告していることを知っておいてください。セラピストが「[トラウマ ボンディング](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fhealth.clevelandclinic.org%2Ftrauma-bonding&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=en-US&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=dc693772-d6f9-437c-9d3c-4bf666c484f4&sig=20db14df352ef0c6e52ba43026c6958c0889cf2d6bef291081645afcd2586796)」と呼ぶこの複雑な力学は、起こったことを心が処理し、コントロールを取り戻す方法を探すときによく現れます。何かを自分自身に証明しようとする洞察力は、深い自己認識を示しています。これは「愚か」というよりは、起こったことを理解しようとする心の自然な試みを反映しています。

親密な瞬間に経験するフラッシュバックも、多くの生存者が報告していることです。フラッシュバックを乗り越えると一時的な安らぎが得られるかもしれませんが、これはより深いケアが必要な傷に絆創膏を貼るようなものです。経験を乗り越えようとしている間も、心はそれを処理しようとしている可能性があります。これは、心と体がケアと注意を必要としているという信号かもしれません。

自分の処女に対する見方が、特別なものから無感覚なものへと変化することは、他の被害者たちも経験していることです。私たちの心は、自己防衛の一環として、辛い感情から距離を置く方法を見つけることがあります。

これらすべての反応、つまり「ノー」と言えない、接触を始める、無感覚、フラッシュバック、処女に関する複雑な感情は、異常でトラウマ的な状況に対する正常な反応です。しかし、これらの反応は正常ではあるものの、適切なサポートなしに続くと、長期的な回復に悪影響を及ぼす可能性があります。

性的暴行の被害者支援を専門とするカウンセラーに相談することを検討してください。カウンセラーは、あなたが性的暴行の被害者体験を理解し、自分に合った対処法を見つけるのを助けてくれます。また、あなたの感情を処理し、自分のペースで複雑な感情を乗り越えるための安全な場所を提供してくれます。一人で解決する必要はありません。

全国性的暴行ホットライン (1-800-656-HOPE) は、こうした経験を理解しているカウンセラーが 24 時間年中無休で対応しています。[オンラインで](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Frainn.org%2Fcontent%2Fonline-hotline&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=en-US&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=dc693772-d6f9-437c-9d3c-4bf666c484f4&sig=78382552c2bf5dfd613264f984ce4e42fc39c77c0221ac91c54d319508e4e1cf)カウンセラーと話すのが快適であれば、または地元の性的暴行センターに連絡して相談することもできます。

起こったことはあなたのせいではありません。あなたの現在の感情や反応が、あなたの経験の価値を低下させるわけではありません。あなたは、これまで経験したことよりもずっと多くのことを受けるに値します。私たちに連絡してくれてありがとう。あなたは一人ではありません。

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[\[Image: Argentina\]Argentina](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=ar)[\[Image: Australia\]Australia](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=au)[\[Image: Bolivia\]Bolivia](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=bo)[\[Image: Canada\]Canada](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=ca)[\[Image: Chile\]Chile](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=cl)[\[Image: Colombia\]Colombia](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=co)[\[Image: Costa Rica\]Costa Rica](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=cr)[\[Image: Cuba\]Cuba](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=cu)[\[Image: Dominican Republic\]Dominican Republic](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=do)[\[Image: Ecuador\]Ecuador](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=ec)[\[Image: El Salvador\]El Salvador](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=sv)[\[Image: Equatorial Guinea\]Equatorial Guinea](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=gq)[\[Image: Guatemala\]Guatemala](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=gt)[\[Image: Honduras\]Honduras](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=hn)[\[Image: Ireland\]Ireland](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=ie)[\[Image: Japan\]Japan](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=jp)[\[Image: Mexico\]Mexico](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=mx)[\[Image: Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=ni)[\[Image: New Zealand\]New Zealand](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=nz)[\[Image: Panama\]Panama](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=pa)[\[Image: Paraguay\]Paraguay](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=py)[\[Image: Peru\]Peru](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=pe)[\[Image: Puerto Rico\]Puerto Rico](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=pr)[\[Image: Spain\]Spain](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=es)[\[Image: United Kingdom\]United Kingdom](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=gb)[\[Image: Uruguay\]Uruguay](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=uy)[\[Image: Venezuela\]Venezuela](/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392?country=ve)

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[English](/en/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392)[Español](/es/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392)[日本語](/ja/answer/i-was-raped-a-month-ago-i-previously-posted-here-and-received-incredibly-supportive-responses-that-made-me-feel-less-alone-so-i-hope-its-okay-to-ask-another-question-since-the-assault-he-asks-for-sexual-activities-and-i-find-myself-unable-to-say-no-even-sometimes-initiating-contact-like-kisses-and-then-when-he-asks-for-other-things-i-feel-less-disgust-but-more-of-an-i-dont-care-what-happens-almost-empty-i-guess-partially-i-think-i-do-it-to-feel-like-im-trying-to-prove-that-im-better-than-what-he-did-to-me-which-sounds-stupid-and-counterintuitive-now-that-im-saying-it-sometimes-i-have-flashbacks-but-push-through-them-ive-always-been-someone-who-has-thought-of-my-virginity-as-something-special-and-now-that-it-was-taken-from-me-the-way-it-was-i-feel-numb-and-dont-really-give-a-shit-is-this-normal-392)

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