---
title: 途方に暮れています。同僚にレイプされたと信じている被害に遭いました。はっきりと断ったのに、彼はとにかく続けました。それは短時間で、私が2度目に断ったときに彼は止めましたが、そのとき私は処女でした。その後、彼は「誤解」があったと主張して、私に他の性行為を強要しました。私はこのことを理解するのに苦労しています。これは暴行だったのか、それとも彼が主張するように誤解だったのでしょうか? 悪夢を見ており、仕事で毎日彼に会わなければなりません。彼は時々、起こったことについて冗談を言います。仕事を辞めることもできますが、人生にこれ以上の混乱が起こるのは嫌です。また、この事件を超えて彼に自分の価値を証明したいという欲求があり、それが私を恥ずかしくさせます。これらは正常な反応ですか? どうすれば前に進めますか? ~ Our Wave コミュニティ
description: <p>わあ、なんてひどい経験をされたのでしょう。私たちにこのことを任せてくださって本当にありがとうございます。あなたがおっしゃったことは、とても悲痛でトラウマになる経験であり、あなたが途方に暮れて葛藤しているのも全く理解できます。<br /><br...
url: https://community.ourwave.org/ja/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383.md
---

{{customAnalyticsScripts}}

[\[Image: Our Wave ロゴ\]\[Image: Our Wave ロゴ\]](/ja/)

[

コミュニティ

](/ja/)[

質問と回答

](/ja/learn)[

サポートを探す

](/ja/resources)

ストーリーをシェア

メッセージを投稿

0

ユーザー

0

ビュー

0

リアクション

0

ストーリーを読む

##### 休憩しますか？

グラウンディング（心と身体を癒す）アクティビティを試す

緊急の支援が必要な方は、{{resource}} をご訪問ください。

支援情報を表示する

\[Image: United States\]United States

[\[Image: Argentina\]Argentina](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=ar)[\[Image: Australia\]Australia](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=au)[\[Image: Bolivia\]Bolivia](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=bo)[\[Image: Canada\]Canada](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=ca)[\[Image: Chile\]Chile](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=cl)[\[Image: Colombia\]Colombia](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=co)[\[Image: Costa Rica\]Costa Rica](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=cr)[\[Image: Cuba\]Cuba](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=cu)[\[Image: Dominican Republic\]Dominican Republic](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=do)[\[Image: Ecuador\]Ecuador](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=ec)[\[Image: El Salvador\]El Salvador](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=sv)[\[Image: Equatorial Guinea\]Equatorial Guinea](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=gq)[\[Image: Guatemala\]Guatemala](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=gt)[\[Image: Honduras\]Honduras](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=hn)[\[Image: Ireland\]Ireland](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=ie)[\[Image: Japan\]Japan](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=jp)[\[Image: Mexico\]Mexico](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=mx)[\[Image: Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=ni)[\[Image: New Zealand\]New Zealand](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=nz)[\[Image: Panama\]Panama](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=pa)[\[Image: Paraguay\]Paraguay](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=py)[\[Image: Peru\]Peru](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=pe)[\[Image: Puerto Rico\]Puerto Rico](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=pr)[\[Image: Spain\]Spain](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=es)[\[Image: United Kingdom\]United Kingdom](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=gb)[\[Image: Uruguay\]Uruguay](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=uy)[\[Image: Venezuela\]Venezuela](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=ve)

日本語

[English](/en/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383)[Español](/es/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383)[日本語](/ja/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383)

[

私たちについて

](https://www.ourwave.org/ja/who-we-are)

ノースカロライナ州ローリーで を込めて制作されました。

詳細は私たちの[コミュニティガイドライン](https://www.ourwave.org/ja/community-guidelines)、[個人情報保護方針](https://www.ourwave.org/ja/privacy)、および[利用規約](https://www.ourwave.org/ja/terms)をお読みください。

