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title: 私は子供の頃、友人から性的虐待を受けたと思います。彼女は私の兄のクラスメイトで、私より5〜6歳年上でした。私たちの家族は仲が良かったため、年齢差にもかかわらず友達になりました。私が6〜8歳の頃、彼女は私たちにオーラルセックスを伴う「遊び」をさせました。私はそれが嫌いで、彼女に気付かれずに「きちんと」やることを避けようとしました。私はその経験を忘れようとしましたが、特にデートを始めたときはそれが私に悪影響を及ぼしたと思います。レズビアンである私は、性行為中に境界線を引いたり、自分の欲求を表現したりするのに苦労しました。当時のパートナーにオーラルセックスをしようとしたとき、私はそれを楽しんでおらず、やめたいと思っていましたが、無理やり続けました。子供の頃に起こったことが大人になった私に影響を与えていると信じており、子供の頃の性的虐待が後の人生にどのような影響を与えるかについての検証と情報を求めています。 ~ Our Wave コミュニティ
description: <p>体験談を共有していただきありがとうございます。あなたが子供の頃、弟の友達とこのような状況に陥ったことを、とても残念に思います。あなたに起こったことはあなたのせいではありませんし、その経験に対するあなたの気持ちは完全に正当なものです。このような経験をした人は、特に相手が身近な人や同性だった場合、関連する記憶を葬...
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# 私は子供の頃、友人から性的虐待を受けたと思います。彼女は私の兄のクラスメイトで、私より5〜6歳年上でした。私たちの家族は仲が良かったため、年齢差にもかかわらず友達になりました。私が6〜8歳の頃、彼女は私たちにオーラルセックスを伴う「遊び」をさせました。私はそれが嫌いで、彼女に気付かれずに「きちんと」やることを避けようとしました。私はその経験を忘れようとしましたが、特にデートを始めたときはそれが私に悪影響を及ぼしたと思います。レズビアンである私は、性行為中に境界線を引いたり、自分の欲求を表現したりするのに苦労しました。当時のパートナーにオーラルセックスをしようとしたとき、私はそれを楽しんでおらず、やめたいと思っていましたが、無理やり続けました。子供の頃に起こったことが大人になった私に影響を与えていると信じており、子供の頃の性的虐待が後の人生にどのような影響を与えるかについての検証と情報を求めています。

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**Dr. Laura**による回答

博士号精神保健看護師＆性暴力看護師認定者

トピックス:[幼少期の経験を理解する](/ja/learn?tags=making-sense-of-childhood-experiences)

体験談を共有していただきありがとうございます。あなたが子供の頃、弟の友達とこのような状況に陥ったことを、とても残念に思います。あなたに起こったことはあなたのせいではありませんし、その経験に対するあなたの気持ちは完全に正当なものです。このような経験をした人は、特に相手が身近な人や同性だった場合、関連する記憶を葬り去ったり、最小限に抑えようとしたりするのが一般的です。しかし、これらの経験は、人の精神的健康、人間関係、性的幸福に長期的な影響を及ぼす可能性があります。

あなたが話してくれたことに基づくと、あなたに起こったことは合意に基づくものではなく、性的虐待に該当するようです。あなたはまだ若かったにもかかわらず、性行為が好きではないことを知っていて、完全にそれに従事することを避けようとしていました。これは、相手がそれを「遊び」として表現しようとしたにもかかわらず、あなたが起こっていることを望んでいなかった、または楽しんでいなかったことを示しています。また、ここではかなりの年齢差があり、潜在的な力関係が作用していたようです。これも非常に懸念すべきことです。

