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# 私は現在のパートナーと約 5 か月間交際しています。彼らは私を愛し、優しく接してくれます。私の過去を知っていて、安心させてくれます。しかし、精神的虐待や性的虐待が多かった以前の関係から精神的に抜け出すのは私にとって困難でした。どうすれば、関係における「生き残り」モードから抜け出して、パートナーを (そして私自身が) ふさわしい方法で本当に愛することができるのでしょうか。

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**Dr. Laura**による回答

博士号精神保健看護師＆性暴力看護師認定者

トピックス:[トラウマ後の人間関係の修復](/ja/learn/topics/navigating-relationships-after-trauma)[感情と身体感覚を管理する](/ja/learn/topics/managing-emotions-and-how-you-feel-in-your-body)

ご連絡いただきありがとうございます。まず第一に、虐待的な関係から抜け出すためにあなたが示した強さを認めたいと思います。あなたが今、愛情深く支え合えるパートナー関係にあるという事実は、本当に希望に満ちており、あなたの回復力の証です。

現在の関係に完全にリラックスすることが難しいと感じるのは、まったく正常で理解できることです。あなたの脳は、危害から身を守る方法として「生存モード」で動作することを学びました。このパターンを再構築するには時間がかかります。この回復プロセスを進める間、どうか辛抱強く、自分に優しくしてください。

まず、自分の気持ちやニーズについてパートナーと率直に話し合いを続けましょう。パートナーの理解は、回復の過程で強力なサポートになります。「サバイバル モード」の思考に気づいたら、徐々にそれに挑戦してください。現在の関係における安全と愛を思い出してください。また、安全で養われていると感じられるセルフケア活動に参加する必要があります。これは、もう危険にさらされていないことを脳に強化するのに役立ちます。

[マインドフルネスの](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fhealth%2Ftrauma-informed-mindfulness%23how-to-be-trauma-informed&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=en-US&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=0836f1b5-efe3-4bfa-8de2-6c6b3aefde3b&sig=ed532bc5b53d30051e6326b5c2b092ead2bdfb4ed444743205b83b8760b8da9a)エクササイズを毎日実践することを検討してください。これは、現在の瞬間に集中し、過去の経験に対する不安を軽減するのに役立ちます。トラウマの生存者向けに特別に設計された簡単な呼吸エクササイズやガイド付き瞑想を試してください。他の戦略としては、日記をつけて自分の考えや感情を記録することなどが挙げられます。これにより、トリガーに対処しやすくなります。

時間をかけて、自分にとって心地よいペースで、パートナーとの肉体的、感情的な親密さに徐々に身を任せてみましょう。これには、より長い時間手を握ったり、より深い会話を交わしたりするなどの小さな目標を設定することが含まれるかもしれません。

最後に、さらなるサポートが必要だと感じたら、ためらわずに頼んでください。虐待の被害者のためのサポート グループに参加することを検討してください。同じような経験をした人とつながることで、自分のことを認めてもらい、さらなる対処法を学べます。トラウマ インフォームド ケアの訓練を受けたセラピスト、特に[EMDR](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.emdr.com%2Fwhat-is-emdr%2F&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=en-US&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=0836f1b5-efe3-4bfa-8de2-6c6b3aefde3b&sig=fcfb97dd1457c3dd84d28caa3ccf6bc199e6f5b84b128956f1c85d9b29c0b123) (眼球運動による脱感作と再処理) や[CBT](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.apa.org%2Fptsd-guideline%2Ftreatments%2Fcognitive-behavioral-therapy&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=en-US&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=0836f1b5-efe3-4bfa-8de2-6c6b3aefde3b&sig=8033da64fa0ada4201e8e02b4117037947cfa2893bc83af652b1b4cf24bd0d0c) (認知行動療法) の経験があるセラピストと協力することも効果的です。これらのアプローチは、トラウマの処理や思考パターンの変更に特に効果的です。

覚えておいてください、癒しは旅であり、目的地ではありません。このプロセスに取り組む間、忍耐強く、自分自身に思いやりを持ってください。あなたの気づきと変化への欲求は、すでに大きな前進です。時間とサポート、そして継続的な努力があれば、現在の関係における愛と安全を完全に受け入れることを学ぶことができます。癒しは可能です。あなたは一人ではありません。

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接地活動

座り心地の良い場所を見つけてください。目を軽く閉じて、深呼吸を数回します。鼻から息を吸い（3つ数え）、口から息を吐きます（3つ数え）。さあ、目を開けて周りを見回してください。以下のことを声に出して言ってみてください。

見えるもの5つ（部屋の中と窓の外を見ることができます）

感じるもの4つ（目の前にあるもので触れるものは何ですか？）

聞こえるもの3つ

匂いを嗅ぐもの2つ

自分の好きなところ1つ。

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

座っている場所から、周囲を見回して、質感のあるもの、見ていて楽しいもの、興味深いものを探してください。

何かを手に持ち、その物に全神経を集中してください。影が落ちている部分や、物の中に形が浮かび上がっている部分に注目してください。手に持った時の重さや軽さ、指の裏側の表面の質感を感じてみてください（ペットを飼っている場合は、ペットと一緒に行うこともできます）。

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

以下の質問を自分に問いかけ、声に出して答えましょう。

1\. 私はどこにいますか？

2\. 今日は何曜日ですか？

3\. 今日の日付は何ですか？

4\. 今は何月ですか？

5\. 今は何年ですか？

6\. 私は何歳ですか？

7\. 今はどんな季節ですか？

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

右手の手のひらを下にして左肩に置きます。左手の手のひらを下にして右肩に置きます。自分を強くしてくれるような言葉を選びましょう。例えば、「私は力強い」などです。まず文章を声に出して読み、右手で左肩を軽く叩き、次に左手で右肩を軽く叩きます。

交互に叩きます。左右5回ずつ、合計10回叩き、そのたびに文章を声に出して繰り返します。

最後に深呼吸をします。

腕を体の前で交差させ、胸に引き寄せます。右手で左上腕を、左手で右上腕を押さえます。優しく握り、腕を内側に引きます。しばらく握りしめた状態を保ち、その瞬間の自分にとって適切な握り加減を見つけます。力を入れたら力を抜きます。そして再びしばらく握りしめ、力を抜きます。しばらくそのままの状態を保ちます。

最後に深呼吸をします。

別のグラウンディング活動を試してみましょう

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