フィードバックはありますか？ぜひお送りください

🇺🇸

# 途方に暮れています。同僚にレイプされたと信じている被害に遭いました。はっきりと断ったのに、彼はとにかく続けました。それは短時間で、私が2度目に断ったときに彼は止めましたが、そのとき私は処女でした。その後、彼は「誤解」があったと主張して、私に他の性行為を強要しました。私はこのことを理解するのに苦労しています。これは暴行だったのか、それとも彼が主張するように誤解だったのでしょうか? 悪夢を見ており、仕事で毎日彼に会わなければなりません。彼は時々、起こったことについて冗談を言います。仕事を辞めることもできますが、人生にこれ以上の混乱が起こるのは嫌です。また、この事件を超えて彼に自分の価値を証明したいという欲求があり、それが私を恥ずかしくさせます。これらは正常な反応ですか? どうすれば前に進めますか?

\[Image: Dr. Laura\]

**Dr. Laura**による回答

博士号精神保健看護師＆性暴力看護師認定者

トピックス:[特定の種類のトラウマや危害を理解する](/ja/learn?tags=understanding-specific-types-of-trauma-and-harm)

わあ、なんてひどい経験をされたのでしょう。私たちにこのことを任せてくださって本当にありがとうございます。あなたがおっしゃったことは、とても悲痛でトラウマになる経験であり、あなたが途方に暮れて葛藤しているのも全く理解できます。

まず、あなたがはっきりと「ノー」と言ったのに、彼があなたの拒否を無視してとにかく続けることを選んだことを認めることが重要です。[同意は](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Frainn.org%2Farticles%2Fwhat-is-consent&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=en-US&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=aa66f6ce-fbbf-4dc5-b4a0-d4fcdc48b9fa&sig=9f587a3402a727e809dcf354bb72827d3de2b67d1904d9e17cf9a4d18d81ae97)熱心で継続的なものでなければならず、いつでも撤回できます。あなたが「ノー」と言った後も誰かが何らかの形の性的行為を続ける場合、それは誤解ではなく、性的暴行またはレイプです。それが続いた時間の長さやあなたが処女であったという事実は、起こったことの重大さを変えるものではありません。

彼がその後「落ち着かせる」ためにあなたに性行為をするように頼んだという事実は、あなたの感情と自主性をさらに無視していることを示しています。この行動は操作的であり、彼の行動に対してあなたに不当な非難と責任を負わせます。さらに、職場でその出来事について冗談を言うという彼の選択は、無礼であるだけでなく、嫌がらせの一種でもあり、あなたの苦痛の気持ちをさらに悪化させる可能性があります。

混乱したり、恥ずかしくなったり、自分のせいだったのかと疑問に思ったりすることは、性的暴行の被害者によくある反応です。相手に自分を証明したい、つまり「自分は十分だ」と感じたいという圧倒的な欲求も、自然な反応です。被害者は、自分を傷つけた相手に承認を求めることで、コントロール感や価値感を取り戻そうとすることがあります。こうした感情は、あなたを嫌悪感や恥ずかしさを感じさせるものではありません。トラウマに対する正常な反応なのです。

起こったことはあなたのせいではないことを自分に言い聞かせることが大切です。あなたは何も悪いことをしていませんし、このような扱いを受けるべきではありません。あなたが感じている不快感や悪夢は、あなたが経験したことに対する正当な反応です。

彼はあなたの同僚であり、毎日会わなければならないことを考えると、仕事を辞めることが大変なことのように思えるのも理解できます。しかし、あなたの健康が何よりも重要です。職場環境をより安全に感じられるような選択肢を探ってみるとよいかもしれません。これには、信頼できる上司や人事担当者に状況について話すことも含まれます。多くの職場では、ハラスメントに対処するためのポリシーが整備されており、サポートや配慮を提供できます。

信頼できる友人、家族、またはサポートを提供できる専門家に相談することをお勧めします。トラウマを理解している人と話すことは、自分の感情を処理し、複雑な状況を乗り越えるのに役立ちます。専門家から直接支援を受けたい場合、 [RAINN](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fhotline.rainn.org%2Fonline&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=en-US&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=aa66f6ce-fbbf-4dc5-b4a0-d4fcdc48b9fa&sig=68b74b882a92b521b41c4925dc434483232bfa31fe7578d5b107c48bed4f6fd6)のカウンセラーに相談することもできます。

覚えておいてください、あなたは安全で、尊重され、耳を傾けられる価値があるのです。回復には時間がかかります。助けを求めるのは大丈夫です。あなたは一人ではありません。私たちを信頼してくださりありがとうございます。

