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title: 最近、子どものSAについて読み、同じようなことを経験したことがあるかもしれないと気づきました。8歳くらいのとき、いとこが「ままごと」をしようと自分の部屋に誘ってくれました。ごっこ遊びとして始まったことが、いとこが私にキスしようとしたときに不適切な行為に変わりました。やめるように言うと、いとこはただの遊びだと主張しました。それからいとこは私に不適切な接触をしたので、私は走って母に伝えました。母は、子供は好奇心旺盛なだけ、彼は家族で悪意はないと言って、それを無視しました。

その後、私たちが2人きりになると、同じような出来事が起こりました。いとこは、母が私の言うことを聞いてくれないだろうと知っていました。私たちは同じ年齢だったので、私は何年も自分を責めていました。今でも、家族の集まりでいとこがじっと見つめてくると、居心地が悪くなります。私は長い間この恥ずかしさを抱えていて、何が起こったのか理解するのに助けが必要です。 ~ Our Wave コミュニティ
description: <p>ご連絡いただき、ご自身の体験を共有していただきありがとうございます。長い間、このような気持ちを抱えていらっしゃると聞いて、残念に思います。いとこに起こったことについて、混乱したり動揺したりするのは、まったく理解できます。<br /><br...
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Japan\]Japan](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=jp)[\[Image: Mexico\]Mexico](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=mx)[\[Image: Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=ni)[\[Image: New Zealand\]New Zealand](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=nz)[\[Image: 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# 最近、子どものSAについて読み、同じようなことを経験したことがあるかもしれないと気づきました。8歳くらいのとき、いとこが「ままごと」をしようと自分の部屋に誘ってくれました。ごっこ遊びとして始まったことが、いとこが私にキスしようとしたときに不適切な行為に変わりました。やめるように言うと、いとこはただの遊びだと主張しました。それからいとこは私に不適切な接触をしたので、私は走って母に伝えました。母は、子供は好奇心旺盛なだけ、彼は家族で悪意はないと言って、それを無視しました。 その後、私たちが2人きりになると、同じような出来事が起こりました。いとこは、母が私の言うことを聞いてくれないだろうと知っていました。私たちは同じ年齢だったので、私は何年も自分を責めていました。今でも、家族の集まりでいとこがじっと見つめてくると、居心地が悪くなります。私は長い間この恥ずかしさを抱えていて、何が起こったのか理解するのに助けが必要です。

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トピックス:[幼少期の経験を理解する](/ja/learn?tags=making-sense-of-childhood-experiences)

ご連絡いただき、ご自身の体験を共有していただきありがとうございます。長い間、このような気持ちを抱えていらっしゃると聞いて、残念に思います。いとこに起こったことについて、混乱したり動揺したりするのは、まったく理解できます。

あなたが説明した状況は、とても不快で悲惨な状況のように思えます。あなたといとこは同じ年齢でしたが、子供同士が不適切な行動をとることがあることを認識することが重要です。だからといって、それがあなたのせいになるわけではありません。いとこを信頼したり、単純なゲームだと思っていたものに参加したりしたことは、何も悪いことではありません。

また、彼に止めるように言い、何が起こったかを母親に伝えることで、境界線を引こうとしたことを認めることも重要です。当時、あなたの懸念が真剣に受け止められなかったのは残念です。自分の話を聞いてもらえないと感じると、混乱や自責の念が増す可能性がありますが、あなたは耳を傾けられ、サポートされるに値する存在だったということを知っておいてください。

恥ずかしさを感じることは、特に自分に非がない場合は、重荷になります。いとこの行動はよくないことで、あなたの感情は完全に正当なものです。そのような経験から、何年も経った後でも感情が残るのは普通のことです。家族の集まりでいとこがあなたをじっと見つめ続けると、当然ながらあなたは不快な気持ちになり、その記憶がよみがえるかもしれません。どんな環境でも、あなたには安全で尊重されていると感じる権利があることを忘れないでください。