あなたが述べたような、境界線を引いたり、自分のニーズを伝えたり、性行為中に心地よく感じたりすることの苦労は、性的トラウマを経験した人に[よくある課題](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fstories.ourwave.org%2Fen%2Fanswer%2Fsince-my-attack-ive-had-sex-however-i-cant-seem-to-feelconnected-its-like-im-just-going-through-the-motions-im-afraid-to-open-up-emotionally-to-anyone-and-im-not-sure-how-to-get-past-that-44&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=es&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=c6b53b84-0d33-45e6-8ecd-645d2609baa2&sig=b081f473ef2935b6c2066924046079c0c7f5f6dd4fc563fe95c71d7e14b0e57d)です。幼い頃に境界線を越えられると、後になって自分を主張したり、自分の欲求を表現したりすることが難しくなります。自分が楽しんでいない性行為を無理やり続けることは、同じような状況にある多くの人が使う対処法ですが、最終的には感情面や性的健康に害を及ぼす可能性があります。

子どもの頃の性的虐待は、大人になってからの親密な関係に大きな影響を与える可能性があります。被害者は、充実したパートナーシップに不可欠な要素である信頼、コミュニケーション、脆弱性に苦しむことがあります。また、性行為中に恐怖、不安、さらには身体的不快感を感じることもあり、リラックスして親密な関係を楽しむことが難しくなります。被害者の中には[、危険な性行為に従事したり、境界線を設定するのが困難な人もいます](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fstories.ourwave.org%2Fen%2Fanswer%2Fwhy-can-people-who-experience-sexual-harm-experience-hypersexuality-after-these-experiences-97&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=es&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=c6b53b84-0d33-45e6-8ecd-645d2609baa2&sig=2a4d54940732b402e5ff853c4bbd8bb630eb771eca8079c275d36d389b89e809)が、性的関係を完全に避ける人もいます。これらの問題は、被害者の価値や愛する能力を反映したものではなく、むしろ被害者が経験したトラウマに対する一般的な反応です。

[治癒は可能である](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fstories.ourwave.org%2Fen%2Fanswer%2Fim-a-sexual-assault-survivor-that-is-currently-in-a-healthy-relationship-my-boyfriend-is-aware-of-what-i-experienced-as-a-child-hes-timid-when-it-comes-physical-touch-because-he-doesnt-want-to-trigger-any-past-trauma-how-can-i-reassure-him-that-its-okay-to-show-affection-116&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=es&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=c6b53b84-0d33-45e6-8ecd-645d2609baa2&sig=1ea828a6b07d8b2a6bade4e09f1e6ed51283e3dfb0e00bf9df6daeb652f6e330)ことを覚えておくことが重要です。性的トラウマを経験した個人への対応を専門とするセラピストからのサポートを求めることは、非常に有益です。彼らは、あなたの記憶を処理し、あなたの経験を確認し、大人として性的関係をうまく切り抜けるための健康的な対処戦略を開発するのに役立ちます。彼らはまた、自尊心、コミュニケーションスキル、境界線の設定の構築にも協力してくれるかもしれません。これらは、健康的で充実したパートナーシップを育むために不可欠です。

自分の体験に名前を付けられるのはあなただけです。サポート グループやオンライン コミュニティを通じて、同じような経験をした人とつながると役立つかもしれません。自分の体験を共有し、他の人の意見を聞くことで、孤独感が和らぎ、治癒プロセスに関する貴重な洞察が得られます。

あなたに起こったことはあなたのせいではありません。あなたは健康で充実した人間関係や性体験を持つに値します。自分自身に対して忍耐強く思いやりを持ってください。あなたの経験は重要です。私たちと共有してくださりありがとうございます。