ランダムな質問

0 賛成票 賛成票

[

0 コメント コメント

](/ja/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383#comments)

### コメントを削除しますか？

入力中のコメントですが、本当に削除してもよろしいですか？

キャンセル

削除する

##### 同様のコミュニティコンテンツ

Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetuer adipiscing elit. Aenean commodo ligula eget dolor. Aenean massa. Cum sociis natoque penatibus et magnis dis parturient montes, nascetur ridiculus mus. Donec quam felis, ultricies nec, pellentesque eu, pretium quis, sem. Nulla consequat massa quis enim. Donec pede justo, fringilla vel, aliquet nec, vulputate

Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetuer adipiscing elit. Aenean commodo ligula eget dolor. Aenean massa. Cum sociis natoque penatibus et magnis dis parturient montes, nascetur ridiculus mus. Donec quam felis, ultricies nec, pellentesque eu, pretium quis, sem. Nulla consequat massa quis enim. Donec pede justo, fringilla vel, aliquet nec, vulputate

Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetuer adipiscing elit. Aenean commodo ligula eget dolor. Aenean massa. Cum sociis natoque penatibus et magnis dis parturient montes, nascetur ridiculus mus. Donec quam felis, ultricies nec, pellentesque eu, pretium quis, sem. Nulla consequat massa quis enim. Donec pede justo, fringilla vel, aliquet nec, vulputate

0

ユーザー

0

ビュー

0

リアクション

0

ストーリーを読む

##### 休憩しますか？

グラウンディング（心と身体を癒す）アクティビティを試す

緊急の支援が必要な方は、{{resource}} をご訪問ください。

支援情報を表示する

\[Image: United States\]United States

[\[Image: Argentina\]Argentina](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=ar)[\[Image: Australia\]Australia](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=au)[\[Image: Bolivia\]Bolivia](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=bo)[\[Image: Canada\]Canada](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=ca)[\[Image: Chile\]Chile](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=cl)[\[Image: Colombia\]Colombia](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=co)[\[Image: Costa Rica\]Costa Rica](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=cr)[\[Image: Cuba\]Cuba](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=cu)[\[Image: Dominican Republic\]Dominican Republic](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=do)[\[Image: Ecuador\]Ecuador](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=ec)[\[Image: El Salvador\]El Salvador](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=sv)[\[Image: Equatorial Guinea\]Equatorial Guinea](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=gq)[\[Image: Guatemala\]Guatemala](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=gt)[\[Image: Honduras\]Honduras](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=hn)[\[Image: Ireland\]Ireland](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=ie)[\[Image: Japan\]Japan](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=jp)[\[Image: Mexico\]Mexico](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=mx)[\[Image: Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=ni)[\[Image: New Zealand\]New Zealand](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=nz)[\[Image: Panama\]Panama](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=pa)[\[Image: Paraguay\]Paraguay](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=py)[\[Image: Peru\]Peru](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=pe)[\[Image: Puerto Rico\]Puerto Rico](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=pr)[\[Image: Spain\]Spain](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=es)[\[Image: United Kingdom\]United Kingdom](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=gb)[\[Image: Uruguay\]Uruguay](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=uy)[\[Image: Venezuela\]Venezuela](/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383?country=ve)

日本語

[English](/en/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383)[Español](/es/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383)[日本語](/ja/answer/i-feel-lost-i-experienced-what-i-believe-was-rape-by-a-coworker-i-clearly-said-no-but-he-proceeded-anyway-though-it-was-brief-and-he-stopped-when-i-said-no-a-second-time-i-was-a-virgin-at-the-time-afterwards-he-pressured-me-into-other-sexual-acts-claiming-there-had-been-a-misunderstanding-im-struggling-to-process-this-was-this-assault-or-could-it-have-been-a-misunderstanding-as-he-claims-im-having-nightmares-and-must-see-him-daily-at-work-where-he-sometimes-makes-jokes-about-what-happened-while-i-could-leave-my-job-im-resistant-to-more-upheaval-in-my-life-im-also-experiencing-confusing-feelings-a-desire-to-prove-my-worth-to-him-beyond-this-incident-which-fills-me-with-shame-are-these-normal-reactions-how-can-i-move-forward-383)

