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title: 年上の女性のいとこ（3歳年上）と、その後近所の年上の友人との幼少期の体験のぼんやりとした記憶を整理するのに助けが必要です。どちらも、触れたりロールプレイのシナリオを含む「ゲーム」を通じて親密な身体的接触を開始しました。いとことの場合には、入浴中やプライベートな空間で起こりました。通常は彼女が開始しましたが、私が非言語的に接触を開始したこともありました。近所の友人との場合には、水泳中や遊び中に同様の出来事がありました。

その後、私は不適切なコンテンツをオンラインで検索し、別のいとこがそれを見つけました。私はこれらの体験、特に私が開始したときのことを恥ずかしく思っています。いとこ（今でも会っています）を恨んではいませんが、これらの体験が私に悪影響を及ぼしたと思います。これらの幼少期の体験とその影響を理解するための視点をいただければ幸いです。 ~ Our Wave コミュニティ
description: <p>あなたのストーリーを共有し、これらの非常に個人的な思い出を私たちに託してくださり、本当にありがとうございます。特に幼少期の親密な関係や境界の曖昧さに関わることなので、これらの過去の経験についてあなたが混乱し、落ち着かない気持ちになっているのは、まったく理解できます。<br /><br...
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# 年上の女性のいとこ（3歳年上）と、その後近所の年上の友人との幼少期の体験のぼんやりとした記憶を整理するのに助けが必要です。どちらも、触れたりロールプレイのシナリオを含む「ゲーム」を通じて親密な身体的接触を開始しました。いとことの場合には、入浴中やプライベートな空間で起こりました。通常は彼女が開始しましたが、私が非言語的に接触を開始したこともありました。近所の友人との場合には、水泳中や遊び中に同様の出来事がありました。 その後、私は不適切なコンテンツをオンラインで検索し、別のいとこがそれを見つけました。私はこれらの体験、特に私が開始したときのことを恥ずかしく思っています。いとこ（今でも会っています）を恨んではいませんが、これらの体験が私に悪影響を及ぼしたと思います。これらの幼少期の体験とその影響を理解するための視点をいただければ幸いです。

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トピックス:[幼少期の経験を理解する](/ja/learn?tags=making-sense-of-childhood-experiences)

あなたのストーリーを共有し、これらの非常に個人的な思い出を私たちに託してくださり、本当にありがとうございます。特に幼少期の親密な関係や境界の曖昧さに関わることなので、これらの過去の経験についてあなたが混乱し、落ち着かない気持ちになっているのは、まったく理解できます。

幼少期の記憶は、特に曖昧で複雑な感情を伴う場合、処理するのが難しいことがあります。特に年齢差があったり、年上の人が始めたりした場合には、性的探求を伴う過去の交流を振り返ると、恥ずかしさや不快感を感じることは珍しくありません。

あなたが説明したことから、あなたが若い頃、年上のいとこや近所の人が、親密な行為を伴うゲームを始めたようです。たとえ彼らが強引ではなかったとしても、年上の彼らがこれらの行為を始めたという事実は、あなたたちの間に力の不均衡を生み出した可能性があります。これは、当時は明らかに間違っていると感じなかったとしても、後になって混乱や侵害を感じる原因になることがあります。

子どもは自分の行動の意味を完全に理解していないことが多く、好奇心から行動したり、どこかで見た行動を真似したりしている可能性があることを認識することが重要です。これは不適切な行動を正当化するものではありませんが、なぜそのような行動が起こったのかを説明するのに役立ちます。

あなたが恥ずかしさや混乱、不快感を覚えるのは当然です。これらの記憶について不安を感じるのは当然であり、それが今でもあなたに影響を与えているのも理解できます。いとこに会うと今でも落ち着かない気持ちになるのは、これらの経験があなたに永続的な影響を与えていることを示しています。

こんな風に感じているのはあなただけではないことを知ってほしいです。同じような経験をした人はたくさんいて、幼少期の人間関係についての未解決の感情と格闘しています。真実を明らかにしてサポートを求めるのは勇気のあることです。