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Ireland\]Ireland](/answer/i-believe-i-was-sexually-abused-by-a-friend-when-i-was-a-child-she-was-a-classmate-of-my-brother-and-5-6-years-older-than-me-our-families-were-close-which-led-to-us-becoming-friends-despite-the-age-difference-when-i-was-around-6-8-years-old-she-made-us-play-in-a-way-that-involved-oral-sex-i-hated-it-and-tried-to-avoid-doing-it-properly-without-her-noticing-i-tried-to-forget-about-the-experience-but-i-think-it-has-taken-a-toll-on-me-especially-when-i-started-dating-as-a-lesbian-i-struggled-with-setting-boundaries-and-expressing-my-needs-during-sexual-encounters-when-i-tried-to-perform-oral-sex-on-my-then-partner-i-didnt-enjoy-it-and-forced-myself-to-continue-even-though-i-wanted-it-to-stop-i-believe-that-what-happened-to-me-as-a-child-has-affected-me-as-an-adult-and-im-seeking-validation-and-information-on-how-childhood-sexual-abuse-can-impact-a-person-later-in-life-160?country=ie)[\[Image: Japan\]Japan](/answer/i-believe-i-was-sexually-abused-by-a-friend-when-i-was-a-child-she-was-a-classmate-of-my-brother-and-5-6-years-older-than-me-our-families-were-close-which-led-to-us-becoming-friends-despite-the-age-difference-when-i-was-around-6-8-years-old-she-made-us-play-in-a-way-that-involved-oral-sex-i-hated-it-and-tried-to-avoid-doing-it-properly-without-her-noticing-i-tried-to-forget-about-the-experience-but-i-think-it-has-taken-a-toll-on-me-especially-when-i-started-dating-as-a-lesbian-i-struggled-with-setting-boundaries-and-expressing-my-needs-during-sexual-encounters-when-i-tried-to-perform-oral-sex-on-my-then-partner-i-didnt-enjoy-it-and-forced-myself-to-continue-even-though-i-wanted-it-to-stop-i-believe-that-what-happened-to-me-as-a-child-has-affected-me-as-an-adult-and-im-seeking-validation-and-information-on-how-childhood-sexual-abuse-can-impact-a-person-later-in-life-160?country=jp)[\[Image: 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Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/answer/i-believe-i-was-sexually-abused-by-a-friend-when-i-was-a-child-she-was-a-classmate-of-my-brother-and-5-6-years-older-than-me-our-families-were-close-which-led-to-us-becoming-friends-despite-the-age-difference-when-i-was-around-6-8-years-old-she-made-us-play-in-a-way-that-involved-oral-sex-i-hated-it-and-tried-to-avoid-doing-it-properly-without-her-noticing-i-tried-to-forget-about-the-experience-but-i-think-it-has-taken-a-toll-on-me-especially-when-i-started-dating-as-a-lesbian-i-struggled-with-setting-boundaries-and-expressing-my-needs-during-sexual-encounters-when-i-tried-to-perform-oral-sex-on-my-then-partner-i-didnt-enjoy-it-and-forced-myself-to-continue-even-though-i-wanted-it-to-stop-i-believe-that-what-happened-to-me-as-a-child-has-affected-me-as-an-adult-and-im-seeking-validation-and-information-on-how-childhood-sexual-abuse-can-impact-a-person-later-in-life-160?country=ni)[\[Image: New Zealand\]New Zealand](/answer/i-believe-i-was-sexually-abused-by-a-friend-when-i-was-a-child-she-was-a-classmate-of-my-brother-and-5-6-years-older-than-me-our-families-were-close-which-led-to-us-becoming-friends-despite-the-age-difference-when-i-was-around-6-8-years-old-she-made-us-play-in-a-way-that-involved-oral-sex-i-hated-it-and-tried-to-avoid-doing-it-properly-without-her-noticing-i-tried-to-forget-about-the-experience-but-i-think-it-has-taken-a-toll-on-me-especially-when-i-started-dating-as-a-lesbian-i-struggled-with-setting-boundaries-and-expressing-my-needs-during-sexual-encounters-when-i-tried-to-perform-oral-sex-on-my-then-partner-i-didnt-enjoy-it-and-forced-myself-to-continue-even-though-i-wanted-it-to-stop-i-believe-that-what-happened-to-me-as-a-child-has-affected-me-as-an-adult-and-im-seeking-validation-and-information-on-how-childhood-sexual-abuse-can-impact-a-person-later-in-life-160?country=nz)[\[Image: Panama\]Panama](/answer/i-believe-i-was-sexually-abused-by-a-friend-when-i-was-a-child-she-was-a-classmate-of-my-brother-and-5-6-years-older-than-me-our-families-were-close-which-led-to-us-becoming-friends-despite-the-age-difference-when-i-was-around-6-8-years-old-she-made-us-play-in-a-way-that-involved-oral-sex-i-hated-it-and-tried-to-avoid-doing-it-properly-without-her-noticing-i-tried-to-forget-about-the-experience-but-i-think-it-has-taken-a-toll-on-me-especially-when-i-started-dating-as-a-lesbian-i-struggled-with-setting-boundaries-and-expressing-my-needs-during-sexual-encounters-when-i-tried-to-perform-oral-sex-on-my-then-partner-i-didnt-enjoy-it-and-forced-myself-to-continue-even-though-i-wanted-it-to-stop-i-believe-that-what-happened-to-me-as-a-child-has-affected-me-as-an-adult-and-im-seeking-validation-and-information-on-how-childhood-sexual-abuse-can-impact-a-person-later-in-life-160?country=pa)[\[Image: Paraguay\]Paraguay](/answer/i-believe-i-was-sexually-abused-by-a-friend-when-i-was-a-child-she-was-a-classmate-of-my-brother-and-5-6-years-older-than-me-our-families-were-close-which-led-to-us-becoming-friends-despite-the-age-difference-when-i-was-around-6-8-years-old-she-made-us-play-in-a-way-that-involved-oral-sex-i-hated-it-and-tried-to-avoid-doing-it-properly-without-her-noticing-i-tried-to-forget-about-the-experience-but-i-think-it-has-taken-a-toll-on-me-especially-when-i-started-dating-as-a-lesbian-i-struggled-with-setting-boundaries-and-expressing-my-needs-during-sexual-encounters-when-i-tried-to-perform-oral-sex-on-my-then-partner-i-didnt-enjoy-it-and-forced-myself-to-continue-even-though-i-wanted-it-to-stop-i-believe-that-what-happened-to-me-as-a-child-has-affected-me-as-an-adult-and-im-seeking-validation-and-information-on-how-childhood-sexual-abuse-can-impact-a-person-later-in-life-160?country=py)[\[Image: 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Rico](/answer/i-believe-i-was-sexually-abused-by-a-friend-when-i-was-a-child-she-was-a-classmate-of-my-brother-and-5-6-years-older-than-me-our-families-were-close-which-led-to-us-becoming-friends-despite-the-age-difference-when-i-was-around-6-8-years-old-she-made-us-play-in-a-way-that-involved-oral-sex-i-hated-it-and-tried-to-avoid-doing-it-properly-without-her-noticing-i-tried-to-forget-about-the-experience-but-i-think-it-has-taken-a-toll-on-me-especially-when-i-started-dating-as-a-lesbian-i-struggled-with-setting-boundaries-and-expressing-my-needs-during-sexual-encounters-when-i-tried-to-perform-oral-sex-on-my-then-partner-i-didnt-enjoy-it-and-forced-myself-to-continue-even-though-i-wanted-it-to-stop-i-believe-that-what-happened-to-me-as-a-child-has-affected-me-as-an-adult-and-im-seeking-validation-and-information-on-how-childhood-sexual-abuse-can-impact-a-person-later-in-life-160?country=pr)[\[Image: Spain\]Spain](/answer/i-believe-i-was-sexually-abused-by-a-friend-when-i-was-a-child-she-was-a-classmate-of-my-brother-and-5-6-years-older-than-me-our-families-were-close-which-led-to-us-becoming-friends-despite-the-age-difference-when-i-was-around-6-8-years-old-she-made-us-play-in-a-way-that-involved-oral-sex-i-hated-it-and-tried-to-avoid-doing-it-properly-without-her-noticing-i-tried-to-forget-about-the-experience-but-i-think-it-has-taken-a-toll-on-me-especially-when-i-started-dating-as-a-lesbian-i-struggled-with-setting-boundaries-and-expressing-my-needs-during-sexual-encounters-when-i-tried-to-perform-oral-sex-on-my-then-partner-i-didnt-enjoy-it-and-forced-myself-to-continue-even-though-i-wanted-it-to-stop-i-believe-that-what-happened-to-me-as-a-child-has-affected-me-as-an-adult-and-im-seeking-validation-and-information-on-how-childhood-sexual-abuse-can-impact-a-person-later-in-life-160?country=es)[\[Image: United Kingdom\]United Kingdom](/answer/i-believe-i-was-sexually-abused-by-a-friend-when-i-was-a-child-she-was-a-classmate-of-my-brother-and-5-6-years-older-than-me-our-families-were-close-which-led-to-us-becoming-friends-despite-the-age-difference-when-i-was-around-6-8-years-old-she-made-us-play-in-a-way-that-involved-oral-sex-i-hated-it-and-tried-to-avoid-doing-it-properly-without-her-noticing-i-tried-to-forget-about-the-experience-but-i-think-it-has-taken-a-toll-on-me-especially-when-i-started-dating-as-a-lesbian-i-struggled-with-setting-boundaries-and-expressing-my-needs-during-sexual-encounters-when-i-tried-to-perform-oral-sex-on-my-then-partner-i-didnt-enjoy-it-and-forced-myself-to-continue-even-though-i-wanted-it-to-stop-i-believe-that-what-happened-to-me-as-a-child-has-affected-me-as-an-adult-and-im-seeking-validation-and-information-on-how-childhood-sexual-abuse-can-impact-a-person-later-in-life-160?country=gb)[\[Image: Uruguay\]Uruguay](/answer/i-believe-i-was-sexually-abused-by-a-friend-when-i-was-a-child-she-was-a-classmate-of-my-brother-and-5-6-years-older-than-me-our-families-were-close-which-led-to-us-becoming-friends-despite-the-age-difference-when-i-was-around-6-8-years-old-she-made-us-play-in-a-way-that-involved-oral-sex-i-hated-it-and-tried-to-avoid-doing-it-properly-without-her-noticing-i-tried-to-forget-about-the-experience-but-i-think-it-has-taken-a-toll-on-me-especially-when-i-started-dating-as-a-lesbian-i-struggled-with-setting-boundaries-and-expressing-my-needs-during-sexual-encounters-when-i-tried-to-perform-oral-sex-on-my-then-partner-i-didnt-enjoy-it-and-forced-myself-to-continue-even-though-i-wanted-it-to-stop-i-believe-that-what-happened-to-me-as-a-child-has-affected-me-as-an-adult-and-im-seeking-validation-and-information-on-how-childhood-sexual-abuse-can-impact-a-person-later-in-life-160?country=uy)[\[Image: 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座っている場所から、周囲を見回して、質感のあるもの、見ていて楽しいもの、興味深いものを探してください。