緊急の支援が必要な方は、{{resource}} をご訪問ください。

ノースカロライナ州ローリーで を込めて制作されました。

|

詳細は私たちの[コミュニティガイドライン](https://www.ourwave.org/ja/community-guidelines)、[個人情報保護方針](https://www.ourwave.org/ja/privacy)、および[利用規約](https://www.ourwave.org/ja/terms)をお読みください。

|

[

#### 支援情報はこちら

](/ja/resources)

### メッセージを投稿

コミュニティにサポートメッセージをシェアしましょう

続ける

あなたのメッセージが掲載され次第、メールでお知らせするとともに、役立つ支援情報やサポートをお送りします。

投稿

Our Wave を安心して使える場に保つため、[コミュニティ・ガイドライン](https://www.ourwave.org/ja/community-guidelines)の遵守にご協力ください。すべてのメッセージは投稿前に確認され、個人が特定される情報は削除されます。

### 質問する

サバイバーシップやサバイバー支援について質問する。

続ける

ご質問への回答が準備でき次第、メールをお送りするとともに、役立つ支援情報やサポートをお送りします。

提出

### どのような問題がありますか？

このコンテンツを報告する理由を教えてください。モデレーションチームが速やかに確認いたします。

暴力、憎悪、搾取

脅迫、憎悪に満ちた言葉、性的強要

いじめ、または望まない接触

ハラスメント、脅迫、執拗な迷惑メッセージ

詐欺、詐称、なりすまし

虚偽の要求、または別人を名乗ること

偽の情報

誤解を招く主張や意図的な情報操作

提出

### フィードバックをシェアする

うまくいっている事（うまくいっていっていない事）を私たちに教えてください。そうしていただければ私たちが改善することができます。

提出

### ログイン

Our Waveに投稿した際に使用したメールアドレスを入力してください。 あなたのプロフィールにアクセスできるマジックリンクをお送りします。

リンクを送る

接地活動

座り心地の良い場所を見つけてください。目を軽く閉じて、深呼吸を数回します。鼻から息を吸い（3つ数え）、口から息を吐きます（3つ数え）。さあ、目を開けて周りを見回してください。以下のことを声に出して言ってみてください。

見えるもの5つ（部屋の中と窓の外を見ることができます）

感じるもの4つ（目の前にあるもので触れるものは何ですか？）

聞こえるもの3つ

匂いを嗅ぐもの2つ

自分の好きなところ1つ。

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

座っている場所から、周囲を見回して、質感のあるもの、見ていて楽しいもの、興味深いものを探してください。

何かを手に持ち、その物に全神経を集中してください。影が落ちている部分や、物の中に形が浮かび上がっている部分に注目してください。手に持った時の重さや軽さ、指の裏側の表面の質感を感じてみてください（ペットを飼っている場合は、ペットと一緒に行うこともできます）。

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

以下の質問を自分に問いかけ、声に出して答えましょう。

1\. 私はどこにいますか？

2\. 今日は何曜日ですか？

3\. 今日の日付は何ですか？

4\. 今は何月ですか？

5\. 今は何年ですか？

6\. 私は何歳ですか？

7\. 今はどんな季節ですか？

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

右手の手のひらを下にして左肩に置きます。左手の手のひらを下にして右肩に置きます。自分を強くしてくれるような言葉を選びましょう。例えば、「私は力強い」などです。まず文章を声に出して読み、右手で左肩を軽く叩き、次に左手で右肩を軽く叩きます。

交互に叩きます。左右5回ずつ、合計10回叩き、そのたびに文章を声に出して繰り返します。

最後に深呼吸をします。

腕を体の前で交差させ、胸に引き寄せます。右手で左上腕を、左手で右上腕を押さえます。優しく握り、腕を内側に引きます。しばらく握りしめた状態を保ち、その瞬間の自分にとって適切な握り加減を見つけます。力を入れたら力を抜きます。そして再びしばらく握りしめ、力を抜きます。しばらくそのままの状態を保ちます。

最後に深呼吸をします。

別のグラウンディング活動を試してみましょう

私は地に足がついていて準備ができていると感じている