こうした感情や記憶について、信頼できるメンタルヘルスの専門家に相談してみるのもよいかもしれません。セラピストは、未解決の感情を探求するための安全な場所を提供し、何が起こったのか理解するのを助け、回復のプロセスをサポートします。また、セラピストは、残っている羞恥心に対処するのを手伝ったり、いとこに会ったときの感情に対処する戦略を立てたりすることもできます。

こうした複雑な感情を乗り越えていくには、自分自身に優しくすることを忘れないでください。回復には時間がかかります。必要なときに助けを求めても大丈夫です。あなたは自分の経験を理解し、処理するための重要な一歩を踏み出しており、それは誇りに思うべきことです。私たちを信頼してくださり、ありがとうございます。あなたは一人ではありません。

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Cuba\]Cuba](/answer/i-need-help-processing-hazy-memories-of-childhood-experiences-with-my-older-female-cousin-3-years-older-and-later-an-older-neighbor-friend-both-initiated-intimate-physical-contact-through-games-involving-touching-and-role-play-scenarios-with-my-cousin-this-happened-during-bath-time-and-in-private-spaces-while-she-typically-initiated-i-did-once-nonverbally-initiate-contact-with-my-neighbor-friend-similar-incidents-occurred-during-swimming-and-playtime-afterward-i-looked-up-inappropriate-content-online-which-another-cousin-discovered-im-struggling-with-shame-about-these-experiences-particularly-about-the-time-i-initiated-while-i-dont-resent-my-cousin-whom-i-still-see-i-believe-these-experiences-affected-me-negatively-id-appreciate-perspective-on-understanding-these-childhood-experiences-and-their-impact-378?country=cu)[\[Image: Dominican Republic\]Dominican 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Salvador](/answer/i-need-help-processing-hazy-memories-of-childhood-experiences-with-my-older-female-cousin-3-years-older-and-later-an-older-neighbor-friend-both-initiated-intimate-physical-contact-through-games-involving-touching-and-role-play-scenarios-with-my-cousin-this-happened-during-bath-time-and-in-private-spaces-while-she-typically-initiated-i-did-once-nonverbally-initiate-contact-with-my-neighbor-friend-similar-incidents-occurred-during-swimming-and-playtime-afterward-i-looked-up-inappropriate-content-online-which-another-cousin-discovered-im-struggling-with-shame-about-these-experiences-particularly-about-the-time-i-initiated-while-i-dont-resent-my-cousin-whom-i-still-see-i-believe-these-experiences-affected-me-negatively-id-appreciate-perspective-on-understanding-these-childhood-experiences-and-their-impact-378?country=sv)[\[Image: Equatorial Guinea\]Equatorial 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Guatemala\]Guatemala](/answer/i-need-help-processing-hazy-memories-of-childhood-experiences-with-my-older-female-cousin-3-years-older-and-later-an-older-neighbor-friend-both-initiated-intimate-physical-contact-through-games-involving-touching-and-role-play-scenarios-with-my-cousin-this-happened-during-bath-time-and-in-private-spaces-while-she-typically-initiated-i-did-once-nonverbally-initiate-contact-with-my-neighbor-friend-similar-incidents-occurred-during-swimming-and-playtime-afterward-i-looked-up-inappropriate-content-online-which-another-cousin-discovered-im-struggling-with-shame-about-these-experiences-particularly-about-the-time-i-initiated-while-i-dont-resent-my-cousin-whom-i-still-see-i-believe-these-experiences-affected-me-negatively-id-appreciate-perspective-on-understanding-these-childhood-experiences-and-their-impact-378?country=gt)[\[Image: 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Ireland\]Ireland](/answer/i-need-help-processing-hazy-memories-of-childhood-experiences-with-my-older-female-cousin-3-years-older-and-later-an-older-neighbor-friend-both-initiated-intimate-physical-contact-through-games-involving-touching-and-role-play-scenarios-with-my-cousin-this-happened-during-bath-time-and-in-private-spaces-while-she-typically-initiated-i-did-once-nonverbally-initiate-contact-with-my-neighbor-friend-similar-incidents-occurred-during-swimming-and-playtime-afterward-i-looked-up-inappropriate-content-online-which-another-cousin-discovered-im-struggling-with-shame-about-these-experiences-particularly-about-the-time-i-initiated-while-i-dont-resent-my-cousin-whom-i-still-see-i-believe-these-experiences-affected-me-negatively-id-appreciate-perspective-on-understanding-these-childhood-experiences-and-their-impact-378?country=ie)[\[Image: Japan\]Japan](/answer/i-need-help-processing-hazy-memories-of-childhood-experiences-with-my-older-female-cousin-3-years-older-and-later-an-older-neighbor-friend-both-initiated-intimate-physical-contact-through-games-involving-touching-and-role-play-scenarios-with-my-cousin-this-happened-during-bath-time-and-in-private-spaces-while-she-typically-initiated-i-did-once-nonverbally-initiate-contact-with-my-neighbor-friend-similar-incidents-occurred-during-swimming-and-playtime-afterward-i-looked-up-inappropriate-content-online-which-another-cousin-discovered-im-struggling-with-shame-about-these-experiences-particularly-about-the-time-i-initiated-while-i-dont-resent-my-cousin-whom-i-still-see-i-believe-these-experiences-affected-me-negatively-id-appreciate-perspective-on-understanding-these-childhood-experiences-and-their-impact-378?country=jp)[\[Image: 