何かを手に持ち、その物に全神経を集中してください。影が落ちている部分や、物の中に形が浮かび上がっている部分に注目してください。手に持った時の重さや軽さ、指の裏側の表面の質感を感じてみてください（ペットを飼っている場合は、ペットと一緒に行うこともできます）。

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

以下の質問を自分に問いかけ、声に出して答えましょう。

1\. 私はどこにいますか？

2\. 今日は何曜日ですか？

3\. 今日の日付は何ですか？

4\. 今は何月ですか？

5\. 今は何年ですか？

6\. 私は何歳ですか？

7\. 今はどんな季節ですか？

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

右手の手のひらを下にして左肩に置きます。左手の手のひらを下にして右肩に置きます。自分を強くしてくれるような言葉を選びましょう。例えば、「私は力強い」などです。まず文章を声に出して読み、右手で左肩を軽く叩き、次に左手で右肩を軽く叩きます。

交互に叩きます。左右5回ずつ、合計10回叩き、そのたびに文章を声に出して繰り返します。

最後に深呼吸をします。

腕を体の前で交差させ、胸に引き寄せます。右手で左上腕を、左手で右上腕を押さえます。優しく握り、腕を内側に引きます。しばらく握りしめた状態を保ち、その瞬間の自分にとって適切な握り加減を見つけます。力を入れたら力を抜きます。そして再びしばらく握りしめ、力を抜きます。しばらくそのままの状態を保ちます。

最後に深呼吸をします。

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