信頼できる人、たとえば親しい友人、家族、サポートしてくれる専門家などに、こうした気持ちについて話すと役立つかもしれません。自分の考えを共有することは、何が起こったのかを理解し、癒しを始めるための大きな一歩となる可能性があります。

あなたは一人ではない、この重荷を一人で背負う必要はないということを知っておいてください。あなたは平穏と明晰さを得るに値します。手を差し伸べることは勇気ある第一歩です。私たちを信頼してくださりありがとうございます。

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Rica](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=cr)[\[Image: Cuba\]Cuba](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=cu)[\[Image: Dominican Republic\]Dominican Republic](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=do)[\[Image: Ecuador\]Ecuador](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=ec)[\[Image: El Salvador\]El Salvador](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=sv)[\[Image: Equatorial Guinea\]Equatorial Guinea](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=gq)[\[Image: Guatemala\]Guatemala](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=gt)[\[Image: Honduras\]Honduras](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=hn)[\[Image: Ireland\]Ireland](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=ie)[\[Image: Japan\]Japan](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=jp)[\[Image: Mexico\]Mexico](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=mx)[\[Image: Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=ni)[\[Image: New Zealand\]New Zealand](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=nz)[\[Image: Panama\]Panama](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=pa)[\[Image: Paraguay\]Paraguay](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=py)[\[Image: Peru\]Peru](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=pe)[\[Image: Puerto Rico\]Puerto Rico](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=pr)[\[Image: Spain\]Spain](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=es)[\[Image: United Kingdom\]United Kingdom](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=gb)[\[Image: Uruguay\]Uruguay](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=uy)[\[Image: Venezuela\]Venezuela](/answer/i-recently-read-about-childhood-sa-and-realized-i-may-have-experienced-something-similar-when-i-was-around-8-my-cousin-invited-me-to-his-room-to-play-house-what-started-as-pretend-play-turned-inappropriate-when-he-tried-to-kiss-me-when-i-told-him-to-stop-he-insisted-it-was-just-a-game-he-then-touched-me-inappropriately-and-i-ran-to-tell-my-mom-she-dismissed-it-saying-kids-are-just-curious-and-that-he-was-family-and-meant-no-harm-after-that-similar-incidents-occurred-whenever-we-were-left-alone-he-knew-my-mom-wouldnt-listen-to-me-because-we-were-the-same-age-i-blamed-myself-for-years-even-now-at-family-gatherings-his-staring-makes-me-uncomfortable-ive-carried-this-shame-for-a-long-time-and-need-help-understanding-what-happened-375?country=ve)

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見えるもの5つ（部屋の中と窓の外を見ることができます）

感じるもの4つ（目の前にあるもので触れるものは何ですか？）

聞こえるもの3つ

匂いを嗅ぐもの2つ

自分の好きなところ1つ。

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1\. 私はどこにいますか？

2\. 今日は何曜日ですか？

3\. 今日の日付は何ですか？

4\. 今は何月ですか？

5\. 今は何年ですか？

6\. 私は何歳ですか？

7\. 今はどんな季節ですか？

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右手の手のひらを下にして左肩に置きます。左手の手のひらを下にして右肩に置きます。自分を強くしてくれるような言葉を選びましょう。例えば、「私は力強い」などです。まず文章を声に出して読み、右手で左肩を軽く叩き、次に左手で右肩を軽く叩きます。

交互に叩きます。左右5回ずつ、合計10回叩き、そのたびに文章を声に出して繰り返します。

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腕を体の前で交差させ、胸に引き寄せます。右手で左上腕を、左手で右上腕を押さえます。優しく握り、腕を内側に引きます。しばらく握りしめた状態を保ち、その瞬間の自分にとって適切な握り加減を見つけます。力を入れたら力を抜きます。そして再びしばらく握りしめ、力を抜きます。しばらくそのままの状態を保ちます。

最後に深呼吸をします。

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