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Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/answer/i-need-help-processing-hazy-memories-of-childhood-experiences-with-my-older-female-cousin-3-years-older-and-later-an-older-neighbor-friend-both-initiated-intimate-physical-contact-through-games-involving-touching-and-role-play-scenarios-with-my-cousin-this-happened-during-bath-time-and-in-private-spaces-while-she-typically-initiated-i-did-once-nonverbally-initiate-contact-with-my-neighbor-friend-similar-incidents-occurred-during-swimming-and-playtime-afterward-i-looked-up-inappropriate-content-online-which-another-cousin-discovered-im-struggling-with-shame-about-these-experiences-particularly-about-the-time-i-initiated-while-i-dont-resent-my-cousin-whom-i-still-see-i-believe-these-experiences-affected-me-negatively-id-appreciate-perspective-on-understanding-these-childhood-experiences-and-their-impact-378?country=ni)[\[Image: New Zealand\]New Zealand](/answer/i-need-help-processing-hazy-memories-of-childhood-experiences-with-my-older-female-cousin-3-years-older-and-later-an-older-neighbor-friend-both-initiated-intimate-physical-contact-through-games-involving-touching-and-role-play-scenarios-with-my-cousin-this-happened-during-bath-time-and-in-private-spaces-while-she-typically-initiated-i-did-once-nonverbally-initiate-contact-with-my-neighbor-friend-similar-incidents-occurred-during-swimming-and-playtime-afterward-i-looked-up-inappropriate-content-online-which-another-cousin-discovered-im-struggling-with-shame-about-these-experiences-particularly-about-the-time-i-initiated-while-i-dont-resent-my-cousin-whom-i-still-see-i-believe-these-experiences-affected-me-negatively-id-appreciate-perspective-on-understanding-these-childhood-experiences-and-their-impact-378?country=nz)[\[Image: Panama\]Panama](/answer/i-need-help-processing-hazy-memories-of-childhood-experiences-with-my-older-female-cousin-3-years-older-and-later-an-older-neighbor-friend-both-initiated-intimate-physical-contact-through-games-involving-touching-and-role-play-scenarios-with-my-cousin-this-happened-during-bath-time-and-in-private-spaces-while-she-typically-initiated-i-did-once-nonverbally-initiate-contact-with-my-neighbor-friend-similar-incidents-occurred-during-swimming-and-playtime-afterward-i-looked-up-inappropriate-content-online-which-another-cousin-discovered-im-struggling-with-shame-about-these-experiences-particularly-about-the-time-i-initiated-while-i-dont-resent-my-cousin-whom-i-still-see-i-believe-these-experiences-affected-me-negatively-id-appreciate-perspective-on-understanding-these-childhood-experiences-and-their-impact-378?country=pa)[\[Image: Paraguay\]Paraguay](/answer/i-need-help-processing-hazy-memories-of-childhood-experiences-with-my-older-female-cousin-3-years-older-and-later-an-older-neighbor-friend-both-initiated-intimate-physical-contact-through-games-involving-touching-and-role-play-scenarios-with-my-cousin-this-happened-during-bath-time-and-in-private-spaces-while-she-typically-initiated-i-did-once-nonverbally-initiate-contact-with-my-neighbor-friend-similar-incidents-occurred-during-swimming-and-playtime-afterward-i-looked-up-inappropriate-content-online-which-another-cousin-discovered-im-struggling-with-shame-about-these-experiences-particularly-about-the-time-i-initiated-while-i-dont-resent-my-cousin-whom-i-still-see-i-believe-these-experiences-affected-me-negatively-id-appreciate-perspective-on-understanding-these-childhood-experiences-and-their-impact-378?country=py)[\[Image: Peru\]Peru](/answer/i-need-help-processing-hazy-memories-of-childhood-experiences-with-my-older-female-cousin-3-years-older-and-later-an-older-neighbor-friend-both-initiated-intimate-physical-contact-through-games-involving-touching-and-role-play-scenarios-with-my-cousin-this-happened-during-bath-time-and-in-private-spaces-while-she-typically-initiated-i-did-once-nonverbally-initiate-contact-with-my-neighbor-friend-similar-incidents-occurred-during-swimming-and-playtime-afterward-i-looked-up-inappropriate-content-online-which-another-cousin-discovered-im-struggling-with-shame-about-these-experiences-particularly-about-the-time-i-initiated-while-i-dont-resent-my-cousin-whom-i-still-see-i-believe-these-experiences-affected-me-negatively-id-appreciate-perspective-on-understanding-these-childhood-experiences-and-their-impact-378?country=pe)[\[Image: Puerto Rico\]Puerto Rico](/answer/i-need-help-processing-hazy-memories-of-childhood-experiences-with-my-older-female-cousin-3-years-older-and-later-an-older-neighbor-friend-both-initiated-intimate-physical-contact-through-games-involving-touching-and-role-play-scenarios-with-my-cousin-this-happened-during-bath-time-and-in-private-spaces-while-she-typically-initiated-i-did-once-nonverbally-initiate-contact-with-my-neighbor-friend-similar-incidents-occurred-during-swimming-and-playtime-afterward-i-looked-up-inappropriate-content-online-which-another-cousin-discovered-im-struggling-with-shame-about-these-experiences-particularly-about-the-time-i-initiated-while-i-dont-resent-my-cousin-whom-i-still-see-i-believe-these-experiences-affected-me-negatively-id-appreciate-perspective-on-understanding-these-childhood-experiences-and-their-impact-378?country=pr)[\[Image: Spain\]Spain](/answer/i-need-help-processing-hazy-memories-of-childhood-experiences-with-my-older-female-cousin-3-years-older-and-later-an-older-neighbor-friend-both-initiated-intimate-physical-contact-through-games-involving-touching-and-role-play-scenarios-with-my-cousin-this-happened-during-bath-time-and-in-private-spaces-while-she-typically-initiated-i-did-once-nonverbally-initiate-contact-with-my-neighbor-friend-similar-incidents-occurred-during-swimming-and-playtime-afterward-i-looked-up-inappropriate-content-online-which-another-cousin-discovered-im-struggling-with-shame-about-these-experiences-particularly-about-the-time-i-initiated-while-i-dont-resent-my-cousin-whom-i-still-see-i-believe-these-experiences-affected-me-negatively-id-appreciate-perspective-on-understanding-these-childhood-experiences-and-their-impact-378?country=es)[\[Image: United Kingdom\]United Kingdom](/answer/i-need-help-processing-hazy-memories-of-childhood-experiences-with-my-older-female-cousin-3-years-older-and-later-an-older-neighbor-friend-both-initiated-intimate-physical-contact-through-games-involving-touching-and-role-play-scenarios-with-my-cousin-this-happened-during-bath-time-and-in-private-spaces-while-she-typically-initiated-i-did-once-nonverbally-initiate-contact-with-my-neighbor-friend-similar-incidents-occurred-during-swimming-and-playtime-afterward-i-looked-up-inappropriate-content-online-which-another-cousin-discovered-im-struggling-with-shame-about-these-experiences-particularly-about-the-time-i-initiated-while-i-dont-resent-my-cousin-whom-i-still-see-i-believe-these-experiences-affected-me-negatively-id-appreciate-perspective-on-understanding-these-childhood-experiences-and-their-impact-378?country=gb)[\[Image: Uruguay\]Uruguay](/answer/i-need-help-processing-hazy-memories-of-childhood-experiences-with-my-older-female-cousin-3-years-older-and-later-an-older-neighbor-friend-both-initiated-intimate-physical-contact-through-games-involving-touching-and-role-play-scenarios-with-my-cousin-this-happened-during-bath-time-and-in-private-spaces-while-she-typically-initiated-i-did-once-nonverbally-initiate-contact-with-my-neighbor-friend-similar-incidents-occurred-during-swimming-and-playtime-afterward-i-looked-up-inappropriate-content-online-which-another-cousin-discovered-im-struggling-with-shame-about-these-experiences-particularly-about-the-time-i-initiated-while-i-dont-resent-my-cousin-whom-i-still-see-i-believe-these-experiences-affected-me-negatively-id-appreciate-perspective-on-understanding-these-childhood-experiences-and-their-impact-378?country=uy)[\[Image: Venezuela\]Venezuela](/answer/i-need-help-processing-hazy-memories-of-childhood-experiences-with-my-older-female-cousin-3-years-older-and-later-an-older-neighbor-friend-both-initiated-intimate-physical-contact-through-games-involving-touching-and-role-play-scenarios-with-my-cousin-this-happened-during-bath-time-and-in-private-spaces-while-she-typically-initiated-i-did-once-nonverbally-initiate-contact-with-my-neighbor-friend-similar-incidents-occurred-during-swimming-and-playtime-afterward-i-looked-up-inappropriate-content-online-which-another-cousin-discovered-im-struggling-with-shame-about-these-experiences-particularly-about-the-time-i-initiated-while-i-dont-resent-my-cousin-whom-i-still-see-i-believe-these-experiences-affected-me-negatively-id-appreciate-perspective-on-understanding-these-childhood-experiences-and-their-impact-378?country=ve)

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暴力、憎悪、搾取

脅迫、憎悪に満ちた言葉、性的強要

いじめ、または望まない接触

ハラスメント、脅迫、執拗な迷惑メッセージ

詐欺、詐称、なりすまし

虚偽の要求、または別人を名乗ること

偽の情報

誤解を招く主張や意図的な情報操作

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接地活動

座り心地の良い場所を見つけてください。目を軽く閉じて、深呼吸を数回します。鼻から息を吸い（3つ数え）、口から息を吐きます（3つ数え）。さあ、目を開けて周りを見回してください。以下のことを声に出して言ってみてください。

見えるもの5つ（部屋の中と窓の外を見ることができます）

感じるもの4つ（目の前にあるもので触れるものは何ですか？）

聞こえるもの3つ

匂いを嗅ぐもの2つ

自分の好きなところ1つ。

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

座っている場所から、周囲を見回して、質感のあるもの、見ていて楽しいもの、興味深いものを探してください。

何かを手に持ち、その物に全神経を集中してください。影が落ちている部分や、物の中に形が浮かび上がっている部分に注目してください。手に持った時の重さや軽さ、指の裏側の表面の質感を感じてみてください（ペットを飼っている場合は、ペットと一緒に行うこともできます）。

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

以下の質問を自分に問いかけ、声に出して答えましょう。

1\. 私はどこにいますか？

2\. 今日は何曜日ですか？

3\. 今日の日付は何ですか？

4\. 今は何月ですか？

5\. 今は何年ですか？

6\. 私は何歳ですか？

7\. 今はどんな季節ですか？

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

右手の手のひらを下にして左肩に置きます。左手の手のひらを下にして右肩に置きます。自分を強くしてくれるような言葉を選びましょう。例えば、「私は力強い」などです。まず文章を声に出して読み、右手で左肩を軽く叩き、次に左手で右肩を軽く叩きます。

交互に叩きます。左右5回ずつ、合計10回叩き、そのたびに文章を声に出して繰り返します。

最後に深呼吸をします。

腕を体の前で交差させ、胸に引き寄せます。右手で左上腕を、左手で右上腕を押さえます。優しく握り、腕を内側に引きます。しばらく握りしめた状態を保ち、その瞬間の自分にとって適切な握り加減を見つけます。力を入れたら力を抜きます。そして再びしばらく握りしめ、力を抜きます。しばらくそのままの状態を保ちます。

最後に深呼吸をします。

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